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Post by nightnurse on Nov 11, 2014 1:25:18 GMT
My grandfather has some...let's call them quirks. One of these quirks is not being wasteful. He hates to see "perfectly good" items thrown away. So he got friendly with his local store managers and they would let him know when they were discarding items that didn't sell (this was probably 20 years ago). Sometimes, that worked out great-like the year we got Christmas stationary, still in the packages, that he'd been given by the store manager before he threw it out. Other years, it didn't work out so well for us. One year, we received USED tester lipsticks. We said thank you and threw them away at home. My uncle got expired vitamins that were covered in mold.
As Grampy got older, it got worse. I kept trying to tell my mother that he had dementia and shouldn't be living alone, but she was in denial. He lived in an over 55 community and they decorated the lobby with this great electric train that went around the Christmas tree. It even puffed smoke out of its smokestack. We went to pick Grampy up for Christmas and there was a sign stating the train was missing. Who would steal their train? we wondered. Sure enough, my nephew opened the train! And he loved it. Of course, we had to bring it back. Grampy gave the ladies the decorative throw pillows off the lobby couches. He's in a nursing home now and keeps trying to give us the chairs form his room whenever we visit!
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Post by MorningPerson on Nov 11, 2014 2:08:02 GMT
My grandfather has some...let's call them quirks. One of these quirks is not being wasteful. He hates to see "perfectly good" items thrown away. So he got friendly with his local store managers and they would let him know when they were discarding items that didn't sell (this was probably 20 years ago). Sometimes, that worked out great-like the year we got Christmas stationary, still in the packages, that he'd been given by the store manager before he threw it out. Other years, it didn't work out so well for us. One year, we received USED tester lipsticks. We said thank you and threw them away at home. My uncle got expired vitamins that were covered in mold. As Grampy got older, it got worse. I kept trying to tell my mother that he had dementia and shouldn't be living alone, but she was in denial. He lived in an over 55 community and they decorated the lobby with this great electric train that went around the Christmas tree. It even puffed smoke out of its smokestack. We went to pick Grampy up for Christmas and there was a sign stating the train was missing. Who would steal their train? we wondered. Sure enough, my nephew opened the train! And he loved it. Of course, we had to bring it back. Grampy gave the ladies the decorative throw pillows off the lobby couches. He's in a nursing home now and keeps trying to give us the chairs form his room whenever we visit! Gotta love your Grampy's generosity! 
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Post by Zee on Nov 11, 2014 2:16:43 GMT
nightnurse Lolol that's the best story with the train and the lobby pillows...haha, bless his heart!
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Post by ceepea on Nov 11, 2014 2:47:44 GMT
I don't really have one, but we had one of those gift exchanges at work where you can steal others gifts. The dollar limit was only 5.00 so the gifts had to be kind of fun. There were hot chocolate sets, mugs, candles, gloves....and a piece of wood. It was so strange and everyone was trying to get rid of it, but it was getting kind of uncomfortable, so my male supervisor took it. He was the only male on our whole team too. He looked so hysterically funny sitting there in his chair with a piece of wood in his lap. We all laughed until we cried, even the person who brought in the wood. It was supposed to be a yule log, but everyone kept yelling out "look Jamie's got wood!".
That image of him still makes me laugh.
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Post by k8smom on Nov 11, 2014 4:11:02 GMT
I received a big blue plastic Dollar Store type bowl at my daughter's baby shower, and I could never figure the thought behind it. I've used that bowl a gazillion times over the years and it always makes me smile and think of the gifter, a woman at my ex's work. 
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Post by craftsbycarolyn on Nov 11, 2014 4:13:11 GMT
I have never received a used item before and I can't believe the people that have.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 11, 2014 5:03:39 GMT
Back to the topic, my grandma used to get so many freebies in the mail. Every Christmas she would have a "grab bag". It was trashy romance novels, things for the kitchen, ugly socks (think things from the Lilian Vernon catalog). It was HYSTERICAL! We would play along and pretend fight over the stuff. Lillan Vernon? You struck the jackpot! That stuff is designer compared to the wondrous goodies from Harriet Carter where my MIL used to shop for our gifts!  It might have been Harriet Carter too. Lilian Vernon was the first name that came to mind. 
