oaksong
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Jun 27, 2014 6:24:29 GMT
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Post by oaksong on Nov 11, 2014 22:57:25 GMT
Elaynef, I'm so sorry about your grandson. The holidays must be so difficult.
Our family has been through so much drama and trauma together that we're just over it. Those of us who "get it" laugh together at our dysfunction, and those who don't get it, get laughed at (although we try to be kind). I love my crazy family, and look forward to the entertainment that the holiday provides.
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scorpeao
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Jun 25, 2014 21:04:54 GMT
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Post by scorpeao on Nov 11, 2014 23:06:50 GMT
Oh mine has already surfaced. My raging alcoholic mother is in town. She lives in Germany with her husband. My mother hates the world and herself. My boyfriend and I took her out to dinner. She got drunk, announced she was a racist (in a Korean restaurant) and asked the waiter if they have any of that Asian alcohol. If I was ever going to get a ring (we've been together 9 years) it's probably not happening now.
Last night she claimed she was a victim in a DUI she got 3 years ago. When I to,d her she wasn't a victim she said "ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME?" And hung up. I'm sure she's bad mouthing me to any family member that will listen.
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peabay
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Jun 25, 2014 19:50:41 GMT
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Post by peabay on Nov 11, 2014 23:16:21 GMT
No one ever surprises me (except when they behave well), but my sister, for some reason, is always shocked by the behavior that has been shown for 50 years. I just don't understand how she doesn't expect certain things to happen when they've happened for our entire lives. I'm with you, I'm never surprised, it's going to happen. My family is my family and I love them and never expect behaviors other then they have always had. I'm glad my dysfunctional family gets together for holidays. Even with all our issues, they are my family and I love them  Yes they can drive me crazy, but a lot of that has gotten better as I've changed my outlook and expectations. I don't expect them to be anyone other than who they are and who they have always been. ITA. I come from a pretty easy family but we have our few "outliers." And I have zero expectations of them and things have gotten so much better since I just accepted that. |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 11, 2014 23:19:42 GMT
No drama here unless somebody breaks one of my glasses!
I have a small group I host every year but this year I just don't want to deal with them. So I am leaning toward just a small dinner and then invite people for dessert? Sounds good to me?
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caro
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Post by caro on Nov 11, 2014 23:24:40 GMT
We're basically a drama free family. Yes that, even with my brother. He usually behaves on the holiday. Itself. |
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Post by christine58 on Nov 11, 2014 23:43:26 GMT
Us too....no drama here whatsoever. |
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Post by christine58 on Nov 11, 2014 23:44:52 GMT
elayner i think that its just awesome that you're all going to make the trip, enjoy and much love to you all!  |
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Post by molove on Nov 12, 2014 0:40:44 GMT
Scorpeao--holy moley! That's really nuts! Sorry. I know several people that have moms like that. It's extra hard, cuz it's YOUR MOM. I hope your boyfriend can make the distinction between her and you. You've spent enough time together that he knows the real you. Your post just made me  |
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Post by sisterbdsq on Nov 12, 2014 5:24:56 GMT
We have some FRESH, NEW trauma to deal with this year, layered in with the decades-old crap. My dad left his wife about a month ago. They had been together for 31 years. The holidays are going to be interesting. |
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Post by BuddyJovieMom on Nov 12, 2014 19:45:21 GMT
I can live with the drama. I'll just be glad to have my dd home from college for a month. Best gift ever!
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flopsykitty
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Jun 26, 2014 18:08:12 GMT
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Post by flopsykitty on Nov 12, 2014 20:06:41 GMT
No drama for us since we went no contact with DH's side of the family 2 years ago. My side is all over the country, so it will be just the two us and we'll FaceTime with my family later in the day.
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Post by polz on Nov 12, 2014 20:12:21 GMT
My Mum lives in denial. She always cries when people don't meet her expectations. I really don't know why she is surprised when people behave exactly how we knew they would. We always have drama when all of us are together.
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Post by melanell on Nov 12, 2014 21:26:47 GMT
2 people in my family who have not been getting along at all actually patched things up between them in prep for the holidays coming up. So occasionally the holidays can bring out the better side of people. Now, that doesn't mean that I'm not already expecting the annual forms of drama that traditionally happen in regards to certain aspects of the holidays. Somethings you just know are going to happen so you do your best to make them manageable. And in those cases, I can at least be thankful that those causing the drama are so completely predictable about it. It makes it so much easier to work around that way.  |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 12, 2014 21:35:20 GMT
is going to rear its ugly head over the next 6 weeks, right? I'm always sad and surprised at the level folks feel somewhat surprised. Betrayed. Ticked. Tickled. Because you don't think they could get any more stupid, ignorant, homophobic, ....... That's just one side; my family is normal.  |
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