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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 24, 2019 20:41:40 GMT
Starting the thread early this wk, as tomorrow I will be traveling and going to the MN state fair. Hope everyone is having a good wkend!!
*****What age was the hardest to turn? 20,30,40, 60, etc??
Mine was 55. Yes. this yr. Why? because it's almost to 60! 60 yrs old! that's close to retirement age. Am I ready to retire? do I have enough money to retire? will I get bored? 55 means I'm going to start to slow down. I never ever had a hard time with any of the ages before that. I know a lot of my friends struggled with 40. I never did, but 55?! that has me struggling.
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Post by peano on Aug 24, 2019 20:59:54 GMT
For me it was 50. I had DS at 40, so I was distracted by new parent things and it was a non-event.
Turning 50 was a different matter. It seemed old to me, even though now at 60, that seems laughable. Strangely, it was harder for me to turn 50 than 60. I’ve always been at least 10 years older than my group of friends—maybe that had something to do with it. But in the year before and the year of turning 50, I became obsessed with doing things I’d never done before. So l learned to ski and I taught myself how to hula hoop, LOL.
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Post by Lexica on Aug 24, 2019 21:03:48 GMT
For me, it was turning 65 this year. I mean, people’s grandparents are 65, not me. And thinking about the fact that my baby is in his late 30s. Where did the years all go? In my mind, I am not “elderly” at all and think I should be around mid 40s. And the irritation of not knowing whether it is my age or my fibromyalgia giving me some of the issues I deal with. Not that it matters one whit, but I just don’t like the idea of age-related issues.
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Post by atomicdog on Aug 24, 2019 21:22:58 GMT
I had a hard time with 60 this year. None of the other milestones bothered me a bit. I just see so much negativity directed to the older generations and I don't want to experience it I don't feel 60 though and that's helps ward off acting old! I think we need to stay full of plans and be excited about something. What works for everyone else?
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Post by brynn on Aug 24, 2019 21:25:23 GMT
Enjoy the Minnesota State Fair!!
I am grateful for every birthday because I had a close friend die from cancer at age 23. I often think of the things she didn't get to do.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2019 21:31:35 GMT
I didn't like turning 20. I don't remember exactly why as it's so long ago, I just recall not being happy about it. 30 and 40 were great. I didn't have a mental problem with 50, but it seemed to be quite physically defining. I'm still very active and don't have any serious physical/medical issues, but I feel every creak and ache more. I have plenty of energy, but I don't always feel as energetic, if that makes sense. 50 was kind of an asshole.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 24, 2019 21:33:32 GMT
I think we need to stay full of plans and be excited about something. What works for everyone else? Yes!! I find if I stay busy it helps. Both mentally and physically busy. My work is physcial, so I struggle with exercise when I get home, which I NEED to do.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2019 21:56:36 GMT
Toughest age for me was 40. I was the heaviest in my life, the most out of shape and I felt so old. That was when I became determined to turn my life around and get healthy. When I was turning 48, DH 's aunt was at a little party for me (just met DH and his family that year), and she got mad at DH for putting a "fake number" on my cake. She really thought that I was only 32. Best compliment ever, but it shows that you could turn your life around and make it healthy. My 40s ended up being my best decade ever, physically, emotionally, etc. Turning 30 was no biggie. I was busy with my 2 babies. No time to think about it. Turning 50 was no biggie. I was newly remarried a few months before that, and the # didn't matter. Now I'll be 60 next year. I'll let you know how it feels, but I'm hoping to finish my surgeries and be able to get back to being strong, energetic, busy and youthful!
ETA: Like MichyM and cakediva, I got my first (and last) small tattoo when I hit 41. I got two small ones to add to it when I turned 45. I haven't even been back to get them reinked! I still plan on it though. Funny thing is that my mom and nana both were MAD when they noticed it!!! Yeesh!! They were small and on my lower back--not really exposed unless I'm bending over. LOL
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Post by smalltowngirlie on Aug 24, 2019 22:13:02 GMT
The last 3 birthdays have really had me thinking, not that it was hard to turn that age, but just thinking. My older sister died at 49 years old, my mom died at 51, throw 50 in between the two and it makes you stop for a bit. It was not hard on my birthday, but I would think a lot about them around that time. Next year I will know I out lived my mom and older sister and I am not old.