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Post by Deleted on Nov 11, 2014 5:06:59 GMT
As Grampy got older, it got worse. I kept trying to tell my mother that he had dementia and shouldn't be living alone, but she was in denial. He lived in an over 55 community and they decorated the lobby with this great electric train that went around the Christmas tree. It even puffed smoke out of its smokestack. We went to pick Grampy up for Christmas and there was a sign stating the train was missing. Who would steal their train? we wondered. Sure enough, my nephew opened the train! And he loved it. Of course, we had to bring it back. Grampy gave the ladies the decorative throw pillows off the lobby couches. He's in a nursing home now and keeps trying to give us the chairs form his room whenever we visit! Ha! My grandpa did that with washcloths. Except he knew what he was doing! Figured it was his right since he lived there!
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Post by alittleintrepid on Nov 12, 2014 2:49:51 GMT
I got lovely perfume one year..... I turned it over to find a "tester" sticker on the bottom. It was in a box so I don't think it was stolen but do wonder!
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Post by 4cliffdwellers on Nov 12, 2014 3:40:43 GMT
DH's aunt is notorious for gifting old things that have been laying around her house for years. Those stuck in my memory are the red and yellow birdhouse, the snowman candles that were dirty and had been lit and all the toys that my boys have opened through the years that her son has outgrown. She doesn't even clean them to make them look decent.
At his extended family's Christmas exchange, it seems there are very few of us who actually spend the $20 for an exchange gift. Last year, there were 2 big stockings filled with cheap candy, both were separate but I don't think they were $10 total. I realize that sometimes people can't afford it, but you can opt out, or ask for the amount to be changed to something more manageable. I'd rather get one nice $5 gift than some of the stuff that gets put in. If it's used, it should be clean. Pretty please.
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Post by tracyarts on Nov 12, 2014 4:14:24 GMT
I got lovely perfume one year..... I turned it over to find a "tester" sticker on the bottom. It was in a box so I don't think it was stolen but do wonder! You can buy testers from liquidators online. They're not stolen, they just never got used in the stores. You can find a lot of them on Ebay. Especially with discontinued fragrances.
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Post by alittleintrepid on Nov 12, 2014 4:19:22 GMT
I got lovely perfume one year..... I turned it over to find a "tester" sticker on the bottom. It was in a box so I don't think it was stolen but do wonder! You can buy testers from liquidators online. They're not stolen, they just never got used in the stores. You can find a lot of them on Ebay. Especially with discontinued fragrances. I suspect it may have come from the flea market but your post makes sense as the flea market likely has a similar source for their goods!
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Post by kimmie75 on Nov 13, 2014 22:28:16 GMT
Almost all the stuff that XMIL gave me. She sold Avon. So for 15 years I got 9 million things from Avon every Christmas. Avon has some nice stuff, but every single thing she gave me was from there. I had enough Skin So Soft to supply the entire East Coast. There is only so many tacky figurines one can stuff in a single home. Her family was even worse. One year her sister gave my ex (her nephew) wrapped up jelly from the restaurant she worked at. And yes, they had plenty of money to spend hundreds on booze that holiday. A nice card with a photo would have been much appreciated.
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Post by The Great Carpezio on Nov 14, 2014 0:14:15 GMT
My MIL has sold Tupperware for years, so she gives good stuff;however, she has given some doozies over the years. She loves to garage sale, but she tries.
The best gift, however, was from her little old lady neighbor. At my bridal shower, I received a green plastic doily with a cigarette burn in it. Awesomeness.
My grandma also gave some interesting gifts. One of the best was the first time my DH (boyfriend at the time) cam to the family Christmas. She gave all the boys (DH included) gold lamé boxer shorts. More awesomeness.
