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Post by salem on Aug 4, 2020 13:11:09 GMT
This might be the Scrooge coming out in me, but to be completely honest, DSO and I would love an excuse to stay home on Christmas Day, and not have to go to 4 different houses on the day. We always say that one year we're going to refuse to go anywhere and just stay at home. I just said to him "What if there are still restrictions in place at Christmas time and we can't see our families?" He replied in the most sarcastic tone ever "Oh no, I would be devastated," with a big grin on his face. Mind you, apart from my mum, we see the rest of our families regularly, at least once a week. So not seeing them on Christmas Day would not be the end of the world. This is my attitude. Sounds like a stress free holiday season to me. 👍
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Post by Merge on Aug 4, 2020 13:12:06 GMT
DH has optimistically booked us a really nice trip at Christmas. I know it’s not going to happen, and I think deep in his heart he knows it’s not going to happen, but he wanted something to look forward to.
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Post by luckyjune on Aug 4, 2020 13:19:06 GMT
It's just one more thing I want to hold up in front of the faces of those who refuse to wear masks.
I keep coming back to how childish people are being. Children want what they want, now. Instant gratification. They do not look ahead a week or a month or a year, the only thing that matters is getting their way in the present moment. Don't get what they want? Get louder, more insistent. Stomp a foot or two. Yell. Sound familiar?
All those people who pushed for everything to open up, the people who are currently pushing for schools to be face to face, will also be throwing the biggest temper tantrums when the holidays roll around and they are told not to gather with their families. Better yet, the childish behavior will continue and they'll just gather anyway, causing another surge during mid-to-late January.
Had everyone acted like adults way back when this troublesome virus reared its ugly head, our lives might have been a little closer to normal now.
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Post by mikklynn on Aug 4, 2020 13:24:53 GMT
We are already resigned to not seeing our son and grandchildren over the holidays. It will be just us and DD.
I am not sure what to do about my parents. They are careful, but one brother THINKS he's careful and he's not. He visits them frequently, but also does a lot of maintenance on their house. He is also high risk.
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Post by luckyjune on Aug 4, 2020 13:25:05 GMT
DH has optimistically booked us a really nice trip at Christmas. I know it’s not going to happen, and I think deep in his heart he knows it’s not going to happen, but he wanted something to look forward to. Same here. Traditionally, DH and I spend the week before Christmas in Hawaii, at Aulani (we didn't this last Christmas because of the way the calendar fell), and then we are home for Christmas with the fam. We booked our tickets and reservations back when we were positive this thing would be over by fall. Best laid plans. We just talked about what to do this last week. We are going to wait a bit and hope for a miracle, but my guess is we we'll end up cancelling our reservations and plane tickets. I'm the same as your DH. Having a trip to look forward to brightens my day. Bah humbug.
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Post by kels99 on Aug 4, 2020 14:25:53 GMT
Both kids will be off at college and may not be allowed to come home and I don't feel comfortable getting together with our parents as both DH and I are going to offices every day. Most colleges here are going remote from Thanksgiving through the New Year. Something tells me your kids will be home. Neither of my kids' schools are.
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Post by sam9 on Aug 4, 2020 14:55:23 GMT
Clueless. Too many possible scenarios. But staying optimistic.
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Post by tracylynn on Aug 4, 2020 15:06:52 GMT
I'll be spending both with my parents. But I'm WFH till next year sometime and basically quarantined as a result. They are retired and the same. So, we're comfortable seeing each other.
My brother and SIL are another story. They both work "with the public". So, depending on what the situation is like then, they may or may not come.
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Post by katlaw on Aug 4, 2020 15:25:05 GMT
I am sad this year thinking about missing out on family time. My aunt and uncle are in their 80s so even though I would love to see them I just can't risk it.
My DIL and son are both in the Canadian Armed Forces. My son is stationed at the base here so we will see him. My DIL will be taking a 5 month course starting in September and has already been told she will not be coming home for Christmas. The military just cannot risk sending people home and then having to quarantine them all when they get back. They are already so delayed with the training.
Covid ruins everything.
