One last update 10/17 Updated again10/12. Prayers/PT
Oct 10, 2019 22:48:12 GMT
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Post by KelleeM on Oct 10, 2019 22:48:12 GMT
My sweet husband is in intensive care and isn’t expected to live more than another day or two. It’s a long story and I can’t type it all now. Please send all your good energy out into the universe. Prayers are appreciated as well. I can’t even begin to imagine my world without him. 😢😢😢
10/11
Just 72 hours after being diagnosed with cancer my husband died.
My world has stopped and my heart is forever broken. He was the most amazing guy. He was my biggest supporter, my partner in everything, the love of my life and my best friend.
Thank you all for your posts, prayers, hugs and good thoughts.
10/12
I’m so grateful for the love and support here. Thank you all. It really helps to know others are praying and sending out positive thoughts and energy. I have reread this thread a couple of times and probably will continue to. Dick was an amazing guy who made a big difference to so many people. I wish you all could read the hundreds of responses to posts on Facebook by his sons and me. The world is a different place without him in it.
Dick had a sense of humor, although not always appropriate, like no other. At the end, when the nurse was giving him morphine before taking him off oxygen to let him pass peacefully, he pulled his last joke. She was putting liquid morphine under his tongue using a syringe and had him open his mouth and lift his tongue. She deposited the morphine and instantly he dropped his head to the side as if he had died. After about 5 seconds he jerked his head back and opened his eyes and said “I got ya!” It was such great comic relief at a horrible time. After that she gave him the second dose of morphine and removed the oxygen. I was holding one hand, one son held the other and another son stood by as his breathing slowed and within 20 minutes he was gone.
One more funny thing, earlier yesterday morning he told his youngest son that it was a good day to die and he was ready to see what the hoopla (heaven) was all about! He told me the night before that we were all coming right behind him so not to worry! I could go on for days with stories about him. These memories that made the past 12 years of my life amazing will sustain me through my pain and sorrow.
He left three great sons, one of whom I’m very close to, and his youngest brother and his wife with whom I’m also very close. I have so much love and support around me. I’m grateful that his illness was quick and that he got to leave us on his terms.
Sorry for rambling
10/17
For four hours yesterday I stood and received condolences. There were traffic jams outside of the funeral home and long lines of people waiting to come pay their respects. The outpouring of love for my husband was astonishing. I managed to smile through most of the evening but when the ICU nurse who took care of him a good deal of the time he was there (after the first day she asked to have him as her patient) came through I cried. She told me that in 22 years as a nurse she had never gone to services for a patient before. That is just one example of the impact he had on people’s lives.
I had friends drive great distances to pay their respects. I was shocked when I saw several of them. Our great nephew, who married us at midnight on January 1, 2013, spoke at the end of the visitation time followed by my three stepsons. It was heartfelt and funny and Dick would have loved it.
The funeral director had asked for 5 special photos but didn’t tell me what they were for...when I arrived and saw what he did with them I cried. I’ll attach a photo. I’m so happy that I chose the photos I did. 😊 On the table holding the box with his cremains, which was surrounded by a wreath of flowers I put his black fedora, a pack of cigarettes and a lighter, his Patriots money clip with some bills in it, a can of Coke and the glass he drank it from every night, a toy truck from the grocery store he retired from, his cell phone (which rang at least four times during the evening...it was on silent but I kept seeing it light up), our wedding photo and a bag with a butternut donut from Dunkin Donuts. The first guy from his coffee group to come through told me that the bag had to be torn. I told him I’d let their buddy Vic tear it when he came in and he did 😊
I managed to get through the preparations and the celebration of life...now I have to figure out how to get through the rest of my life 😢
Thank you all, again. ❤️
10/11
Just 72 hours after being diagnosed with cancer my husband died.
My world has stopped and my heart is forever broken. He was the most amazing guy. He was my biggest supporter, my partner in everything, the love of my life and my best friend.
Thank you all for your posts, prayers, hugs and good thoughts.
10/12
I’m so grateful for the love and support here. Thank you all. It really helps to know others are praying and sending out positive thoughts and energy. I have reread this thread a couple of times and probably will continue to. Dick was an amazing guy who made a big difference to so many people. I wish you all could read the hundreds of responses to posts on Facebook by his sons and me. The world is a different place without him in it.
Dick had a sense of humor, although not always appropriate, like no other. At the end, when the nurse was giving him morphine before taking him off oxygen to let him pass peacefully, he pulled his last joke. She was putting liquid morphine under his tongue using a syringe and had him open his mouth and lift his tongue. She deposited the morphine and instantly he dropped his head to the side as if he had died. After about 5 seconds he jerked his head back and opened his eyes and said “I got ya!” It was such great comic relief at a horrible time. After that she gave him the second dose of morphine and removed the oxygen. I was holding one hand, one son held the other and another son stood by as his breathing slowed and within 20 minutes he was gone.
One more funny thing, earlier yesterday morning he told his youngest son that it was a good day to die and he was ready to see what the hoopla (heaven) was all about! He told me the night before that we were all coming right behind him so not to worry! I could go on for days with stories about him. These memories that made the past 12 years of my life amazing will sustain me through my pain and sorrow.
He left three great sons, one of whom I’m very close to, and his youngest brother and his wife with whom I’m also very close. I have so much love and support around me. I’m grateful that his illness was quick and that he got to leave us on his terms.
Sorry for rambling
10/17
For four hours yesterday I stood and received condolences. There were traffic jams outside of the funeral home and long lines of people waiting to come pay their respects. The outpouring of love for my husband was astonishing. I managed to smile through most of the evening but when the ICU nurse who took care of him a good deal of the time he was there (after the first day she asked to have him as her patient) came through I cried. She told me that in 22 years as a nurse she had never gone to services for a patient before. That is just one example of the impact he had on people’s lives.
I had friends drive great distances to pay their respects. I was shocked when I saw several of them. Our great nephew, who married us at midnight on January 1, 2013, spoke at the end of the visitation time followed by my three stepsons. It was heartfelt and funny and Dick would have loved it.
The funeral director had asked for 5 special photos but didn’t tell me what they were for...when I arrived and saw what he did with them I cried. I’ll attach a photo. I’m so happy that I chose the photos I did. 😊 On the table holding the box with his cremains, which was surrounded by a wreath of flowers I put his black fedora, a pack of cigarettes and a lighter, his Patriots money clip with some bills in it, a can of Coke and the glass he drank it from every night, a toy truck from the grocery store he retired from, his cell phone (which rang at least four times during the evening...it was on silent but I kept seeing it light up), our wedding photo and a bag with a butternut donut from Dunkin Donuts. The first guy from his coffee group to come through told me that the bag had to be torn. I told him I’d let their buddy Vic tear it when he came in and he did 😊
I managed to get through the preparations and the celebration of life...now I have to figure out how to get through the rest of my life 😢
Thank you all, again. ❤️