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Post by bearmom on Jul 3, 2020 0:42:12 GMT
Important: I’m a nurse who worked on the surgical floor taking care of patients who had orthopedic and general surgeries.
A few years ago, dh hurt his foot. The ER doctor told him non-weight bearing until cleared by an ortho doctor. They thought he had a very serious fracture. I found dh putting his foot down while walking. I mentioned to him that putting his foot down counted as weight bearing. His response: “how do you know?” Then a few hours later he came and told me I was correct, he looked up on Google. Seriously??
We’ve talked about it, he apologized.
Last night dd burned her finger and today the blister broke. She wanted to take a shower so I put a new bandage on and told her to get a glove so she could keep it dry. Dh told her not to bother as the glove will fill with water. I said I could keep it dry. He said he didn’t see how. Again, I’m pretty well versed on keeping body parts dry so patients can shower. I admit, I snapped. He is now downstairs pouting. Oh, dd just got out of the shower and her hand stayed dry......
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Post by lucyg on Jul 3, 2020 0:48:10 GMT
That’s the same kind of complaints my sister has about her husband. She is a lawyer and he’s an engineer, but he always knows the law better than she does. Because, well, he’s an engineer and that tends to be how they think, as far as I can tell. I’m sorry he’s annoying you. Try not to let it seriously get to you. Because he is not going to stop doing it!
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Post by peabay on Jul 3, 2020 0:48:18 GMT
I totally validate you. How DARE he challenge your knowledge and expertise? That's totally obnoxious.
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Post by edie3 on Jul 3, 2020 0:51:55 GMT
I feel your pain. I am a CT/xray tech and DH is a nurse. And he thought he knew DS wrist wasn't broke by looking at the xrays??? Hello, what do I do??? And guess what? It was broke!
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Post by bearmom on Jul 3, 2020 0:56:26 GMT
That’s the same kind of complaints my sister has about her husband. She is a lawyer and he’s an engineer, but he always knows the law better than she does. Because, well, he’s an engineer and that tends to be how they think, as far as I can tell. I’m sorry he’s annoying you. Try not to let it seriously get to you. Because he is not going to stop doing it! OMG, he’s an engineer!! I know he’ll do it again. Sigh! We are celebrating 23 years on Sunday, it is just one of those things.
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Post by dewryce on Jul 3, 2020 0:59:33 GMT
I totally validate you. How DARE he challenge your knowledge and expertise? That's totally obnoxious. Exactly. I wonder how he’d feel if you acted like you knew more than him in his area of expertise.
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Post by freebird on Jul 3, 2020 1:01:06 GMT
My husband is the king of mansplaining. He once tried to teach me how to use an on/off switch on a generator. Today he told me what to say (for the millionth time) while selling a piece of glass. I snapped "yeah, I know what to say, I've been doing it 10 years now). Seriously, if we get in a situation, I could be the manager of an auto glass company, but he thinks I don't know how to sell glass. I so get you.
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 3, 2020 3:04:50 GMT
That’s the same kind of complaints my sister has about her husband. She is a lawyer and he’s an engineer, but he always knows the law better than she does. Because, well, he’s an engineer and that tends to be how they think, as far as I can tell. I’m sorry he’s annoying you. Try not to let it seriously get to you. Because he is not going to stop doing it! I have an engineer son. He said engineers just like to argue. They don't even need to be right.
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Post by pierkiss on Jul 3, 2020 3:26:41 GMT
I would be super pissed by that behavior. Totally validated!
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Post by Mystie on Jul 3, 2020 3:50:34 GMT
That’s the same kind of complaints my sister has about her husband. She is a lawyer and he’s an engineer, but he always knows the law better than she does. Because, well, he’s an engineer and that tends to be how they think, as far as I can tell. I’m sorry he’s annoying you. Try not to let it seriously get to you. Because he is not going to stop doing it! I bought my husband a t-shirt years ago that says "I'm an engineer. To save time, let's just assume that I'm never wrong." For some reason, he never wears it. I think it's funnier to me than it is to him! bearmom I didn't read down far enough. Your husband's an engineer, too? Yeah, he will always know better...whether he does or not.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Jul 3, 2020 4:04:41 GMT
I bought my husband a t-shirt years ago that says "I'm an engineer. To save time, let's just assume that I'm never wrong." For some reason, he never wears it. I think it's funnier to me than it is to him! I love this! However DH would never see the humor in it. Yup, engineer! he’s an engineer, but he always knows the law better than she does. Because, well, he’s an engineer and that tends to be how they think, as far as I can tell. You are exactly right! Father was an engineer, been married to an engineer for almost 43 years. They just can't help themselves...and they will never changed. They are just wired differently. OMG, he’s an engineer!! I know he’ll do it again. Sigh! Of course he will! I'm pretty sure mine thinks all doctors are idiots and he knows more than them. I told DD I apparently missed the years when he went to medical school and became a doctor. You just have to learn to pick your battles.
