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Post by mom on Jul 5, 2020 15:30:12 GMT
Serious question: do you really think many Peas would tell you (general you) about whats going on in their life after being told to fuck off? After being called pussies? Or are you (general you) only wanting those who aren't pussies to share and ask for support? Who would put their personal business 'out here' for 2 Peas consumption, after being told to fuck off and go away? Seriously, it happens EVERYDAY. Peas post about sick family members, marital issues, job issues and get support. How many peas jumped on Olan when she pulled her shit with Elaine. Hell, even when Leowife posted about her off the board threats the peas condemned it and supported her...EVEN ME! You say “general you” but you are clearly talking about me specifically. Just own it. You were talking about the board. So that is what I was referring to. You said 'this board is no different than the original one..'. That is who the 'you' I was referring too. Now, in gmcwife1 post, yes. You are who I was referring to when I said one or two will come and handclap handslap. I will own that. And sure, some peas come and post. But I know of one pea with a serious medical issues that has quit coming here. So no, not everyone posts when they need support. You (general you) know what people feel safe in sharing. |
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Post by lisacharlotte on Jul 5, 2020 15:31:25 GMT
It feels like there’s a bit of revisionist history about what the board used to be like. I do think people cross the line here occasionally, but that is nothing new here or unique to this site. In the old days of peadom, there were absolutely vicious attacks of those who were outside the primary demographic (SAHM, Christian, conservative). While it’s not always sunshine and puppies here now, I don’t see the same depth of recurring vitriol here as we had then. I was only on the old board a year or so before it closed down. I don't have years of experience of how bad it was or wasn’t. Personally, I don’t care. I’m on this board, and in general it’s been touted as being a much more welcoming place. Just because it’s not the terror of the original, doesn’t mean peas aren’t disappointed at the downturn this board has taken. I’m someone who doesn’t ever want moderation and have never blocked anyone, but I still am not enjoying it as much as I used to. It’s a valid opinion. |
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Post by katybee on Jul 5, 2020 15:35:26 GMT
I have been in here less and less. For a while there were really only three topics that seemed to dominate most threads at some point, Trump, COVID, Protests. Each of those subjects are topical and important, but became inescapable. I come here for the variety provided by people living different lives in different places with different perspectives. I’m not a huge thread starter, and quarantine has made me even more boring. A parsnip, in a world of more interesting vegetables, if you will.  A shout out to librarylady for always posting something interesting and teaching me something new. You are a bright star on this board. I guess I never understood statements like these. If you want a variety of threads, start them. You can’t just sit around and wait for other people to do it. This board is what WE make it... |
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Post by Skellinton on Jul 5, 2020 15:36:10 GMT
I think, like in life you reap what you sow. And I also think if you are looking for something bad, good, or indifferent you will find it. If threads get judgy or hateful I move along. I’ve learned a lot from the peas, have had my mind opened and my perspective challenged. I’m not going to give that up over a few bad apples. I’ve seen amazing generosity here too. Exactly this. Of course there are some bad apples, but even the bad apples currently have nothing on the bad apples that used to be such prolific posters. I just roll my eyes and move on when I see something ridiculous. If a thread gets out of control I just choose not to read it. I also think there are some peas who dish it out but can’t take it themselves. That does bug me, but again I just roll my eyes when they play victim and move right along. The positives FAR outweigh the negatives. |
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Post by busy on Jul 5, 2020 15:37:31 GMT
It feels like there’s a bit of revisionist history about what the board used to be like. I do think people cross the line here occasionally, but that is nothing new here or unique to this site. In the old days of peadom, there were absolutely vicious attacks of those who were outside the primary demographic (SAHM, Christian, conservative). While it’s not always sunshine and puppies here now, I don’t see the same depth of recurring vitriol here as we had then. I was only on the old board a year or so before it closed down. I don't have years of experience of how bad it was or wasn’t. Personally, I don’t care. I’m on this board, and in general it’s been touted as being a much more welcoming place. Just because it’s not the terror of the original, doesn’t mean peas aren’t disappointed at the downturn this board has taken. I’m someone who doesn’t ever want moderation and have never blocked anyone, but I still am not enjoying it as much as I used to. It’s a valid opinion. I’m not at all saying it’s not a valid opinion... I’m just specifically responding to those who have been around for a loooooong time and who seem to want to go back to something that never existed. I’m not enjoying the board as much as I used to either, but I think that’s more about me than the board. It was always an escape and a place to discuss and learn. It’s still the latter IMO but there’s not really any escape anymore because we are largely all going through the same thing. We’re collectively in a difficult mental/emotional place because the whole world is. So instead of the board providing some respite from the real world, it magnifies it. And that’s not what I especially need right now. |
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Post by katybee on Jul 5, 2020 15:39:24 GMT
Maybe it’s because I don’t make it here that often, anymore. Maybe it’s because I’m not easily offended. But I think the tone here is pretty mild...
