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Post by joblackford on Nov 15, 2020 1:26:27 GMT
"In fact, four large studies of teens from the U.S. and U.K. all show the same thing: happiness and mental health are highest at a half-hour to two hours of extracurricular digital media use a day; well-being then steadily decreases, with those who spend the most time online being the worst off. Twice as many heavy users of electronic devices are unhappy, depressed or distressed as light users." And I'm sure these studies go on to detail that cause and effect are complicated and it's not necessarily that heavy social media/smartphone use *causes* these problems but just that it is associated with them - it may be the effect rather than the cause. I think we can all look at ourselves and see times when we fell into the "infinity pools" of scrolling social media, Pinterest, YT (and here) because we were feeling lonely and anxious and down. When it was easier to share with people online than deal with our own families or whatever mess our life feels like. That might make it worse, or it might be a coping mechanism to get through the hard bits. I also agree with you that for many kids being able to connect to communities like them online can be a lifesaver. Especially if they are part of a religion/culture that tells them they are wrong.
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Post by refugeepea on Nov 15, 2020 3:08:06 GMT
I get the feeling that a lot of well to do Mormons have the same level of toxicity. The culture of perfection and keeping sweet (smiling through the bad times) is so dangerous. I think it just depends on the family. Maybe more so with members that have family in high leadership callings. I'm not sure.
ETA: I was fortunate that my parents grew up in households with little or no church activity. They always taught us it didn't matter if you were Mormon. If we had friends who were good kids, that was all that mattered. They would rather it be them then "some little shit" who went to church every week. Those were my dad's words. Then there are families that see it as a sign of pride every.single.member. has gone on a mission, married in the temple, or some big religious accomplishment. I have three nephews that chose not to go on missions and I'm very grateful that I'm in a family that doesn't look down on this.
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Post by gemini_jen on Nov 16, 2020 2:46:54 GMT
The entire Chick-fil-A thing really irritated me as well. If she didn’t want to accept the gift card that is completely up to her, but to cut it up and post about it was juvenile and petty. She absolutely should have given it to someone she knew, a stranger in the restaurant, her mail man, her neighbor, a giving tree, etc. That entire family seems beyond messed up though. They are all airing their grievances rather publicly in memory of a man who supposedly shunned social media. Especially since she received *hundreds* more (not an exaggeration - she posted Venmo screenshots) as a result, so her followers / friends could buy their family “nuggs.” I just counted 30(!!) public donations on her Venmo that reference nuggets or Chick fil a over the past couple days. There were several more that didn’t specifically reference them. But
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Post by Ohno on Nov 16, 2020 13:15:32 GMT
The entire Chick-fil-A thing really irritated me as well. If she didn’t want to accept the gift card that is completely up to her, but to cut it up and post about it was juvenile and petty. She absolutely should have given it to someone she knew, a stranger in the restaurant, her mail man, her neighbor, a giving tree, etc. That entire family seems beyond messed up though. They are all airing their grievances rather publicly in memory of a man who supposedly shunned social media. Especially since she received *hundreds* more (not an exaggeration - she posted Venmo screenshots) as a result, so her followers / friends could buy their family “nuggs.” I just counted 30(!!) public donations on her Venmo that reference nuggets or Chick fil a over the past couple days. There were several more that didn’t specifically reference them. But No respect.
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Post by stephk on Nov 16, 2020 14:23:59 GMT
I vaguely remember this whole controversy with him, it must've been when the original 2Peas site was up?
All I could say is "there but for the grace of God go I". Enough has happened to me at 50 years old that I try my best not to assume anything about anyone. I have also (finally!) learned that some people are just shitty humans, and there's nothing I can do about it except not be one myself.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Nov 16, 2020 21:26:12 GMT
There are several sides to every story and every drama. I am curious what his Brothers side of the story is.
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Post by crafty on Nov 20, 2020 21:51:54 GMT
I just saw on Cathy Zielske's Instagram that there is now an auction for the Kartchner family to give them a Christmas. Are these people serious? The woman got hundreds of thousands of dollars and now more? She and her husband choose to live a lush life full of superficial things that looked good for the gram over insurance (both life and dental) so it's hard to have sympathy over things she (and he) could control.
I have complete sympathy for her loss. No one deserves that even people who don't plan ahead for a dark day.
I unfollowed Cathy Zielske. I can't believe this is the cause people want to get behind. There are many financially needy people over Dear Lizzy. Maybe it's the cool kids club to promote this insanity.