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Post by Dallie on Jul 3, 2020 11:13:39 GMT
Note: tell dd not to date engineers.
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Post by Zee on Jul 3, 2020 12:10:55 GMT
That’s the same kind of complaints my sister has about her husband. She is a lawyer and he’s an engineer, but he always knows the law better than she does. Because, well, he’s an engineer and that tends to be how they think, as far as I can tell. I’m sorry he’s annoying you. Try not to let it seriously get to you. Because he is not going to stop doing it! I have an engineer son. He said engineers just like to argue. They don't even need to be right. Totally true, DH is an engineer. He calls it "discussing".
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jul 3, 2020 12:23:12 GMT
I’m married to an engineer as well. I validate everything that’s been said about them.
Mine not only thinks everything he says is right... he’s apparently even more right if he talks louder. Lol.
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Post by iowgirl on Jul 3, 2020 12:32:59 GMT
I have an engineer son. He said engineers just like to argue. They don't even need to be right. But they are always right, right? lol My daughter is an Engineer in a heavily male dominated field. Just think of the backbone she needs. Not only is she right, she has to prove that she is right to men who think they are always right. LOL. She's tough! She also has her Dad's way of calmly, but firmly letting them know that she is right.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jul 3, 2020 12:40:39 GMT
My DH isn’t an engineer, but he does it too anyway. I have many unique skill sets gathered over a lifetime of being crafty. It drives me insane when he tries to do something I would be better at, and then gets all annoyed when I gently tell him there’s a better way than how he’s doing it. Sometimes he will even challenge me saying, “How would you know?” And I’m like, “Because I’ve been doing that very thing for over 30 years.” It’s as if because he has personally never done a thing before, no one ever has.
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Post by malibou on Jul 3, 2020 13:58:05 GMT
Damn, I didn't realize this personality trait ran rampant amongst engineers. Mr. Know-it-all Ds is studying for an engineering degree. Glad I won't be stuck with him. 😁
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 3, 2020 14:15:48 GMT
I have an engineer son. He said engineers just like to argue. They don't even need to be right. But they are always right, right? lol My daughter is an Engineer in a heavily male dominated field. Just think of the backbone she needs. Not only is she right, she has to prove that she is right to men who think they are always right. LOL. She's tough! She also has her Dad's way of calmly, but firmly letting them know that she is right. My kid fits the just likes to argue mold. He thinks he's always right, but we are a family of prove its, so he does find he is wrong. The latest argument was over what the big, white puffy guy in Ghostbusters was. Son said Stay Puft Marshmallow, hubby said Michelin tire guy. I said he was shaving cream. Oh, they laughed at me. I had recently looked it up and knew I was right. He did look like the tire guy though.
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 3, 2020 14:40:59 GMT
I have an engineer son. He said engineers just like to argue. They don't even need to be right. Totally true, DH is an engineer. He calls it "discussing". We call it this too. And to be fair, my son got it from me. My husband is much more of a listen to what someone else says and don't disagree (at least on the outside). I cannot do that.
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Post by candleangie on Jul 3, 2020 14:52:30 GMT
But they are always right, right? lol My daughter is an Engineer in a heavily male dominated field. Just think of the backbone she needs. Not only is she right, she has to prove that she is right to men who think they are always right. LOL. She's tough! She also has her Dad's way of calmly, but firmly letting them know that she is right. My kid fits the just likes to argue mold. He thinks he's always right, but we are a family of prove its, so he does find he is wrong. The latest argument was over what the big, white puffy guy in Ghostbusters was. Son said Stay Puft Marshmallow, hubby said Michelin tire guy. I said he was shaving cream. Oh, they laughed at me. I had recently looked it up and knew I was right. He did look like the tire guy though. Um....what? He was the Stay Puft marshmallow man.
