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Post by kelly316 on Sept 15, 2019 21:40:34 GMT
what would it be? Someone I know just made one that will forever impact her life. I wish we all got one Mulligan!
Also, PSA of the day...There are two sides to EVERY story. Don’t believe everything you hear.
I guess this is more of a vent! 😂
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Post by rickmer on Sept 15, 2019 21:53:09 GMT
i know what i want to say... but wouldn't have my 3 terrific kids.... so....
everything else i can think of has been kinda "live and learn" for me.
i do think i have been lucky... i also know someone who is coming to terms with the consequences of poor judgment and will have the rest of their lives to continue to be reminded of that decision.
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Post by flanz on Sept 15, 2019 21:59:57 GMT
There are several things I could say, but at 58, I really wish that I had been more athletic/active all along. I see very fit people my age who seem years younger than their actual age and I think fitness is a huge part of that.
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garcia5050
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Post by garcia5050 on Sept 15, 2019 22:06:27 GMT
I wish I didn’t have a long term boyfriend during high school. I was having a blast and dated someone who was kind of a bummer. Glad I didn’t stay with him.
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Post by scrapngranny on Sept 15, 2019 22:07:01 GMT
I could think of a couple of things I would change, but then again I wouldn’t be where I am today if I changed those events. Every step in our lives is part of our journey.
The things I would change are things that hurt other people. If I did change those things, I wouldn’t have met my husband, had my 3 kids, or my 7 grandchildren. I’m thankful changing the past isn’t an option.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2019 22:11:11 GMT
I wish I could go back and study harder, be more confident, save ever penny I had so I could have moved out of the house when I was 17. ( graduated)
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Post by roundtwo on Sept 15, 2019 22:18:47 GMT
This is why I will never regret marrying the ex - my kids are more than worth the crap he tosses at me.
I agree. I really try to make good decisions now and enjoy the life I get to live instead of dwelling on past choices.
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Post by christine58 on Sept 15, 2019 22:28:37 GMT
what would it be? Someone I know just made one that will forever impact her life. I wish we all got one Mulligan! Also, PSA of the day...There are two sides to EVERY story. Don’t believe everything you hear. I guess this is more of a vent! 😂 My curiosity is HIGH...do tell!!
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Post by librarylady on Sept 15, 2019 22:47:30 GMT
I wish I had not spent any time with exDH, let alone marry him. Only smart thing I did in that relationship was to never get pregnant.
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johnnysmom
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Post by johnnysmom on Sept 15, 2019 22:49:57 GMT
I'm curious about your OP too; sounds like a good story As for me, I'd have found a way to go to college (like go away or at least lived on campus and had the whole college experience) right out of high school. I don't know that dh and I would have stayed together (we were dating/living together) or not so that could have negatively impacted my entire life but it is my biggest regret.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Sept 15, 2019 23:01:24 GMT
I wish I had put my own self interest first in my marriage. Gone to online college. Learned a trade. Something I could have fallen back on. And not been so overly trusting.
we both grew up poor. We had been together four years, had a kid, married, he enlisted in the military, had another kid. We were together nearly two decades & in all that time he pushed his education further, and asked me to wait. Needed me as a full time mom, practically his personal assistant. Needed me to use all my time to raise our family, and volunteer in positions that furthered his career.
I always took the backseat, but was happy to because it was for the betterment of "our" life.
And then he decided that he was too good to have an uneducated wife. That I wasn't sophisticated enough. That I wasn't interesting enough to bring around his peers. (He learned diving the year before he left me. But the budget was only enough for him to travel to amazing destinations, but yet again, I understood...)
Because I had done so much for him, put him before myself for years, it never once occurred to me that I wouldn't get my turn.