I have to give a disclaimer about me and birthdays. Birthdays were never a big deal in my house, they just weren't. Mine is in the middle of summer, middle of fair time, middle of baling hay, so there was always something else that was more important, something else that had to be done. I do not say this for pity, but to maybe explain why no age was not a big deal for me, in many ways it was just another day. Now, my family always did acknowledge it in some way, we often had cake at a county fair in the beef barn, but it was acknowledged.
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Post by Patter on Aug 24, 2019 22:18:05 GMT
54 (this year) because it's when I was diagnosed with all of this mess! I went from feeling great to feeling old.
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Post by Sorrel on Aug 24, 2019 22:22:04 GMT
I think turning 45 (I’m 48 now). I still feel good and am I great health, but I just suddenly started being aware of the fact that I’m in the downhill slope of my life. Like I am probably more than halfway done. That just makes me feel sad for some reason.
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Post by alexa11 on Aug 24, 2019 23:09:19 GMT
I remember 30 was bad- oh little did I know! Then 50 was also bad and I am not looking forward to the big 6-0 next month either. The one good thing is that I'll only be 2 years away from SS. At least I'm still relatively healthy and active, so I'm not going to complain.
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Post by workingclassdog on Aug 24, 2019 23:09:56 GMT
I'm 51 and so far not any of them really bothered me. Only my 30's because for whatever reason I couldn't remember how old I was. Was it 31 or 32 or 33.. I could never remember.
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Post by birukitty on Aug 25, 2019 0:02:05 GMT
I think the most difficult age for me to turn was 59 because it was such a shock for me to realize 59-oh my gosh! One more year and I'll be 60! I've gotten over it. 60-fifty, whatever. It's not how old you are, it's how you feel. Just because I may have hit a certain number doesn't mean for one second that I'm going to start slowing down. I've still got a ton of life left to live and goals to accomplish.
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Post by joyfulnana on Aug 25, 2019 0:03:02 GMT
I think this year when I hit 58 was the one that bothered me most. It's so close to 60! When I was a kid 60 sounds SO old and even today it sounds SO old! I've also aged quite a bit in the last 4 years which I'm sure has something to do with it as well.
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Post by sunny1016 on Aug 25, 2019 0:03:28 GMT
29 was rough for me. I just thought I would be in a different place in my life by the time I hit my thirties. 50 was a mental hit. It just felt weird. I'm not young, I'm not old, what the hell am I?? I turned 51 this month and it didn't even register as any big deal at all. Go figure. lol
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Post by sunny1016 on Aug 25, 2019 0:08:18 GMT
I think this year when I hit 58 was the one that bothered me most. It's so close to 60! When I was a kid 60 sounds SO old and even today it sounds SO old! I've also aged quite a bit in the last 4 years which I'm sure has something to do with it as well. I just watched Fatal Attraction last night. I remember watching that when it came out (I was 19) and I thought the wife (Anne Archer) seemed so old to be playing a wife with a 6 year old! She was 40!! lololol .
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Post by yivit on Aug 25, 2019 1:28:19 GMT
46 was the hardest for me so far because my mom died a little over 3 weeks before her 46th birthday. I know she was an anomaly since everyone in her family lives into their 70s and even 90s, but it was still hard. I figure every year after 46 is a bonus as a result.
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Post by MaryPea on Aug 25, 2019 1:35:40 GMT
so far they have all been good. If anything ,48 (this year) hit me as it's so close to 50. Maybe i'll just stay here... LOL!
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Post by DEX on Aug 25, 2019 1:53:45 GMT
In 6 months I will be 70! Now that feels so old. I wasted over 15 years weighing over 200+ pounds and being in a toxic relationship. Now I am alone, have lost 138# and am living my best life ever. I just wish I had those 15 years back.
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Post by theshyone on Aug 25, 2019 2:03:43 GMT
I freaked at turning 45; huge epic freakout, it meant I was closer to 50, that half my life was over. I just hated it.
Interesting enough it was five months later later when I had cardiac arrests and was resuscitated. Now ever birthday is valuable.
