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Post by MalleyCat on Nov 26, 2020 7:29:43 GMT
I think it’s time for your husband to sit down with his parents and make sure they spell their grandkids names correctly, unless they are senile or something?😬
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Post by MalleyCat on Nov 26, 2020 7:33:10 GMT
Awww, that's rough. I'm sorry. My grandfather was a math whiz. He could do huge calculations in his head. But he couldn't spell worth shit. I got a postcard from him once with my name misspelled. It kind of hurt my feelings at the time, but now I find it endearing and it's my most treasured keepsake from him. Anita is my daughter’s middle name, after my grandmother. ❤️
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Post by teddyw on Nov 26, 2020 12:40:22 GMT
Dear in-laws, I am very thankful that you sent personalized bathrobes for Hanukkah. They are very nice, and I expect we will get a lot of use out of them. The kids are particularly excited. However, I am wondering if one of these days you might see fit to spell your ten-year-old grandson’s name correctly. I know it’s not a common name — although it’s now the lead character on a very popular series, so not that obscure — and you have once again left me in the position where I am of course going to tell the ten-year-old to be thankful for his gift, but it would be lovely if I didn’t have to watch him wince first. Try contacting the company that made them and let them know it was misspelled. They may send a new one. This happened with a baby blanket for dd. They immediately fixed it. It’s worth a try. Unless she did it herself.
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Post by cmhs on Nov 26, 2020 12:43:44 GMT
My father always mispronounced my oldest dd's name. He got pissy and pouted at me for months after I finally had enough and corrected him. He was fun that way 🙄
My name is constantly misspelled -- it's Cecilia not Cecelia. It's slightly annoying but I let it go.
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Post by bearmom on Nov 26, 2020 12:58:11 GMT
I am with the pp who said you should let MIL know, I like the suggestion of saying it appears the company spelled his name incorrectly and could she please contact the company and see if they can fix it?
My dh’s uncle spells my name incorrectly most of the time - each time he sends me something he spells my name differently. Who knew there were that many ways to spell my name? But, he is an uncle-in-law and not a grandma (who manages to get everyone else’s name right).
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Post by alexa11 on Nov 26, 2020 13:05:50 GMT
Did she do them herself or was it a company? I understand completely. My name is Kristi and nobody spells it right- 61 years old and I'm still spelling for people, I usually get an e put on the end, even after spelling. My cousin still spells it this way...
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Post by mikklynn on Nov 26, 2020 13:41:29 GMT
My DH, whom I love dearly, cannot answer simple questions clearly. I have been calling him on it lately. For example, do you want me to do X or do you want to do it yourself? He will answer "that's fine". WHAT? I think he means the latter, he'll do it, but sometimes that is not what he means. UGH. It's every time. Do you want fish or chicken? His response? "That's fine".
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Post by georgiapea on Nov 26, 2020 14:55:26 GMT
When thanking them for the robes I would include suggesting the take up the misspelled name with the company they bought them from. Include that you are going to have it fixed. Your son should do the same, a thank you and mention you are getting it fixed.
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Post by sam9 on Nov 26, 2020 14:57:14 GMT
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Post by jemmls4 on Nov 26, 2020 15:02:15 GMT
My father always mispronounced my oldest dd's name. He got pissy and pouted at me for months after I finally had enough and corrected him. He was fun that way 🙄 My name is constantly misspelled -- it's Cecilia not Cecelia. It's slightly annoying but I let it go. I love the name Cecilia. That was my great-aunt’s name...she was so cool and way ahead of her time. Never married, worked and rose up in the ranks of her company in the 30s and 40s. I had wanted to name a daughter Cecilia but my last name also has two s sounds in it. All I could think of is what if the poor kid had a lisp? She’d be teased terribly. As it was all I could think of is people making stupid jokes. I then remembered her first name was actually Mary and I named my daughter a derivation of that. I love a previous poster’s idea of sending the robe back with a note asking if it were possible for MIL to contact company since they obviously misspelled son’s name incorrectly. You’re putting the blame on the company and putting her on notice. Maybe even a little line about how much it will mean to son to have his name spelled correctly.
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Post by kibblesandbits on Nov 26, 2020 15:11:58 GMT
Dear in-laws, I am very thankful that you sent personalized bathrobes for Hanukkah. They are very nice, and I expect we will get a lot of use out of them. The kids are particularly excited. However, I am wondering if one of these days you might see fit to spell your ten-year-old grandson’s name correctly. I know it’s not a common name — although it’s now the lead character on a very popular series, so not that obscure — and you have once again left me in the position where I am of course going to tell the ten-year-old to be thankful for his gift, but it would be lovely if I didn’t have to watch him wince first. What does she say when you ask her about it?
