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Post by ~summer~ on Jul 3, 2020 3:13:17 GMT
If they are all generally in the same “social bubble” (no out of town kids, distant cousins etc) and it’s outside I’d say yes.
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Post by myshelly on Jul 3, 2020 3:27:49 GMT
So you’re over cowering in your bathroom insisting you aren’t going to see anyone until there’s a vaccine? I thought that would be the case for most people. Not surprised you’re still being rude. I’ve never cowered in my bathroom, thankyouverymuch. (I desperately want to include rude words here). In May you said: “The easy answer for me is that as long as we’re being asked to practice social distancing, the responsible thing is to practice social distancing. I also expect that social distancing will be a thing until there is a vaccine available and I cried while laying on my bathroom floor today after contemplating what that really means.” That’s what I was referring to. Glad to know you’ve changed your mind.
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Post by ashley on Jul 3, 2020 3:39:00 GMT
Not surprised you’re still being rude. I’ve never cowered in my bathroom, thankyouverymuch. (I desperately want to include rude words here). In May you said: “The easy answer for me is that as long as we’re being asked to practice social distancing, the responsible thing is to practice social distancing. I also expect that social distancing will be a thing until there is a vaccine available and I cried while laying on my bathroom floor today after contemplating what that really means.” That’s what I was referring to. Glad to know you’ve changed your mind. You’ll also like to note then that I am still a fan of social distancing and not suggesting anything else. I believe less than ten people can gather in an outdoor place and still remain safely apart. I even said in my post here I’d send my child with their own snacks and disinfectant wipes, which obviously means practicing not sharing and being safe.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Jul 3, 2020 4:10:58 GMT
I don’t think we should be rude or call out anyone on what they are doing or following with this pandemic. The freaking CDC changes their mind daily along with individual states and countries. I think we are all doing our best to get thru this, and if you don’t care anymore about it all, then that’s on you.
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Post by miominmio on Jul 3, 2020 8:10:19 GMT
If it was here? Absolutely (gatherings of 500 are permitted, as long as they are social distancing). No masks required here either, but since it seems you demand that your son wear one, I just have to ask: how on earth are the kids supposed to snack wearing a mask?
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Post by cycworker on Jul 3, 2020 8:27:50 GMT
Yes, of course.
You answered your own question in your original post. He needs to get out. He needs to be around his friends.
His mental health is just as important as his physical health.
As long as they're keeping their distance they should be fine.
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Post by SAHM wannabe on Jul 3, 2020 9:47:38 GMT
Yes, of course. You answered your own question in your original post. He needs to get out. He needs to be around his friends. His mental health is just as important as his physical health. As long as they're keeping their distance they should be fine. Your thoughts are exactly what I was thinking. Our children need to learn how to navigate through this just as we do. If we keep them “locked up” for long durations of time their mental health may begin to suffer. If you’re in an area that is experiencing outbreaks that are filling the hospitals, then that changes my answer to not yet.
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Post by Dallie on Jul 3, 2020 11:08:44 GMT
Nope. High numbers around here. Anyone holding a party right now around here is clearly an idiot who no doubt is not following best practices in their daily life. Therefore they And their house have a high probability of having contagions. I would not believe they would enforce the kids practicing social distancing or sanitizing the bathroom after each use, etc.
And I also have zero interest in enforcing and dealing with my kid self isolating within my house once he returns from the party. My husband is older and has asthma and has been forced to return to work. That is high enough anxiety for me without adding to it so my kid can go to a party.
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Post by christine58 on Jul 3, 2020 11:32:40 GMT
I don’t think we should be rude or call out anyone on what they are doing or following with this pandemic. The freaking CDC changes their mind daily along with individual states and countries. I think we are all doing our best to get thru this, and if you don’t care anymore about it all, then that’s on you. Amen. I am so tired of the judgements here and among some friends.
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Post by lily on Jul 3, 2020 14:29:10 GMT
Shouldn't the kid wash his hands after using all that? SHOULD but they are kids --- would they?
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Post by Darcy Collins on Jul 3, 2020 16:39:00 GMT
Shouldn't the kid wash his hands after using all that? SHOULD but they are kids --- would they? At SIXTEEN - I sure as hell expect a teenager to know how to wash their hands after using the bathroom, pandemic or not.
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Jul 3, 2020 18:26:23 GMT
I did let my 17 year old attend a sweet 16. She asked me to stay in case she forgot and started to stray too close to her friends. It was a “mask-arade” themed party, and they were given pool noodles and frequently reminded that they had to stay their 2 noodles apart. It was also outside and attendance was very limited.
I think this is a case where knowing your kid and the other kids involved really helps in making the decision. My kid and her friends are more responsible than their parents.
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 3, 2020 18:28:11 GMT
SHOULD but they are kids --- would they? At SIXTEEN - I sure as hell expect a teenager to know how to wash their hands after using the bathroom, pandemic or not. plus as long as the op ds is washing his hands, that's all he needs to do
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Post by jenjie on Jul 3, 2020 19:14:37 GMT
What about if they need to use the bathroom? Assuming they would have to go inside for that and if everyone does, that is everyone touching the door handle, toilet handle/seat, faucet.... Shouldn't the kid wash his hands after using all that? This. And as host I would provide paper towels for hand drying.
