Post Covid being treated like a leper! Vent....

While I understand that it is unfortunate to be treated as though you are contagious, we really don't know as much as we think we know about this virus which is clear from the often changing information. Do you really blame a high school girl living away from her family for wanting to be somewhere that she feels safer? And as far as talking to you first maybe she thought that you would try to convince her to stay *which seems like you might have* and she didn't want to feel pressured.

Is this a source of income that you are dependent on? I don't know how this program works. When I was in school we did a People to People exchange during the summer and there wasn't any cost to stay with families except for our travel costs.

I'm sorry, I can see why you're feeling upset about this. But, people are frightened and I don't blame them for wanting to be somewhere they feel safe.

If anything I feel SAFER around recovered people!  At least you know that they don't have the virus (anymore)!!  If there are others willing to take the places, I'd go ahead and make that arrangement.  

They don't owe you anything and I'm sure you'd be more understanding if you were supporting them rather than vice versa.

It's not personal. If these were Pea daughters almost the entire board, if not THE entire board, would tell you you're in the wrong on this one.

With information changing so fast and more unknown than known about the virus I wouldn't want my kids staying with you just for my own peace of mind.

I am sorry that it is going to affect you financially. Hopefully you get new students right away.

This. And not just studies...there are people who are getting it a second time.

Given how information about the virus is still in its early stages, I don't blame them for wanting to be rehoused. Besides...it sounds like there are other students who would be interested in living with you, so I don't really see it as a problem.

Unless you've tested negative, you might still have the virus, even if your symptoms have decreased.

This.
I'm shocked the director is willing to place new students with you so soon with so many unknowns.

I'm sorry that this is happening to you.

Unfortunately, lately I have seen headlines that say it is not known for sure if having COVID gives immunity, and if it does, it is unknown how long that immunity lasts. I'm sure your students and their families are reading the same thing.

I have worked with many student from Vietnam over the years. I am not surprised at all that they didn't want to talk to you directly about their concerns. They don't want to be critical to you or appear ungrateful for all that you've done. What we see as "going over your head" may be the only way they can see to handle this situation respectfully.

I'm sorry you're so upset by this; I get that it's a difficult situation and it feels unfair to you. But please try to look at it from the side of the students and their families. They are in a foreign country - one that's notorious for huge medical bill and has an out of control covid situation AND they are in a hotspot of that out of control situation. Further, not that much is known about the virus yet. You have recovered for now but we don't necessarily know what that means in the future. Of course their families want to minimize their risk of exposure; please try not to begrudge them that.

I'll be honest, if it were my child, I would not want them going back to your house at all. That has nothing to do with you personally, and everything to do with the scientific uncertainty about the virus. 

It's painful that they didn't discuss it with you directly, but also understandable, I think. They probably expected some pushback from you and didn't feel comfortable standing strong against you. That doesn't mean they don't care about you or appreciate you opening your home to them, but it's hard to hurt people's feelings, even if you know you are doing the right thing for yourself. 

Please try to think about it from the other side and what would you advise your child to do if they were staying with a family in another country and this same situation arose? They are behaving reasonably, and doing what many/most people would advise their children to do in these circumstances.

I understand you are upset. Please don’t underestimate the cultural differences that may have made it very difficult for them to come to you about this. They may be "like” your daughters, but they’ve got years of their culture influencing them and how they approach a parent figure.

I sincerely hope you are truly recovered and test negative - and that you don’t get sick again or have any lasting effects. Maybe it’s just a recurrence but I’ve read of more than one person testing negative after having Covid, and then having positive tests later. 

Do you have any idea where you were exposed? The fact that you work in a school may be a concern for some, as that might increase your risk as school starts up again.

I get it.  It isn't so much that they are moving out, just that they didn't talk to you and give you a heads up first, so now you feel slightly blindsided.  Add into that the emotional factor you seem to have invested in them and I can get being upset.  Give it time, let yourself grieve the loss of their company and then look forward to a new path.

This was my thought. I can understand your feelings. Your expectations are what is letting you down.

Sorry they’ve made you feel bad by not discussing their concerns with you. They’re young. Maybe they didn’t know how to bring it up without hurting your feelings so they ignored it and went through someone else.

If you have two negative tests in a row I feel you’re cleared. Here they say 2 negative tests or 14 days. Many work places require the negative test to return to work. I’d consider you safe and recovered at that point but what matters is that they got freaked out. It doesn’t matter that their chances of catching covid are the same in the other house. At this point we just have to let everyone go through whatever schtik makes them comfortable and try to understand.