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Post by cecilia on Nov 26, 2020 15:29:22 GMT
I am with you OP on spelling names correctly. People always spell my name wrong.
Here is a story though: I had a name tag on at county wide volunteer group meeting. The know everything, aka the main reason I got out of one club, proceeds to tell me I spelled my own name incorrectly. I hadn't.
Here is my petty vent:
My aunt (my Mom's youngest sister who nearly died about 2.5 years ago) has been insisting on coming to our house for Thanksgiving. We have given her (and her son, who I have major issues with) everything we can and then some. We are just tired of giving and not getting even a kiss my ass in return. We keep telling them no, maybe next year when things settle down. She keeps insisting. I wish she would just stop asking. She usually goes to the oldest sister's house for holidays but not this year.
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Post by myboysnme on Nov 26, 2020 15:29:29 GMT
My Thanksgiving sucks. I was supposed to be cooking at my son's house. I bought everything food wise. I carried over 5 boxes and bins of stuff, including serving spoons, a mixer, serving bowls, a table cloth. I go to start the stuffing and they have no butter. I ask my son if they have any butter. He said no, I should have brought it. That was it. I lost it right there. He and I start screaming. He threw me out of the house. I left gladly.
Now I am sitting in my house on my laptop waiting for a sale. He's texting me to come back. My husband and I fought about it. I am too depressed to do anything but come on here and petty vent.
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Post by MZF on Nov 26, 2020 15:29:54 GMT
That would bug the crap out of me--it's a passive aggressive dig at you. Can you or your son ask them where the stitching was done, as you need to send it back due to a spelling error? Make it sound like the company erred and should correct it. If they insist it's right, let them know it's not. I would definitely make sure they know the correct spelling and to get it right. There is really no excuse for not getting it right.
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Post by 950nancy on Nov 26, 2020 19:55:33 GMT
Wow, 10 years and they can't get it right? Can your husband say something to them? I would almost have it taken out and re-stitched correctly. I would do this tomorrow if I could. No one should have their name misspelled or mispronounced by people that know them.
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Post by 950nancy on Nov 26, 2020 19:57:49 GMT
Did she do them herself or was it a company? I understand completely. My name is Kristi and nobody spells it right- 61 years old and I'm still spelling for people, I usually get an e put on the end, even after spelling. My cousin still spells it this way... One year (in the 80's) I had a class of 26 kids. Ten girls and four of them were Kristis. All names spelled differently!
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Post by psoccer on Nov 26, 2020 21:18:07 GMT
I am a Kristi also. My in -laws insisted calling and writing my name as Crissy. No offense to any Crissy's on here, but that has never been my name, nor has it ever been a nick-name. 20 plus years, and they never got it correct. They didn't pronounce my daughters name correctly, she is Madeline, not Madelynn. This had nothing to do with spelling, they heard us say her name for the past 20 years, but still didn't say it correctly.
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Post by epeanymous on Nov 27, 2020 2:52:50 GMT
Thanks, guys. I don't know what the deal is -- my inlaws have never said anything one way or the other about my kids' names (and believe me, they had *plenty to say* about the fact that I kept my last name and that the kids are hyphenated, so I'm guessing they'd say something if they hated the name), but they've been terrible since the beginning about things like remembering how to spell the kids' names or when their birthdays are. I'd blame in on having six kids, but they were like this when I had one (my oldest has a name that has two spellings; we use the more common one, but my inlaws spell it the other way half the time).
We told the inlaws when the robes arrived yesterday, but they live 3000 miles away, so it's going to be on me to fix it. I'm going to contact the company on Monday (it's Lands End and they have always been easy for me to deal with on customer service issues); I'll bet I'm not the first person with this problem they've heard from.
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Post by justkat on Nov 27, 2020 5:01:56 GMT
Dear Sister-in-law, This is my life. These are my choices to make. You don't have to like my choices but you do have to respect that they are mine.
Cancer sucks. I've been fighting for years. I'm fighting in my own way. Whether you understand or agree, I AM fighting.
Tons of surgery, internal and external radiation, 2 and 3 drug chemotherapy, pt and ot...abdominal adhesions, chemo neuropathy, the damage to my skin and hair...near constant nausea, pain and fatigue....
Now a diagnosis of radiation retinopathy. I am fighting and I will continue to fight. You will see me struggle but never quit, you will see me bend but never break.
But you have no idea. For me it's quality over quantity. I'd rather 1 or 2 good years than 30 bad ones. So please just shut up,mind your business and go away.
