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Post by Deleted on Apr 8, 2020 13:07:55 GMT
Like really doing? Say it here if you can't say it anywhere else.
I'm doing ok, having my husband working from home is helping me tremendously. If I was alone I don't think I'd be doing half as well, but being able to go upstairs and hug him whenever I need to is wonderful.
If you're wearing your judgey pants can you please leave them at the door of this thread.
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SweetieBsMom
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Apr 8, 2020 13:16:05 GMT
I'm not sleeping, at all. I never have an issue falling asleep/staying asleep. Since this started I can't sleep. It's making me nuts. I am busy all day working and I don't think about what's going on because I'm distracted, then at night....BOOM. I think I maybe got 2 hours last night. I'm desperate. I may try taking an Advil PM or something to knock me out. I always get sick when I am not getting my sleep and I do NOT want to get sick.
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Post by sawwhet on Apr 8, 2020 13:16:29 GMT
Glad your husband is home.
I'm doing ok but my autistic son is reaching his max. He's super grouchy today and didn't sleep much last night.
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Post by psiluvu on Apr 8, 2020 13:20:25 GMT
The last couple of days have been better. My daughter is home from school finally and I feel like I can breath easier having all of us under the one roof. My dh works in logistics/transportation so he is working and busier than ever and totally stressed out so I am trying to be the opposite. He is very much a worse case scenario guy and I am the opposite so most days we meet in the middle. I am so not a crier but have been known to burst into tears at the drop of a hat lately so some days my family think I am losing it but overall I think the more "normal" the isolation gets the easier time I am having.
Glad you have your hubby to hug. It's the little things.
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Post by LisaDV on Apr 8, 2020 13:22:18 GMT
I wasn't doing so well when #stayathome first started. We isolated fairly quickly and well. DS & DD already were part of an online high school, nothing changed for their day to day, except they might feel some of the world stress too, but aren't talking about it. DS was having trouble sleeping at first, but is okay now. DD is always sick (anxiety) so not sure if this compounded it or just her science equations and school (over-achiever). For me at the beginning, the worry of the essential workers and the economy had me a bit paralyzed. Although I'm still really worried about those things and now a few others, my prayer list seems to get longer by the minute, I'm mentally in a better spot. Just moving forward.
If DS & DD were older and moved out of the house, I would probably not be doing so well mentally.
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Post by luckyexwife on Apr 8, 2020 13:22:44 GMT
I'm not ok. My soontobeex is having an affair, but doesn't think we need to separate, so I'm doing everything with the lawyer. I'm trying to keep it fair, but I'm about at the end where I'm going to change the paperwork to everything I want, and he can get his own lawyer and figure it out himself.
I'm working from home, and actually got a promotion last week, which is great, but it comes with much more responsibility, and a team of 8 people under me.
At the same time, I'm trying to keep on top of 3 boys doing their online school, when they just want to play all day.
And trying to keep the house clean, get groceries without getting exposed, and save a tiny bit of my sanity.
