2Peas Refugees Single Ladies Thread ... 08/01... share!

Nothing new here. Still talking with the guy nearby. Just friends and that's ok for now.

My FWB is gone to the Keys for 10 days. His parents live there. He'll come back all bronzed...

Nothing of particular note going on with me. There are so many men but not feeling anything... like today I woke up to messages from seven new men on Tinder.

I’m still talking to Bill every day. He’s super nice... understanding and compassionate and says all the right things. I know text convos can be difficult but I feel like we don’t have much in common. He really does nothing. Goes to work (he’s a police officer), comes home and makes dinner and does nothing else. It’s also a difficult time to do stuff but even if things were open it sounds like all he’d do is go to a yoga studio.

No Pants Man John is talking to me daily right now. He’s away at the family cottage for the long weekend and before he left I said to him “this is the third time we’ve connected. What’s up with that? You’ve found me twice after we met and initiated things again, yet you say we aren’t compatible and don’t want to date me. Can you not find anyone else to have sex with? Am I just super easy?” And he replied “Great chemistry “.
ETA: I just realized that I called him No Pants Man when I normally refer to him as Track Pants Man, so I guess it is obvious what I actually think of him! Lol Godamn, his new isolation body is truly beautiful though

This guy I met online a while ago and then again right as the pandemic was starting has messaged me again. His name is Skip. I think he’s a supervisor of the cleaning department in the local hospital. He’s been extremely flattering — says he’s thought about me since we first started talking online back in March, that I’m the only woman he’s met online that he’s felt any interest in, etc. We spoke on the phone the other night, it was ok. He has three teenage sons, is close to his family. He doesn’t smoke weed at all though and made a comment about how he hates the smell of it so I’m guessing that’s prob going to be an issue.

All three are serious about the virus and seem to socially distance, Bill and Slip especially. Skip hasn’t even been in a grocery store since March as he visits his grandmother and takes groceries to her so he has his own and hers delievered or does curbside pick up. I’m finding attitudes about the virus is quickly becoming a hard no indicator — when I hear someone’s been out in large groups or tells me he’s “not going to live his life in fear over a flu” then I just know it’s not a good choice for me rn.

I had this strange memory pop back into my head the other day which then let loose a floodgate of other related memories. I was dating this older guy when I was in high school and my parents had forbidden me to date anyone. And when my mom found out and found out that he was older, her response was, delivered with a lot of disgust and judgment, something like “and why do you think he is interested in you? There’s only ONE reason boys like that are interested in girls like you” and it was heavily indicated that this reason was sexual and it was shameful. And then I started remembering all the times we’d be watching tv and a woman would flirt with a man — once specifically, she pulled back her skirt to reveal her knee, and my mom pretty much screamed at my sister and I, “if I ever, EVER!!!! find out you’ve behaved like that....” and the threat did not need to be completed.
So, I now have some insight into why I’m quite sexually liberated yet feel such deep shame and feelings of worthlessness when I realize a man just wants to have sex. Thanks, mom!!

Still dating the chef. We are going out again today. He sent me a text this week that said: "Do you want to go out with me? Check yes or no." I laughed. So I said yes. I don't know if that means for a date again or are we going steady. I think it means going steady, but..."

I've been depressed this week. Still mourning my old relationship. For some reason it has been a lot worse this week. I know I need to move on but I'm struggling a bit. I do like the chef but I'm waffling. It is not fair to him, though, so I'm trying to get my head out of my ass and give this relationship a chance.

Dating in the time of covid is still weird. He tried to kiss me once and I dove out of the way. I felt bad, it wasn't him, it was social distancing. So starting something without the physical part of it is weird.

I dated a guy for 2 years. He talked about our future, our house, holidays everything. Then out of the blue we broke up. I was gutted. I worked w my Bodytalk practitioner and used EFT tapping to get over it. There are still moments - especially when i found out some truths but tapping really helped me.

www.thetappingsolution.com/healyourheart/

I understand being cautious. At some point will you be comfortable being intimate? Does he practice distancing and limiting his exposure?

I guess I haven’t updated in a while. I’m still dating the guy I met near the beginning of lockdown, and I’m glad I decided to take the risk. We basically both expanded our little households to include one another. He has turned out to be a delight - handsome, polite, attentive, and a good communicator. I can’t say enough good things about him.

We are still seeing each other about every other day, though it seems to be increasing a little, and we’re going on a weekend trip in a couple of weeks. It’s been really nice, and I’m pretty optimistic.

Yes. Although I was also unsure about the physical attraction, I was ready to give a second date a go (thanks Peas!) but after a few days of no discussion I went back to check in and boom! Unmatched. It's okay, I get it, but boo.

Have the two of you discussed dating people during the co-habitation?

It isn’t even 7 but home...corona is a hoax. Did you know? Yeah, no, dude.

FWB is coming over soon though, he laughed at what a disaster this date was. And he tells me Mistake Aussie is an asshole and don’t. Scott, you are a super catch, and Im Sure you will meet Ms right eventually. It isnt me, but you are really good for me and I absolutely adore that.

Who knew? This FWB stuff is really great.

Off to uh...yeah. That.