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Post by bothmykidsrbrats on Aug 25, 2019 2:15:32 GMT
For me, it was 30. I wasn't happy in my career and up to my ass in debt. I wasn't sure I would ever have a baby; I wasn't sure I wanted to anymore, or wanted stay married (10 years). I accidentally got a sticky pregnancy 4 months later, and I've been a SAHM since. I accidentally got another sticky baby 4 years later, and everything feels like it's fallen into place since. I'll be 53 next week, and we are going to Disneyland! I love my older settled life. DH recently was laid off from his job of 23 years. He used a month of his severance pay to take time to decompress and be finicky about his next move. I was not sick of him being home one bit, when he went back to work, and I am totally looking forward to retirement and an empty nest.
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Post by luckyjune on Aug 25, 2019 2:39:08 GMT
I think this year (55) because the number sounds old. However, I regularly remind myself that age is just a number and you are only as old as you feel.
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Post by ellen on Aug 25, 2019 3:31:01 GMT
50 was tough. My cholesterol shot up. I started sleeping like shit. I also really had to start watching my weight.
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Post by River on Aug 25, 2019 3:34:43 GMT
I always loved birthdays! I typically have always looked much younger than my actual age and it was fascinating at first to tell my real age and see the reactions. Well, that's still fun to this day now that I'm well again.
But, that changed for many years. One month after I turned 40 I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer. Things went horribly wrong 3 minutes out of surgery. After a few weeks in the hospital, I was sent home with hospise, approximately 2 weeks to live. My husband at the time wouldn't give up and drove me straight to Mayo Clinic ER. I had to be revived at the car when he pulled in. Revived a second time a few hours later. Long story short, I was down there 3 months but they found out all that was wrong and fixed me. It was almost two years before I fully recovered, but here I am at 46, separated, changing careerers, and building a life I shouldn't have.
Now, I'm thankful for every day, every ache, every stiff joint. Oh I still bitch about the aches and pains, but deep down I say a prayer of thanks.
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Post by shaniam on Aug 25, 2019 3:39:35 GMT
Mine was this year- 50. I’ve struggled with birthdays for a few years and have found them depressing. I explained this to my husband and told him I anticipated it being a bad one. I wanted to do some kind of memorable trip or something to take my mind off getting older. He bought the city pass and took me to some things around Houston that I wasn’t really interested in and they were super crowded because it was spring break. It was hard to see all my friends turn 50 and see how they were celebrated and I felt like my crew phoned it in. I think going forward I will plan a girls trip or do something on my own.
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Post by kate on Aug 25, 2019 3:44:37 GMT
30 was hardest for me because I was pursuing a career where being a "young artist" (i.e. under 30) meant there were many more opportunities. I felt like I could hear doors slamming left and right. Ironically, my 35th birthday was my very favorite. I truly felt like the world was my oyster - I had work that I loved, DH and I were first-time homeowners, and I had a new baby at home. So far, the 50s are treating me pretty well. I do have problems, but the big things are in place.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 25, 2019 3:53:15 GMT
Mine was this year- 50. I’ve struggled with birthdays for a few years and have found them depressing. I explained this to my husband and told him I anticipated it being a bad one. I wanted to do some kind of memorable trip or something to take my mind off getting older. He bought the city pass and took me to some things around Houston that I wasn’t really interested in and they were super crowded because it was spring break. It was hard to see all my friends turn 50 and see how they were celebrated and I felt like my crew phoned it in. I think going forward I will plan a girls trip or do something on my own. oh no! that sounds sort of like me. My dh is horrible at presents and thinking what I want. Half the time, I'm like. do you KNOW me? noooo. He's usually way way off. It's probably my fault for not telling him what I want. Not saying it's yours. I'm sorry your's wasn't great.
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Post by MichyM on Aug 25, 2019 4:30:07 GMT
39.
I struggled that year with the thought of turning 40. It was the year I got my tattoo - if that tells you anything. Nothing against those who have one or many tattoos, but the timing of mine was telling. I guess it was my version of a mini mid-life revolt.....like the 50 YO guy who buys the red sports car. Once I turned 40 I was perfectly fine again.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 25, 2019 4:33:09 GMT
I had a patient that got her 1st tattoo when she turned 70. . Very cool
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