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Post by nicolep on Nov 20, 2020 22:02:53 GMT
I just saw on Cathy Zielske's Instagram that there is now an auction for the Kartchner family to give them a Christmas. Are these people serious? The woman got hundreds of thousands of dollars and now more? She and her husband choose to live a lush life full of superficial things that looked good for the gram over insurance (both life and dental) so it's hard to have sympathy over things she (and he) could control. I have complete sympathy for her loss. No one deserves that even people who don't plan ahead for a dark day. I unfollowed Cathy Zielske. I can't believe this is the cause people want to get behind. There are many financially needy people over Dear Lizzy. Maybe it's the cool kids club to promote this insanity. Umm yeah, nope. Unfollowed as well.
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Post by Kerri W on Nov 20, 2020 22:48:14 GMT
I just saw on Cathy Zielske's Instagram that there is now an auction for the Kartchner family to give them a Christmas. Are these people serious? The woman got hundreds of thousands of dollars and now more? She and her husband choose to live a lush life full of superficial things that looked good for the gram over insurance (both life and dental) so it's hard to have sympathy over things she (and he) could control. I have complete sympathy for her loss. No one deserves that even people who don't plan ahead for a dark day. I unfollowed Cathy Zielske. I can't believe this is the cause people want to get behind. There are many financially needy people over Dear Lizzy. Maybe it's the cool kids club to promote this insanity. Also unfollowed. This is getting really gross.
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Post by joblackford on Nov 21, 2020 0:30:54 GMT
So, I'm not going to be taking part in this new round of fundraising any more than I supported the last, but Shimelle explained it as "they've had a really, really, wonderfully successful gofundme" but that does take time and the funds that have come in through that are for "long term survival kind of things" but the crafty ladies of AC,etc thought it would be kind to support them in the short term for the Christmas season. http://instagram.com/p/CHvn2pkLgMP I have no idea how long it takes for gofundme money to come through, but it wouldn't surprise me if a lot of that money is tied up in the short term. Actually, nope. I just looked that up and apparently they process the money pretty quickly and do not function as a "bank" so unless the person organizing it is messing around I don't know why they wouldn't be getting the money right away. As for unfollowing CZ, I did that a looooong time ago, back when she got on the Jennifer McGuire kindness bandwagon and started being a total bitch online about people who she said weren't being kind online. I haven't bought anything with her name on it or watched anything she's shown since and I don't miss her one little bit.
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Post by Kerri W on Nov 21, 2020 0:46:35 GMT
So, I'm not going to be taking part in this new round of fundraising any more than I supported the last, but Shimelle explained it as "they've had a really, really, wonderfully successful gofundme" but that does take time and the funds that have come in through that are for "long term survival kind of things" but the crafty ladies of AC,etc thought it would be kind to support them in the short term for the Christmas season. You know it’s great seeing these ladies love and support their friend. Take her a casserole or fulfill her kids wish lists but in the name of all that is holy STOP the public fundraising. It is so misplaced and just...gross. So freaking privileged.
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Post by joblackford on Nov 21, 2020 0:56:11 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Nov 21, 2020 1:45:22 GMT
I can't imagine in what world I would part w/my money to an upper middle-class family (who just raked in $400K) over foster kids, kids w/leukemia, women's shelters, refugee camps, docs w/o borders, etc.
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Post by nicolep on Nov 21, 2020 1:55:14 GMT
I can't imagine in what world I would part w/my money to an upper middle-class family (who just raked in $400K) over foster kids, kids w/leukemia, women's shelters, refugee camps, docs w/o borders, etc. Isn't that the freakin' truth?!
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Post by crafty on Nov 21, 2020 2:26:56 GMT
So, I'm not going to be taking part in this new round of fundraising any more than I supported the last, but Shimelle explained it as "they've had a really, really, wonderfully successful gofundme" but that does take time and the funds that have come in through that are for "long term survival kind of things" but the crafty ladies of AC,etc thought it would be kind to support them in the short term for the Christmas season. You know it’s great seeing these ladies love and support their friend. Take her a casserole or fulfill her kids wish lists but in the name of all that is holy STOP the public fundraising. It is so misplaced and just...gross. So freaking privileged. Exactly. If they want to help their friend give her kids a great Christmas, do it. That’s what the rest of us do.
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Post by Skellinton on Nov 21, 2020 4:57:06 GMT
You know it’s great seeing these ladies love and support their friend. Take her a casserole or fulfill her kids wish lists but in the name of all that is holy STOP the public fundraising. It is so misplaced and just...gross. So freaking privileged. Exactly. If they want to help their friend give her kids a great Christmas, do it. That’s what the rest of us do. Yes, if each one of these incredibly privileged women each took on one K child they could provide an amazing Christmas all by themselves. They don't need to be reaching out to their "fans" to do this. They could quietly do it themselves quite easily I am sure.
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Post by sleepingbooty on Nov 21, 2020 9:16:31 GMT
Gotta say, I'm surprised we haven't had a new member come handslap us yet.
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Post by julie5 on Nov 21, 2020 13:38:50 GMT
joblackford same here about CZ and her bitchiness about being kind. I noped right out and haven’t missed her one bit. She showed her true colors on that one.
