For those of you who say "You choose"

Let me tell you why I always say "I choose" with some friends (particularly my brothers).... Because no matter what I choose, they won't like it. They'll veto everything I suggest anyway (or whine or pout)-- and well just end up doing what they wanted anyway-- so what's the point?

What bugs me is when my friend says,"Let's hang out,"and when I pick her up, she wants me to choose what to do. I'm not good at choosing, either. If you initiate the hang out time, you should have a plan of what you want to do. Sure, you can ask your friend what they would like to do, but if they don't know, I don't care who chose last time. You want to go somewhere? Have a plan before I pick you up.

My husband says he makes decisions all day long and doesn't want to make one more decision when he gets home. Most days, I'm ok with being in charge. But some days I'm tired of making all the decisions, too!

That is why I despise cooking/coming up with recipes. The family never gives me ideas, then the kids complain about what we have. I prefer any household chore to cooking and coming up with meal ideas.

My family loves tacos, but my husband doesn't want to eat ground beef a lot (says he always gains wt. when we have tacos!). So I always tell them that if they don't give me ideas, tacos it is! haha!

It doesn't bother me too much when people say, "you choose." What bothers me is when I pick, and they say, "oh no, not that. I hate _______."

I say, you have no more/one more veto left, then we're going with one of my choices. Remember when you said "you choose?"

When I give someone the option, I preface it by saying "I'm up for anything except for ________. We always eat there."

My DH always asks what are the choices too.  He likes me to narrow it down and then to have final say.  Most of the time, this system works for us.

This bugs me more than "you choose" as well.

If I ever say "you choose" it usually means I'm not really into going out, eating or whatever it is I have to "choose".

My mother always let me choose where we would go. She truly didn't mind. She was a great traveling partner. Whatever I was in the mood for, she was in the mood for.

I feel like if I choose and the other person is unhappy, it's my fault.

And I feel that I am far less fussy than most people I hang out with, so chances of me being bothered by what someone else picks is pretty unlikely.

This exactly! And I could care less where we eat or what we do, for me it's about spending time with that person.

Funny you bring this up, just yesterday BF did this to me.

I told him that I wasn't hungry but more than happy to make him something, "what would you like"

"whatever you want to make"

"do you want a sandwich or an omelet?"

"they both sound good, whichever"

(I'm getting frustrated now)

"dude. it is your meal. what do you want???"

"OK, the omelet."

"Kay, what kind of cheese do you want?"

"whatever you want to use"

"THIS IS YOUR OMELET, JUST MAKE A DECISION!"

I thought he was messing with me at first, but he must have just been having a bad day!

sounds like my husband most of the time.  there are some places he will pick but he usually says lets go get dinner tonight and then he will ask where do you want to go? then it is...... him....I don't care. me.....do you have a flavor in mind? him....nope do you? then I end up saying lets go here.  He did this to me last night... called me on his way home. asked if I had made dinner yet. I said no he asked if I wanted to go grab dinner. I said sure, Then I asked if he had something in mind he said. well we could go here or there or into town. well, today I had to call him and give him some information and he asked if I had dinner planned yet. This is the week we haven't done any shopping and we need to go to the store but we are stretching it until this weekend when we can go do all the stores in one sweep and be down for the next few weeks. So he said if you don't come up with something then we can go out. I said lets just decide right now to go out.  

We did that except the third person got to nix the second thing and whatever was left was the choice.  It works well with adults too.