RosieKat
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Post by RosieKat on Jan 13, 2021 21:13:10 GMT
I am so sick of my family complaining multiple times every effing day that there is nothing good to eat. We have an Alexa and that's how I keep the shopping list. There is an Alexa in both kids' bedrooms and within ear's reach of almost every other room in the house. I tell them to put what they want on the list and I will probably get it. They don't put anything on the list, then get all upset when I come back from the grocery store (like just now) without any of the things that they didn't put on the list. And then the *itching and moaning commences right away, since I'm generally only going every 2 weeks with Covid being really high in our area. I should have known to put the refrigerator peanut butter on the list (though I don't know why since not only do I not eat that kind, I don't like peanut butter) and I should have known that they wanted the other kind of hot dog buns (which again, I don't eat hot dogs except once every few months). It's not so much DH (although he's still a little unclear why I can't just add on to an order I already placed), it's the kids, who are 12 and almost 15, so perfectly capable of saying "Alexa, put refrigerated peanut butter on my shopping list."
And I just discovered the compressor or fan or some part of the blowy air heating/cooling system in my car is not working, so yay!
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Post by peasquared on Jan 13, 2021 21:19:30 GMT
I say that nearly everyday. And, I'm the one who grocery shops.  I'm sorry though, I completely validate you! |
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RosieKat
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Post by RosieKat on Jan 13, 2021 21:23:24 GMT
And, I'm the one who grocery shops. Well, yeah, there IS that...like when I really wish I'd have bought cookies even though I am trying to eat better... |
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Post by sam9 on Jan 13, 2021 21:27:00 GMT
So sorry, food is a huge problem here also, with no one giving the chef any ideas but plenty of complaining. My oldest DS even had the nerve to complain about my mom yesterday, asking me why she hadn’t brought over any of his favourite meals lately. 🙄 I’ve offered to make them for him, but he just glares at me. Apparently my versions are highly inferior.
My fluff vent? I’m pretty sure I didn’t put enough salt in the large batch of meatballs I just made for the freezer.
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Post by christine58 on Jan 13, 2021 21:42:57 GMT
What is refrigerated peanut butter?
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Post by scrapbookwriter on Jan 13, 2021 21:48:08 GMT
I completely validate you!
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Post by Elsabelle on Jan 13, 2021 21:48:51 GMT
My vent is about my family complaining that there are no “snacks”. Their idea of snacks is junk food and I’m not going to buy a bunch of junk food. A little for the weekend is fine but I’m not going to buy a daily supply of junk because I want you people to live and be healthy.
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Post by Really Red on Jan 13, 2021 22:09:09 GMT
What is refrigerated peanut butter? Okay. I'm going out on a limb here, but I think - THINK - it's peanut butter that needs to go in a fridge. Hah. Usually that is natural peanut butter. |
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Post by christine58 on Jan 13, 2021 22:18:59 GMT
What is refrigerated peanut butter? Okay. I'm going out on a limb here, but I think - THINK - it's peanut butter that needs to go in a fridge. Hah. Usually that is natural peanut butter. Yeah I figured but just never heard of it referred to that way |
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Post by kkrenn on Jan 13, 2021 23:14:34 GMT
My vent:
I got an amazing deal on ground beef but it was in a huge pack over 5lbs. I need to break it down and food saver it for the freezer but I don't wanna. (stomps feet like a toddler who didn't get a cookie)
It's a lot of work and my dh offers to help but my stupid OCD won't like the way he does it and I will just redo it anyway.
Pouting as I get off the computer to go be an adult.
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Post by dawnnikol on Jan 13, 2021 23:27:12 GMT
You can sit next to me.
I am the one who makes all the lists and orders. I am the one who gets the complaints when we don't have such and such. However, I always ask leading up to placing the order if anyone needs/wants anything. *Crickets*
DH had the nerve, the nerve, to complain that I was buying too many groceries as he was helping me put them away. I said "okay."
Do you know what he said to me not 3 hours later when it was lunch time? "Why don't we have any food?"
I gave him my "Are you fucking kidding me" face and left the room.
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Post by hop2 on Jan 13, 2021 23:45:43 GMT
Once when they were little my DD threatened to call child welfare services on me because we didn’t have ‘ANY’ food. I was ‘starving’ them.
I handed her the phone while I pointed to the just filled refrigerator that I had stocked with a shopping Trip that very morning. We had fruits veggies, baby carrots, mini cheeses, like tons of snack foods in addition to the stuff for that weeks meals. Not even counting the very full pantry. Just didn’t have whatever thing it was she wanted.
I was like here let me dial for you....
She stomped off to her room.
I recently brought this up to her and she has no memory of it.
OP, I guess it’s a universal theme.
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Post by craftedbys on Jan 14, 2021 0:38:59 GMT
Sounds like you need to have a Come To Jesus meeting with the family. Make them an active participant in the planning, Alexa is too passive.
I solved the issue of complaints by having a weekly family meeting where we planned meals for the upcoming week and put together a shopping list. It was their chance to speak up and say what they wanted to eat or what they knew we were out of and if they forgot, it was on them.
