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Post by Lexica on Jul 29, 2021 21:03:29 GMT
When you have a dream that features one of your children, are they the correct age that they are currently? More often than not when I dream of my son, he is a child of around 6 or 7 years old. I admit that some of my favorite memories of him occurred during those years. He was old enough to carry on an in-depth conversation and just brimming with ideas and thoughts of his own. It was delightful to watch him grow.
We also did more traveling during that age as well, so we spent more time together just the two of us. Not that it wasn't just the two of us living at home together, but at home, I had obligations and distractions and he had school work and friends in the neighborhood. Vacations were just the two of us focusing on whatever fun there was to be had. Do I dream of him as a child because that is where more memories are located in my mind? He is currently living in another state so our conversations are via phone or text. He seems very happy in his new location and I'm happy for him but I seldom dream of him as his current age.
When you dream of your children, are they their current age or more memories of their childhood like mine?
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Post by peasapie on Jul 29, 2021 21:27:51 GMT
Funny you posted this today, as I just dreamt of my adult daughter, as an adult, last night. Usually I dream of her or her brother as children, and I wake up feeling wistful.
When my mom had Alzheimers, she would sometimes ask for Peasapie and I'd say, "I'm right here!" And she'd say, no, I mean the other Peasapie. The little one. That's how I feel when I wake up from dreaming about my kids when they were little. It's almost like two different people, the little compared with the adult.
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Post by voltagain on Jul 29, 2021 21:41:32 GMT
when I dream of my kids they are usually quite young. It is unusual to dream of them as adults but it does happen.
I think for me, when they show up in my dreams as children there is something in my current life that is bothering my inner self-child. But I have blocked out much of my childhood memories so my young kids show up as a proxy for me and what care I am in need of.
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Post by malibou on Jul 29, 2021 22:44:25 GMT
I cannot recall ever having a dream with my kid in it. I would love to dream of him as a little guy.
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Post by myboysnme on Jul 29, 2021 22:47:16 GMT
This post immediately called to mind a dream/nightmare I had about my oldest son, an adult, and he was about 6 or 7 in the dream. It was horrific and I wish I would not remember it. I really wondered about what it meant, but since dreams come from my own mind and nothing happened like in the nightmare, I try to just put it aside.
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Post by Lexica on Jul 29, 2021 23:03:30 GMT
Funny you posted this today, as I just dreamt of my adult daughter, as an adult, last night. Usually I dream of her or her brother as children, and I wake up feeling wistful. When my mom had Alzheimers, she would sometimes ask for Peasapie and I'd say, "I'm right here!" And she'd say, no, I mean the other Peasapie. The little one. That's how I feel when I wake up from dreaming about my kids when they were little. It's almost like two different people, the little compared with the adult. Feeling wistful. Yes, that is exactly what I feel too. I have such wonderful memories of those days. There have been times when I wake from a wonderful dream with him as a child and I will try to force myself to go back to sleep to keep the dream going. It has never happened though. I always think that dreams like that, or dreams of past pets, or of my parents who have both passed are wonderful gifts. It is so nice to have a visit with them, even if only in my mind. It feels very real and I appreciate every one of them. |
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Post by Lexica on Jul 29, 2021 23:05:29 GMT
when I dream of my kids they are usually quite young. It is unusual to dream of them as adults but it does happen. I think for me, when they show up in my dreams as children there is something in my current life that is bothering my inner self-child. But I have blocked out much of my childhood memories so my young kids show up as a proxy for me and what care I am in need of. That is an interesting perspective, voltagain. I don't think mine are introspective at all. Just wonderful visits. |
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Post by Lexica on Jul 29, 2021 23:21:49 GMT
This post immediately called to mind a dream/nightmare I had about my oldest son, an adult, and he was about 6 or 7 in the dream. It was horrific and I wish I would not remember it. I really wondered about what it meant, but since dreams come from my own mind and nothing happened like in the nightmare, I try to just put it aside. Many years ago I was working a temporary job as an administrative assistant for a company that provided a breakfast for all administrative staff on secretary's day. They always brought in a speaker or entertainment of some sort. This one year was a woman who spoke of interpreting dreams. One thing that stuck with me was her opinion that the content of a dream was nowhere near as important as what the dream made us feel upon waking up. She felt that dreams were our mind's way of trying to make sense of things happening in our life and that we needed to pay attention to any that evoked a strong reaction within us. She would probably say that you need to look at the emotion or feelings you had upon awaking and try to figure out where those feelings fit into your life. Not necessarily having anything to do with your son. I have felt that on occasion, I have been able to figure out the connection to what my subconscious mind was trying to tell me when I have an upsetting dream. Not very often though. The majority of my dreams these days are just fluffy little vacations where my mind is at play. When I was in the middle of my divorce and custody hassles, I had some horrible and stressful dreams, which made sense in retrospect. Have you been able to figure out what your subconscious might have been working on? |
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Post by Lexica on Jul 29, 2021 23:23:12 GMT
I cannot recall ever having a dream with my kid in it. I would love to dream of him as a little guy. Try thinking of those days before you fall asleep. It may help. I find them so delightful. |
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Post by malibou on Jul 29, 2021 23:54:43 GMT
I will try that. I'm the one that wishes I could go back and do it all again with him. I don't want to change anything, just do it again.
