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Post by leannec on Feb 9, 2020 1:18:56 GMT
So I had a dinner date planned for this Wednesday... and just thought to ask him about his living situation and of course he is living with his parents. Had a LTR end 1.5 years ago and had been back at home since. How is this even possible that this keeps happening? I know my situation isn’t ideal either, but still... I'm sorry ... that sucks
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Post by leannec on Feb 10, 2020 12:48:15 GMT
So I started texting with a new guy in the middle of the night last night ... as you know, I have weird sleep patterns He's really cute but is all kinds of wrong He has the same name as ex (David) ... he is a full-time dad to a 11 year old and a 4 year old which means no privacy at his place ... that means we would be faced with doing it in a vehicle which I swore I would never do again But I like him so we'll see
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Feb 10, 2020 15:50:16 GMT
My weekend was different than expected. I already updated on the guy who got cold feet. He kept texting - his claims were so outrageous that I let it go on to see where it went next. Apparently, I'm demanding for insisting on meeting before going to a private location with a stranger for the Internet. He's had over 70 women do that in the past year. But I'm so intriguing that he kept begging. He eventually called me a tease and blocked me.
My Saturday date was switched out. The one planned for Saturday will definitely happen sometime this week (kid stuff), so I arranged a FWB meetup for Saturday night. But, and this is just awful on my part, I broke it when my favorite FWB called. I know its just wrong, but my favorite FWB is just irresistible to me.
Sunday, my date was cancelled due to a flight delay, but he's promised to make it up this week, so we'll see. That was a first date, so I don't have a ton of confidence in his follow through.
So I started texting with a new guy in the middle of the night last night ... as you know, I have weird sleep patterns He's really cute but is all kinds of wrong He has the same name as ex (David) ... he is a full-time dad to a 11 year old and a 4 year old which means no privacy at his place ... that means we would be faced with doing it in a vehicle which I swore I would never do again But I like him so we'll see
That is the thing I have found hardest about dating as a single mom. I haven't resorted to car sex...I've just worked around visitation schedules so far. I've only had one overnight guest at my house, and I've always come home at night if Alison is home.
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Post by brenda89 on Feb 10, 2020 16:05:11 GMT
Nothing new from me since Friday night. I did text him Saturday late afternoon, he had a funeral that day. And in his defense, his oldest son is back for 2 weeks from I think basic training. The son had been gone for 8 months. So I may have to be patient for a couple weeks.
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Post by leannec on Feb 10, 2020 19:34:33 GMT
Update: I started texting another guy today at work and we're meeting for a drink right after work He's a graphic engineer and seems really nice ... I'm not sure how attracted I am to him but I'm going to see how he looks in real life! He's 39 and is fine with my age
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Post by leannec on Feb 11, 2020 0:59:15 GMT
So my afternoon date went really well The guy is from India ... I've never dated someone from another country ... he's really cute and sexy ... he has a bit of an accent which is also sexy We actually have a few things in common and had a really nice time ... then we sat in his car and kissed for awhile ... it was hot ... if both dd's go to their dads tomorrow night he's coming over
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Post by ashley on Feb 11, 2020 1:10:26 GMT
I have a dinner date on Wednesday with a man who’s 12 years younger than me. We seem to get along well... he’s one of the ones who lives with his parents right now, but he had a long term relationship end (of ten years) 1.5 years ago and was sick with cancer at the time, so I feel like I understand his situation a bit better and it’s not like he’s freeloading. He has interests I can appreciate and share.. he loves turntables and records, vintage things, he raises chickens.
ETA: his name is Tyler
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Post by sharlag on Feb 11, 2020 1:25:49 GMT
I had a fun conversation with the only guy I’m dating. I just wanted to do SOMETHING foe valentines day. We talked about the “level” of whatever we decided to do: 10 was something starting with a limo, a 1 was just a thumbs up text.
We decided on a 5. My demands were: someplace with a booth that serves cocktails and food.
