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Post by mygigiscraps on Apr 11, 2019 0:48:01 GMT
Sadly, the possibility of your husband having sex with another woman is the least disturbing part of the whole situation. There cannot be any part of you that honestly believes that a man who speaks to you in that manner has any love for you. He is also not going to ever treat you any better than you let him know you will tolerate being treated. From the sound of things, he would prefer that the two of you were no longer married. I don't know your entire story, but why in hell would you stay with him? He is her care giver and she is disabled. She only gets $600 a month and has no means to work and cant live alone Well that explains a lot. Still, surely in a divorce, she would be awarded alimony, especially if they have been married for a long time. Also, abusing someone who is disabled is as bad or worse as child or elder abuse. Are there any organizations that might be of help? What an absolutely shitty situation to be in!
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Post by mygigiscraps on Apr 11, 2019 0:40:57 GMT
Rob Lowe. More than 30 years later, he could still move right back in any time he wanted!
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Post by mygigiscraps on Apr 11, 2019 0:39:01 GMT
Sadly, the possibility of your husband having sex with another woman is the least disturbing part of the whole situation. There cannot be any part of you that honestly believes that a man who speaks to you in that manner has any love for you. He is also not going to ever treat you any better than you let him know you will tolerate being treated. From the sound of things, he would prefer that the two of you were no longer married. I don't know your entire story, but why in hell would you stay with him?
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Post by mygigiscraps on Mar 20, 2019 3:26:51 GMT
I blame the tattlers just as much as the other girls. People that love to tell others whatever mean thing they hear really suck. I think the tattlers are worse. Your poor DD... Exactly! The only reason to run and blab something like that is to stir the pot. My heart goes out to her. Mean girls suck.
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Post by mygigiscraps on Mar 19, 2019 14:22:07 GMT
Just Wow. I hope they all round up their bloody underwear and mail them to Richard "Dick" Pickett. What a jackass.
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Post by mygigiscraps on Mar 17, 2019 1:12:21 GMT
Wow. That is unusual. I can't see myself attending an event like that if my husband is intentionally not invited.
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Post by mygigiscraps on Mar 10, 2019 0:55:15 GMT
I am sitting on the bench with you. Scoot over, ‘cause I need a spot as well. I’d repeatedly tell myself “it’s not my wedding, it’s not my wedding.” And I would mean it. But the lack of forethought and planning would make me nuts. Got room for one more? 1. Wear whatever you want to (provided it's not white) and ROCK it. 2. Stand back. Yeah, it's her wedding. It's still damned inconsiderate not to think of her future husband's family at all when planning or choosing a date. Her stuff wasn't scheduled first, so you are absolutely right that it's going to be very hard on your family to handle all that in one day. 3. Enjoy being the mother of the groom. You mentioned your daughters. Believe me, your turn to be in the center of the turmoil is coming! Lol 4. There is no way you should miss the wedding or reception of your best friend's daughter. Her event was planned first, takes place later in the day, and any guests you have could entertain themselves for a few hours. 5. If your son is okay with everything, great. If he's not, well he will benefit more from learning to work through issues like this with her now, rather than having to deal with his wife and his mother being unhappy. After all, Thanksgiving and Christmas are coming. Maybe grandchildren soon. We all know that the real fun begins then. Breathe. Add vodka or tequila if needed.
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Post by mygigiscraps on Mar 4, 2019 17:35:46 GMT
Those look so good!
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Post by mygigiscraps on Mar 4, 2019 13:39:42 GMT
You go to the flea market, buy some amazing things. Talk about how nice everyone is, how fun it was. Maybe she’ll want to go with you next time to see, and prove herself wrong. If she says anything like that again, then I would approach the subject however you feel comfortable. What a tough situation... I agree. She might be used to just her white friends and have no idea how much better life is when you don't box yourself into what you are used to experiencing. I wouldn't write her off just yet. People often change when given the opportunity to do so. This. I often think that a lot of what first seems like racism in comments like this is actually fear of the unfamiliar. I also tend to believe that real racist won't be defeated by shame, but rather by exposure to other cultures and races that create the understanding that underneath the skin, we're all just people with families and friends and lives.
