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Post by Really Red on May 13, 2021 13:58:33 GMT
Iβve always felt that tricking someone into thinking you forgot their special day is manipulative and even a little demeaning. Iβm not a fan of surprise parties either. I know not everybody feels that way, and I do agree sometimes a surprise can be nice, but not if firstyou make the person miserable, or they have said they donβt like surprises. I completely agree with this. I see it a lot with surprise parties. Those close to the birthday person will go about the day like itβs been forgotten, all the while excited for the surprise party that most likely will be later in the day. In the meantime, the birthday person feels forgotten. If youβre going to have a surprise party, at least acknowledge the birthday person during the day! OP, I hope that your day turned out well. Itβs hard when we feel like we are unseen and not heard. I agree with all of this. teach4u I hope you had a good day any way. I was sorry to see that you felt like you were the ass. That is EXACTLY why your DH shouldn't have done what he did. He KNEW you were upset - why perpetrate the lie that nothing was special. For those of you who think you are not your DH's mother... I *did* say something to my DH years ago when our kid was small and Motherβs Day was coming up. He made some crack about me not being his mom so why should he do anything for me? I said, βOur child is looking to us to teach her what is important and how to treat the people we love in our lives. If WE donβt show her, how is she supposed to learn? We do that by backing each other up, teaching her how we care for and honor each other and how we show each other respect.β It was like a light bulb turned on because he really never thought of it that way. His parentβs were pretty dysfunctional and there wasnβt a lot of mutual respect in their relationship. It shouldnβt have been a surprise to me that it wasnβt something he would have picked up naturally by watching their model of marriage and parenting. My parents were the exact opposite, so to me it was something ingrained from early childhood. I love what crazy4scraps said to her husband. And love that he listened to her. That's the way adults behave. <3
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Post by Skellinton on May 13, 2021 14:04:40 GMT
I see the green on my Mac. Never on the phone or iPad tho. I see it on my iPad.
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Post by Skellinton on May 13, 2021 14:06:29 GMT
When you scroll down the thread, the OP's posts are highlighted in a light green. I don't have that happeningΒ Β Is it an option maybe? I am vaguely remembering this now...was it the background of subsequent posts or at the side where their avatar is? It's not happening on my Mac - is that why maybe? The entire block by the OP will be green. Their original post and their subsequent posts.
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Post by gar on May 13, 2021 14:19:14 GMT
I don't have that happeningΒ Β Is it an option maybe? I am vaguely remembering this now...was it the background of subsequent posts or at the side where their avatar is? It's not happening on my Mac - is that why maybe? The entire block by the OP will be green. Their original post and their subsequent posts. I do seem to vaguely remember that...weird that itβs not happening now though π€
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Post by tamiq on May 13, 2021 15:08:41 GMT
The entire block by the OP will be green. Their original post and their subsequent posts. I do seem to vaguely remember that...weird that itβs not happening now though π€ You have to be using the forum default under Forum Theme in your settings I think.
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Post by gar on May 13, 2021 16:23:31 GMT
I do seem to vaguely remember that...weird that itβs not happening now though π€ You have to be using the forum default under Forum Theme in your settings I think. You're absolutely right, thank you But I've grown so used to having the Pea green setting that this looks weird so I'm going to revert and just carry on reading/skimming threads to see if the OP updates
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Post by JoP on May 13, 2021 16:39:40 GMT
You have to be using the forum default under Forum Theme in your settings I think. You're absolutely right, thank you But I've grown so used to having the Pea green setting that this looks weird so I'm going to revert and just carry on reading/skimming threads to see if the OP updates gar - persevere for a couple of days - you will love it - well I do π
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Post by gar on May 13, 2021 16:55:57 GMT
You're absolutely right, thank you But I've grown so used to having the Pea green setting that this looks weird so I'm going to revert and just carry on reading/skimming threads to see if the OP updates gar - persevere for a couple of days - you will love it - well I do π It looks like when I log in on someone else's device without being logged in
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Post by JoP on May 13, 2021 16:57:43 GMT
gar - persevere for a couple of days - you will love it - well I do π It looks like when I log in on someone else's device without being logged in π€£ππ I know it does, but itβll be the norm before you know it
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Post by compeateropeator on May 13, 2021 17:12:12 GMT
I see the green on my Mac. Never on the phone or iPad tho. I typically only use my iPad and they are green on mine. Off to check my phone. ETA - They are not green on my phone (which is an apple product).
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Post by femalebusiness on May 13, 2021 17:14:25 GMT
I see the green on my Mac. Never on the phone or iPad tho. I typically only use my iPad and they are green on mine. Off to check my phone. I only use my iPad and it is never green. I have seen that on my laptop though, a long time ago.
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Post by compeateropeator on May 13, 2021 17:15:58 GMT
I typically only use my iPad and they are green on mine. Off to check my phone. I only use my iPad and it is never green. I have seen that on my laptop though, a long time ago. So weird. I just checked my phone and they are not on that.
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huskergal
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Post by huskergal on May 13, 2021 17:23:17 GMT
Where can I check my settings on this site? I am on a Windows machine and don't see the green.
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Post by femalebusiness on May 13, 2021 17:32:42 GMT
I only use my iPad and it is never green. I have seen that on my laptop though, a long time ago. So weird. I just checked my phone and they are not on that. I am off to the dentist but when I get home I am going to check my laptop vs my iPad. Someone said you have to be in the default mode to see it. I will check this afternoon.
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Post by scrappert on May 13, 2021 17:46:21 GMT
Where can I check my settings on this site? I am on a Windows machine and don't see the green. You have to go to your profile, click on edit profile (right side) and then settings tab. You will see Forum Theme there to change.
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huskergal
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Post by huskergal on May 13, 2021 19:10:06 GMT
Where can I check my settings on this site? I am on a Windows machine and don't see the green. You have to go to your profile, click on edit profile (right side) and then settings tab. You will see Forum Theme there to change. Which forum theme do I need? Thanks!
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Post by scrappert on May 13, 2021 19:34:24 GMT
You have to go to your profile, click on edit profile (right side) and then settings tab. You will see Forum Theme there to change. Which forum theme do I need? Thanks! Default to see the green
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