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Post by karinec on Nov 21, 2020 15:23:31 GMT
I reported Jennifer McGuire’s post as spam. Honestly, what’s next? Are they going to start shilling for Becky Higgins’ mortgage payments?
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Post by riversong1963 on Nov 21, 2020 15:46:04 GMT
All this public virtue signaling has turned me off to so many crafting "celebs." If they want to help their friend, they could do it quietly and personally. That's what real friends do, and it's about much more than money if you're a true friend. I can't imagine helping a friend and then putting it all over my social accounts to brag about it. That would be almost as nauseating as this is. Being kind is a beautiful thing. Being boastful about it isn't.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 21, 2020 15:53:48 GMT
I reported Jennifer McGuire’s post as spam. Honestly, what’s next? Are they going to start shilling for Becky Higgins’ mortgage payments? Nah, she just walks away and lets the bank foreclose and passes her debt onto the general public.
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Post by stormsts on Nov 21, 2020 16:02:59 GMT
I’ve been sitting here This morning with some of my grandchildren looking at gifts to purchase for underprivileged children for Christmas. I keep coming back to this and it just pisses me off. There are so many people that need, deserve, what she is getting because she is a “celeb”. It disgusts me how much has money has been raised for them. I just unfollowed a bunch of scrappy celebs on IG. Sorry, but I am in a foul mood today and just needed to vent.
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Post by sam9 on Nov 21, 2020 16:16:24 GMT
So tone deaf. With all that has happened this year, including BLM, one would hope that they could see the bigger picture more clearly. But no, they can’t. It’s all about their tiny worlds and publicizing their kindness.
It makes me want to give up papercrafting. I can’t stand most of the industry people. They make me want to scream on an almost daily basis.
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Post by nicolep on Nov 21, 2020 17:16:56 GMT
For those who know how to do it...has CZ lost many followers over this?
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Post by peachiceteas on Nov 21, 2020 18:05:46 GMT
Privileged women raising funds for other privileged women.
Funny how you rarely see, if you ever see it at all, these same people shouting about raising money for those in genuine need. Usually because they don't want their social media accounts to become 'political'.
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Post by gemini_jen on Nov 21, 2020 18:08:13 GMT
So tone deaf. With all that has happened this year, including BLM, one would hope that they could see the bigger picture more clearly. But no, they can’t. It’s all about their tiny worlds and publicizing their kindness. It makes me want to give up papercrafting. I can’t stand most of the industry people. They make me want to scream on an almost daily basis. Has anyone posted to the scrapcelebrities about how asinine this idea is?? Not volunteering because #drama - just curious.
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Post by sam9 on Nov 21, 2020 18:16:11 GMT
So tone deaf. With all that has happened this year, including BLM, one would hope that they could see the bigger picture more clearly. But no, they can’t. It’s all about their tiny worlds and publicizing their kindness. It makes me want to give up papercrafting. I can’t stand most of the industry people. They make me want to scream on an almost daily basis. Has anyone posted to the scrapcelebrities about how asinine this idea is?? Not volunteering because #drama - just curious. Comments seem to be turned off on the IG site for the auction. But I'm a big scaredy cat anyways. I think negative comments just feed into their story of "kindness".
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Post by gemini_jen on Nov 21, 2020 18:24:59 GMT
Has anyone posted to the scrapcelebrities about how asinine this idea is?? Not volunteering because #drama - just curious. Comments seem to be turned off on the IG site for the auction. But I'm a big scaredy cat anyways. I think negative comments just feed into their story of "kindness". I agree. I was just hoping I could passively aggressively “like” a comment lol At least I’m honest?!
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Post by nicolep on Nov 21, 2020 18:54:05 GMT
HS is all over this too and I am SO DISAPPOINTED in the big wig scrap community. I had a big, long reply to her IG story but didn't send it. I'm sure it'd fall on deaf ears.
I feel sick about the HUNDREDS OF THOUSANDS of dollars and now this Christmas auction crap.
SO many REAL NEEDS in this world but let's just pile a bunch of money on this family because.
I feel harsh and mean and sad and awful and angry.
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Post by jediannie on Nov 21, 2020 18:58:38 GMT
HS is all over this too and I am SO DISAPPOINTED in the big wig scrap community. I had a big, long reply to her IG story but didn't send it. I'm sure it'd fall on deaf ears. I feel sick about the HUNDREDS OF Thousands of dollars and now this Christmas auction crap. SO many REAL NEEDS in this world but let's just pile a bunch of money on this family because. I feel harsh and mean and sad and awful and angry. Same, I replied to a thread that Ali Edwards started about this on her Facebook group and deleted it because so many handslaps would happen to me because people don’t want to see this as a “privilege”.
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