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Post by mygigiscraps on Feb 20, 2019 21:54:24 GMT
Then pass on by the photo. She was doing a PODCAST. She probably gave no thought as to what you wanted to see when she pulled her outfit for the day. It's not like she was doing prime-time network television. It’s not about passing on by the photo. It was a PODCAST yet her photo is out there and she should care about about what her audience thinks. If dresses like a Kardashian she will be taken as seriously as a Kardashian(And I do know I’m exaggerating a lot) There are expectations as to clothing in the different types of media. When's the last time you got your knickers in a twist over what a male journalist was wearing? When doing a podcast, there's a reasonable expectation that the focus is NOT on your clothing. Even still, did you bother to read the article about her assault? What a shame that instead of finding a way to admire her courage as a survivor, you choose to be offended by her gall at wearing a low-cut blouse.
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Post by mygigiscraps on Feb 20, 2019 21:34:29 GMT
What a terrible thing! I'm very sorry for your loss.
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Post by mygigiscraps on Feb 20, 2019 21:29:08 GMT
Way back in high school we learned to determine facts from opinion in news. Words like may, might, possibly, apparently, maybe, I think, and appear to are not facts. Omitting parts of speeches or paraphrasing are not facts. Editing video to leave out or change the order of events is not presenting facts. The sad part is I see things like this across the board on TV. It’s harder to parse if things are omitted because I’m skeptical of even reputable journalists. This. And can you imagine the pressure of suck a fast news cycle now? Growing up, if it happened during the day, you heard about that night on the news. Now it's within minutes.
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Post by mygigiscraps on Feb 20, 2019 21:23:13 GMT
She is the survivor of a horrific sexual assault. If she's comfortable wearing that shirt, she should absolutely rock it. That doesn’t mean I want to see her boobs! Then pass on by the photo. She was doing a PODCAST. She probably gave no thought as to what you wanted to see when she pulled her outfit for the day. It's not like she was doing prime-time network television.
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Post by mygigiscraps on Feb 20, 2019 17:34:30 GMT
I don’t have any thoughts about her one way or another, but I think your assessment is unfair. 1. She’s recording a podcast (audio only) 2. Whoever is videoing her is standing, she is sitting, thus the view down her shirt. We could just as easily call the person videoing her a pervert for choosing to stand where he/she stood. 3. She’s leaning forward in her chair. And even if she purposefully decided that she was going to let the girls halfway out, it has no bearing on her statements. No matter the angle, her shirt is VERY low cut and not appropriate, IMO. She is the survivor of a horrific sexual assault. If she's comfortable wearing that shirt, she should absolutely rock it.
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Post by mygigiscraps on Feb 20, 2019 16:13:20 GMT
1. Who is she? I’ve literally never heard of her. Sadly, this is the first thing that comes to mind every time I hear her name. link
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Post by mygigiscraps on Feb 19, 2019 18:01:21 GMT
I always wondered why anyone would go through the trouble of cutting of some guy's junk and then throw it where it could be found. Really. Have you never hidden Easter eggs?
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Post by mygigiscraps on Feb 19, 2019 17:58:31 GMT
That is really beautiful!
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Post by mygigiscraps on Feb 19, 2019 0:45:36 GMT
I use a Shark steam mop for all my hard floors.
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Post by mygigiscraps on Feb 16, 2019 1:50:00 GMT
I cannot imagine the fresh hell that would commence as soon as I turned that thing on near one of my dogs. The vacuum cleaner nearly gets me killed here as it is.
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Post by mygigiscraps on Feb 13, 2019 21:32:39 GMT
We are used car people. I tend to keep my cars until they are at least 10-12 years old, longer if I really love the car and it's been dependable.
DH worked with a guy a couple of years ago that financed a Lexus SUV for 10 years. Ten freaking years for a car. They'll trade again before then and never own a damned thing.
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Post by mygigiscraps on Feb 13, 2019 16:01:14 GMT
I hate to be blunt, but with along with chickens comes, well, chicken shit. And chicken shit stinks. If you're in the country, that's just life. If you pay HOA dues and live in a subdivision, sitting on the back patio and smelling that would not be acceptable. I'd turn them in immediately.