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Post by purplebee on Aug 4, 2020 15:27:33 GMT
My family is in NY, Dh family in Utah, we are in AR. We don’t usually travel during the holidays, but when I had to cancel my annual visit w/my family in June, I thought of the possibility of joining them for Thanksgiving. Now I will be happy if I can go there in June of 2021. 😢. Will likely have our usual Thanksgiving and Christmas with Ds and his GF who thankfully live nearby.
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Post by FrozenPea on Aug 4, 2020 15:28:46 GMT
We are thinking about flying our girls & their husbands here. To come to Alaska you have to test negative.
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Post by auntkelly on Aug 4, 2020 15:34:53 GMT
I'm trying to stay flexible about everything these days.
Right now, I see us having the same type of family gatherings as we normally do. We have a pretty small family on both sides, and most of our family members live nearby. Many of our family members, including my husband and I, have already had covid. (My husband and I take all the normal precautions as if we hadn't had covid, but we do think the antibodies reduce our chances of getting it again, at least for awhile).
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Post by SnoopyFan on Aug 4, 2020 15:46:58 GMT
My family is in Louisiana and Arkansas. I live in Central New York. I typically fly home to Louisiana for Christmas -- it's my one time each year that I get to see my family. I won't be going this year and it makes me so sad. I love having Christmas back home.
When I look on Facebook these days all I see are pictures of my family and friends in the South going on vacations and hanging with friends and going out to dinner. It seems like it's life as normal. My mom says she is mostly staying home and trying to be careful, but with my siblings and nieces and nephews in and out of her house constantly I know she's being exposed to everything that they are.
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Post by Really Red on Aug 4, 2020 16:08:06 GMT
I am sad. My son does not celebrate Christmas and I doubt either of my daughters will be able to be home (one is in Europe). I always do something SUPER fun for Christmas and this year it will be just me.
I love Thanksgiving, but I am okay with being alone, although my son will surely be home, at least.
I could travel to see family, but I don't think I want to take those risks right now. Not with them or me. So it will be a quiet one.
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Post by khaleesi on Aug 4, 2020 16:22:25 GMT
My family is out of state and we already canceled our plans to visit them this year. We host holidays for everyone on my DH's side at our house and I'm dreading the idea of it. Many in his family are not taking it as serious as they should and I'm not comfortable having 20+ people in my house for the holidays. I'm hoping that everyone will decide to just stay home and do their own holiday things but I'm not super optimistic about that. I guess I'll cross that bridge when it gets closer. It's possible the decision will be taken out of my hands if we are back in a lock down situation.
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Post by NanaKate on Aug 4, 2020 17:12:17 GMT
WHY did I open this thread? 😭😭😭
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Post by MaryMary on Aug 4, 2020 17:12:50 GMT
I was really hoping to visit my sisters in TX while my girls are with their dad over Christmas, but realistically that probably isn’t going to happen. It is always so much easier to be apart if I’m visiting someone, and this will be the first year I don’t have them Christmas Day. So, I’m dreading it.
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Post by hop2 on Aug 4, 2020 17:25:27 GMT
I am trying to work it out so that I can work remote for 2 weeks prior to Christmas but then I’m going to have to choose who is more important to see because once you see one set of people that’s it your possibly exposed.
With a little luck my DS will be home 2 weeks before the holiday so that we are all 2 weeks alone then I can try to see my family as a group. 🤷♀️ Too early to do more than keep those 2 weeks remote and hope for the best.
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Post by pierkiss on Aug 4, 2020 17:41:08 GMT
Covid sounds like the perfect excuse to not have to do extended family gatherings for either of those holidays for me.
Won’t work though. My in laws keep showing up. They’ll show up on those days too.
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Post by katybee on Aug 4, 2020 17:56:54 GMT
I think I’ll probably be alone. I cannot risk getting my brother sick. My only hope is that maybe I could get a test and quarantine until the results come back. But tests here are taking 7-10 days or longer. I guess we’ll see in November.
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Aug 4, 2020 17:57:47 GMT
And I know this is completely superficial, but I'm sad that Black Friday probably won't be happening either. My DD, sister, and neice have a long-standing tradition of going out early every year, getting coffee and shopping/browsing.
My son is a manager at Target and he said that they for sure are not going to open on Thanksgiving and probably will not have Black Friday either.
