tracylynn
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Post by tracylynn on Jan 19, 2021 22:50:52 GMT
I agree, Police AND HR. HR needs to know.
Also, if they are texting his phone, block the number.
If they are messaging via FB, you can prevent non-friends from messaging you/finding you. Same with IG.
He can block this guy out.
But for sure, call the Police, file a report and get a retraining order if necessary.
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Post by maryland on Jan 19, 2021 23:41:12 GMT
Call the police immediately!
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Post by newfcathy on Jan 20, 2021 4:55:01 GMT
One of my nieces has suffered through this. It started while she was in hs, and went on for a year or so before she told her parents. Her stalker is unknown & and the state police have tried unsuccessfully to track the perp for years. She has changed her phone/phone number/ email so many times.
It is so demoralizing. Thanks goodness that your ds has told you.
I hope that the police can help.
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Post by freecharlie on Jan 20, 2021 5:16:45 GMT
Police, talk to HR, try to get a restraining order.
If the messages are texts and the Police don't help, change #s. If they are coming through fb. Block and report. Then maybe shut down fb for a while.
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Post by Legacy Girl on Jan 20, 2021 7:03:45 GMT
Oh my goodness! What every Pea has said. Please contact the police. If they can't do anything, find a lawyer you know. I am sure a friend who is a lawyer will write a cease and desist letter for your son. They are pretty standard. The police, plus a lawyer may scare that idiot. As the daughter of an attorney, this is exactly what I was going to suggest. It's amazing what a letter on a lawyer's letterhead can do in some cases. I will be praying protection for your son and peace of mind for all of you. I'm so sorry you're going through this.
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Post by scrapbookwriter on Jan 20, 2021 19:22:36 GMT
Thank you, my friends. My son filed an online police report this morning. I've also offered to pay an attorney to write a cease-and-desist letter. He wants to wait for a response from the police before contacting an attorney.
He has also reported the harassment to HR and provided screenshots of the messages. The harasser is on a do-not-rehire list.
The messages are coming through Facebook Messenger and going straight to Spam. My son is very worried that the harassment will escalate.
I'll keep you updated.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 21, 2021 6:02:51 GMT
He needs to block him if he hasn’t already. Not just unfriend him. Block him.
After he’s blocked, have your son change his profile name. He can change it to First Name Middle Name or Middle Name Last Name or Nickname or something.
But then he also needs to change his Facebook url. If it points to Facebook.com/scrapbookwritersds then he needs to change that last part to something else so the dude can’t just type in the url under a new profile.
He also needs to make it so he can’t be messaged by non friends, and so his friend list isn’t visible.
Also make sure he has the options to show up in google and to search by phone number turned off.
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Post by Marina on Jan 21, 2021 7:22:23 GMT
I’m glad you got all this good advice and do have him change his settings that only friends or possibly friends of friends (as long as he is not one) can contact him.
I also just say big hugs to you as I know as a Mom how this would hurt my heart. And please tell your son the 2peas are behind him.
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Post by peasapie on Jan 21, 2021 11:04:12 GMT
In addition to the excellent advice above, report to FBI. To report cyberstalking call 1-800-CALL-FBI, or www.fbi.gov/tips. Every tip sent to the FBI is looked at by an agent, and the FBI or local authorities can't get involved unless a complaint is on file.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 21, 2021 11:30:11 GMT
Wow, this is all such good info. I feel lucky this hasn't happened to me and sorry some of you had to learn about managing it.
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Post by calgaryscrapper on Jan 21, 2021 18:43:13 GMT
If messages are coming through Facebook Messenger maybe you can bring it to Facebook’s attention
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Post by cecilia on Jan 21, 2021 18:57:23 GMT
Call the police! He should save the texts/messages. This. And emails/social media posts if there are any.
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Post by scrapbookwriter on Jan 21, 2021 20:10:32 GMT
Update in OP
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Post by Deleted on Jan 21, 2021 20:50:56 GMT
If the messages contained threats, I’m really surprised that the responding police officer is encouraging any type of communication. Can you go with your son to your local police department with printouts in hand for a second opinion? Also, since work was initially involved with their interaction as employees, I’d inquire as to what additional resources they can provide to help other than simply putting that individual on a do not hire list.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Jan 21, 2021 22:07:45 GMT
I am not an American as you know, but he needs a weapon. This is bullshit. And I am anti-gun but I have been stalked before.
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