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Post by Really Red on Jul 26, 2021 21:19:14 GMT
"Her and her husband are coming to the city."
I was watching The Politician (love it!) and the supposedly brilliant main character said that phrase. Many people say it, so that's not the question, but the correct way is "She and her husband." There are grammatical errors that don't hurt my ears (okay - much!), but this one seems almost harder to say because the first word is the subject of the sentence.
I made it into a poll because the aim is not to make anyone feel bad about what they say. I am just surprised it seems to becoming the vernacular.
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Post by huskermom98 on Jul 26, 2021 21:22:15 GMT
I would probably go back and forth between the two...and then change it to "She went on a trip with her husband." But I think my brain wants to say "She and her husband..."
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Post by christine58 on Jul 26, 2021 21:25:05 GMT
Take out everything after Her or She then say it. Should be she.
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Post by melodyesch on Jul 26, 2021 21:38:32 GMT
I would say “She and her husband”
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Post by bbkeef on Jul 26, 2021 21:42:43 GMT
Take out everything after Her or She then say it This ^^ You wouldn't say "her went on a trip". It's "she went on a trip". |
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Post by workingclassdog on Jul 26, 2021 21:47:45 GMT
I would probably go back and forth between the two...and then change it to "She went on a trip with her husband." But I think my brain wants to say "She and her husband..."  |
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Post by monklady123 on Jul 26, 2021 21:50:19 GMT
"She and her husband..." Former English teacher here.  |
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Post by peabay on Jul 26, 2021 21:51:51 GMT
"Who went on a trip?"
"She did."
That's how I know how to do it.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Jul 26, 2021 21:57:34 GMT
It's "She and her husband went on a trip".
She/he = subject
Her/him = object
Here's a trick though. If you aren't which to use when including more than one subject, try each on their own. Would you say "Her went on a trip"? No, of course you wouldn't.
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Post by cmpeter on Jul 26, 2021 22:37:27 GMT
Wouldn't occur to me to say "her and her husband".
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Post by katlady on Jul 26, 2021 23:23:45 GMT
Without thinking about it, I would say “Her”. I know I have said many times, “See if her and her husband want to come.” But, writing an email/text/etc. I would write “she”. I have better grammar when I have time to think about it.
ETA - Thinking about it, if it is one person in the sentence, I say “she”. “she went on a trip.” With two people I say “Her”, “Her and her husband.”
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Post by paulao on Jul 26, 2021 23:23:53 GMT
How about “Jane and her husband went on a trip”? Solves the pronoun problem.
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Post by gramasue on Jul 26, 2021 23:30:13 GMT
This drives me crazy, too! Of course, it's "she and her husband". I'm ever so gradually getting the grandgirls to appreciate proper grammar, and I am so happy when they actually use it!
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Post by peasapie on Jul 26, 2021 23:42:11 GMT
This makes me nuts. It's not even close. Another one is people who use the reflexive pronoun myself inappropriately. (Myself and two officers apprehended the perpetrator. He shot at the other officer and myself.)
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Post by magellen on Jul 26, 2021 23:43:35 GMT
Ack, I am friends with a woman who uses I instead of me, because she thinks it makes her sound smarter. She would use her.
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Post by AussieMeg on Jul 26, 2021 23:45:30 GMT
I have heard people say (and seen people write) things like "Her and her husband" and to be honest it hurts my brain a little bit. I'm surprised that the phrasing is used in a TV show. Does that mean that every writer for that show doesn't know the correct grammar? Surely someone would have picked it up.
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Post by lisae on Jul 26, 2021 23:47:15 GMT
I don't think so.
I'm glad we stuck with the Politician. The 2nd season was better than the first.
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Post by longtimenopea on Jul 26, 2021 23:47:41 GMT
Usually “she and her husband” but sometimes my Appalachian childhood comes out of my mouth as “her and her husband” - it’s okay. I sometimes speak in very structured language and sometimes more casually.