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Post by smokey2471 on Nov 14, 2014 1:06:34 GMT
I mistakenly said one time while visiting my exDh's grandmother (while petting her cat) that I loved cats. Bless her heart for the next 10 years (until she died) I got cat figurines, sweatshirts, pictures from her. I meant I love real cats in that I prefer cats to dogs etc. I didn't want all that cat stuff. I kept the last figurine she gave me for sentimental value. Thankfully she lived far away and never visited. I did keep a lot of it in a box for a while incase she ever visited. I would never want to hurt feelings. I guess since she didn't know me very well that that was her go to gift. I'm happy she thought of me. My favorite was the cat sweatsuit that had matching pants. Cats on both. I slept in them for a couple years..I'd forgotten about them until now... I've never gotten a used gift but my best friends MIL gave her son pink pants when he turned 7. She said boys wear pink...best friend was like yea boys wear pink shirts (2004) not hot pink pants that were clearly used and for girls. She was a mean wiman...her sisters children got games for their. Xbox.
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Post by megs78 on Nov 14, 2014 1:44:31 GMT
My grandmother gave me a rabbit figurine one year...which was lovely, except that my hobby as a child was collecting mouse figurines. When my Dad pointed out that it was a rabbit, my grandmother said it looked enough like a mouse not to matter so she got it because it was the one on sale. And it was on sale - from the two dollar shop.
I wish I'd kept it now because I laugh each time I think about it, but alas, it went out to the bin years ago.
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Post by librarylady on Nov 14, 2014 1:47:46 GMT
My DIL constantly gives me religious things that don't match my theology. Some I use, some go to the resale shop.
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Post by alibama on Nov 14, 2014 20:58:11 GMT
My ex SIL was so excited one Christmas. She sat down on the floor and pulled out this black trash bag, she gaves us all a number and told us to pick which USED VHS we wanted out of the bag. They were plain black tapes, no boxes no nothing and the majority of them where rated R and there was a roomful of kids. She was so proud of herself!
Not surprising that is the same year she brought Cherry pie for Christmas dinner and didn't put sugar in it to save money.
Same women that every year would put her two girls on the angel tree at church. Yes they didn't have a lot of money but her girls got everything they ever wanted or needed from their grandparents and their aunt and uncle. Always made me so angry.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Nov 15, 2014 14:38:13 GMT
My ex SIL was so excited one Christmas. She sat down on the floor and pulled out this black trash bag, she gaves us all a number and told us to pick which USED VHS we wanted out of the bag. They were plain black tapes, no boxes no nothing and the majority of them where rated R and there was a roomful of kids. She was so proud of herself! This reminds me of a few years ago when SIL was getting ready to move. She gathered up a bunch of ratty stuffed animals her kids didn't want anymore and put them all into a big Rubbermaid tote. While it wasn't a Christmas gift per se, she did haul it out when we had our mandatory holiday get together and told DD, "I have an extra surprise for you! You can take home as many of these as you want!" I was NOT amused because at the time we were purging our own household and house hunting ourselves, and I sure didn't need to drag a bag full of her dirty, worn out junk to MY house, LOL! It wouldn't have been so bad if the stuff was at least clean, but her kids were/are still thumb suckers (8 and 10 at the time) and were constantly sick, so I know the stuff was germy and gross! Even at 2.5 years old, DD kind of looked at me as if to say, "Do I HAVE to?"  She picked out the cleanest looking thing--which promptly went into the washer the minute we got home! Another time she gave DD a used fabric trick or treat bag. The handle was completely torn off. Again, thanks so much for letting us throw away your garbage for you... I just don't get it.