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Post by rickmer on Apr 8, 2020 13:23:40 GMT
i can fall asleep.... but very unsettled. i am half awake and feel something "is that a sore throat? wonder if the virus in my body". i don't panic - in my mind i think "well if it is, it is, can't do anything about and being well-rested is the best defence i have right now". but when i doze off and wake 20 mins later "hmm, does my throat still hurt?". i am pretty matter of fact about it during the day.... do what i can to protect me and the kids but i guess at night my real fears are creeping out? also having lots of anxiety dreams (at the airport, don't have passports/tickets, flight in leaving type dreams that seem to go on and on....) so when i do actually sleep, not restful. kids are back here this week after 3 days with their dad. it's going okay. considering we have spent the last 20 days or so together, other than that. i was fighting him, trying to get them to stay here but he knows that is what i want so will never agree. i send them back there on monday, i give him 3 days and he will call "suggesting" it might be better for them to stay with me for "help with school". so i am resigned to whatever will be will be with that aspect. eta: still applying for jobs... no action but i do know nothing will happen if i don't continue to look
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Apr 8, 2020 13:27:12 GMT
i can fall asleep.... but very unsettled. i am half awake and feel something "is that a sore throat? wonder if the virus in my body". i don't panic - in my mind i think "well if it is, it is, can't do anything about and being well-rested is the best defence i have right now". but when i doze off and wake 20 mins later "hmm, does my throat still hurt?". i am pretty matter of fact about it during the day.... do what i can to protect me and the kids but i guess at night my real fears are creeping out? also having lots of anxiety dreams (at the airport, don't have passports/tickets, flight in leaving type dreams that seem to go on and on....) so when i do actually sleep, not restful. kids are back here this week after 3 days with their dad. it's going okay. considering we have spent the last 20 days or so together, other than that. i was fighting him, trying to get them to stay here but he knows that is what i want so will never agree. i send them back there on monday, i give him 3 days and he will call "suggesting" it might be better for them to stay with me for "help with school". so i am resigned to whatever will be will be with that aspect. Everything is worse at night. I learned that when DS was a baby. A cough during the day "meh", a cough in the middle of the night "OMG! It's Whooping Cough". Once I recognized this, I was able to talk myself down a lot of times. I find if I can get to sleep, I typically can stay asleep. But I'm RIGHT there with you with the sore throat. I had one Tuesday and was like "OMG" and then I had to talk myself down "it's post nasal drip from allergies, you gotta relax".
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Post by amom23 on Apr 8, 2020 13:32:11 GMT
Things are actually going okay here. We have more to be thankful for than to complain about. I'm trying really hard to stay positive.
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Post by refugeepea on Apr 8, 2020 13:35:43 GMT
It hasn't been that different for me except the extra people. I would be able to cope better. Especially not having to do the homeschooling thing.
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Post by sharlag on Apr 8, 2020 13:37:43 GMT
I'm ok, but having sleep troubles as well.
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Post by pierkiss on Apr 8, 2020 13:44:49 GMT
I’m ok. Super stressed about money and the future. My husband and I were running a business from home. Our financial backers opted not to continue funding us at the beginning of the year. So we were both in the process of applying for jobs. His interview has been postponed indefinitely because it’s with our local hospital system and they are currently swamped with more important things. Mine-I was able to have my interview via google whatever video chat. It went extremely well. But it’s for a position at my kids school system, and schools have been shut down for the rest of the year. I followed up with the principal, and he told me he has requested a meeting to discuss who he wants to hire with the powers that be. But we are now on spring break. And next week when we come back from spring break it will be a full court press for the school to have video learning for the rest of the year. The position doesn’t start until August so I’m sure the hiring people are in no hurry now given this situation. I have a side photography business but that is of no help right now because of social distancing. And even if that weren’t an issue, this time of year is still super slow because it’s still too damn cold and unpredictable. I am solidly against those porch sessions because I think the potential for harm is great.
It was looking like things were going to be ok for us and then bam, coronavirus.
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 8, 2020 13:45:58 GMT
If DH didn't have cancer, we'd be ok. He is terrified he will need hospitalization. He doesn't do well there alone on a good day. I usually go home only to sleep.
It's a real fear for both of us, as he is having issues eating.
My sleep was helped by not watching any news after the dinner hour.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 8, 2020 13:46:56 GMT
I'm ok. The hardest thing for me was making the decision to cut myself off from my mom. She is currently going through treatment for cancer and I am used to spending 2 weeks out of every month with her, I have been doing that for almost a year. So I had to decide if I was going to stay with her, leaving my family without me, or stay with my family and leave her essentially alone. I decided to stay with my family and now we are on the 2nd month of her being alone and I think she is really going downhill. We were in the process of her moving to my state (after all her radiation was done) when all this hit, so things are really a hot mess. That said, I have a TON to be grateful for and someone said (can't remember who, now) I will use my privilege to stay home. Edited to add, is anyone else working too much? I am working remotely now, and I find myself working at all hours of the day and night, when I can't sleep, just putting in a full day and then 30 min here and there, on Monday I tallied it up and I had worked almost 11 hours. Which would be great if I was hourly, lol. It's like it is a huge distraction and if I am working stuff feels more "normal" than say scrapbooking on a weekday.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Apr 8, 2020 13:48:28 GMT
I have been signed off from work with some sort of crud for 9 days now: low grade fever (99.6*F/37.5*C) and a chest that feels as if I'm breathing in (with difficulty) broken glass whilst wearing a bra 2 sizes too small with spikes inside it. Pretty much no cough, but the symptoms are so variable that it still could be IT. Nights are OK other than the worry dreams. Mornings aren't too bad so I get most done then. Afternoons and evenings are hard. DH is working from home, still putting in his 13 hours a day and needing feeding. I'm just waiting until either a) it goes away, or b) next Monday when I can ring the GP and say it's been 2 weeks, what do I do now? Emotionally I was pretty positive till it got worse again on Monday, now I'm feeling fed up, tired and useless. I'm very glad you have your man there with you. At last. You've been through hell and high water for ages, and you deserve a bit of comfort. I've missed you and I'm glad you're back.
