pyccku
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Post by pyccku on Jul 6, 2020 18:06:14 GMT
I can't think of a single person I know that I would be OK with calling my child a "fucktard." That's not a friend, that's a verbally abusive person.
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Just T
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Post by Just T on Jul 6, 2020 18:07:45 GMT
I can't think of a single person I know that I would be OK with calling my child a "fucktard." That's not a friend, that's a verbally abusive person. she didn't call my son a fucktard, she said that to someone else who replied on my son's thread. And the person she replied to did NOT deserve that comment.
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Post by Merge on Jul 6, 2020 18:18:12 GMT
That's a nope from me. My sister liked to start shit with me on FB and it sometimes extended to my oldest daughter, who shares my politics. No one, not my sister or an old high school or friend or anyone else, has an inalienable right to be on social media with me and/or my kid. Block.
I only communicate with my sister off social media, via phone or text.
A friend from high school? Forget about it. Block without question.
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Post by teacherlisa on Jul 6, 2020 18:20:48 GMT
This happened to me, although the "friend" was male and it actually came to threatening physical violence. My son also behaved inappropriately and threatened him back. it then went to private message, which I am not aware of everything that was said. The "friend" lives in another state thankfully, but was coming to my state a few months later. He messaged my son again, threatening him and asking where they could meet to "settle this like men". My son blocked him and did not meet him, and no actual violence occured. It was very upsetting to me.
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freebird
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Post by freebird on Jul 6, 2020 18:22:11 GMT
Are they friends on fb? Is your son's wall open that anyone can just response? (that's just asking for trouble).
I let my kids fight their own battles, and people show their own asses.
In this situation, I would probably unfriend the "friend". You already said you weren't actually friends. Once someone calls my kid a fucktard, I'd be tapping out.
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Just T
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Post by Just T on Jul 6, 2020 18:25:06 GMT
Are they friends on fb? Is your son's wall open that anyone can just response? (that's just asking for trouble). I let my kids fight their own battles, and people show their own asses. In this situation, I would probably unfriend the "friend". You already said you weren't actually friends. Once someone calls my kid a fucktard, I'd be tapping out. Yes, they are friends on FB. I definitely let him fight his own battles. I didn't respond, and I won't. But I am still disappointed that my friend would respond this way to one of my kids. I can't imagine EVER doing that, to any friend's kids, whether we were no longer close or not.
And again, she didn't call my son a fucktard. She said that to one of his friends.
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pyccku
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Post by pyccku on Jul 6, 2020 18:43:14 GMT
I can't think of a single person I know that I would be OK with calling my child a "fucktard." That's not a friend, that's a verbally abusive person. she didn't call my son a fucktard, she said that to someone else who replied on my son's thread. And the person she replied to did NOT deserve that comment.
So...no matter who she was calling that name, she was showing you who she is. Believe her. |
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scrappinmama
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Post by scrappinmama on Jul 6, 2020 18:47:54 GMT
I can't be friends with someone like that. I would unfriend her and not look back.
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Post by chlerbie on Jul 6, 2020 18:54:50 GMT
My stepdaughter is 32 and can totally handle herself, but if this had happened to her, I personally would no longer want to be friends with anyone who would talk to her that disprespectfully. Disagree all you want, but I wouldn't remain friends with someone who calls themselves my friend and disrespects my "child" in that way.
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Post by gar on Jul 6, 2020 18:56:34 GMT
It was the dismissive way and the nasty things she said. She's shown her true colours. Even before our friendship naturally faded away, she was not a good friend for me. At all. And she still isn't, clearly. We can still feel protective of our adult kids even when they're entitled to, and capable of, looking after themselves so personally I don't think there'd be any way back from that for me. |
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Post by idahopea on Jul 6, 2020 23:52:55 GMT
I'm glad you unfriended her! I would have done the same. It is too upsetting to witness someone spout off like that to anyone, especially your child. I would encourage my son to unfriend her too because she is someone who isn't open to a real discussion about the issues. There is no need to bring that kind of meanness into your life in any form.
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Post by nurseypants on Jul 7, 2020 0:02:38 GMT
Honestly if your son allowed the discussion on his page, as an adult that's his business. I I totally agree. It just bugs me that a friend would do that. I have several friends whose adult children have different beliefs than mine. I would never ever EVER pick a fight with any of my friend's kids on FB or anywhere else. I just wouldn't. That is the difference (one of many, I'm sure) between you and her. She sounds awful, but she is a Trump supporter, so you didn't need to see this behavior to know that.
This is a character issue, and hers is severely lacking. Unfriend, BLOCK, and move on. If your son wants to have FB fights with a Trump supporter, that's his decision, but why see it if you don't have to? And you don't have to.
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Post by mnmloveli on Jul 7, 2020 0:30:18 GMT
Since it upsets you, I’m very glad you unfriended her. I think your son knew what he was getting into when he posted that meme and was probably expecting a few negative comments. He’s an adult and picks his own battles.
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