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Post by iamkristinl16 on Aug 24, 2020 13:48:13 GMT
Yes. That is where the 23 (and counting, I am sure) who were infected from guests come from. Oh there will definitely be more when symptoms appear or test results are received. Not everyone comes out with symptoms as early as three days after the event. That is why one needs to isolate for 14 days after contact. I wonder if the rest are now isolating themselves. The reception was August 7.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2020 13:58:26 GMT
Both my nieces have graduation parties next month. I am beyond disgusted at my siblings, one of whom works in a ER. That really scares me. We depend on our health care workers to do the right thing, to keep DH safe. He has no choice but to get in-person medical care at times. He has been to the ER 6 times since COVID appeared. (He is better). mikklynn, I know...and while I am super pissed at my sister, it is not just her. A bunch of her co workers from the hospital are going to Vegas later this month...she with them. She (and they) feel like "just because they are healthcare workers, they should not just have to go to work and hole up at home, when other people get to be out doing stuff. She literally told me, "Get the stick out of your *ss, we are not in quarantine anymore." She goes shopping, goes out to eat, is having a grad party, went out for drinks with friends, etc...her life is almost 100% back to "normal." That's part of the reason I am so confused all the time about how I am living, when she does all that stuff.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2020 14:20:59 GMT
Oh there will definitely be more when symptoms appear or test results are received. Not everyone comes out with symptoms as early as three days after the event. That is why one needs to isolate for 14 days after contact. I wonder if the rest are now isolating themselves. The reception was August 7. Ah OK thought it had been this week-end. They're lucky that there were not any more infected by the guests then.
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Post by finsup on Aug 24, 2020 14:25:49 GMT
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Post by greendragonlady on Aug 24, 2020 14:31:33 GMT
My daughter got married in July. It was a small outdoor wedding and everyone sat socially distanced by household. If we wanted to chat with people we masked up.
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Post by epeanymous on Aug 24, 2020 14:54:21 GMT
That is crazy that nearly half of the people at the reception got the virus. I think there are a lot of reasons why people go on with their plans like this, but ultimately it is thinking "It won't happen to me". Making stories like this public is important, but I don't doubt that the couple that got married feel badly about their choice now. I think in many families there also are absolutely toxic pressures around events like this. I still would not go, but your choices end up being “go and risk illness/death/lawbreaking” and “endure months of relatives yelling at you beforehand and then have people not speak to you for ages after the event.” People should not be holding events like this in a pandemic, period .
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Post by luckyexwife on Aug 24, 2020 15:34:54 GMT
That is crazy that nearly half of the people at the reception got the virus. I think there are a lot of reasons why people go on with their plans like this, but ultimately it is thinking "It won't happen to me". Making stories like this public is important, but I don't doubt that the couple that got married feel badly about their choice now. I think in many families there also are absolutely toxic pressures around events like this. I still would not go, but your choices end up being “go and risk illness/death/lawbreaking” and “endure months of relatives yelling at you beforehand and then have people not speak to you for ages after the event.” People should not be holding events like this in a pandemic, period . Yes, this! My cousin got married a few weeks ago, and for Covid reasons, I did not want to go at all. But, there is some complicated family history that doesn't even involve me, but I have been working to repair that relationship. I chose to go to the wedding for family reasons. They gave personalized disposable masks, they had multiple hand sanitizer stations and seating for the meal was socially distant by family group. That was all good, but the reception looked like a regular reception with drinks and dancing and no masks or distancing. I planned to stay all night, and help clean up, but I left pretty early. Thankfully I haven't heard of any cases from the wedding, and I pray we don't.
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Post by SnoopyFan on Aug 24, 2020 15:56:22 GMT
I work in the Frozen Foods department of a grocery store. During the summer we obviously sell lots of bags of ice. I live in New York State where the social gathering limit is 50. Every single weekend we have customers coming in and loading up shopping carts with 10 (or 12 or 15) bags of 18lb ice. That's a hell of a lot of ice. Sometimes, if I happen to be standing close by, I will ask what they are buying all the ice for. It's always for a graduation party or a big family BBQ or some other social gathering. No one needs that much ice for a group of less than 50 people, so I know there are huge parties going on all around where I work.