I would say we need ideas for X number or meals and and didn't necessarily assign that meal to a certain day, but would just plan that many meals. Then we would check to see what we had on hand or what we needed.
Also, while I was sitting at the table I would have the kids up and checking on things like the level of dishwasher or laundry detergent or sugar/butter/other staples etc. That was also the time they could speak up about any snacks, toiletries, etc.
Hope you can put an end to the complaining. Good luck!
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Post by smcast on Jan 14, 2021 0:51:09 GMT
🤣 Sounds about right. Life of a mother.
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Post by scrappinwithoutpeas on Jan 14, 2021 2:20:03 GMT
Sounds like you need to have a Come To Jesus meeting with the family. Make them an active participant in the planning, Alexa is too passive. I solved the issue of complaints by having a weekly family meeting where we planned meals for the upcoming week and put together a shopping list. It was their chance to speak up and say what they wanted to eat or what they knew we were out of and if they forgot, it was on them. I would say we need ideas for X number or meals and and didn't necessarily assign that meal to a certain day, but would just plan that many meals. Then we would check to see what we had on hand or what we needed. Also, while I was sitting at the table I would have the kids up and checking on things like the level of dishwasher or laundry detergent or sugar/butter/other staples etc. That was also the time they could speak up about any snacks, toiletries, etc. Hope you can put an end to the complaining. Good luck!  This is exactly how we've made it through the last....<checks calendar>...9 months. But my kids are older (adult kids living at home during covid) and one moved out in October. Now she only has herself to blame if she has nothing to eat, LOL. And she moved across the country so I can't rescue her with surprise groceries. |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 14, 2021 2:32:52 GMT
I have a different problem. While I can get feedback for food, I rarely ever but anything *I* want because nothing sounds good. Then I'm hungry and want a snack and there's nothing to eat! Despite the full fridge and cupboard.
The problem I have is that the boys (DH and sons) like different stuff than I do but will eat the stuff I want.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jan 14, 2021 2:45:22 GMT
My DH is pretty good about putting stuff we’re running out of on our shared Anylist lists on our phones. The thing that chaps me is when DD will put what is essentially an empty container of something back in the fridge and then NOT say anything about needing more. And it’s almost always something like the 3 LB container of sour cream that she mostly eats with her potato chips, so when we’re out WE’RE OUT. My other beef is that apparently I’m the only one capable of putting dirty dishes in the dishwasher. The dishwasher can be totally empty and the sink will be full of slimy gross dishes and silverware. Seriously people? Is it really that much work to pull open that door and put them INSIDE?  |
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Post by femalebusiness on Jan 14, 2021 2:47:01 GMT
My vent: I got an amazing deal on ground beef but it was in a huge pack over 5lbs. I need to break it down and food saver it for the freezer but I don't wanna. (stomps feet like a toddler who didn't get a cookie) It's a lot of work and my dh offers to help but my stupid OCD won't like the way he does it and I will just redo it anyway. Pouting as I get off the computer to go be an adult. One ziplock sandwich bag holds one pound of hamburger. Takes about five minutes to bag up five pounds of hamburger for the freezer. |
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Post by muggins on Jan 14, 2021 12:47:27 GMT
My vent: I got an amazing deal on ground beef but it was in a huge pack over 5lbs. I need to break it down and food saver it for the freezer but I don't wanna. (stomps feet like a toddler who didn't get a cookie) It's a lot of work and my dh offers to help but my stupid OCD won't like the way he does it and I will just redo it anyway. Pouting as I get off the computer to go be an adult. One ziplock sandwich bag holds one pound of hamburger. Takes about five minutes to bag up five pounds of hamburger for the freezer. That’s how I divide my Costco ground beef, then I flatten the bag so they stack better in the freezer. I also have the same problem with DH and DS. No matter how many times I ask them what they like, they leave it to me. So whenever they complain, I just shrug and say ‘tell Alexa what you want’. |
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Post by mikklynn on Jan 14, 2021 12:50:51 GMT
You can sit next to me. I am the one who makes all the lists and orders. I am the one who gets the complaints when we don't have such and such. However, I always ask leading up to placing the order if anyone needs/wants anything. *Crickets* DH had the nerve, the nerve, to complain that I was buying too many groceries as he was helping me put them away. I said "okay." Do you know what he said to me not 3 hours later when it was lunch time? "Why don't we have any food?" I gave him my "Are you fucking kidding me" face and left the room. How is he not sporting a black eye? Kidding, but sheesh. |
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Post by dawnnikol on Jan 14, 2021 12:59:29 GMT
How is he not sporting a black eye? Kidding, but sheesh. That's why I left the room. ^.^ |
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Jan 14, 2021 14:16:36 GMT
My vent: I got an amazing deal on ground beef but it was in a huge pack over 5lbs. I need to break it down and food saver it for the freezer but I don't wanna. (stomps feet like a toddler who didn't get a cookie) It's a lot of work and my dh offers to help but my stupid OCD won't like the way he does it and I will just redo it anyway. Pouting as I get off the computer to go be an adult. I feel your pain...but with chicken! Lol I bought about 20 lbs of chicken—tenders, breasts, thighs that needed to be put into assorted marinades and vacuum packed and into freezer. So...I finally stomped and whined and caved in to get it done the night before last at 10 pm!! But it’s done and I won’t have to do it again for 2-3 weeks, lol, |
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Post by femalebusiness on Jan 14, 2021 16:42:15 GMT
One ziplock sandwich bag holds one pound of hamburger. Takes about five minutes to bag up five pounds of hamburger for the freezer. That’s how I divide my Costco ground beef, then I flatten the bag so they stack better in the freezer. I also have the same problem with DH and DS. No matter how many times I ask them what they like, they leave it to me. So whenever they complain, I just shrug and say ‘tell Alexa what you want’. Yes! They stack so well when stored that way. |
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Post by 950nancy on Jan 14, 2021 17:06:34 GMT
I order Hello Fresh for three evening meals a week. My husband works two nights a week and we go out (takeout now) or have leftovers the other two days. He does the grocery shopping. He tells me about 30 minutes before he goes to put whatever I want on the list. If I don't, I have to go get it or just suck it up. Tell your family nothing is going to change. THEY have to tell you and you won't read their minds. Too bad so sad. Every time they whine, remind them it is their own fault. Do it every single time. Don't let their failure to perform affect you. It is an adult skill they are going to have to learn anyway.