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Post by leannec on Feb 11, 2020 1:35:31 GMT
He has interests I can appreciate and share.. he loves turntables and records, vintage things, he raises chickens. Vintage things? That is totally your thing
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Post by Rhondito on Feb 11, 2020 1:45:55 GMT
I had a fun conversation with the only guy I’m dating. I just wanted to do SOMETHING foe valentines day. We talked about the “level” of whatever we decided to do: 10 was something starting with a limo, a 1 was just a thumbs up text. We decided on a 5. My demands were: someplace with a booth that serves cocktails and food.
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Post by ashley on Feb 11, 2020 1:53:59 GMT
He has interests I can appreciate and share.. he loves turntables and records, vintage things, he raises chickens. Vintage things? That is totally your thing He restores vintage lawn mowers and tractors. Lol
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Post by sharlag on Feb 11, 2020 1:54:17 GMT
He has interests I can appreciate and share.. he loves turntables and records, vintage things, he raises chickens. Vintage things? That is totally your thing Hee!!!
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Post by alexa11 on Feb 11, 2020 1:59:07 GMT
Damn leannec how do you find so many to text with? I mean I get several messages a day on POF (Match is a wash-ugh), but I rarely respond because they just don't appeal to me. I know I'm picky. I am kind of talking to a guy who says he lives here in town, but I'm really thinking he's a scammer.
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Post by Neisey on Feb 11, 2020 2:21:59 GMT
Damn leannec how do you find so many to text with? I mean I get several messages a day on POF (Match is a wash-ugh), but I rarely respond because they just don't appeal to me. I know I'm picky. I am kind of talking to a guy who says he lives here in town, but I'm really thinking he's a scammer. Do you ever make the initial contact? Find some profiles that do appeal to you and start a conversation.
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Post by leannec on Feb 11, 2020 3:52:48 GMT
Damn leannec how do you find so many to text with? I mean I get several messages a day on POF (Match is a wash-ugh), but I rarely respond because they just don't appeal to me. I know I'm picky. I am kind of talking to a guy who says he lives here in town, but I'm really thinking he's a scammer. I just seem to get a couple of cute ones every day ... as well as a number that I ignore Lowering my age limit has been a plus but this latest guy turns 40 in two days so he's not as young as some
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Post by leannec on Feb 11, 2020 3:56:10 GMT
Damn leannec how do you find so many to text with? I mean I get several messages a day on POF (Match is a wash-ugh), but I rarely respond because they just don't appeal to me. I know I'm picky. I am kind of talking to a guy who says he lives here in town, but I'm really thinking he's a scammer. Do you ever make the initial contact? Find some profiles that do appeal to you and start a conversation. I rarely contact them first ... I haven't had much luck with that ... the two that I did end up with ended up being losers (Jay and Andrew)
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Post by alexa11 on Feb 11, 2020 4:03:08 GMT
Damn leannec how do you find so many to text with? I mean I get several messages a day on POF (Match is a wash-ugh), but I rarely respond because they just don't appeal to me. I know I'm picky. I am kind of talking to a guy who says he lives here in town, but I'm really thinking he's a scammer. I just seem to get a couple of cute ones every day ... as well as a number that I ignore Lowering my age limit has been a plus but this latest guy turns 40 in two days so he's not as young as some Get it, girl!
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Post by leannec on Feb 12, 2020 4:48:48 GMT
So my date tonight with the East Indian guy went soooooo great (his name is Parminder but he goes by Sandy) He came over to my place because my dd's were at their dads tonight ... we had wine and food and then we did it THREE times Tomorrow is his 40th birthday so I said that was his birthday gift We're going out on Saturday night ... I really like him I also heard from Justin tonight ... he's the 30 year old that lives in Fernie, B.C. ... three hours away ... we texted for 2.5 months and broke it off a couple of weeks ago ... I knew I'd hear from him again ... I'm talking on the phone with him right now because I still really like him and I'm a sucker for punishment
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Post by leannec on Feb 12, 2020 16:10:59 GMT
So I'm probably an idiot for starting things up with Justin again right? Sigh! It's just that I invested so much time into him and I really like him I told him that if he comes to visit me I'll visit him during Spring Break
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Feb 12, 2020 17:47:47 GMT
So I'm probably an idiot for starting things up with Justin again right? Sigh! It's just that I invested so much time into him and I really like him I told him that if he comes to visit me I'll visit him during Spring Break
I say have all the fun you want, invest time and enjoy it...but go into it with your eyes wide open and reset your expectations to align with the past.