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Post by AnotherPea on Jul 3, 2020 16:15:42 GMT
I feel for you. My Dh will do similar things sometimes and it drives me batty. What pisses me off is when I suggest XYZ, because I have knowledge about that particular matter, he scoffs or brushes off the suggestion THEN a coworker suggests the same thing and they’re all of a sudden a genius!
I don’t get it because most of the time he’ll seek out my opinion about things that are “in my wheelhouse “ but once in a while he’ll go rogue.
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Post by femalebusiness on Jul 3, 2020 16:26:44 GMT
That’s the same kind of complaints my sister has about her husband. She is a lawyer and he’s an engineer, but he always knows the law better than she does. Because, well, he’s an engineer and that tends to be how they think, as far as I can tell. I’m sorry he’s annoying you. Try not to let it seriously get to you. Because he is not going to stop doing it! OMG, he’s an engineer!! I know he’ll do it again. Sigh! We are celebrating 23 years on Sunday, it is just one of those things. Yeah, mine is an engineer too. I can relate. We've been together 53 years. The only difference between now and years ago is he cracks me up and these days I just laugh at him instead of getting pissed. I even get out of doing things by telling him that he is so much better at that stuff that he should just do it.😂
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Post by Susie_Homemaker on Jul 3, 2020 16:27:17 GMT
950nancy Um....what? He was the Stay Puft marshmallow man. Yeah, that ^^^^^^
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Post by peaname on Jul 3, 2020 16:31:29 GMT
Then a few hours later he came and told me I was correct, he looked up on Google. Seriously?? We’ve talked about it, he apologized. . So he admitted he was wrong and you were right and then apologized? I think you need to let it go.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Jul 3, 2020 17:29:51 GMT
Note: tell dd not to date engineers. Mine actually is a great husband, just has all those annoying traits inherent to engineers. You have to learn to deal with them properly! Son said Stay Puft Marshmallow, hubby said Michelin tire guy. I said he was shaving cream. Oh, they laughed at me. I had recently looked it up and knew I was right. The character was the Stay Puft Marshmallow man. The actual stuff they used in the film to simulate the marshmallow goo at the end of the movie was shaving cream.
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Post by colleen on Jul 3, 2020 18:10:21 GMT
I was a tech editor at an engineering firm for 10 years. I’m pretty sure most of the engineers didn’t even look at my edits, but one guy questioned everything. One day I was just so fed up I yelled, “I don’t tell you how to build a bridge, don’t tell me how to conjugate a verb!” Luckily my boss had a sense of humor because that engineer was pissed.
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Post by hopechest on Jul 3, 2020 18:56:59 GMT
I feel ya sister. I have one of them too. It makes me ridiculously angry.
I was a personal chef for a number of years. One year we had Thanksgiving at our house and we had a FULL house full of family and friends. After letting me do all the work for days he decided to butt his nose in in front of all our guests to "help out". He was trying to argue that the turkey needed to be left in longer. I snapped. I yelled at him in front of everyone, "listen, people LITERALLY PAY me good money to take shit out of the oven, I think I can handle a effing turkey". Our friends thought it was hilarious. He, not so much. LOL
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Post by Mystie on Jul 3, 2020 19:16:35 GMT
Note: tell dd not to date engineers. Nah, they make good money and can fix anything (at least, mechanical engineers can.) They're worth it!
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Post by LisaDV on Jul 3, 2020 19:32:24 GMT
I have an engineer son. He said engineers just like to argue. They don't even need to be right. I now know the correct line of work for my DH and DD. bearmom, I validate you completely. And happy anniversary weekend.
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Post by joteves on Jul 3, 2020 20:13:44 GMT
My dh is an engineer too! He thinks he knows more than the experts in all areas, it's so annoying. Can't bare to watch the news with him as he will comment on everything and call all the commentators idiots. I have learnt not to add fuel to his rants, I just nod like I agree with him but inside I'm rolling my eyes.
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