Ugh, thanks for the vent thread as I needed to say that.
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Post by MalleyCat on Nov 27, 2020 10:51:37 GMT
One year I had 100 X-Mas cards printed with our last name spelled wrong! It was totally my fault! I went with a fancy script font and the preview box on the screen was really small. Those cards got a ribbon with a bow, over that oops! Then I just signed our lat name. Another year I received a printed Xmas card from married best friend. Her last name was misspelled and then I was thinking to myself...have I been spelling their last name wrong for past 15 years!?!😮 Nope! Turns out that printing company spelled it wrong!😉
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Post by trixiecat on Nov 27, 2020 13:48:06 GMT
Please do not be passive aggressive back to her. I had a passive agreesive mother-in-law. She could be a wonderful person and really was good to our kids. But man, when she wanted to get a dig in, she could be very mean and I lost so much respect for her and our relationship wasn't what it could have been. Why don't you for the holidays send a caricature of your kids with their name below each kid. Something she could refer to possibly when writing out cards, etc.
My petty vent is my daughter, her boyfriend and his family. She drove 4 hours to spend a couple of days with him at his college and then brought him home for Thanksgiving. She saved his parents the time and gas and toll money (around $120) in doing this. Don't you think his parents would have offered her something? They arrived at his house at 8 (didn't stop to eat) and wasn't she wasn't even offered a bite to eat. The day they left to come back he took her to the school bookstore and went to buy her a sweatshirt and something for himself - $80. His debit card was declined, he said he knew there was money in his account and he would pay her back. He has little, to no motivation to work the two months over the break. She in turn has already started back at her old grocery store job getting up at 5:30am, 4 days in a row and finishing up her semester at the same time. And since she is the one with the car, guess who has to pick him and up and take him home all the time? Besides all of this, I truly really like this kid a lot. I just want her to realize that she could be treated so much better.
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Post by mikklynn on Nov 27, 2020 13:54:52 GMT
My Thanksgiving sucks. I was supposed to be cooking at my son's house. I bought everything food wise. I carried over 5 boxes and bins of stuff, including serving spoons, a mixer, serving bowls, a table cloth. I go to start the stuffing and they have no butter. I ask my son if they have any butter. He said no, I should have brought it. That was it. I lost it right there. He and I start screaming. He threw me out of the house. I left gladly. Now I am sitting in my house on my laptop waiting for a sale. He's texting me to come back. My husband and I fought about it. I am too depressed to do anything but come on here and petty vent. Oh, no. I am so sorry. My DS and I are barely on speaking terms over his behavior during the pandemic. Giant hugs, mama.
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Post by uksue on Nov 27, 2020 13:55:44 GMT
Would be nice if my father had ever acknowledged my third child - even once- in his 18yrs.
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Post by mikklynn on Nov 27, 2020 13:58:30 GMT
Dear Sister-in-law, This is my life. These are my choices to make. You don't have to like my choices but you do have to respect that they are mine. Cancer sucks. I've been fighting for years. I'm fighting in my own way. Whether you understand or agree, I AM fighting. Tons of surgery, internal and external radiation, 2 and 3 drug chemotherapy, pt and ot...abdominal adhesions, chemo neuropathy, the damage to my skin and hair...near constant nausea, pain and fatigue.... Now a diagnosis of radiation retinopathy. I am fighting and I will continue to fight. You will see me struggle but never quit, you will see me bend but never break. But you have no idea. For me it's quality over quantity. I'd rather 1 or 2 good years than 30 bad ones. So please just shut up,mind your business and go away. Ugh, thanks for the vent thread as I needed to say that. How have you not just punched her in the face? Even DH's annoying sisters have not been like that. I can't come close to knowing how you feel, but DH has been battling cancer 13.5 years, so I do know how the side effects and progression take a terrible toll on your body. Cancer sucks.
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Post by ddly on Nov 27, 2020 14:02:34 GMT
My Thanksgiving sucks. I was supposed to be cooking at my son's house. I bought everything food wise. I carried over 5 boxes and bins of stuff, including serving spoons, a mixer, serving bowls, a table cloth. I go to start the stuffing and they have no butter. I ask my son if they have any butter. He said no, I should have brought it. That was it. I lost it right there. He and I start screaming. He threw me out of the house. I left gladly. Now I am sitting in my house on my laptop waiting for a sale. He's texting me to come back. My husband and I fought about it. I am too depressed to do anything but come on here and petty vent. Oh no! What did you end up doing?