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Post by mygigiscraps on Feb 13, 2019 15:07:41 GMT
It's happening on a lot of medications. My teenage daughter has to be drug tested every 3 months to get refills on her ADHD meds. Her doctor explained that even much younger children are being tested because of new policies. Yes, there was also a contract to be signed.
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Post by mygigiscraps on Feb 13, 2019 15:04:46 GMT
My dentist asked me to switch back to a regular brush because apparently I am too aggressive with the electric ones and it was causing my gums to recede. I really miss my Oral B. The Sonicare one was not my favorite.
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Post by mygigiscraps on Feb 13, 2019 15:00:51 GMT
As much as you try to be fair in these situations, there will always be times, blended family or nuclear, when one child feels like the other got more. But yeah, blended is harder because you don't have the option of controlling all the variables. I can completely understand where it would hurt your husband to see his children living with less because their mother isn't doing as well financially. I cannot imagine knowing that I was living better than my minor children were able to, and my heart goes out to him. Sometimes having things not be your fault doesn't mean it isn't a problem. Unfortunately there is no easy fix.
I agree with others that the time to discuss this with his daughter is now, before it even becomes an issue. I would also take that time to discuss it with each of the other kids, because whatever you do right here, right now is going to set the precedent going forward for every other child.
It probably won't be popular opinion, but here is mine. I would prepare myself to do everything I could to level the playing field. Yes, your children got savings bonds that have been used to pay for their cars. However, those bonds were a gift. It isn't the fault of your stepkids that they were given no such help. Provided that your stepdaughter and any of the other kids gets a job, keeps their grades up, and helps with paying for the associated expenses, I would absolutely prepare to help them get a car when they hit the 17/18 year old mark, just like the boys. (at age 15 or 16, no way) If they need a ride to work so they can save, I'd be the most helpful stepmom in the history of the world and offer to drive them whenever I could. One day those kids are going to grow up and realize how their own mother played things with you and their dad. They'll look back and see that you were a mom to them because you wanted to be, and they'll love you all the more for it.
As for using the vacation money, my understanding is that the vacation is a long weekend couples' getaway, not one for the entire family. If you wait until his daughter is the same age as your sons were, will that give you enough time to save up and be able to help her? If so, take the trip. If not, I hate to say this, but I would prepare to stay home, but still send the kids to wherever they were going while you were away. You can cook up some creole food, put on some jazz music, light a few candles, and have a romantic time right there. It's not the same, but it's better than nothing.
There should be a fairy godmother somewhere for the parents of teenagers.
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Post by mygigiscraps on Feb 13, 2019 2:06:21 GMT
I've gone from have to have not twice now. Never missed it.
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Post by mygigiscraps on Feb 11, 2019 18:05:34 GMT
Formerly, I called them chickpeas. I am officially changing what I call them to ceci, just to see my husband's face when I tell him he's eating chee-chee for dinner. Please report back! I tried this on him last night. He just looked at me, blinked, and said "that fuzzy green thing with the little black seeds?" Um, no hon. That's KIWI. Men!
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Post by mygigiscraps on Feb 10, 2019 23:32:07 GMT
Formerly, I called them chickpeas. I am officially changing what I call them to ceci, just to see my husband's face when I tell him he's eating chee-chee for dinner.
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Post by mygigiscraps on Feb 10, 2019 15:27:56 GMT
That's a great idea. I usually end up using the samples to make chalk paint or on some other general craft project because I feel bad wasting it. I've also been guilty of having my paint mixed to match my cardstock too!
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Post by mygigiscraps on Feb 9, 2019 8:14:44 GMT
"Bezos Exposes Pecker" hahahahahaha!!! yup, sometimes I'm a 12-yr old boy, lol. Me too, apparently! My first thought was that either way, somebody's pecker was going to be exposed!
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Post by mygigiscraps on Feb 8, 2019 20:07:53 GMT
Oh Jesus no. You'll be throwing up stuff you ate in 1982.
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