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Post by beaglemom on May 20, 2021 1:24:47 GMT
My vent is selfish and whiny. I hate that my birthday gets forgotten. Only one sibling texted me a HB. I usually never work on my birthday but boss asked me to, so that we could “celebrate at work” with a “wheat free cake or something “. So I broke my personal rule of working on my birthday. I actually changed a hair appointment that I made for my birthday to go into work. He wasn’t there nor was most of the people I worked with, they were working at another location. I worked alone at my desk the entire day, one staff member came down an hour or do before end of day and said “today’s you’re birthday?” He had just saw it on our daily planner that we all check in on—I said yup! Boss texted later and wished me a HB (he forgot) so that was a bummer. I did receive a gift from hubby/kids, and he said we’ll go for ice cream too. That didn’t happen. But then it turned to what’s for dinner? And I made dinner and went to bed. So then my friends realized a day/days after that they too missed my birthday (it does appear on Facebook) and that’s where they wished me bday wishes. Late. I never forget theirs. Our dog’s birthday is a few days after mine and I always post a picture of dog with birthday 🎂 and I swear to god my dog got 40 happy birthday posts!!! So then, in my glorious pity party, I was thinking of things that happened recently. At work, when we have a busy time or will be working nonstop, I always coordinate lunches (like I’ll make mini charcuterie boxes or a bunch of salads) and I pay attention to everyone’s dietary restrictions (we have a vegan, a vegetarian, one allergic to avocado, another who does not do sugars) and I’ll specifically make and tag their food accordingly. I keep 3 gallon dispensers in the fridge filled with tea and iced coffee. On the one day where another girl does the lunch ordering (I wasn’t aware that they were ordering anything that day), I’m not even asked if I want anything—she orders. (It’s pizza) so an hour or so later, someone mentions to me if I’ve eaten lunch, that they ordered in and it’s upstairs, I ask if they ordered any wheat/gluten free (everyone at work knows I’m allergic to wheat) but nope. It’s all normal pizza. Forgotten again. And finally, sibling/relative having a little outdoor, immediate family only, small graduation from preschool party and they say they are ordering pizza. I inquire as to where do I can check out menu. Figures. Only chain pizza place who doesn’t do GF pizza. So I have to bring my own food. They don’t want to change places as they love the one they chose. Gaaahhh. A pathetic whiny pity and petty vent. You are completely validated! All of that totally sucks. I think as moms there is just something that makes our birthdays no fun. We always put in so much effort for everyone else and then when it is our turn we always get forgotten. Hugs!!
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Post by hop2 on May 20, 2021 1:32:41 GMT
My vent for the day is my father. I am so ticked off at him. My dh got Covid and has been really ill. Almost needed to be hospitalized but luckily since his oxygen levels were stable, they thought he would be more comfortable at home. He's been very sick for going on a month now. He is finally doing better but my father has been texting asking how he was doing. I have been updating him and the other day his comment back to me was "I smell fish". I was like huh? I asked him what that meant and he said he's never heard of Covid going on for so long. So like we were lying about his condition. I think he might have gotten that from my brother because he's been making similar comments. Um....well we have each and every test to prove it. He has to test negative before he can be released to go back to work so he's been getting tested weekly. That was the other day and I'm still pissed. Ok, vent over. Has he been under a rock? There’s thousands of people who have had it for long periods of time.
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Post by mikklynn on May 20, 2021 11:29:18 GMT
papercrafteradvocate I am sorry your birthday was disappointing. It's about feeling invisible, isn't it? You take care of everyone and no one can even figure out one thing for you. Next year do what you want, including going out for dinner with a friend.
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Post by peasapie on May 20, 2021 11:54:43 GMT
My niece’s mom is a lifelong alcoholic who now has cirrhosis and will likely die within the next year. My niece is an only child. My brother (her father) has done nothing to help her manage her mother’s care over the years. Her mother’s side of the family (an aunt and uncle) don’t help my niece manage her mother either, though they love to have opinions. So the poor kid has been on her own her entire life — I took her bridal gown shopping, I helped her plan her wedding, and now I am helping her make advanced funeral plans for her ungrateful mother and helping get her into a long-term-care facility. My niece just had a baby-who has failure to thrive-and niece is so stressed out by all of it.
What is wrong with people who stand by and do nothing to help family members? I understand the mom’s family likely gave up on her alcoholism years ago, but to not help the daughter dealing with this burden she inherited alone is unforgivable. Rant over.