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Post by pancakes on Aug 24, 2020 16:03:21 GMT
WTF is wrong with people? I've had two zoom weddings and (sadly) one zoom funeral in the past couple months. It was a little sad being all by myself for all 3, but at least I participated. This is just for a short period of time!! If you have to get married, do it and postpone the reception. FFS. Not excusing it at all, but offering a POV. I do know a lot of venues are not offering refunds and the next available date if they want to postpone is in 2022, since all the previous couples who postponed already snapped up the remaining 2021 dates. It’s putting people in a bad place. Of course health is more important than money, but flushing thousands down the drain is rough.
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Post by peasapie on Aug 24, 2020 16:31:20 GMT
. That’s been one of the biggest problems - no enforcement!
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Post by julieb on Aug 24, 2020 16:48:30 GMT
WTF is wrong with people? I've had two zoom weddings and (sadly) one zoom funeral in the past couple months. It was a little sad being all by myself for all 3, but at least I participated. This is just for a short period of time!! If you have to get married, do it and postpone the reception. FFS. Not excusing it at all, but offering a POV. I do know a lot of venues are not offering refunds and the next available date if they want to postpone is in 2022, since all the previous couples who postponed already snapped up the remaining 2021 dates. It’s putting people in a bad place. Of course health is more important than money, but flushing thousands down the drain is rough. This is my son and future dil's situation. They are able to have their wedding, as they have an "outdoor" venue. Since they can have the wedding the venue told them if they wanted to reschedule it would have to be a monday-thursday next year. They will have masks and stations. 100 guests - can have up to 150. We have to travel to be there and are driving. I wouldn't hesitate getting on a plane, but have to drive because of the items I have made for the wedding. They really went back and forth because, of course, they would feel horrible if anyone gets sick. Right now the venue has had 3 weddings a weekend since mid-July. No outbreaks so far. Our neighbors had two daughters get married - 80 guests each, outdoors and all was good. Keeping our fingers crossed and will try our best to enjoy the day and celebration while being careful. My friend had lunch with her daughter, who is a PA. Two days later she was diagnosed with Covid. Was it her daughter or the gym she has been going to, or the person who just checked out at the grocery store before her? It's just that one person you may run into anywhere!
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Post by liya on Aug 24, 2020 18:14:23 GMT
DH and I are invited to a wedding the first weekend in September. We tried to contact the Mom of the groom (she is our friend and our connection to the wedding.) We have no idea how many people will be there and if the reception is indoor or out. We also wanted to know If there will be social distancing protocols set up. I know she might be busy but she has not returned our calls or texts. I don’t think we will be attending even though we are in NYS and our rates are quite low.
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Post by Really Red on Aug 24, 2020 18:40:08 GMT
WTF is wrong with people? I've had two zoom weddings and (sadly) one zoom funeral in the past couple months. It was a little sad being all by myself for all 3, but at least I participated. This is just for a short period of time!! If you have to get married, do it and postpone the reception. FFS. Not excusing it at all, but offering a POV. I do know a lot of venues are not offering refunds and the next available date if they want to postpone is in 2022, since all the previous couples who postponed already snapped up the remaining 2021 dates. It’s putting people in a bad place. Of course health is more important than money, but flushing thousands down the drain is rough. Yes. I get that. I see it all the time. I don't mean to be callous to those who want to have their weddings, but if you have to have the wedding/reception, then don't invite people and send the food to a homeless shelter. At least you'll get a tax write-off then.
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Post by heckofagal on Aug 24, 2020 19:03:01 GMT
We have a family wedding in October. We have skipped the graduation party and the birthday party hosted by this side of the family and I’m planning to skip the bridal shower. I was thinking for the wedding we would skip the church service and go the the reception being geld in a large barn like structure with one end open. But my DH was pointing out that is not even a good idea. We can wear our masks but we know many people there will not. I’ve heard 400 invited and the expect 200 to show. Guess we will not be part of the 200.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2020 19:38:47 GMT
I’ve heard 400 invited and the expect 200 to show. Guess we will not be part of the 200. Damn! That is a lot of people, even for "before times."