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Post by keithurbanlovinpea on Apr 8, 2020 13:53:21 GMT
I was NOT ok a couple of weeks ago. Huge anxiety and panic attacks. I am by nature a pessimistic (realistic?) person whereas DH is very optimistic. So I imagined worse case scenarios, and then he drove me crazy with his"it will all be fine" attitude. LOL But I am slowly improving my mental health. I pray every day (thank you jenjie!), write out my daily gratitude, take a 30 minute walk outside every day, and started taking Lexapro.
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Post by elaine on Apr 8, 2020 13:54:19 GMT
It sucks right now.
My sons with autism are not coping well. Younger son just doesn’t understand and asks a hundred + times per day - literally- when the Coronavirus will be over and various things will be open again. Each day involves praying that it won’t get physically violent here.
My only positive is that I have managed to sew and get out quite a few face masks. It helps me to feel like I am helping others.
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Post by malibou on Apr 8, 2020 13:55:34 GMT
We are doing well. Ds definitely gained some maturity while away at college and that has made things easy and fun. He is very willing to help out and doesn't eye roll us when we ask things of him. That's a win to me.
What is hanging us up is our parents. Dh dad hasn't been declining over the past year. Nothing medical really, just a life coming to an end. He's 94. Well, he passed away yesterday, peacefully in his sleep. I'm glad we had asked them to take care of the logistics of this years ago. Everything was prepaid and they came and took care of everything. Just so hard not being there to help my mil. This is the first of Ds grand parents to go.
At the same time, my sister's mil, who is like a bonus grandparent to Ds, is also actively dying. She is also 94. She stopped eating and drinking the same day as my fil, so it is certainly any time now. She has been so awesome to my ds. She took a shine to him when he was a toddler and always treated him as though he were one of hers.
My dad is battling a head full of squamous cell cancer. Since we've been on lockdown he has had a very big surgery on his head to remove the spots. When they got in there, they ended up removing a bunch of lymph nodes and found that it was super aggressive. Almost everyday there is a new spot coming up. He has had one infusion and goes for another next week. But the doctors don't seem very optimistic. We are seeing a lot of new quirky things going on. I am afraid I won't get to see him before he too dies. My heart is breaking. He is 87.
We are lucky we've had them all so long, and not one of our parents had any on going health problems. They are just coming to the end. Coming to an end when we can't get to them.
Thank you for listening. It's feeling a bit overwhelming right now. More than it should be because of the lockdown.
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Post by auntkelly on Apr 8, 2020 13:56:02 GMT
I’m almost certain my husband had corona virus about two weeks before everyone began sheltering in place. That was a super stressful time because he was really sick, but not sick enough to be hospitalized. I took him to the emergency room three times but they kept saying “we don’t have the test yet, the virus isn’t in our state yet, he has a terrible sinus infection, go home and self quarantine.” At that time you had to be sick enough to be hospitalized to be tested for corona.
We now know the virus was in our state at that time, and we had been in close contact w/ people shortly after they attended a big party where it spread like wild fire, so I’m certain he had the virus. I think I might have as well.
Anyway my husband has recovered and I am much less stressed.
