Ok, so I think we should have this out

  You nailed it!  

haven't read the thread, only commenting on the op

I think it depends on how thick of a skin you have and how raw your emotions are on a given topic.

I do feel if you stray from the current liberal ideology and ideals in anyway, there are posters who are ready to pounce and then there are people who will jump in

Sometimes I think the peas are just paying lips service and trying to be woke.

People think THEY are right and that THEY have the answers and sometimes forget that others have opinions too.

And I think this board has people who feel others should just flip a switch and be on the same page. Sometimes it takes a while the absorb and change and when you have people constantly berating you, often people dig in their heels and refuse to change.

I think the right fighters and the ones who think it should be 100% this way do their causes more harm than good and think that shows here

The terminology, insults, characters, and topics change, but there always have been “pitchfork” peas. Always. Full stop.

We laugh about all the “gates”, crockpots, etc....from back in the day, but a lot do those are born from really really crazy fighting. We had a couple peas that turned everything to Pro-life-abortion. Literally, one did it on EVERY thread she posted on back in the early- 2000’s. Fun times.

And like it or not, those of us that have been here a long time, have seen this topic come up over and over. I agree with lizcreates that there is revisionist history of halcyon days of yore.

I agree with this completely. I feel the same way about you as well, myboysnme.

OMG someone posted that to her???

I don't think it's revisionist history. My understanding is we are talking about the Pea Refugees, not the original Two Peas board. We all know the old board was the Wild, Wild West. Most have been very vocal about the fact that they never participated on the old NSBR, but do participate here (on the "kinder, gentler" NSBR). The point being, it feels less "kind/gentle" than when we started the new board.

My personal opinion is that if you don't agree with the majority on whatever the topic, subject, matter, issue, etc... is, you are considered wrong.
Those who are deemed wrong are targeted and jumped on by the majority.

Some honestly have opposing viewpoints and they stand steadfast in their opinion and beliefs (nothing wrong with that).
There are some posters who like to bait and provoke others into an argument, just for the sake of "because they can". Disagreeing or opposing not because their opinion is different, but because they thrive on being argumentative. That causes a lot of dissension and turmoil.
It's when someone tries to force you to believe their way is correct, that the battle begins.
I won't name names, but there are some members that are always looking for or ready to fight. 

I personally, scroll on by the more controversial topics.
Arguing is not my style, nor is engaging in a discussion that is always going to have multiple opposing sides. Especially when many of the "sides" have no interest in hearing any opposing viewpoints. A general "they" are wrong and a general "I" am right....seems to occur frequently.

I believe what I believe, think how I think, have my opinions on any given topic, subject, issue, etc... and that is okay. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion.  Just because ones opinion about something is different about something, doesn't mean it's wrong.

On the original pea board I was one of the first 100 to join(although I lost my original number when the board crashed or something and I had to re-sign up).
I enjoy the camaraderie here. and look forward to participating for years to come.

This. On the old board, you were constantly challenged and you had to be able to back up statements with proof. It was good practice for 2020, I guess. But this board is also very kind and very informative at times.

No idea what thread that is.... But I will say this  if DEX is saying someone said that to her, she needs to prove it and show who it was...

Perspective:


No one “jumped on” Elaine or any of the other peas who have attacked me personally. zookeeper started an entire thread. The mentally ill angry Black women taunts haven’t been erased from the threads I’ve started so I know a clear ACCURATE account of what happened is available to those who do their own research.

Also what pinklady means by “shit” is me having posted Elaine’s last name next to a racist comment she made to me in a thread. Peas have since perpetuated the lie that I included geographical information which I did not. Labeled it doxing (very clearly not) and acted like Elaine was a victim instead of the antagonist she actually is. I’m cool with it. Like I said before it’s apparent the type of prison Elaine exists in. No need for me to pay her a visit. That’s why I don’t engage with any of the peas who now want to discuss without the “malice”. It’s not worth it to me and I’m embarrassed there was ever a time in my life where it was. We all get to decide where to direct our energy. Don’t be mad at a screen name. Take a moment and ask yourself what it really says about someone who needs to feel powerful and popular among a group of aging women bonded over paper crafts.

That said the board is predictable. It’s always been like this in varying degrees. If your support of me was genuine and consistent I appreciate it and hope you are well ❤️

And that was all that some of us asked, but it was denied. So politics spill over into every thread at some point. You can't avoid the nasty, angry thread titles even if you don't open the thread itself. The anger permeates everything and it ruins the whole feel to the peaceful getaway that other peas need.

I'm not saying anyone should change their opinions or views. I'm not saying they shouldn't post. But damm why do we all have to be subjected to it nonstop all the time?

Create a separate board like the other special interests (scrapping, etc.) and leave it off of the main board and out of other threads so that everyone can enjoy it. I don't see what is so fucking hard about that.

I feel like my Nextdoor feed can be worse than here. And on Nextdoor, you have to scroll through every post, you can't just click on the titles you want to read.

My interpretation of Dex's post was that it was a post that was deleted but she saw it before it was. Perhaps I'm misunderstanding what she meant.