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Post by zella on Aug 24, 2020 20:55:03 GMT
Well, when you read that 57% of polled republicans think the current Covid death number (over 176,000 and rising)is acceptable, it does make these things more believable. When hubby told me this last night I said that I don't see any way this country can ever come together as one. Not when so many think that number of deaths is "acceptable." It leaves me speechless. Covid deaths
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Aug 24, 2020 21:58:56 GMT
zella I agree. I have heard so many people, even nurses and other medical professionals, say that they have no concerns about kids going back to school and "there are more people dying from a lot of other things. We don't need to shut things down or stay home for this virus." Then people repeat, "My friend is a nurse and she said that we shouldn't worry" and on and on. It has shown me that no matter the profession, people can fall prey to Fox News and Trump.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Aug 24, 2020 22:20:14 GMT
I hate to break it to you, but there are people of all political stripes who care more about having a good time and getting “what they paid for” than protecting themselves and others from corona. To claim it’s Republicans is disingenuous.
If you have to choose between staying safe and pissing off family, is it really a choice you have to wring your hands over? It’s a fucking pandemic. Grow a pair and stand up for yourself and your loved ones and the people in your community.
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Post by mikklynn on Aug 25, 2020 0:21:30 GMT
That really scares me. We depend on our health care workers to do the right thing, to keep DH safe. He has no choice but to get in-person medical care at times. He has been to the ER 6 times since COVID appeared. (He is better). mikklynn , I know...and while I am super pissed at my sister, it is not just her. A bunch of her co workers from the hospital are going to Vegas later this month...she with them. She (and they) feel like "just because they are healthcare workers, they should not just have to go to work and hole up at home, when other people get to be out doing stuff. She literally told me, "Get the stick out of your *ss, we are not in quarantine anymore." She goes shopping, goes out to eat, is having a grad party, went out for drinks with friends, etc...her life is almost 100% back to "normal." That's part of the reason I am so confused all the time about how I am living, when she does all that stuff. I know what you mean about others going back to normal. We are staying home as much as we can. Sometimes I wonder if I am the crazy one!
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Post by amom23 on Aug 25, 2020 2:42:09 GMT
We have a family wedding in October. We have skipped the graduation party and the birthday party hosted by this side of the family and I’m planning to skip the bridal shower. I was thinking for the wedding we would skip the church service and go the the reception being geld in a large barn like structure with one end open. But my DH was pointing out that is not even a good idea. We can wear our masks but we know many people there will not. I’ve heard 400 invited and the expect 200 to show. Guess we will not be part of the 200. You absolutely have every right to do what makes you feel most comfortable. Missing all these events inevitably has to be putting a strain on your relationship with that side of your family. There will most certainly be fall out and consequences in our relationships with friends and family after this pandemic is over.
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Post by amom23 on Aug 25, 2020 2:43:21 GMT
I hate to break it to you, but there are people of all political stripes who care more about having a good time and getting “what they paid for” than protecting themselves and others from corona. To claim it’s Republicans is disingenuous. If you have to choose between staying safe and pissing off family, is it really a choice you have to wring your hands over? It’s a fucking pandemic. Grow a pair and stand up for yourself and your loved ones and the people in your community. Well ok then.
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Post by smasonnc on Aug 25, 2020 3:34:07 GMT
zella I agree. I have heard so many people, even nurses and other medical professionals, say that they have no concerns about kids going back to school and "there are more people dying from a lot of other things. We don't need to shut things down or stay home for this virus." Then people repeat, "My friend is a nurse and she said that we shouldn't worry" and on and on. It has shown me that no matter the profession, people can fall prey to Fox News and Trump. I’ve also heard a lot of medical professionals say what a $#itshow it is. My daughter works in an ER and has never been tested. My medical friends can’t believe there isn’t any prohibition against large gatherings, more mask enforcement, etc.
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Post by katlaw on Aug 25, 2020 3:43:02 GMT
I read something today I wish people could remember, "Live your best life after there is a vaccine. Until then keep your distance, wash your hands, be a good citizen and wear a mask for the good of others." No one wants to cancel events and miss out on seeing friends and family. I am so sick of missing out on stuff I want to do but we will get that opportunity back if we just stay the course.