However, my 94 year old aunt who has dementia has moved in w/ us temporarily. She gets very confused every evening. Every morning she packs her bag and carries it to the front door. I have to explain to her about the virus and why she is here. She cries because she wants to go home and be with her cats. That is stressful.
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Post by elaine on Apr 8, 2020 13:57:45 GMT
We are doing well. Ds definitely gained some maturity while away at college and that has made things easy and fun. He is very willing to help out and doesn't eye roll us when we ask things of him. That's a win to me. What is hanging us up is our parents. Dh dad hasn't been declining over the past year. Nothing medical really, just a life coming to an end. He's 94. Well, he passed away yesterday, peacefully in his sleep. I'm glad we had asked them to take care of the logistics of this years ago. Everything was prepaid and they came and took care of everything. Just so hard not being there to help my mil. This is the first of Ds grand parents to go. At the same time, my sister's mil, who is like a bonus grandparent to Ds, is also actively dying. She is also 94. She stopped eating and drinking the same day as my fil, so it is certainly any time now. She has been so awesome to my ds. She took a shine to him when he was a toddler and always treated him as though he were one of hers. My dad is battling a head full of squamous cell cancer. Since we've been on lockdown he has had a very big surgery on his head to remove the spots. When they got in there, they ended up removing a bunch of lymph nodes and found that it was super aggressive. Almost everyday there is a new spot coming up. He has had one infusion and goes for another next week. But the doctors don't seem very optimistic. We are seeing a lot of new quirky things going on. I am afraid I won't get to see him before he too dies. My heart is breaking. He is 87. We are lucky we've had them all so long, and not one of our parents had any on going health problems. They are just coming to the end. Coming to an end when we can't get to them. Thank you for listening. It's feeling a bit overwhelming right now. More than it should be because of the lockdown. I am so sorry. That is just too much loss in one family all at the same time. (((Hugs)))
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Apr 8, 2020 14:02:20 GMT
malibou I'm so sorry, such a lot to go through at one time. It never rains but it pours. Hugs from me.
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Post by malibou on Apr 8, 2020 14:03:27 GMT
I just want to scoop everyone of you up in a hug.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Apr 8, 2020 14:06:41 GMT
Thank you for asking "Like really doing?"
Not freaking great.
Absolutely swamped with kids e-learning stuff.
Really worried because I'm furloughed and so is everyone i know.
Unemployment is overwhelmed in my state & not getting back to people.
I feel overwhelmed. I try not to watch too much news. Try not to read too much news. I read an article this morning about hospitals saying that the feds are seizing medical supplies that the hospital orders.
I'm freaking out that our government is so utterly corrupt, and I just don't see a way that it will ever not be corrupt again.
Thanks for being here, pea friends.
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TXMary
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Post by TXMary on Apr 8, 2020 14:07:16 GMT
We are doing well. Ds definitely gained some maturity while away at college and that has made things easy and fun. He is very willing to help out and doesn't eye roll us when we ask things of him. That's a win to me. What is hanging us up is our parents. Dh dad hasn't been declining over the past year. Nothing medical really, just a life coming to an end. He's 94. Well, he passed away yesterday, peacefully in his sleep. I'm glad we had asked them to take care of the logistics of this years ago. Everything was prepaid and they came and took care of everything. Just so hard not being there to help my mil. This is the first of Ds grand parents to go. At the same time, my sister's mil, who is like a bonus grandparent to Ds, is also actively dying. She is also 94. She stopped eating and drinking the same day as my fil, so it is certainly any time now. She has been so awesome to my ds. She took a shine to him when he was a toddler and always treated him as though he were one of hers. My dad is battling a head full of squamous cell cancer. Since we've been on lockdown he has had a very big surgery on his head to remove the spots. When they got in there, they ended up removing a bunch of lymph nodes and found that it was super aggressive. Almost everyday there is a new spot coming up. He has had one infusion and goes for another next week. But the doctors don't seem very optimistic. We are seeing a lot of new quirky things going on. I am afraid I won't get to see him before he too dies. My heart is breaking. He is 87. We are lucky we've had them all so long, and not one of our parents had any on going health problems. They are just coming to the end. Coming to an end when we can't get to them. Thank you for listening. It's feeling a bit overwhelming right now. More than it should be because of the lockdown. I am so sorry.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Apr 8, 2020 14:07:56 GMT
I came here to post about my struggles, but after reading realize that I'm only dealing with annoyances. Hugs to all of you who are having problems. I will hope and pray that each of you is able to find some measure of peace each day as we work though this crisis.