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Post by mom on Jul 5, 2020 15:40:09 GMT
It feels like there’s a bit of revisionist history about what the board used to be like. I do think people cross the line here occasionally, but that is nothing new here or unique to this site. In the old days of peadom, there were absolutely vicious attacks of those who were outside the primary demographic (SAHM, Christian, conservative). While it’s not always sunshine and puppies here now, I don’t see the same depth of recurring vitriol here as we had then. I was only on the old board a year or so before it closed down. I don't have years of experience of how bad it was or wasn’t. Personally, I don’t care. I’m on this board, and in general it’s been touted as being a much more welcoming place. Just because it’s not the terror of the original, doesn’t mean peas aren’t disappointed at the downturn this board has taken. I’m someone who doesn’t ever want moderation and have never blocked anyone, but I still am not enjoying it as much as I used to. It’s a valid opinion. I agree with this. Both things can be true. |
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Post by lisacharlotte on Jul 5, 2020 15:40:51 GMT
I have been in here less and less. For a while there were really only three topics that seemed to dominate most threads at some point, Trump, COVID, Protests. Each of those subjects are topical and important, but became inescapable. I come here for the variety provided by people living different lives in different places with different perspectives. I’m not a huge thread starter, and quarantine has made me even more boring. A parsnip, in a world of more interesting vegetables, if you will. A shout out to librarylady for always posting something interesting and teaching me something new. You are a bright star on this board. I guess I never understood statements like these. If you want a variety of threads, start them. You can’t just sit around and wait for other people to do it. This board is what WE make it... Some people are thread starters and some people are thread readers. If I have something interesting to share, I start a thread. ETA: I check my stats just get an idea of my post history. Since 2014 I have created 81 threads and have 7537 posts. So definitely not a thread starter. This board is made up of both, I'm going to guess a lot more of me than actual thread starters. As a challenge, I will make an effort to start more threads. Thanks katybee 🥰 |
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Post by Merge on Jul 5, 2020 15:42:06 GMT
I think we all have good days and bad days, just like in real life.
I think it would be nice if more people apologized for their bad days. That would be more like real life.
Unlike real life, however, if someone else’s tone, opinions, etc. are bothering you, you can walk away. That’s where the bullying/abuse argument falls short for me. Unless someone is actively following you from thread to thread (which has happened) nitpicking you on unrelated things, it’s hard to say bullying IMO.
Unlike a real life situation, no one has to stay in or participate in any thread. I’ve done a lot of reminding myself lately that I’m not required to respond to someone who is pushing my buttons or to return to that thread at all if I don’t feel like it. Even if someone is egging you on with “I know you have to have the last word” or “I’m waiting for your answer” - you don’t have to respond. At all. No one is trapped in a thread forced to defend themselves if they don’t want to.
On the flip side, no one has the right to say whatever they want and expect only positive/neutral responses. That’s not how discussion works. People will disagree with you. You have the choice to “bring the receipts” and further defend yourself, or just walk away, but we all need to remember that vehement disagreement is not bullying or abuse. It’s disagreement. In a post-truth society where every opinion is supposedly as valid as the next one, we’ve lost sight of the idea that some opinions are not based on fact.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jul 5, 2020 15:42:36 GMT
busy said: I’m not enjoying the board as much as I used to either, but I think that’s more about me than the board. It was always an escape and a place to discuss and learn. It’s still the latter IMO but there’s not really any escape anymore because we are largely all going through the same thing. We’re collectively in a difficult mental/emotional place because the whole world is. So instead of the board providing some respite from the real world, it magnifies it. And that’s not what I especially need right now. Amen. I think you nailed it.