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Post by *Shannon on Jul 3, 2020 20:49:18 GMT
If it was here? Absolutely (gatherings of 500 are permitted, as long as they are social distancing). No masks required here either, but since it seems you demand that your son wear one, I just have to ask: how on earth are the kids supposed to snack wearing a mask? How on earth are kids supposed to snack wearing a mask? It's pretty simple. Are you meaning to sound snarky, because you do. - snacks are served outside - attendees stay 6+ feet away from each other - attendees temporarily remove mask and eat (while remaining 6+ feet away from each other) - once finished don mask
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Post by *Shannon on Jul 3, 2020 20:55:25 GMT
Yes, of course. You answered your own question in your original post. He needs to get out. He needs to be around his friends. His mental health is just as important as his physical health. As long as they're keeping their distance they should be fine. Ummm, nope - I did not answer my question in my original post. There are things to consider, which is why I asked the question, to make sure I'm considering everything that needs to be considered. We were informed that attendees will not be wearing masks. I do not believe they will keep their distance. He's going to drop by to say hi and leave a gift. He will not be staying. Yes, his mental health is very important. He can get together with friends that wear masks and will try to keep their distance.
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Post by *Shannon on Jul 3, 2020 20:57:55 GMT
SHOULD but they are kids --- would they? At SIXTEEN - I sure as hell expect a teenager to know how to wash their hands after using the bathroom, pandemic or not. LOL - yes, my son knows how to wash his hands in all the above situations.
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Post by *Shannon on Jul 3, 2020 20:59:46 GMT
I did let my 17 year old attend a sweet 16. She asked me to stay in case she forgot and started to stray too close to her friends. It was a “mask-arade” themed party, and they were given pool noodles and frequently reminded that they had to stay their 2 noodles apart. It was also outside and attendance was very limited. I think this is a case where knowing your kid and the other kids involved really helps in making the decision. My kid and her friends are more responsible than their parents. I bet they had a blast! If the party was going to be like that I would have no problem letting him go. Sadly, it's not going to be like that.
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Post by *Shannon on Jul 3, 2020 21:03:09 GMT
At SIXTEEN - I sure as hell expect a teenager to know how to wash their hands after using the bathroom, pandemic or not. plus as long as the op ds is washing his hands, that's all he needs to do If mask wearing, being only outside and distancing was part of the deal, the only other thing he'd need to do is wash his hands. Those things are not part of the deal, so he's not going for more than a pop in to say hello.
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Jul 3, 2020 21:06:14 GMT
Yes, of course. You answered your own question in your original post. He needs to get out. He needs to be around his friends. His mental health is just as important as his physical health. As long as they're keeping their distance they should be fine. Ummm, nope - I did not answer my question in my original post. There are things to consider, which is why I asked the question, to make sure I'm considering everything that needs to be considered. We were informed that attendees will not be wearing masks. I do not believe they will keep their distance. He's going to drop by to say hi and leave a gift. He will not be staying. Yes, his mental health is very important. He can get together with friends that wear masks and will try to keep their distance. I'm not a mom, but I know it can be hard to be the "mean mom". Under those conditions, I think you made the right call.
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Post by *Shannon on Jul 3, 2020 21:09:30 GMT
Thank you all for your replies, I appreciate your in-put.
To recap... the host family is not requiring masks and the party will be inside and out. I don't know most of the kids, or their families, so don't know how seriously they are taking things. I spoke with my son and he understands my concerns and is ok with just dropping in for a few minutes to say hi and drop off a gift.
He has plenty of friends who do take this seriously, he can hang out with them.
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Post by *Shannon on Jul 3, 2020 21:14:13 GMT
Yes For those of you saying no, will your kids be attending school in August? I don't know yet. I'm waiting to hear what our options are.
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Post by *Shannon on Jul 3, 2020 21:25:11 GMT
I probably would permit it. My girls are very serious about the risk of getting sick with covid, so I trust they’d be responsible while there. I’d send their own snacks and drinks, not for sharing, and some disinfecting wipes. I don’t think I’d allow it to be a regular occurrence, or if there were any more than that small number of people attending. So you’re over cowering in your bathroom insisting you aren’t going to see anyone until there’s a vaccine? I thought that would be the case for most people. I usually just ignore you, myshelly, as I understand that there isn't much to be gained by engaging with people like you. Having a spat with someone on a message board is one thing, but this was just a personal, mean-spirited jab. What happened to you to make you like this? I don't want to know the answer, I just hope that one day you'll think about why you do things like this and maybe figure out that there is a better way to be.