And working with a lot of people from a lot of different places all around the world now, I hear so many differing constructions and have kind of made peace with it. It used to bother me a lot, but now I barely notice.
I have not yet gotten past pluralizing with an apostrophe though. That bugs me a lot.
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Post by gillyp on Jul 26, 2021 23:49:35 GMT
This makes me nuts. It's not even close. Another one is people who use the reflexive pronoun myself inappropriately. (Myself and two officers apprehended the perpetrator. He shot at the other officer and myself.) |
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Post by melanell on Jul 27, 2021 2:23:29 GMT
That would drive me a bit nuts on a TV show. I expect someone to catch a mistake like that. But I have a habit of being easily distracted by grammar mistakes. If I'm reading an article with several mistakes, I tend to give up on reading it because I find I focus more on the mistakes that what the topic at hand.
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Post by bc2ca on Jul 27, 2021 2:34:57 GMT
You wouldn't say "her went on a trip". It's "she went on a trip". |
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jul 27, 2021 2:36:59 GMT
My friend’s sister posts about a lot of things she does with her daughter. Often she will write things like “Her and I went to get our nails done.” Or, “Her and I went shopping.”  It makes me crazy every time I see it because it’s like fingernails on a chalkboard just seeing it in print. |
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Post by Really Red on Jul 27, 2021 12:24:17 GMT
I have heard people say (and seen people write) things like "Her and her husband" and to be honest it hurts my brain a little bit. I'm surprised that the phrasing is used in a TV show. Does that mean that every writer for that show doesn't know the correct grammar? Surely someone would have picked it up. I know!!!! Whoever is writing for The Politician, is an interesting writer, but their grammar is beyond atrocious. SO many errors. |
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Post by peabrain on Jul 27, 2021 13:53:46 GMT
They went on a trip.
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Post by evnimom on Jul 27, 2021 15:00:57 GMT
Shamefully being honest... I could see saying "her and her husband" but I would not write it. I know it's not correct but I think it flows out of the mouth. I would never say, "his and his wife."
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Post by HelenaJole on Jul 27, 2021 16:00:15 GMT
At the beginning of a sentence it should be easy to know which pronoun to use. I can see people having a hard time with things like "This is my sister and I at the beach." Even though most people are probably familiar with "It is I!" and "This is she," I think we're getting less comfortable with actually using them.
(I heard people use "lay" wrong constantly on TV/movies. I am also consistently bothered by the pronunciation of "forward" but maybe that's just me. 😆 )
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Post by Deleted on Jul 27, 2021 16:26:33 GMT
It’s she and her husband.
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Post by Really Red on Jul 27, 2021 16:32:38 GMT
At the beginning of a sentence it should be easy to know which pronoun to use. I can see people having a hard time with things like "This is my sister and I at the beach." Even though most people are probably familiar with "It is I!" and "This is she," I think we're getting less comfortable with actually using them. (I heard people use "lay" wrong constantly on TV/movies. I am also consistently bothered by the pronunciation of "forward" but maybe that's just me. 😆 ) Lay is a problem! Chickens lay, people lie. How do people pronounce "forward?" I hope not like I hear them pronounce "height." They had a third "h" on the end of it.  |
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Post by birukitty on Jul 27, 2021 18:01:06 GMT
I would say "She and her husband are coming to the city". It drives me nuts to hear incorrect grammar on TV (unless it is part of that character, of course) and especially to see it in print. I read books constantly-when I finish one, I start another. I'm finding more and more spelling errors in books and that drives me nutty too. Most of the books I read are library books and I'm tempted to circle the misspelled word and spell it correctly-but since it's a library book, I of course leave it alone.
To hear it on a TV show like you mentioned Really Red is inexcusable in my book. Hey, English isn't even my first language and even I knew it was wrong! What is happening to this country that grammatical errors are so easily excused these days?
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Post by anniefb on Jul 27, 2021 18:21:17 GMT
'She and her husband' because they are the subject of the verb in the sentence.
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It makes me crazy every time I see it because it’s like fingernails on a chalkboard just seeing it in print.