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Post by katybee on Jul 5, 2020 15:44:37 GMT
I guess I never understood statements like these. If you want a variety of threads, start them. You can’t just sit around and wait for other people to do it. This board is what WE make it... Some people are thread starters and some people are thread readers. If I have something interesting to share, I start a thread. That’s cool. But you can’t be disappointed by the lack of thread diversity, then. I’m not trying to be snarky, but Little Ren Hen and all... |
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Post by worrywart on Jul 5, 2020 15:45:02 GMT
I don't have thick skin or big girl panties so yes, there are times when I want to post but don't...not that I am posting anything offensive but I've seen others opinions and words get twisted around.
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Post by pinklady on Jul 5, 2020 15:47:39 GMT
It feels like there’s a bit of revisionist history about what the board used to be like. I do think people cross the line here occasionally, but that is nothing new here or unique to this site. In the old days of peadom, there were absolutely vicious attacks of those who were outside the primary demographic (SAHM, Christian, conservative). While it’s not always sunshine and puppies here now, I don’t see the same depth of recurring vitriol here as we had then. Just because it’s not the terror of the original, doesn’t mean peas aren’t disappointed at the downturn this board has taken. I guess I see the vibe of board in terms of what’s going on in the country/world. The United States has been in a downward spiral for the last 4 years. The world has been in the shitter for all of 2020. This board is just reflecting that, which honestly is expected. This board (old or new) has never been a fantasy world of escape. It’s always been topical. |
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Post by ashley on Jul 5, 2020 15:49:16 GMT
I have never purchased or eaten a parsnip. I'm sure they are at my grocery stores but I can't say that I've ever noticed them there. A parsnip is a very interesting vegetable to me! I'd be happy to try one if some one served it! 😜 i wish there were more posts about food haha. I know I’ve bought and cooked with parsnips a few times but not very often - they do seem like less interesting carrots (sorry parsnips...) someone tell me I’m wrong! Parnips have a sort of peppery taste! They are pretty good. Not something I keep in the fridge regularly but we enjoy them on occasion. |
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Post by gmcwife1 on Jul 5, 2020 15:51:12 GMT
It feels like there’s a bit of revisionist history about what the board used to be like. I do think people cross the line here occasionally, but that is nothing new here or unique to this site. In the old days of peadom, there were absolutely vicious attacks of those who were outside the primary demographic (SAHM, Christian, conservative). While it’s not always sunshine and puppies here now, I don’t see the same depth of recurring vitriol here as we had then. I was only on the old board a year or so before it closed down. I don't have years of experience of how bad it was or wasn’t. Personally, I don’t care. I’m on this board, and in general it’s been touted as being a much more welcoming place. Just because it’s not the terror of the original, doesn’t mean peas aren’t disappointed at the downturn this board has taken. I’m someone who doesn’t ever want moderation and have never blocked anyone, but I still am not enjoying it as much as I used to. It’s a valid opinion. I was on the old board but didn’t post much. I was scrapbooking more back then so I was on the scrapbooking side more often. I definitely remember the cliques and pile ons. The board had so many more peas that it was very easy to skip those threads. I never had anyone blocked on the old site. We started out here as a much kinder, more welcoming board. Maybe that was our honeymoon phase Things have definitely changed and I have 18 peas blocked. It is not uncommon for me to open the page and have anywhere from 4-6 threads on the front page by blocked posters. Most of the blocked threads are from the same outraged pea. Day after day of doom and gloom, hate and anger. Funny, I don’t want moderation either Both of my neighborhood Facebook groups have heavy moderation and have become very one sided. |
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Post by cindyupnorth on Jul 5, 2020 15:52:12 GMT
On the flip side, no one has the right to say whatever they want and expect only positive/neutral responses. That’s not how discussion works. People will disagree with you. You have the choice to “bring the receipts” and further defend yourself, or just walk away, but we all need to remember that vehement disagreement is not bullying or abuse. It’s disagreement. In a post-truth society where every opinion is supposedly as valid as the next one, we’ve lost sight of the idea that some opinions are not based on fact. I have to 2nd this. It would not be a very fun board if we all just agreed, or didn't respond to posts/threads. Of course we all aren't going to agree on everything. That's life. We can have discussions without Ps calling people names, or outright mean. We can still disagree, we can still give advice and discuss. If we disagree I don't think we are expected to just agree, or not post anything at all. I think that is what a lot of Ps do now. They either strongly disagree and engage, or they don't post at all. |
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Post by librarylady on Jul 5, 2020 15:54:26 GMT
I feel like a newcomer here. I was on the old board for only a few months when it shut down. Then, it took a few months before I learned of this place.
