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Post by epeanymous on Nov 26, 2020 0:09:35 GMT
Dear in-laws, I am very thankful that you sent personalized bathrobes for Hanukkah. They are very nice, and I expect we will get a lot of use out of them. The kids are particularly excited.
However, I am wondering if one of these days you might see fit to spell your ten-year-old grandson’s name correctly. I know it’s not a common name — although it’s now the lead character on a very popular series, so not that obscure — and you have once again left me in the position where I am of course going to tell the ten-year-old to be thankful for his gift, but it would be lovely if I didn’t have to watch him wince first.
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Post by greendragonlady on Nov 26, 2020 0:13:01 GMT
Wow, 10 years and they can't get it right? Can your husband say something to them?
I would almost have it taken out and re-stitched correctly.
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Post by Rainy_Day_Woman on Nov 26, 2020 0:16:17 GMT
I will join you there- my in-laws always spell my name and the children's name wrong.
My name is weird enough, I'll give them that but my daughter's name has 4 letters. My son's has 3. There are not that many letters to screw up, and yet...
If he will actually use the robe, I would have it restitched too.
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Post by hookturnian on Nov 26, 2020 0:17:25 GMT
I would have grandchild send Bubbe a thank you card with his name written in very large letters
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Post by tincin on Nov 26, 2020 0:22:39 GMT
Dear in-laws, I am very thankful that you sent personalized bathrobes for Hanukkah. They are very nice, and I expect we will get a lot of use out of them. The kids are particularly excited. However, I am wondering if one of these days you might see fit to spell your ten-year-old grandson’s name correctly. I know it’s not a common name — although it’s now the lead character on a very popular series, so not that obscure — and you have once again left me in the position where I am of course going to tell the ten-year-old to be thankful for his gift, but it would be lovely if I didn’t have to watch him wince first. He should send her a thank you note for the robes, purposely misspelling her name. I’m passive aggressive like that though. Hell, I’d misspell her name on every damned card I sent her until she got it right. I’d also ask her to send it back and get it redone with the correct spelling.
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Post by freecharlie on Nov 26, 2020 0:26:22 GMT
That's just shitty. Did they want you to spell it differently.
I know ny cousin named her kid Trey and the inlaws wanted it TRAE (or something like that) and passive aggressively wrote that on everything for him (including his birthday cake) until the kid finally said something.
Screw being grateful. The 10 yo should tell them that isnt how he spells his name or you should. The little digs may not seem like much, but they probably hurt more than he lets on.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Nov 26, 2020 0:31:46 GMT
That's just shitty. Did they want you to spell it differently. I know ny cousin named her kid Trey and the inlaws wanted it TRAE (or something like that) and passive aggressively wrote that on everything for him (including his birthday cake) until the kids finally said something. Screw being grateful. The 10 yo should tell them that isnt how he spells his name or you should. The little digs may not seem like much, but they probably hurt more than he lets on. Well said.
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Post by hannahruth on Nov 26, 2020 0:37:28 GMT
What a cr*ppy grandmother!
She really isn't have a shot at your son she is having a shot at you.
Obviously she does not like/agree with/approve of your (and her son's) choice of name for your child.
I would ask her to get it right or not call him anything at all.
My in-laws did not call me by my name for years they always substituted it with another name. P*ssed me of considerably.
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Post by malibou on Nov 26, 2020 0:42:51 GMT
Dear Grandmummy,
Thank you for the personalized robes. My family loves matchey matching. It's our favorite thing. I'm assuming the one that said Braedun was for me. Luckily my parents are funny. Mom changed hers to read Katerpillar. Dad went with Artifact and the twins went with Time and Tombstone. Oh, and someone changed mine to Braedunce. I think it was Tim. We really bonded as a family over the alterations, but next year, when we hopefully won't have so much time on our hands, perhaps mine can have the correct spelling so no one feels the need to change theirs.
Love, Braden
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Post by yodutchess on Nov 26, 2020 1:17:37 GMT
Dear in-laws, I am very thankful that you sent personalized bathrobes for Hanukkah. They are very nice, and I expect we will get a lot of use out of them. The kids are particularly excited. However, I am wondering if one of these days you might see fit to spell your ten-year-old grandson’s name correctly. I know it’s not a common name — although it’s now the lead character on a very popular series, so not that obscure — and you have once again left me in the position where I am of course going to tell the ten-year-old to be thankful for his gift, but it would be lovely if I didn’t have to watch him wince first. Mother-in-law cross stitched samplers for the kids when they were born (DH is an only child, so these were her only grands.) My oldest’s middle name was my mother’s maiden name, and MIL misspelled it on the sampler, double matted it and framed it. The way it was stitched there was no way I could fix it. I hung it up wrong and we all laughed.It would have been “ a thing” if I pointed out that she misspelled our child’s name. I do not miss those days. ( she has passed).