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Post by mellowyellow on May 20, 2021 11:57:19 GMT
My vent is selfish and whiny. I hate that my birthday gets forgotten. Only one sibling texted me a HB. I usually never work on my birthday but boss asked me to, so that we could “celebrate at work” with a “wheat free cake or something “. So I broke my personal rule of working on my birthday. I actually changed a hair appointment that I made for my birthday to go into work. He wasn’t there nor was most of the people I worked with, they were working at another location. I worked alone at my desk the entire day, one staff member came down an hour or do before end of day and said “today’s you’re birthday?” He had just saw it on our daily planner that we all check in on—I said yup! Boss texted later and wished me a HB (he forgot) so that was a bummer. I did receive a gift from hubby/kids, and he said we’ll go for ice cream too. That didn’t happen. But then it turned to what’s for dinner? And I made dinner and went to bed. So then my friends realized a day/days after that they too missed my birthday (it does appear on Facebook) and that’s where they wished me bday wishes. Late. I never forget theirs. Our dog’s birthday is a few days after mine and I always post a picture of dog with birthday 🎂 and I swear to god my dog got 40 happy birthday posts!!! So then, in my glorious pity party, I was thinking of things that happened recently. At work, when we have a busy time or will be working nonstop, I always coordinate lunches (like I’ll make mini charcuterie boxes or a bunch of salads) and I pay attention to everyone’s dietary restrictions (we have a vegan, a vegetarian, one allergic to avocado, another who does not do sugars) and I’ll specifically make and tag their food accordingly. I keep 3 gallon dispensers in the fridge filled with tea and iced coffee. On the one day where another girl does the lunch ordering (I wasn’t aware that they were ordering anything that day), I’m not even asked if I want anything—she orders. (It’s pizza) so an hour or so later, someone mentions to me if I’ve eaten lunch, that they ordered in and it’s upstairs, I ask if they ordered any wheat/gluten free (everyone at work knows I’m allergic to wheat) but nope. It’s all normal pizza. Forgotten again. And finally, sibling/relative having a little outdoor, immediate family only, small graduation from preschool party and they say they are ordering pizza. I inquire as to where do I can check out menu. Figures. Only chain pizza place who doesn’t do GF pizza. So I have to bring my own food. They don’t want to change places as they love the one they chose. Gaaahhh. A pathetic whiny pity and petty vent. I am so sorry! You are such a thoughtful person to do all of those nice things. It sucks when you don't get the same in return. Some people are just clueless and just think about themselves. I turned 50 last year and I get slighted all the time so I have just stopped doing things for people. Now I will if I actually want to but I don't go out of my way anymore. My family members are the ones that constantly act like jackholes so I just don't do anything anymore and it's very liberating. Again, I am very sorry and I hope you did something nice for yourself to celebrate. Big hugs!
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Post by mellowyellow on May 20, 2021 12:00:13 GMT
My niece’s mom is a lifelong alcoholic who now has cirrhosis and will likely die within the next year. My niece is an only child. My brother (her father) has done nothing to help her manage her mother’s care over the years. Her mother’s side of the family (an aunt and uncle) don’t help my niece manage her mother either, though they love to have opinions. So the poor kid has been on her own her entire life — I took her bridal gown shopping, I helped her plan her wedding, and now I am helping her make advanced funeral plans for her ungrateful mother and helping get her into a long-term-care facility. My niece just had a baby-who has failure to thrive-and niece is so stressed out by all of it. What is wrong with people who stand by and do nothing to help family members? I understand the mom’s family likely gave up on her alcoholism years ago, but to not help the daughter dealing with this burden she inherited alone is unforgivable. Rant over. Ugh this makes me so sad for her. What a stressful time! Luckily, she has you to help her through this. Sometimes people's life choices just suck! Big hugs to you and your niece.
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scrappington
Pearl Clutcher
in Canada
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Post by scrappington on May 20, 2021 14:01:06 GMT
Boss hires a friend for a temp position that could have turned permanent. I finally was able to fire her three weeks ago. And the mess just keeps on giving that she made. Little surprises here and there. It wasn't that she didn't understand it was she was lazy. You half to do something and don't go back and do it. Etc.
I gave a good point to my boss this week cause I keep showing her the mistakes. (Cause boss questioned that we should have waited for a replacement.)
Point I made was this was your friend that just didn't give a crap. Not just anyone off the street that just was lazy and didn't do what they were paid to do. Your friend who has now set us back and we still don't know how much crap she didn't do or do right.