It seems to me that in all the emotions since DT became POTUS that many of the more politically conservative peas have left.
I DON'T want this to be a place that is consumed with politics, but I am grateful that we do discuss something that has become
such a large and divisive part of American life. However, I don't like it that the conservative peas have felt that they must leave or sit quietly. I know someone who never comes here anymore because her views are not held in respect.
I hope there is some way to have a happy medium. I think labeling political threads helps as one can avoid those as needed.
I have also noticed that on some "innocent threads" some people will turn to attack other peas. Not a quality I admire.
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Post by jcm28 on Jul 5, 2020 15:54:42 GMT
I know the solution. I have suggested it to the mod but went ignored. There should be a separate board for POLITICAL. Often even the titles rile me up.
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Post by The Great Carpezio on Jul 5, 2020 15:55:13 GMT
I haven’t read all responses yet, but I’ve been around 2peas since 1999 and an official posting member since 2002.
It most definitely is NOT worse than its heyday in the mid 00’s. Nope, not going to even entertain that. If you think it’s worse now, you either have forgotten/not an active pea or your perspective was skewed by being part of the majority.
There has always been an ebb and flow, and it always gets ramped up during a presidential election.
I agree that we are all dealing with a lot of change and emotions right now...it might be a cliche, but we are in unprecedented times, so of course, there is contention, but compared to many FB feeds and the comments sections of any news source, this is a sweet little tea party here imo. However, I don’t spend as much time here as I used to, so I may be missing some things.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 5, 2020 15:55:52 GMT
I think it’s sad that peas are leaving, but I get it. When it is no longer fun, then it’s time to move on. I try to avoid controversial threads, but it seems like more and more threads end up that way with the name calling, spell/grammar checks, hand slaps, gang ups, etc. It’s draining and I find myself wanting to participate less. Honestly? I’d prefer a separate forum that is just fluff... no politics/news ... one with a mod who will step in when a member is attacked, but who will also speak out if that same member is doing the attacking. However, I know that’s one of the draws of 2peas...no topic is off limits... and that if I want a fluff board, I’ll need to go elsewhere. Guess you’ll know what happened to me if you no longer see me posting.
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Post by malibou on Jul 5, 2020 15:57:02 GMT
busy said: I’m not enjoying the board as much as I used to either, but I think that’s more about me than the board. It was always an escape and a place to discuss and learn. It’s still the latter IMO but there’s not really any escape anymore because we are largely all going through the same thing. We’re collectively in a difficult mental/emotional place because the whole world is. So instead of the board providing some respite from the real world, it magnifies it. And that’s not what I especially need right now. Amen. I think you nailed it. Bingo. |
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Post by DEX on Jul 5, 2020 15:57:41 GMT
I witnessed Annabella be bullied off the board. I saw (you know who you are, and so do I) the post to Annabella that she was a "waste of human life". It is this type of behavior I decided I would call out when it happens. I was bullied when I was a kid so I recognize it and respond accordingly.
That being said, in my opinion, nothing was as bad as having Lauren in our midst. People were actually afraid of her. Some of you even posted how you liked her "tell it like it is" approach. The mood on this board now is much softer and kinder. I think the majority have mellowed or grown up. A lot has happened in nearly 20 years of 2Peas.
I think we are also battle weary at this time and some of us may need a break. It is like when you are overwhelmed and you take it out on you spouse/SO/friends. I am hopeful that when the world returns to somewhat normal, we will also.