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Post by MichyM on Aug 4, 2020 18:00:53 GMT
WHY did I open this thread? 😭😭😭 My thoughts exactly. Honestly.
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Post by CarolinaGirl71 on Aug 4, 2020 18:04:25 GMT
Christmas will just be me and the husband, he's going to volunteer to work if someone with children wants to swap shifts with him. We figure he might as well seeing he'll be home anyway. Someone with no kids at the time swapped with my DH and let him be off on Christmas Day when our kids were 3 and 7 - I still think fondly of that man, even though I haven't seen him in years. That was 35 years ago! It's a wonderful gift to a parent! Thank you for doing this!
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Post by myshelly on Aug 4, 2020 18:13:35 GMT
We will see my family and DH’s family as we always do, just as we did for Father’s Day and 4th of July.
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Post by sleepingbooty on Aug 4, 2020 18:29:50 GMT
We'll keep ourselves busy and have fun just the two of us at home. There won't be a normal holiday season until vaccination of the public begins, period. I'm already brainstorming ideas now because some goods are still hard to come by and will likely be even more difficult to find once the second wave hits us in Europe. Also, I have nothing else to do than think and plan ahead while I spend most of my days and nights in this small apartment. We'll do a hot cocoa tasting event, all of our favourite Christmas movies, care parcels for all our loved ones we won't be seeing sent far in advance to make sure the slow mail system doesn't spoil their Christmas fun, an airing of grievances for Festivus via video call with friends, summer in December soirée as an excuse to make sangria and buy exotic fruit, a cheese and charcuterie board for Christmas Eve, etc. We got this! We've just to stay alive... I will, however, truly miss partying for New Year's Eve.
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Post by chlerbie on Aug 4, 2020 19:11:11 GMT
DSD is a teacher and we both have different high risks, so we likely won't see her. We generally spend Thanksgiving Day and Christmas Day with a group of friends, but I can't see myself (or them) being comfortable with that, so it will likely just be the two of us.
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Post by papersilly on Aug 4, 2020 19:14:11 GMT
i usually host thanksgiving and my sister hosts xmas. recently my sister said that we should cancel both holiday gatherings because there would be too many people and some people are coming directly from other gatherings before they come to ours. it was a tough pill to swallow. we are in california and the virus is in overdrive here. we might actually have to postpone this year.
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Post by bethany102399 on Aug 4, 2020 19:15:17 GMT
I was just pondering this morning that DH could be unemployed through the end of the year. I have counted how many weeks of unemployment he's eligible for, and while he's had interviews there's just no work. I think he's going to see his industry in a holding pattern until there's a vaccine.
I know I will undoubtedly be WFH until the end of the year, though our CEO hasn't specifically stated that. That's the general consensus amongst the worker bees. My mom died last year, and I'm an only child, so unless we travel to see DH's family, which is rare, holidays are quiet affairs around here.
I am both sad and excited. The holiday are always a rush rush rush of friend and work obligations, which are just so draining for me. I'm kind of excited not to have that this year.
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Post by lostwithout2peas on Aug 4, 2020 19:24:11 GMT
I started thinking of the holidays at the beginning of all this cause we are a very close knit family and we split our time between my family and DH's family's for the holidays. Thanksgiving I'm kinda looking forward to doing our own at home. It would be the 1st time cause we usually split it between my moms and MIL's. So I'm kinda OK with that.
It's Christmas that's really killing me. I have great nephews and nieces that have finally reached the age where they know what's happening and can be excited and it's magical. And on my husband's side most of the grandkids have reached drinking age and we have a ton of crazy games we play and we make drunken hot cocoa. So I get the best of both worlds, little kids magical Christmas wonder and then adult Christmas fun!
But, there are way too many people in this equation and there is no way if things are looking the way they are we will be gathering together with all of them! So ya, probably no family holiday gathering for us. Just too risky.
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Post by bianca42 on Aug 4, 2020 19:27:04 GMT
The kids are doing remote learning, I'll probably be mostly working at home and we aren't sure about DH...but his company is being super cautious.
However, we typically get together with my parents. They are both working retail jobs and have lots of contact. I've seen my Mom a few times...but only outside and distanced. (I really wish they would both retire now!)
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