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Post by kim68 on Aug 25, 2020 5:03:03 GMT
We chose not to attend my nieces Wedding on Friday. There were 185 people that attended the INDOOR reception. In the photos that they have posted so far not a single person has a mask on. I’m just shocked how many people there were. Family or not, I would have reported that. Unfortunately here in Ohio our governor has allowed receptions of up to 300 people. 😲🤷♀️
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Post by michellegb on Aug 25, 2020 9:29:08 GMT
Family or not, I would have reported that. Unfortunately here in Ohio our governor has allowed receptions of up to 300 people. 😲🤷♀️ At that point, why limit it then? That's insane given these times.
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Post by Tamhugh on Aug 25, 2020 20:19:29 GMT
Not excusing it at all, but offering a POV. I do know a lot of venues are not offering refunds and the next available date if they want to postpone is in 2022, since all the previous couples who postponed already snapped up the remaining 2021 dates. It’s putting people in a bad place. Of course health is more important than money, but flushing thousands down the drain is rough. Yes. I get that. I see it all the time. I don't mean to be callous to those who want to have their weddings, but if you have to have the wedding/reception, then don't invite people and send the food to a homeless shelter. At least you'll get a tax write-off then. The homeless shelters around here won't accept food that is not in sealed packaging. It is too easy to tamper with it otherwise. Our DS has a wedding planned for November. A few weeks ago they met with their coordinator with the intention to cancel. They hoped that they could get back at least some of their money, but no go. They took the contract to a family member who is a lawyer and he agreed with the venue. Their venue has developed a plan with guidance from the dept of health. The ceremony is outside but the rest of the day is a combination of indoor and outdoor. The place is massive and they will have less than 25% of the capacity. Masks are required for a lot of the time and guests will be asked to fill out a waiver. Things could still change but at this point, they cannot cancel without losing approximately $30,000.
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Post by charliesangel on Aug 26, 2020 2:03:04 GMT
Family or not, I would have reported that. Unfortunately here in Ohio our governor has allowed receptions of up to 300 people. 😲🤷♀️ I also live in Ohio, and I cater. I’ve been doing weddings of around 200 people, and I consider it lucky if 20 of those people were wearing masks when they came up to the buffet for food. But I have no choice but to either be 3 feet away from hundreds of unmasked strangers, or just not work. I keep hoping Dewine will cut events back down again, but it’s not looking good.
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Post by newfcathy on Aug 26, 2020 3:46:41 GMT
They were saying on the radio today that the Biogen conference, held in Boston in late Feb, resulted in 20,000 cases through July.
Scary!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 26, 2020 4:31:59 GMT
"Bride and groom who canceled wedding reception due to COVID-19 donate food to shelterWhen Tyler and Melanie Tapajna canceled their wedding reception due to COVID-19, they didn't let the food they ordered go to waste. The Ohio couple decided to take their wedding dinner, which was catered by a food truck, to Laura's Home, a shelter for women and children in need. Laura's Home Women's Crisis Center is part of the Ohio non-profit The City Mission, which helps people overcome homelessness. About 70 kids currently attend the Cleveland-based program with their mothers. Tyler and Melanie Tapajna arrived at Laura's Home right after their wedding ceremony. They got in the kitchen and served meals while still in their gown and tux. Caroline Stoltzfus/The City Mission The City Mission CEO Rich Trickel told CBS News he doesn't believe the Tapajnas have volunteered at the organization before, but they reached out before their wedding day to see if they could help." www.cbsnews.com/news/bride-groom-donate-wedding-food-to-shelter-for-women-and-children-cancel-reception-due-to-covid-19/THAT, ladies and gentlemen, is love and kindness.
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Post by garcia5050 on Aug 26, 2020 4:59:34 GMT
I have a nephew who was getting married in mid-June. The groom’s family is all from Southern California. The bride is from Portland. They were having only 50 guests at an outdoor facility close to Portland. Because it required half the people to travel from LA, they decided to postpone for one year. I thought this was a nice move, considering the high number of high risk family members.
I found out that he still got married in mid-June. With only both sets of parents, and one sibling each. A total of 8 people were at this wedding. All of the ones who traveled from Los Angeles (3 of them) got Covid. All the Portland people were fine. So obviously, something in the travel caused it. My SIL is super high risk (type I diabetes, lupus, prone to blood clots). I thought if she got it, she wouldn’t make it. But she did. But what if she didn’t ? How would her son have felt? I get that $30,000 is a lot of money, but it’s not worth a life. Or potential lifelong health problems.
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