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RosieKat
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Post by RosieKat on Jan 14, 2021 17:35:34 GMT
What is refrigerated peanut butter? Yeah, like Really Red said, it's a natural peanut butter. We can never remember the name so we just call it the refrigerated peanut butter to differentiate from the regular stuff. My vent is about my family complaining that there are no “snacks”. Their idea of snacks is junk food and I’m not going to buy a bunch of junk food. A little for the weekend is fine but I’m not going to buy a daily supply of junk because I want you people to live and be healthy. YES! I got an amazing deal on ground beef but it was in a huge pack over 5lbs. I need to break it down and food saver it for the freezer but I don't wanna. Oh, I feel that pain. I know it takes all of 5 minutes and then it's done and you saved money and all that...but I hate doing it. Thankfully we just have a regular freezer, nothing extra, so I don't do much bulk-type buying. DH had the nerve, the nerve, to complain that I was buying too many groceries as he was helping me put them away. I said "okay." Do you know what he said to me not 3 hours later when it was lunch time? "Why don't we have any food?" I gave him my "Are you fucking kidding me" face and left the room. Give the lady a medal! I'm so impressed you didn't kill him then and there! Every time they whine, remind them it is their own fault. Do it every single time. Don't worry, I do. I go so far as to point out that in the very room where they are complaining, there is an Alexa and they could put it on the shopping list right then. Dinners aren't usually an issue, and I don't mind taking most of that responsibility. It's the breakfast, lunch, and snack foods that are the issue. Since we don't do planned meals for those, it's everybody fix your own whatever. They just get annoyed that they ran out of that whatever and I wasn't psychic. Too bad, so sad. DD is planning a mini slumber party for her upcoming birthday (just her and her 2 "pod" friends, it's Covid-reasonable) and she has all kinds of ideas for food. I told her I'd do whatever she wanted within reason, but that she had to give me a full plan and do a grocery list with me no later than one week before. If she doesn't, then of course I'll feed them, but it won't be anything overly special. |
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Post by 950nancy on Jan 14, 2021 19:11:35 GMT
Every time they whine, remind them it is their own fault. Do it every single time. Don't worry, I do. I go so far as to point out that in the very room where they are complaining, there is an Alexa and they could put it on the shopping list right then. Dinners aren't usually an issue, and I don't mind taking most of that responsibility. It's the breakfast, lunch, and snack foods that are the issue. Since we don't do planned meals for those, it's everybody fix your own whatever. They just get annoyed that they ran out of that whatever and I wasn't psychic. Too bad, so sad. DD is planning a mini slumber party for her upcoming birthday (just her and her 2 "pod" friends, it's Covid-reasonable) and she has all kinds of ideas for food. I told her I'd do whatever she wanted within reason, but that she had to give me a full plan and do a grocery list with me no later than one week before. If she doesn't, then of course I'll feed them, but it won't be anything overly special. My sons lived with us while they went to college, work, and saved for a house. They would come upstairs at 5 pm and chirp like little baby birds waiting for dinner. (I also have a dog that throws her food bowl at me every day.) It drove me crazy (not the dog, she's adorable). My family (all male but me) could do everything in the house for cleaning, laundry etc, but they could not get it together to learn how to cook beyond a few simple things or plan ahead. Now that they are in their own houses, it does my heart good to hear that they are finally learning how manage mealtimes. For Christmas they both asked for kitchen appliances. I was also really bad when I lived at home, so I understand it, but hated being on the mom side of it. Can you tell Alexa to remind your kids maybe 6 times a day to remember to put things on the grocery list? That should annoy them. |
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This is exactly how we've made it through the last....<checks calendar>...9 months. But my kids are older (adult kids living at home during covid) and one moved out in October. Now she only has herself to blame if she has nothing to eat, LOL. And she moved across the country so I can't rescue her with surprise groceries.