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Post by AussieMeg on Jul 30, 2021 0:04:56 GMT
Usually I dream of her or her brother as children, and I wake up feeling wistful. Yes me too. I recently had a dream about my now 16yo son. In the dream he was about 5yo, back when he was an affectionate, cuddly boy who constantly told me he loved me. I woke up in tears - wistful, longing tears. It actually left me in a strange mood for most of the day. |
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Post by paget on Jul 30, 2021 0:10:33 GMT
The dreams of my kids I remember have their current ages. I can’t remember ever having one where they weren’t their current age.
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Post by Lexica on Jul 30, 2021 0:32:35 GMT
I will try that. I'm the one that wishes I could back and do it all again with him. I don't want to change anything, just do it again. You are not alone in that! I would do it all over again in a heartbeat. Although I would make a couple of changes. Nothing huge, but hindsight gives one the benefit of knowing what tweaks could have done. |
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Post by Lexica on Jul 30, 2021 0:36:53 GMT
Usually I dream of her or her brother as children, and I wake up feeling wistful. Yes me too. I recently had a dream about my now 16yo son. In the dream he was about 5yo, back when he was an affectionate, cuddly boy who constantly told me he loved me. I woke up in tears - wistful, longing tears. It actually left me in a strange mood for most of the day. Yes! I think that is why the majority of my dreams are around that age. My son was so much fun to be around. I was amazed daily at his growing intellect and curiosity about so many things. I do have dreams of him now as an adult, but not very often. I have also had a couple of nightmares where I was still married to my ex. And even in the dreams, I was trying to figure out a way out. I would wake up from those and spend a few seconds with such dread. Then I would realize it was no longer true and I felt so very free all over again. Almost worth dreaming I was still married to him just to experience that fresh freedom feeling. |
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Post by malibou on Jul 30, 2021 0:47:30 GMT
I will try that. I'm the one that wishes I could back and do it all again with him. I don't want to change anything, just do it again. You are not alone in that! I would do it all over again in a heartbeat. Although I would make a couple of changes. Nothing huge, but hindsight gives one the benefit of knowing what tweaks could have done. Oh trust me, there are things I would like to do better with, but I don't want to be to greedy in my wishing. 😁 I would do better with I introducing foods so that maybe I wouldn't have had to make so many peanut butter and jelly sandwiches nor struggle to find peanut butter and ketchup on out of country vacations. On the occasions we checked luggage I actually packed those two items. |
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Post by peasapie on Jul 30, 2021 10:56:29 GMT
Usually I dream of her or her brother as children, and I wake up feeling wistful. Yes me too. I recently had a dream about my now 16yo son. In the dream he was about 5yo, back when he was an affectionate, cuddly boy who constantly told me he loved me. I woke up in tears - wistful, longing tears. It actually left me in a strange mood for most of the day. - I totally understand what you are describing. Sending mama hugs to you. |
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Post by peasapie on Jul 30, 2021 10:58:58 GMT
Yes me too. I recently had a dream about my now 16yo son. In the dream he was about 5yo, back when he was an affectionate, cuddly boy who constantly told me he loved me. I woke up in tears - wistful, longing tears. It actually left me in a strange mood for most of the day. Yes! I think that is why the majority of my dreams are around that age. My son was so much fun to be around. I was amazed daily at his growing intellect and curiosity about so many things. I do have dreams of him now as an adult, but not very often. I have also had a couple of nightmares where I was still married to my ex. And even in the dreams, I was trying to figure out a way out. I would wake up from those and spend a few seconds with such dread. Then I would realize it was no longer true and I felt so very free all over again. Almost worth dreaming I was still married to him just to experience that fresh freedom feeling. I've had these dreams, too -- and the relief upon waking is visceral. |
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Post by myboysnme on Jul 30, 2021 19:20:57 GMT
Have you been able to figure out what your subconscious might have been working on? I feel as though in my dream someone caused great harm to my son and I couldn't save him. I think now my mind was trying to tell me I can't always save him from harm by others. Now how I process that and accept it is to be determined. |
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Post by jennifergeorge1067 on Jul 31, 2021 0:04:45 GMT
Memories of when they were young. I love dreaming of them as my favorite thing is being a mom.
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