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Post by leeny on Nov 26, 2020 1:22:24 GMT
My grandfather always spelled my daughter's name incorrectly even though we corrected him repeatedly. I finally gave up and was thankful he remembered her name at all. Personally my kids didn't care and I wasn't wanting to make a big deal, unless you think they are doing it to be mean.
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Post by simplyparticular on Nov 26, 2020 1:28:04 GMT
A sibling had a similar situation with the spouse's stepmother - she didn't like the name Veronica. That whole side of the family repeatedly called her Victoria for a long time after she was born, in spite of repeated correction. Eventually things fell apart with the (frequently absent) father so it ceased to be an issue, but WTF!
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Post by padresfan619 on Nov 26, 2020 1:29:48 GMT
We told my mother in law and sister in law our baby name choices for this baby, they loved the boy name and laughed at and asked if we were sure about the girl name. The girl name that we chose to honor MY mother. Now I’m really hoping this baby is a girl.
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Post by Anita on Nov 26, 2020 1:46:46 GMT
Awww, that's rough. I'm sorry. My grandfather was a math whiz. He could do huge calculations in his head. But he couldn't spell worth shit. I got a postcard from him once with my name misspelled. It kind of hurt my feelings at the time, but now I find it endearing and it's my most treasured keepsake from him.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Nov 26, 2020 1:50:07 GMT
One of my grandmothers always misspelled my name. She added an 'e' to the end, but it never bothered me. I actually tried spelling it that way when I was in middle school, but it didn't stick. Now my late MIL was another story. We gave DD two middle names. MIL threw a hissy fit when she found out we planned to do that. We never budged and she never acknowledged DD's second middle name. In order to make her point, she was fond of giving DD monogrammed gifts that only had 3 of her 4 initials. No wondering where DH got his passive aggressive tendencies! My petty vent is email related. I really wish Mr. Glyn Partridge of Auckland, NZ would figure out how to spell his email address! His apparently is nearly identical to mine, with one additional letter in the middle of the first word. Over the past couple of years I have received his library notifications (I sure hope he's picked up that reserved book by now!), his doctor appointment reminders, as well as physical therapy exercises. He apparently moved house earlier this year because I was receiving his initial electric bills for a couple of months. Just this week I've received two more emails. One was from his Philatelic Club with meeting minutes, so apparently he is a stamp collector. He has also been entered into the draw for $1,000 (NZ I suppose) at Mitre 10. Good Luck on that Mr. Partridge - first, with winning and second, with ever finding out you won since you can't give them the correct email address!!!
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Post by leeny on Nov 26, 2020 2:40:41 GMT
My petty vent is email related. I really wish Mr. Glyn Partridge of Auckland, NZ would figure out how to spell his email address! His apparently is nearly identical to mine, with one additional letter in the middle of the first word. Over the past couple of years I have received his library notifications (I sure hope he's picked up that reserved book by now!), his doctor appointment reminders, as well as physical therapy exercises. He apparently moved house earlier this year because I was receiving his initial electric bills for a couple of months. Just this week I've received two more emails. One was from his Philatelic Club with meeting minutes, so apparently he is a stamp collector. He has also been entered into the draw for $1,000 (NZ I suppose) at Mitre 10. Good Luck on that Mr. Partridge - first, with winning and second, with ever finding out you won since you can't give them the correct email address!!! I can relate to this! There is a social group in a senior development in Florida with a member who has a similar email to mine. Over the years I get invites and wishes and questions. I've tried to correct them, even contacted the property manager and still I get random messages. Once in awhile I will thank them for the invite to their social event but remind them that I live in California.
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Post by theshyone on Nov 26, 2020 2:46:48 GMT
I had been a member of my in-laws family for over 15 years, received a wedding invite to that nephews wedding to Husbands name + guest
Pissed me off.
Send the robe back to Grandma saying the company made a spelling error on his name so she should get them to replace it. She will have to either fess up it was deliberate or get it fixed.
My name is spelt with one letter different than most, if it’s wrong I shrug it off. But as a child it bugged me.