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Post by The Great Carpezio on Jul 5, 2020 15:59:28 GMT
It feels like there’s a bit of revisionist history about what the board used to be like. I do think people cross the line here occasionally, but that is nothing new here or unique to this site. In the old days of peadom, there were absolutely vicious attacks of those who were outside the primary demographic (SAHM, Christian, conservative). While it’s not always sunshine and puppies here now, I don’t see the same depth of recurring vitriol here as we had then. I was only on the old board a year or so before it closed down. I don't have years of experience of how bad it was or wasn’t. Personally, I don’t care. I’m on this board, and in general it’s been touted as being a much more welcoming place. Just because it’s not the terror of the original, doesn’t mean peas aren’t disappointed at the downturn this board has taken. I’m someone who doesn’t ever want moderation and have never blocked anyone, but I still am not enjoying it as much as I used to. It’s a valid opinion. You can be disappointed, but I don’t think you are going to find a lot of safe spaces on the internet right now. Seriously, this is much calmer than most places that discuss anything political or current events. You aren’t wrong for your feelings, but if you expect this place to do much better in this climate, you will be disappointed. |
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Post by JustTricia on Jul 5, 2020 16:01:00 GMT
I’ve been a member of both boards since early 2000s, so through three different US Presidents. I am not political at all. I do vote and have my political viewpoints, but I keep them to myself. I rarely open a political thread and I don’t think I’ve ever posted to one.
One thing I have noticed on this board in the last four or five years and also in real life is that politics falls over into non-political conversations constantly. Before four years ago I don’t recall seeing it as often as I do now, but now it seems pretty frequent.
“Where should I go in Florida?” Before it would be Miami or Orlando or some no name city you’re never heard of. Now it’s “I wouldn’t step foot anywhere near the racist people in The Villages” or “I’d go to Mar A Lago just to spit on the sidewalk outside Trump’s property”.
“What restaurant would you go to in XYZ?” “Not ABC because they support ‘insert political party here’”.
I may be wrong, but I don’t remember those kinds of conversations before this presidency, here or in person. It seems like everyone is so angry ~ angry because of who was elected, angry because of a perceived slight, angry because someone has a different viewpoint ~ that even on “I have oatmeal for breakfast!” threads people are pulling up past comments on other threads that have nothing to do with the subject at hand just to smack somebody down.
Edited to add ~ I don’t think it happens all the time, but just an increased frequency to what I remember in the past.
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Post by SockMonkey on Jul 5, 2020 16:03:12 GMT
I haven’t read all responses yet, but I’ve been around 2peas since 1999 and an official posting member since 2002. It most definitely is NOT worse than its heyday in the mid 00’s. Nope, not going to even entertain that. If you think it’s worse now, you either have forgotten/not an active pea or your perspective was skewed by being part of the majority. There has always been an ebb and flow, and it always gets ramped up during a presidential election. I agree that we are all dealing with a lot of change and emotions right now...it might be a cliche, but we are in unprecedented times, so of course, there is contention, but compared to many FB feeds and the comments sections of any news source, this is a sweet little tea party here imo. However, I don’t spend as much time here as I used to, so I may be missing some things. I'm with you. It was WILD in the early 2000s. I mean WILD. I mean, it gets contentious here for sure, but I agree with you that FB feeds/comments will give real perspective of what's possible. I have a friend who was invited to a "Back to School" group and was subsequently doxxed, kicked out, and then PM'd with "you're an idiot" comments. This place is like Disney World compared to some other joints out there. I guess it's important to remember we're all in the suck that's 2020. |
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Jul 5, 2020 16:09:51 GMT
You think parsnips are delicious? Well you're just wrong.
You need to educate yourself about parsnips.
If you think parsnips are delicious then you just don't get it.
I used to like parsnips and then I got a clue.
I saw on another thread that you like parsnips so even though in this thread we are talking about liking kittens, fuck you parsnip lover.
You always make these parsnip threads all about you.
For you to say you love parsnips tells me that you know absolutely nothing about parsnips.
You don't know all about the history of parsnips? I feel sorry for you.
6 months ago you posted about not liking parsnips. Now you say you like them. Which is it? You can't have it both ways.
Everybody I know who likes parsnips is a pedophile. Just saying.
God, are we talking about parsnips AGAIN? If you want to know about parsnips, do a search on the board. Or with google. it's not hard. Don't expect us to have to educate you about parsnips, that's not our job.
I've never heard anyone use the word "eat parsnips". Is that even a thing?
You called "eat parsnips" a word. It's actually a phrase.
You're both wrong. "eat parsnips" is a sentence fragment.