I did that with my FWB. I really, really like my time with him (and his words and actions in person say that he feels the same way), but I know I'm not going to get the relationship I want out of it (as evidenced by his lack of words and actions when we aren't in person). I had to ask myself if I could live with what I can get, and as a result, I don't pursue him now. I sit back and if he calls and if I'm available, I go have fun. And God is he fun.
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Post by ashley on Feb 13, 2020 2:47:48 GMT
Haha, so it’s adter the dinner date and we decided to go for a drive and he decided to drive us across a muddy field and now we’re stuck and waiting for a tow truck. I wasn’t having a great time to start with and now I’m just tired and he flung mud on me (by accident) and I just want to go home.
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Post by ashley on Feb 13, 2020 2:52:58 GMT
Job good, the tow truck is finally here.
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Post by alexa11 on Feb 13, 2020 2:53:32 GMT
Haha, so it’s adter the dinner date and we decided to go for a drive and he decided to drive us across a muddy field and now we’re stuck and waiting for a tow truck. I wasn’t having a great time to start with and now I’m just tired and he flung mud on me (by accident) and I just want to go home. This sounds like one of my "normal" dates- always something... I'm sorry that it was bad.
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Post by ashley on Feb 13, 2020 2:55:20 GMT
Haha, so it’s adter the dinner date and we decided to go for a drive and he decided to drive us across a muddy field and now we’re stuck and waiting for a tow truck. I wasn’t having a great time to start with and now I’m just tired and he flung mud on me (by accident) and I just want to go home. This sounds like one of my "normal" dates- always something... I'm sorry that it was bad. Igh and he keeps asking me if I like him. Don’t ask that question!
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Feb 13, 2020 3:05:07 GMT
So awkward! The last guy who asked me that got an honest, “Um, you’re a nice guy, but I don’t see any potential here.”
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Post by ashley on Feb 13, 2020 3:23:44 GMT
So awkward! The last guy who asked me that got an honest, “Um, you’re a nice guy, but I don’t see any potential here.” That will be something like what my text tomorrow will sound like. I don’t want to reject someone while I was sitting stranded in his truck!
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Post by leannec on Feb 13, 2020 13:22:01 GMT
Haha, so it’s adter the dinner date and we decided to go for a drive and he decided to drive us across a muddy field and now we’re stuck and waiting for a tow truck. I wasn’t having a great time to start with and now I’m just tired and he flung mud on me (by accident) and I just want to go home. Oh no! What a comedy of errors Sorry you had a shitty time
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Post by leannec on Feb 13, 2020 13:29:28 GMT
So I video chatted with Justin last night for the first time ... he was wearing glasses ... I freaking LOVE a man in glasses Why did we never do this before? It was so fun ... yup, I'm glad we are back together New guy (Sandy) wears glasses too ... so hot Dd#1 is working on Saturday night and dd#2 will be at her dads so he's coming over again ... yipeee!
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Post by leannec on Feb 13, 2020 23:39:39 GMT
It was Teachers Convention today and I only had sessions in the morning ... Sandy was off work today for appointments this morning ... you know where this is going I went to his place this afternoon ... it was so freaking fun ... he had country music playing which I love ... what Indian guy likes country music Then he phoned me while I was driving home to say that he already missed me ... I could be in trouble
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Post by alexa11 on Feb 14, 2020 14:36:58 GMT
Have we talked about Facebook dating? It popped up on mine a couple of weeks ago and I decided to try it last night. Just like Match- shows you a profile that you either like or not. So far, I've only seen a couple of guys from the other sites- the rest are new to me. Only a couple of "nice" ones so far, but we shall see.
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