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Post by ntsf on Sept 15, 2019 23:09:39 GMT
I might have taken up the offer to be a nanny in switzerland.. met my husband instead (though I may have met him anyway.. we had lots of connections)
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Post by freecharlie on Sept 15, 2019 23:10:41 GMT
If I could end up with DH and my kids? I would do better in high school and go to college and live in a dorm and be part of the college community and experience.
Something that I wish we would have done that would not change my family? Start contributing even a small amount to their 529 accounts from birth and paid even a tiny amount on our students loans while we were in school and when we had payments deferred.
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Post by roundtwo on Sept 15, 2019 23:17:43 GMT
Because I had done so much for him, put him before myself for years, it never once occurred to me that I wouldn't get my turn. I am on that bench with you LavenderLayoutLady It's your turn now; it's time for you to put yourself first.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2019 23:55:18 GMT
My first thought was finishing college before getting married and having kids. I dropped out to run off with DH. While I do not regret him or my kids, I wish I had finished college when it was cheaper.
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Post by dewryce on Sept 15, 2019 23:58:34 GMT
I would not have taken the Depo-Provera shot. With no lifestyle or diet changes I gained 50 or 60 pounds in a matter of a couple of months and from there it just snowballed, the weight gain made my PCOS worse, which affects my insulin issues...just a ton of medical issues spurred from that one decision.
And though the drs say it wouldn’t have made a difference, when they took me off bed rest when I was pregnant I wouldn’t have so I could know one billion percent in my heart that losing my son couldn’t have been prevented.
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Post by cycworker on Sept 16, 2019 0:02:54 GMT
When I did my cyc diploma, I did a practicum in 1997 that led to a job offer. Had the opportunity to work while doing the degree. Let my mom convince me it would be too hard to balance school & work, and I should just work. Big mistake.
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Post by workingclassdog on Sept 16, 2019 0:07:40 GMT
I wish that I didn't fall for a guy (you know the type, tall, dark, handsome, a little older) when I was around 18 then obsessed about it for a longgg time over it. Wasted the best years of my life. I think I would have been much happier all around if that relationship never happened.
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Post by snyder on Sept 16, 2019 0:18:33 GMT
I wish I had put my own self interest first in my marriage. Gone to online college. Learned a trade. Something I could have fallen back on. And not been so overly trusting. we both grew up poor. We had been together four years, had a kid, married, he enlisted in the military, had another kid. We were together nearly two decades & in all that time he pushed his education further, and asked me to wait. Needed me as a full time mom, practically his personal assistant. Needed me to use all my time to raise our family, and volunteer in positions that furthered his career. I always took the backseat, but was happy to because it was for the betterment of "our" life. And then he decided that he was too good to have an uneducated wife. That I wasn't sophisticated enough. That I wasn't interesting enough to bring around his peers. (He learned diving the year before he left me. But the budget was only enough for him to travel to amazing destinations, but yet again, I understood...) Because I had done so much for him, put him before myself for years, it never once occurred to me that I wouldn't get my turn. This sounds like my niece could have written it, but her husband took scuba lessons with their son's girlfriend. Laugh on him, he has to pay her maintenance for life. She had a stroke and for the most part good, but there was permanent damage and she will never be able to work a high functioning job or even 40 hours a week. She works about 25 and it wipes her out.
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Post by femalebusiness on Sept 16, 2019 0:19:12 GMT
There is only one thing that I would change. I would never start smoking cigarettes. I smoked from about 17 years old but quit on my 40th birthday. I wasted so much money and smelled like an ash tray for way too long. Other than that I like every choice I've ever made.
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Post by snyder on Sept 16, 2019 0:20:44 GMT
Mine would have gone to a 4 year college out of high school and even though I love my son to death, I think I would have been better off without the ex in my life, though we are friends now.