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Post by jenjie on Apr 8, 2020 14:09:29 GMT
If DH didn't have cancer, we'd be ok. He is terrified he will need hospitalization. He doesn't do well there alone on a good day. I usually go home only to sleep. It's a real fear for both of us, as he is having issues eating. My sleep was helped by not watching any news after the dinner hour. 😔 I have thought of that. My dh refused to go without me. I even slept at the hospital. Praying he doesn’t need to go and his health remains steady.
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Post by jenjie on Apr 8, 2020 14:11:38 GMT
We are doing well. Ds definitely gained some maturity while away at college and that has made things easy and fun. He is very willing to help out and doesn't eye roll us when we ask things of him. That's a win to me. What is hanging us up is our parents. Dh dad hasn't been declining over the past year. Nothing medical really, just a life coming to an end. He's 94. Well, he passed away yesterday, peacefully in his sleep. I'm glad we had asked them to take care of the logistics of this years ago. Everything was prepaid and they came and took care of everything. Just so hard not being there to help my mil. This is the first of Ds grand parents to go. At the same time, my sister's mil, who is like a bonus grandparent to Ds, is also actively dying. She is also 94. She stopped eating and drinking the same day as my fil, so it is certainly any time now. She has been so awesome to my ds. She took a shine to him when he was a toddler and always treated him as though he were one of hers. My dad is battling a head full of squamous cell cancer. Since we've been on lockdown he has had a very big surgery on his head to remove the spots. When they got in there, they ended up removing a bunch of lymph nodes and found that it was super aggressive. Almost everyday there is a new spot coming up. He has had one infusion and goes for another next week. But the doctors don't seem very optimistic. We are seeing a lot of new quirky things going on. I am afraid I won't get to see him before he too dies. My heart is breaking. He is 87. We are lucky we've had them all so long, and not one of our parents had any on going health problems. They are just coming to the end. Coming to an end when we can't get to them. Thank you for listening. It's feeling a bit overwhelming right now. More than it should be because of the lockdown. So much. Too much. 😔🙏
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Post by jenjie on Apr 8, 2020 14:13:04 GMT
I was NOT ok a couple of weeks ago. Huge anxiety and panic attacks. I am by nature a pessimistic (realistic?) person whereas DH is very optimistic. So I imagined worse case scenarios, and then he drove me crazy with his"it will all be fine" attitude. LOL But I am slowly improving my mental health. I pray every day (thank you jenjie!), write out my daily gratitude, take a 30 minute walk outside every day, and started taking Lexapro. So glad to hear this ❤️
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Post by gillyp on Apr 8, 2020 14:17:17 GMT
malibou a big hug to you. You have such a lot to deal with. I am sorry.
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TXMary
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Post by TXMary on Apr 8, 2020 14:17:25 GMT
I am doing okay. Kinda sorta. It comes and goes. I try to stay busy during the day and not think about it. I have been having some panic attacks. I haven't had those since I had cancer 11 years ago. I'm not sleeping.
I'm worried about my mom. She's 86 and I know she's having a really hard time not being able to get out. She did come by my house the other day to leave something on the porch and it killed me not to be able to hug her but we stayed very far apart. I know her grief over losing my sister is so hard on her.
I feel like I haven't even been able to mourn yet. Her death happened so fast and this all came on not long after that and it's just all so surreal and overwhelming. I am not a crier but I cry every day now.
I am home alone most of the time since DH is a mortgage banker and considered essential. He's 60 and had a stroke last year. I worry about him being out of the house and possibly exposed. At least the lobby is closed so he's not really seeing anyone except his assistant. He did work from home last Friday and told me that he's going to work from home Thursday and Friday of this week too.
I just take it all day by day. Sometimes minute by minute.
We just all need a big group pea hug.
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