My vent is Covid hair. Not cut since March. Made an appointment two months ago that is finally coming up next week, and get a call today saying my stylist I’ve had forever,and am loyal to, moved to another city.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Nov 26, 2020 2:51:26 GMT
Why is it okay for you to say what you want/feel/think, etc., but I’m not allowed to verbalize my thoughts?
You tell me I’m “way too nice” and a “pushover”, yet when I state what I need to be done, pushback, or think, you go all passive-aggressive.
And..new boss—I didn’t miscommunicate my availability. YOU FORGOT. I KNOW what days/hours I can work. I KNEW I’d be in school when you scheduled me. I KNEW that the additional hours you tried to sneak by me were not when I could work! So don’t be mad at me for your forgetfulness!!!
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Nov 26, 2020 2:53:11 GMT
My oldest son’s godparents misspelled his name every time. On cards and letters, it didn’t matter so much. On monogrammed items (starting with a beautiful sterling baby cup), it was quite unfortunate.
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Post by cmpeter on Nov 26, 2020 2:55:04 GMT
Oh man, that’s tough for a 10 year old to deal with.
In jr high my uncle sent me an engraved bracelet with my name. He spelled it SANDY and my name is Cindi. I gave it to a friend at school named Sandy.
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Post by smcast on Nov 26, 2020 2:57:16 GMT
That is one of my pet peeves. My name is Shelley so I pay extra attention to how people spell their names. I would think people who send personalized gifts would be extra diligent. I woukd ask her where they purchased them so you could buy a new one, embroidered properly. Everytime I would look at misspelled gifts, I felt like they didn't care enough to get it right.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 26, 2020 2:59:23 GMT
One sister is almost 50. One of our aunts has been adding an extra e to the end of her name for nearly 50 years. You'd think she would get the hint after years of emails and seeing her name on Facebook.
My petty vent is my kids won't give me any ideas for Christmas. I'd like to do some shopping this weekend. (Online) I guess it's pink socks and deodorant for them.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Nov 26, 2020 3:07:19 GMT
I can relate to this! There is a social group in a senior development in Florida with a member who has a similar email to mine. Over the years I get invites and wishes and questions. I've tried to correct them, even contacted the property manager and still I get random messages. Once in awhile I will thank them for the invite to their social event but remind them that I live in California. Nice of them to keep inviting you! I sent three messages to the Auckland library letting them know I was in Texas and would not be able to pick up the book on reserve. Either Mr. Partridge lost his book reserving privileges or they finally got it straightened out. I also let the doctor's office know, but it took them a few times as well to get it corrected. After that I said Mr. Partridge was on his own. Hopefully they didn't cut his power off!
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Post by Nanner on Nov 26, 2020 3:11:25 GMT
For his highschool graduation, my brother got a cheque from our mother's godmother. The cheque was address to Michael ***. My brother's name is not Michael, or anything close to it.
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Post by melodyesch on Nov 26, 2020 3:16:47 GMT
That sucks about the robe. If it is something he would wear I would pick it out and take it to an embroidery shop to be fixed.
My vent is that I found a recipe for white chocolate lemon truffles on Pinterest and had been looking forward to them all week. The mixture won’t firm up enough to be rolled and it’s not at all lemony. So now I have a bowl of thick white chocolate tastes SLIGHTLY lemony.
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Post by bc2ca on Nov 26, 2020 3:58:11 GMT
I am so sorry. What a shitty thing for your son to deal with.
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Post by melanieg on Nov 26, 2020 4:00:35 GMT
My parents have been married 49 years. Mr gramz spells my moms name wrong on everything. She has been told and corrected a million times. Now my mom says what is the point.
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Post by kkrenn on Nov 26, 2020 5:30:08 GMT
That sucks and I would try to get it fixed if I could.
My first and last name when combined sounds like Karen and that is what I get called ALL THE TIME and I hate it! I understand it but I hate it.
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Post by greendragonlady on Nov 26, 2020 5:39:52 GMT
That sucks and I would try to get it fixed if I could. My first and last name when combined sounds like Karen and that is what I get called ALL THE TIME and I hate it! I understand it but I hate it. Especially these days, I'm sure!
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Post by manda on Nov 26, 2020 6:05:08 GMT
Ugh, I understand.
My brother went by the name Jay (nickname for Junior since his actual name was Lamar which was also our dad’s name) but one great grandmother always called him Jason. LOL
I have friends and colleagues who have known me for years and still misspell my last name. It drives me bonkers. Especially because there are things they could double check, like I don’t know.... my name on Facebook for my friends or my name on my email signature at work for colleagues. And by colleagues I mean people in my department of six people.
People just don’t pay attention.
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