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Post by NanaKate on Nov 27, 2020 14:16:06 GMT
My Thanksgiving sucks. I was supposed to be cooking at my son's house. I bought everything food wise. I carried over 5 boxes and bins of stuff, including serving spoons, a mixer, serving bowls, a table cloth. I go to start the stuffing and they have no butter. I ask my son if they have any butter. He said no, I should have brought it. That was it. I lost it right there. He and I start screaming. He threw me out of the house. I left gladly. Now I am sitting in my house on my laptop waiting for a sale. He's texting me to come back. My husband and I fought about it. I am too depressed to do anything but come on here and petty vent. WOW. Hope this gets fixed soon...
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Post by justkat on Nov 27, 2020 20:21:32 GMT
Dear Sister-in-law, This is my life. These are my choices to make. You don't have to like my choices but you do have to respect that they are mine. Cancer sucks. I've been fighting for years. I'm fighting in my own way. Whether you understand or agree, I AM fighting. Tons of surgery, internal and external radiation, 2 and 3 drug chemotherapy, pt and ot...abdominal adhesions, chemo neuropathy, the damage to my skin and hair...near constant nausea, pain and fatigue.... Now a diagnosis of radiation retinopathy. I am fighting and I will continue to fight. You will see me struggle but never quit, you will see me bend but never break. But you have no idea. For me it's quality over quantity. I'd rather 1 or 2 good years than 30 bad ones. So please just shut up,mind your business and go away. Ugh, thanks for the vent thread as I needed to say that. How have you not just punched her in the face? Even DH's annoying sisters have not been like that. I can't come close to knowing how you feel, but DH has been battling cancer 13.5 years, so I do know how the side effects and progression take a terrible toll on your body. Cancer sucks. I just received the radiation retinopathy diagnosis. She overheard my husband and I talking about it. I'm not yet sure how I'd like to proceed. She felt the need to butt in and tell me that I need to fight this,what I should do etc. I simply got up and walked away. I don't mind if she'd like to calmly and respectfully share her opinions. She is family and as such this affects her to a very small degree. Don't scream and shout,don't tell me what to do. I'm an adult, I'm a doctor and this is my body and life. I am quickly losing patience though. I very well might be starting a thread soon titled "I punched my sil now what?" . LOL
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Post by mikklynn on Nov 27, 2020 22:19:43 GMT
How have you not just punched her in the face? Even DH's annoying sisters have not been like that. I can't come close to knowing how you feel, but DH has been battling cancer 13.5 years, so I do know how the side effects and progression take a terrible toll on your body. Cancer sucks. I just received the radiation retinopathy diagnosis. She overheard my husband and I talking about it. I'm not yet sure how I'd like to proceed. She felt the need to butt in and tell me that I need to fight this,what I should do etc. I simply got up and walked away. I don't mind if she'd like to calmly and respectfully share her opinions. She is family and as such this affects her to a very small degree. Don't scream and shout,don't tell me what to do. I'm an adult, I'm a doctor and this is my body and life. I am quickly losing patience though. I very well might be starting a thread soon titled "I punched my sil now what?" . LOL I'll hold your pearls when you snap!
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Post by freecharlie on Nov 27, 2020 22:24:52 GMT
How have you not just punched her in the face? Even DH's annoying sisters have not been like that. I can't come close to knowing how you feel, but DH has been battling cancer 13.5 years, so I do know how the side effects and progression take a terrible toll on your body. Cancer sucks. I just received the radiation retinopathy diagnosis. She overheard my husband and I talking about it. I'm not yet sure how I'd like to proceed. She felt the need to butt in and tell me that I need to fight this,what I should do etc. I simply got up and walked away. I don't mind if she'd like to calmly and respectfully share her opinions. She is family and as such this affects her to a very small degree. Don't scream and shout,don't tell me what to do. I'm an adult, I'm a doctor and this is my body and life. I am quickly losing patience though. I very well might be starting a thread soon titled "I punched my sil now what?" . LOL I'll donate to your legal fund
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Post by myboysnme on Nov 28, 2020 2:54:31 GMT
My son called me several times and begged me to come back. He said he would cook everything and he would fix me a cup of tea and I could relax. He went to the store and got butter and snacks he thought I would like. He said he is getting angry often and going to talk to someone about it. I went back over and me and his wife basically got everything going. We were about 2 hours behind by this point. She is 1st trimester and exhausted and not yet 2 yo dgd wears a person out. But we let her help, then she and I grabbed a nap as did dil. Husband came over with the potatoes peeled. Son was willing to do whatever needed to be done. His entire mood was congenial. He apologized several times as did I. I feel very badly it got so bad so early on. Thanks for the support my pea friends!
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