Some examples. Stuff was scanned in upside down and not corrected. Then uploaded to our system for sites. Spreadsheets not finished inventory of equipment. Reports were not checked just saw they were created. Not they were done right Emails not sent Wrong files in places. Just found out she made inappropriate comments on sites. Papers were hole punched on wrong side. This kinda stuff.
And we aren't talking one or two just missed it items like a common mistake. We are talking 10/20 items that would be done wrong . And it wasn't rocket science stuff. Hole punching is not rocket science. On a portrait layout they go on left. That's not difficult.
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Post by smalltowngirlie on May 21, 2021 15:50:13 GMT
So, is it really to hard to follow the simplest directions. When it says to send the form to your supervisor, that means your supervisor, not me. Your supervisor will then send it to me. Why do I do it this way, because I do NOT want 150 individual emails. Because I need to make sure everyone has one signed and if supervisors ensure all their staff have signed it and send them to me, I will then know everyone has signed it. I do not want to track 150 signatures.
Oh and supervisors, do not tell them to email it to me and CC you on it. DO your effing job!!! Next time I will clarify, emailing to the supervisor is you not me. I want one email from each supervisor.
That is my little vent for today.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on May 22, 2021 15:47:45 GMT
Remember my vent on Wed about Target's poor packaging and the destroyed candle and toilet brush holder? That evening I ordered a different toilet brush and a less expensive citronella candle. Yesterday my package arrived. Opened box to discover tons of poofy air bags, a citronella candle in great shape...and a smashed toilet brush holder! This one was a mix of plastic/chrome. At first glance it appeared fine, then I noticed several small white pieces of plastic in the bottom of the bag. Parts of the rim had been broken off, as well as the plastic shield on the brush just below the handle. Seriously? No damage to the box, none to the air pillows, and this candle was much lighter so I am doubtful it caused the damage. Apparently the world is against me getting a new toilet brush.
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Post by femalebusiness on May 22, 2021 16:13:25 GMT
I'll bite. My vent is at Target right now. I ordered a few things last week. Today I received the chrome toilet brush holder and this large citronella cement candle. In the same box...with a single small airpillow strip between them...and no other padding or cushioning. The box rattled from broken cement when I picked it up. Then to rub salt in the wound, I now have to either drive to Target or to a UPS/FedEx location to return it for a refund. Who in their right mind even thinks this is a good way to pack these things? The same people who put your tomatoes at the bottom of the bag and the jars of pickles on top of them at the grocery store.
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Post by femalebusiness on May 22, 2021 16:20:26 GMT
My vent is that I have a mammogram today. Why has research and technology not come up with a more comfortable way to check out the girls? Or when your girls are on the small side? It's awkward. Or when they are huge. They always have to take an extra picture to get them all covered. But the worst experience was the last time the tech had horrendous breath and was in my face struggling to get my boobs covered with enough pictures. Ugh!
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on May 22, 2021 16:43:58 GMT
The same people who put your tomatoes at the bottom of the bag and the jars of pickles on top of them at the grocery store. I have become ridiculously over protective of my bananas, tomatoes and avocados when checking out. Now they are the last things on the belt and I watch them like a hawk when they load them. Just got fed up with getting home and my produce was smushed and/or bruised. I think it's nuts that I'm having to teach baggers how to load a bag properly!
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Post by femalebusiness on May 22, 2021 16:48:36 GMT
The same people who put your tomatoes at the bottom of the bag and the jars of pickles on top of them at the grocery store. I have become ridiculously over protective of my bananas, tomatoes and avocados when checking out. Now they are the last things on the belt and I watch them like a hawk when they load them. Just got fed up with getting home and my produce was smushed and/or bruised. I think it's nuts that I'm having to teach baggers how to load a bag properly! I do the same thing. Soft stuff on the belt last and I also get bossy when they mess with my tomatoes or my potato chips.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on May 23, 2021 17:07:50 GMT
papercrafteradvocate I am sorry your birthday was disappointing. It's about feeling invisible, isn't it? You take care of everyone and no one can even figure out one thing for you. Next year do what you want, including going out for dinner with a friend. Yes! An effort would be nice, or not being so invisible!
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Post by huskermom98 on May 23, 2021 23:49:27 GMT
My vent of the day is that every time I look at the schedule for DS's JV baseball team it has changed...again. The latest change is a couple of games were canceled and most of the remaining ones moved from 5pm to 10:30am...ugh. I'm sure my boss will let me adjust my schedule, but I hate to have to ask to do it again (had the same thing happen last year for their short season).
