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Post by longtimenopea on Jul 6, 2021 0:07:37 GMT
I would be annoyed, too. What makes me nervous in this thread is the scorn for some chips and premade dip - I would totally bring something like that to a summer gathering. Am I a terrible guest?  If you show up with some Ruffles and a container of ranch dip you are my husband’s favorite person of the entire party, because that is his favorite party food. We don’t claim to be fancy or anything, but he is all over that when it shows up on the table.  |
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Post by teddyw on Jul 6, 2021 2:18:59 GMT
When we entertain (and we are casual, not formal) and folks ask what to bring, I always answer - just you! If somebody decides to bring something, no issues. When I go somewhere I kind of despise making it, taking it in the car, looking after the dish, taking home a dirty dish, getting rid of the leftovers, etc and would rather not mess with it. So...when folks come to our home, I truly prefer to take care of everything. It's my preference. Not saying I don't bring anything and I always ask what I can bring when we are invited. I keep a stash of disposable pans for pot luck occasions so I can leave without worrying about my pan. |
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 6, 2021 3:18:53 GMT
Last week I invited my kids' SOs families for the fourth. Both asked what they could bring. I told them to make their favorite BBQ dish. I knew what they were making in advance and didn't make those things. It just seemed easier to let others choose first. One mom did ask if I was going to make my jalapeño, bacon potato salad. Yup, Now I know you like it, it's on the menu. On a really positive note, that mom also made some drunken strawberries and I have found my new favorite dessert!
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Post by scrappintoee on Jul 6, 2021 3:57:26 GMT
The to-do was planned for 4:30. The husband texted me at 3:30 pm to ask if I'd rather make the onion dip. HAHA. I politely declined. I've read this a couple of times, but I'm still confused! He asked if you'd "RATHER" make the onion dip---so I took that to mean it was an alternative to your signature dish. But then you said you declined, but you DID end up making it?  BTW, your dip recipe does look yummy and I'm going to make it. But it's bugging me that I don't understand your story! |
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Post by scrappintoee on Jul 6, 2021 3:59:33 GMT
drunken strawberries and I have found my new favorite dessert! I was intrigued and googled for recipes. I'll bet those are YUMMMYYY!!! |
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 6, 2021 4:07:18 GMT
drunken strawberries and I have found my new favorite dessert! I was intrigued and googled for recipes. I'll bet those are YUMMMYYY!!! They were all good, but my favorite was the coconut rum punch strawberry dipped in chocolate. |
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Jul 6, 2021 4:17:52 GMT
My friends are having a 4th of July to-do today. I asked them what I could bring and they said hors d'oeuvres. Great. I have a signature hors d'oeuvre that everyone loves to pieces. I went shopping early yesterday and got all the ingredients. I just got a text from them telling me not to bring it because they were making it. (I give out the recipe to anyone who asks) *sigh* A few weeks ago, we had another thing and I said I was making an apple tart, my friends' favorite dessert. I get there, and they had already made an apple pie. My friends are LOVELY. I know they aren't doing this for any reason except they want to have good food. They have tiny kids and are often stressed. I am certain they mean zero harm. I am just cranky that I have to come up with something else (done) and now go shopping for it (not done and UGH). Just venting because my sister has a houseful of guests and doesn't have an ear for me today. And another reason I am sad because I don't live near her. Update: The to-do was planned for 4:30. The husband texted me at 3:30 pm to ask if I'd rather make the onion dip. HAHA. I politely declined. I want to reiterate that these people are so sweet. I am flattered they love my hors d'oeuvre so much they recreate it often. I also want to say that they told me I was responsible for hors d'oeuvres or else I would not have thought a thing about them making it. I mean you don't ask someone to make the part of the meal that love and then make their signature dish! In any case, I had a lovely time and all my crankiness is gone. Here is the recipe. It looks weird. Had I not tasted it first, I would never have made it, but it truly is the first appetizer to be eaten at every party I bring it to and people beg for the recipe. Onion Dip
12 oz cream cheese (you can use light) 1/4 cup mayo (you can use light) 1 cup parmesan cheese 6 oz chopped onions (you can use the frozen ones for easy breezy or fresh) Mix all ingredients together. Bake @ 425 for 20 minutes. Note: I put this in a pie plate and make once and a half the recipe. I honestly cannot tell the difference when I use frozen vs. fresh onions Do you eat it with crackers? Or veggies? |
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Post by sunnyd on Jul 6, 2021 4:30:31 GMT
I have all the ingredients and want to give it a whirl. What do you serve it with? Thanks!
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Post by muggins on Jul 6, 2021 4:38:09 GMT
I agree with lainey and J u l e e- some ridiculous unwritten rules and expectations around food at gatherings. However, in OP’s case, if was rather rude to text one hour before the event. I would have declined too and brought the dip. If it’s so good, double quantity should be a bonus. |
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Post by Really Red on Jul 6, 2021 13:13:32 GMT
iamkristinl16 and sunnyd I serve it with crackers, but because I am keto these days, I put it on celery (for me) and it was delicious. I could eat this entire thing for my dinner. Possibly why I need to be on a diet (she said sheepishly)
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Post by Really Red on Jul 6, 2021 13:16:08 GMT
The to-do was planned for 4:30. The husband texted me at 3:30 pm to ask if I'd rather make the onion dip. HAHA. I politely declined. I've read this a couple of times, but I'm still confused! He asked if you'd "RATHER" make the onion dip---so I took that to mean it was an alternative to your signature dish. But then you said you declined, but you DID end up making it? BTW, your dip recipe does look yummy and I'm going to make it. But it's bugging me that I don't understand your story! Sorry. Sometimes I think I am clear and clearly (!) I am not. He texted me and asked if I would make the dip instead of him. However, it was shortly before I was going to leave and I had already made an alternative appetizer. Not that I would not make whatever I was making (he did not know what it was) and switch it out, but bring that as well. FWIW, his was excellent. I think he put too much parmesan, but it was still excellent. The recipe is not rocket science and hard to mess up. |
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