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Post by paigepea on Jul 3, 2020 21:55:37 GMT
Thank you all for your replies, I appreciate your in-put. To recap... the host family is not requiring masks and the party will be inside and out. I don't know most of the kids, or their families, so don't know how seriously they are taking things. I spoke with my son and he understands my concerns and is ok with just dropping in for a few minutes to say hi and drop off a gift. He has plenty of friends who do take this seriously, he can hang out with them. Glad you came to a conclusion. And just so you know, my kids have been to school, are registered in day camp, we’ve eaten on a restaurant patio and have been on vacation in a hotel in our province, we have few active cases, and i still wouldn’t allow my kids to a party that will be inside, or partially inside. In my previous post when I said I’d let me dd go in this situation I thought the party was going to be outside only.
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Post by *Shannon on Jul 3, 2020 22:02:36 GMT
Thank you all for your replies, I appreciate your in-put. To recap... the host family is not requiring masks and the party will be inside and out. I don't know most of the kids, or their families, so don't know how seriously they are taking things. I spoke with my son and he understands my concerns and is ok with just dropping in for a few minutes to say hi and drop off a gift. He has plenty of friends who do take this seriously, he can hang out with them. Glad you came to a conclusion. And just so you know, my kids have been to school, are registered in day camp, we’ve eaten on a restaurant patio and have been on vacation in a hotel in our province, we have few active cases, and i still wouldn’t allow my kids to a party that will be inside, or partially inside. In my previous post when I said I’d let me dd go in this situation I thought the party was going to be outside only. Thank you, paigepea - At first, I thought it was outside only also. Finding out that it wasn't made the decision easy.
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Post by beebee on Jul 3, 2020 22:20:21 GMT
Glad you came to a conclusion. And just so you know, my kids have been to school, are registered in day camp, we’ve eaten on a restaurant patio and have been on vacation in a hotel in our province, we have few active cases, and i still wouldn’t allow my kids to a party that will be inside, or partially inside. In my previous post when I said I’d let me dd go in this situation I thought the party was going to be outside only. Thank you, paigepea - At first, I thought it was outside only also. Finding out that it wasn't made the decision easy. I'm so sorry you are having to make this decision. It is so hard. My dd is a senior this year and has had to say no to quite a few events. While she would have no problem social distancing and wearing a mask, it's just not going to happen with most of the kids. She sees it day after day on her Instagram when groups get together. I think the hardest one to say no to was her best friend that she has had since Kindergarten. This friend is leaving the state for college so it will be a while before she is able to see her again. With that said, I hold no judgement for those that are letting their kids get together with others. It makes me cringe and I am deeply worried about our hospital system but I'm not going to judge. This situation is too hard for everyone.
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Post by Zee on Jul 3, 2020 22:46:51 GMT
Yes, definitely.
I eat in a hospital break room with undoubtedly Covid on every floor surface and every door handle no matter how often they clean, which in fact is even less often than before because EVS is busier cleaning rooms more thoroughly.
We are working definitely closer to each other than six feet and we snack at the desk because we get hungry and don't have unlimited breaks. We even share snacks.
None of us has gotten ill. We are completely anal about wiping surfaces and hand hygiene, and masks for any patient contact or when leaving the nurses station.
I think the continued terror over the virus is over the top to be honest.
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Post by beebee on Jul 3, 2020 23:30:22 GMT
Yes, definitely. I eat in a hospital break room with undoubtedly Covid on every floor surface and every door handle no matter how often they clean, which in fact is even less often than before because EVS is busier cleaning rooms more thoroughly. We are working definitely closer to each other than six feet and we snack at the desk because we get hungry and don't have unlimited breaks. We even share snacks. None of us has gotten ill. We are completely anal about wiping surfaces and hand hygiene, and masks for any patient contact or when leaving the nurses station. I think the continued terror over the virus is over the top to be honest. This is what fascinates me with this virus. I keep hearing stories like yours Zee where many people are in close contact and nobody gets it while hearing other stories about it spreading like wildfire.
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 4, 2020 2:19:27 GMT
Yes, definitely. I eat in a hospital break room with undoubtedly Covid on every floor surface and every door handle no matter how often they clean, which in fact is even less often than before because EVS is busier cleaning rooms more thoroughly. We are working definitely closer to each other than six feet and we snack at the desk because we get hungry and don't have unlimited breaks. We even share snacks. None of us has gotten ill. We are completely anal about wiping surfaces and hand hygiene, and masks for any patient contact or when leaving the nurses station. I think the continued terror over the virus is over the top to be honest. This is what fascinates me with this virus. I keep hearing stories like yours Zee where many people are in close contact and nobody gets it while hearing other stories about it spreading like wildfire. i think a lot of it is cleanliness and luck.
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Post by miominmio on Jul 4, 2020 4:28:48 GMT
If it was here? Absolutely (gatherings of 500 are permitted, as long as they are social distancing). No masks required here either, but since it seems you demand that your son wear one, I just have to ask: how on earth are the kids supposed to snack wearing a mask? How on earth are kids supposed to snack wearing a mask? It's pretty simple. Are you meaning to sound snarky, because you do. - snacks are served outside - attendees stay 6+ feet away from each other - attendees temporarily remove mask and eat (while remaining 6+ feet away from each other) - once finished don mask I wasn’t snarky, but thanks for being a bitch
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