I know it will be good for the teams because there are a lot of 10th graders so this split schedule will allow some to play in the morning and still be available for the evening varsity game. But it's a pain for the parents who work a day job & have a kid that will play mostly on JV.
...and BTW...the season starts tomorrow...
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Post by curiouscrafter on May 24, 2021 2:06:55 GMT
My vent for the day is my father. I am so ticked off at him. My dh got Covid and has been really ill. Almost needed to be hospitalized but luckily since his oxygen levels were stable, they thought he would be more comfortable at home. He's been very sick for going on a month now. He is finally doing better but my father has been texting asking how he was doing. I have been updating him and the other day his comment back to me was "I smell fish". I was like huh? I asked him what that meant and he said he's never heard of Covid going on for so long. So like we were lying about his condition. I think he might have gotten that from my brother because he's been making similar comments. Um....well we have each and every test to prove it. He has to test negative before he can be released to go back to work so he's been getting tested weekly. That was the other day and I'm still pissed. Ok, vent over. I wouldn't be providing any more updates on DH to your dad, the brother, or anyone else that questions how sick DH has been/is. Screw that. You have enough on your plate already.
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Post by curiouscrafter on May 24, 2021 2:13:09 GMT
My vent is selfish and whiny. I hate that my birthday gets forgotten. Only one sibling texted me a HB. I usually never work on my birthday but boss asked me to, so that we could “celebrate at work” with a “wheat free cake or something “. So I broke my personal rule of working on my birthday. I actually changed a hair appointment that I made for my birthday to go into work. He wasn’t there nor was most of the people I worked with, they were working at another location. I worked alone at my desk the entire day, one staff member came down an hour or do before end of day and said “today’s you’re birthday?” He had just saw it on our daily planner that we all check in on—I said yup! Boss texted later and wished me a HB (he forgot) so that was a bummer. I did receive a gift from hubby/kids, and he said we’ll go for ice cream too. That didn’t happen. But then it turned to what’s for dinner? And I made dinner and went to bed. So then my friends realized a day/days after that they too missed my birthday (it does appear on Facebook) and that’s where they wished me bday wishes. Late. I never forget theirs. Our dog’s birthday is a few days after mine and I always post a picture of dog with birthday 🎂 and I swear to god my dog got 40 happy birthday posts!!! So then, in my glorious pity party, I was thinking of things that happened recently. At work, when we have a busy time or will be working nonstop, I always coordinate lunches (like I’ll make mini charcuterie boxes or a bunch of salads) and I pay attention to everyone’s dietary restrictions (we have a vegan, a vegetarian, one allergic to avocado, another who does not do sugars) and I’ll specifically make and tag their food accordingly. I keep 3 gallon dispensers in the fridge filled with tea and iced coffee. On the one day where another girl does the lunch ordering (I wasn’t aware that they were ordering anything that day), I’m not even asked if I want anything—she orders. (It’s pizza) so an hour or so later, someone mentions to me if I’ve eaten lunch, that they ordered in and it’s upstairs, I ask if they ordered any wheat/gluten free (everyone at work knows I’m allergic to wheat) but nope. It’s all normal pizza. Forgotten again. And finally, sibling/relative having a little outdoor, immediate family only, small graduation from preschool party and they say they are ordering pizza. I inquire as to where do I can check out menu. Figures. Only chain pizza place who doesn’t do GF pizza. So I have to bring my own food. They don’t want to change places as they love the one they chose. Gaaahhh. A pathetic whiny pity and petty vent. WOW - I am SOOO sorry to hear all this. Not at all Selfish and Whiny. It's things like you mention that makes me not want to have friends or family, especially when you do so much for them all. Big hugs.
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luckyjune
Pearl Clutcher
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Location: In the rainy, rainy WA
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Post by luckyjune on May 24, 2021 2:28:49 GMT
My sister is being an ass. She is estranged from the rest of the family. In better days, we all bought a beach house together. She wants out and we are prepared to buy her (and my parents) out, but she's making it as difficult as she possibly can. Communication for the whole process goes between her DH and mine.
This has gone on for five years. My parents are heartbroken. My feeling is that if they did something to offend my sister, she should either act like a grown up and hash it out with them or let it go. I would get it if we had a traumatic childhood, but my friends used to tease me for growing up in Beaver Cleaver's family. The last time my parents saw my niece was when she was 13. She graduates from high school next month.
She stopped talking to me, too, when I asked her what was going on. I wasn't confrontational, but I guess that was enough to cut me out too. I'm kinda done with her and will be super relieved when the sale is through and the house is entirely ours.
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