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Post by Skellinton on Sept 16, 2019 0:28:08 GMT
I would not have taken the Depo-Provera shot. With no lifestyle or diet changes I gained 50 or 60 pounds in a matter of a couple of months and from there it just snowballed, the weight gain made my PCOS worse, which affects my insulin issues...just a ton of medical issues spurred from that one decision. And though the drs say it wouldn’t have made a difference, when they took me off bed rest when I was pregnant I wouldn’t have so I could know one billion percent in my heart that losing my son couldn’t have been prevented. Oh, I am so sorry to read your last paragraph. Gentle hugs to you.
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Post by Lexica on Sept 16, 2019 0:35:01 GMT
My biggest thing to change is to have never allowed myself to gain the weight that I gained. I am told that a lot of it was due to the medications the doctors put me on, but I should have just exercised more to keep that weight at bay. Especially since I read all the side effects that said weight gain was a probable expectation on at least 3 of the meds. I am off all but one of those that cause the gain and I am now losing it, but man, it is sooo much harder to take off than it ever was to put on. I’ll get there because I will not stop trying. I’m down 30 of those detested pounds, and they will NEVER be allowed back on this body. It’s just one of those ‘if I had known back then..” kind of things. I was thin, almost too thin, for the majority of my life and had never tried to be. It was just a normal thing that I didn’t have to focus on. I didn’t know how hard it would really be to lose weight since I had never had to do that before. And it takes so darned long. My body is miserable at this size. But I’m changing it now. If I had to list two, I wish that I hadn’t dated the first boy that I fell for in junior high. I should have gone to college right out of high school, dated a lot, and had fun. Traveled some. I ended up married to him. And while I will never regret having my son, I do think I might have ended up in a marriage with multiple children that would still be lasting to this day. I always wanted a large family, or at the minimum, at least 2 children. And I know, who knows what would have happened, but at least it would have been a possibility.
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Post by Skellinton on Sept 16, 2019 0:35:31 GMT
Nothing major for me just because so many choices I probably should regret led me to where I am now. I wouldn’t change anything if it would jeopardize the family (including pets) I have now.
For a minor thing I wish I had talked more to my grandparents about their lives. I had the best grandparents in the world and although they spent a lot of time with us I really don’t know much about their lives, especially my paternal grandparents. My grandma grew up in Alaska in a tent town and I know nothing about it. She never talked about anything in her past because it made her think of her mother, which made her cry, so I literally don’t know anything about her life. My grandpa grew up in Texas and I have no idea how he ended up in Alaska or what his childhood was like. I truly wish I did.
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Post by lisae on Sept 16, 2019 0:46:17 GMT
I would have made peace with one of my aunts and not lost the opportunity to connect with her as adult. She died in her 60's. Her husband and mine were/are so much alike. I could have learned so much from her and I would have just loved to know more about her life which was so different from many of my other family members. I adored her when I was growing up, but I let petty things and not so petty things that weren't really affecting me directly impact my feelings toward her.
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Post by jackietex on Sept 16, 2019 2:35:30 GMT
I would have gone on anti-anxiety and anti-depressants about fifteen or twenty years earlier than I did. I would have been a much better mother (and girlfriend, then wife).
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Post by crazy4scraps on Sept 16, 2019 2:44:54 GMT
I can’t say I would change anything because all of my earlier mistakes led me to my DH and meeting him was probably the best thing in my life along with having my DD. Even not finishing BFA degree doesn’t really rank, because even though I didn’t finish I’ve been able to have interesting jobs and do creative work.
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Post by originalvanillabean on Sept 16, 2019 2:55:03 GMT
Just one thing: I would have gotten married in my home state. We got married in DH Home state so his family members could attend. That was a mistake.
Other than that, I’m ok with how things have turned out.
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Post by piebaker on Sept 16, 2019 3:07:30 GMT
Changed careers. I should have gone into the health field in some way--nursing, research, or insurance, because there are always opportunities in healthcare.
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Post by 950nancy on Sept 16, 2019 3:27:24 GMT
I think I would have been better off if I had decided to drink coffee instead of Diet Coke. Everything else in my life seems like it fell into place.
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