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Post by mollycoddle on Jul 5, 2020 16:12:54 GMT
I haven’t read all responses yet, but I’ve been around 2peas since 1999 and an official posting member since 2002. It most definitely is NOT worse than its heyday in the mid 00’s. Nope, not going to even entertain that. If you think it’s worse now, you either have forgotten/not an active pea or your perspective was skewed by being part of the majority. There has always been an ebb and flow, and it always gets ramped up during a presidential election. I agree that we are all dealing with a lot of change and emotions right now...it might be a cliche, but we are in unprecedented times, so of course, there is contention, but compared to many FB feeds and the comments sections of any news source, this is a sweet little tea party here imo. However, I don’t spend as much time here as I used to, so I may be missing some things. Can confirm. It was so bad that during one presidential election, they created a political board so that the fights wouldn’t spill over onto the main board. I suspect that those of us who were there at that time had to develop thick skins, because it was a volatile place. |
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Post by mom26 on Jul 5, 2020 16:13:11 GMT
For me I see a large group of peas that have been mad as hell since Trump won. They make sure everyone knows they are mad and if you do not loudly and frequently speak out against Trump, then you obviously support him. Sadly many of them have carried their anger into other interactions. Their hatred of Trump has changed everything for them. Many of their posts have to include the phrase, I live in Trump land . . . They could be talking about their neighbors painting their house an ugly color, but because they live in Trump land what do you expect. And of course their neighbors are racist because, well they live in Trump land. We get it, people are angry and hate everything because Trump won. Some people can’t talk about anything without bringing up politics or that it’s the republicans fault. For me they are the pitchfork peas. If they disagree with you, they are coming after you. They will tell themselves they are just trying to educate you or help you or they are just telling it like it is. The virus does seem to have brought the pitchforks out more often. Someone can say they hate wearing a mask and here comes the mass of peas to tell them how stupid and selfish they are. Now they never said they DIDN’T wear a mask, they just said they hated wearing one. Three pages later they are now labeled a non mask wearer. And it’s their fault for not being clearer, not the peas that jumped on them and assumed they weren’t wearing a mask. There seems to be less grace and forgiveness than there used to be. Some peas are very quick to jump on anyone they feel doesn’t agree with them or isn’t doing things the way they feel they should be done. It’s sad that so many feel this isn’t the same group of friends they have come to know and love. It’s even sadder that some can’t or won’t see their part in it. I couldn't have said it better than gmcwife1 said it. Especially the bolded parts. I've been a 'Pea' for 21 years. For 20 of those years, my morning ritual was coffee and the board. I could spend hours reading/discussing all matter of topics. Repeat in the evening. Now, the past year or so, I hardly ever check the board and when I do, I stay maybe 10 minutes. Too may Peas whom I used to have so much respect for have turned into - to use gmcwife1 's phrase - 'pitchfork peas'. If one even begins to attempt to present a differing viewpoint, they are told to 'shut the fuck up' and labeled with all the 'ists and 'isms. It's very, very sad and I don't see the board ever again being what it once was - a place where people of differing views could learn from each other. It's one way or no way, now. |
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Post by lisacharlotte on Jul 5, 2020 16:14:11 GMT
Parsnips, the most misunderstood vegetable ever. Is it a carrot? Is it a turnip? Will it ever get the respect it deserves as a unique root vegetable (at least to this American who did not grow up knowing what the hell a parsnip was)?
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Post by lizacreates on Jul 5, 2020 16:15:15 GMT
Why don’t people just challenge what they think is unfair? If you feel someone attacked you unjustifiably, then challenge that person! Of course I know some people just don’t want to deal with the hassle because it can get emotionally draining and we all have different personalities and level of tolerance, but to complain about it after the fact does no good either. At any given time, there are approximately 200 people logged onto NSBR; there’s no controlling the behavior of 200 people and it doesn’t matter whether it’s this board or any other public message board unless there are moderators. Since there’s no moderator here, then stand up for yourself because no one else will do it for you. I’m with busy. I also think there’s a bit of revisionism going on here. I wasn’t very active when this board began but I did read a lot of threads then. Seriously, there were lunatics then and I’m not talking about run-of-the-mill polemics. I really mean lunatics. So, if anything, this board has actually improved in my opinion. This may come as a surprise to some, but this board is actually tame compared to others. I don’t fault people who want a kinder, gentler board. I just think it’s an unrealistic expectation because this is not a private board. Politics and social issues have always been and will always be controversial and adversarial. That’s just the reality. If you want to change the direction and have less of them, then post topics that are not controversial. |
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