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Post by jennrs on Nov 15, 2014 15:03:33 GMT
My mother often gave us some not so great things we couldn't use or didn't need, as she got older. She gave me a lot of plastic flower arrangements that I would put in the donation pile. Most things were for my daughter, who is now 19. She would give her lots of dusty knick-knacks she found on the free table at her assisted living building. Sometimes it was hotel shampoos and lotions, plastic rings, scarves, once a post card she cut up like a puzzle.
She passed away over four years ago and I can't tell you how many times we have come across those items my daughter has stashed around her room. She will never use them but she kept them and they remind us of her every time we see them and give us a little chuckle.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Nov 15, 2014 17:12:17 GMT
My ex-flatmate used to give me silver jewellery every birthday. Or scarves in aquas and pinks. I'm an autumn girl who doesn't wear silver - haven't since before I met her. She knew this (she was matron of honour at my wedding 15 years ago, and colours and jewellery were all discussed in great detail then), but she obviously forgot, and too much time had gone by to remind her. It worked out quite well because my BFF DOES wear silver, aquas and pinks, and a few times I gave those (unopened) gifts to give to her on her birthday a few weeks after mine. She loved them, and wore them, and doesn't see my ex-flatmate, and often forgets my birthday so I don't have conscience pangs at all. LOL Last year when I was out of work and we had no spare money, we came to an agreement with my ex-flatmate and her husband that we all would meet up for meals and take it in turns to pay rather than getting each other gifts. End of problem - phew! But I had to chuckle inwardly when she said that she understood where we were coming from, but that was a shame because I was "so easy to buy for". 
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Post by pastlifepea on Nov 15, 2014 17:48:53 GMT
Great thread...some of these are hysterical and the mention of the Lillian Vernon catalogs brought back memories. I also remember the Fingerhut catalogs for random junk.
My best bad gift story is not about me but some family members. My mother in law was visiting us in Georgia and one Saturday we went with she and my sister in law to a big flea market. DH and I split up from them for awhile and were on our own browsing the booths. We came to one that sold large decorative clocks that lit up and had various holographic religious images as the clock face. They were hideous and we both said to each other, "Who would buy this???". When we later met up with mother and sister in law, mother in law was so excited and said, "Look at this great Christmas gift I got for D & J (another brother and sister in law) and proudly pulled out one of the hideous Jesus clocks. Mother in law is not religious at all but told us it was perfect because, "They like Jesus." We had a terrible time remaining poker faced for that exchange.
Fast forward about 6 months and we are visitng DH's family up North and sent to D & J's to pick something up or check on their place as they were out of town. We did a bit of snooping around the house, not opening cabinets or anything really creepy, but just wanted to see if that Jesus clock was on display somewhere in their home. It was not.
Fast forward another 12 years and my parents are showing me a gift the neighbors bought them and it is, yes, you guessed it, a hideous light up holographic Jesus clock. My dad sent it off to a good friend of his that he has had a Christmas gift joke going with for the last 15 years or so.
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Post by Susie_Homemaker on Nov 15, 2014 17:55:28 GMT
I love these threads bec I don't really have any bad gift givers in my life and it's fascinating to see just how bad some people can be at it.  The only thing that comes to mind is DHs grandmother. She gave us some not so great things, like a hotdog microwave cooker or some random items she painted on. If it didn't move out of her way she'd paint on it. Other than that I've been given some "missed the mark" gifts like clothes that don't fit or jewelry that's not my style but never a trash bag full of used VHS tapes or nasty used items or some of the other wonderful things in this thread.
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Post by MissChris on Nov 15, 2014 22:46:25 GMT
My MIL, who is super Catholic, would always burn saint candles. You know, those tall glass jars with various saints printed on them? Well, after she would burn the candle, she would wash them and save them. I had no idea why she did this, until I received a set of 12 of them for Christmas one year. She thought they would make great drinking glasses. Ummm, no! Then one year, she gave me a used, unclean sweatshirt. It was faded black, tattered around the neckline, and best of all, had deodorant stains on the sides. Oh yeah, and it wasn't even my size. That one didn't even make it into the donation pile....it went straight into the garbage.
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