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Post by elaine on Aug 1, 2021 20:51:29 GMT
We knew it was coming. Carol has had Alzheimer’s for a decade now and ceased to know us 5 years ago. She’s had abdominal cancer (we never put her through surgery to find out what type - she wouldn’t have understood) and finally passed of that.
We planned a trip to Pittsburgh for our anniversary (today) and my younger son’s birthday (it is tomorrow). We went to the Pirates v Phillies game. Right after we got back to the hotel, my Dh got the call from hospice to let us know she had passed.
Alzheimer’s is a cruel disease- my husband lost his mother years ago, and is left with so many conflicting emotions at losing her in another way. I have missed the woman who was my MIL for many years now. In this time of COVID - especially in her part of WV - we have decided against a formal memorial service. Not many of her friends are still alive, and none have seen her for years. So, we don’t need a gathering to facilitate anyone’s mourning - Dh and I have each other to work it through with.
If you could spare a kind thought for my husband in this time, I would greatly appreciate it.
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Post by quiltz on Aug 1, 2021 20:56:26 GMT
I am so sorry for this loss. ( ( ( hugs ) ) )
Gentle, kind, loving thoughts for your entire family.
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Post by leeny on Aug 1, 2021 20:58:13 GMT
Very sorry for your loss.
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Post by kiera on Aug 1, 2021 20:59:08 GMT
So sorry for your loss. Even when you know it's coming you're never fully prepared for it. Hugs to you both.
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Post by finsup on Aug 1, 2021 20:59:35 GMT
I’m so sorry or your loss. My dad developed a rapid dementia about nine months before he died, and I relate to your and your husband’s feelings about losing her twice. I hope you’re able to celebrate your anniversary in future years without too much sadness. My gallows humor kicked in when my mom died two years ago—she died on my husband’s birthday. My husband is notoriously bad with remembering dates, so I joke that she died on his birthday so he’d never forget the date.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Aug 1, 2021 21:01:43 GMT
I am so sorry for the loss of your MIL.
Kind thoughts for you, your dh, and your family.
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Post by KelleeM on Aug 1, 2021 21:03:10 GMT
Sending good thoughts to your family.
I can relate to losing her twice. It was the same when my Mom passed.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 1, 2021 21:07:28 GMT
Sending kind thoughts your way.
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Post by CarolinaGirl71 on Aug 1, 2021 21:07:31 GMT
I'm so sorry for your family's loss. May you be comforted by memories of happier times with her.
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Post by mom on Aug 1, 2021 21:08:56 GMT
I am so sorry, Elaine. Its hard even when you know its coming. Also? Happy Anniversary to you and your DH.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Aug 1, 2021 21:13:11 GMT
I am so sorry for the loss of your MIL. I totally understand your feelings of having lost her twice. Blessings to your DH, you and your family.
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 1, 2021 21:13:16 GMT
I'm sorry for your loss
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Post by destined2bmom on Aug 1, 2021 21:13:43 GMT
I am so sorry for the loss of your mother-in-law. I am sending your family many prayers.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Aug 1, 2021 21:16:46 GMT
Oh Elaine, hugs to you and your man. I'm so very sorry.
We lost my father on our 1st wedding anniversary. It was our 22nd anniversary yesterday. Too many similarities, eh?
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Post by lucyg on Aug 1, 2021 21:18:33 GMT
I’m so sorry. It’s always hard to lose a parent, but after years of them not even knowing you, it’s especially bitter. BTDT
Hugs to you all. May her memory be for a blessing.
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Post by seaexplore on Aug 1, 2021 21:18:42 GMT
Sending you and your family love elaine |
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Post by mnmloveli on Aug 1, 2021 21:20:45 GMT
So sorry for your loss.
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Post by mollycoddle on Aug 1, 2021 21:21:10 GMT
I’m so sorry. Alzheimers is such a terrible disease.
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Post by dewryce on Aug 1, 2021 21:24:36 GMT
Oh honey I’m so sorry. Big (((hugs))) to you both!
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Post by peasquared on Aug 1, 2021 21:31:38 GMT
Oh, elaine, I am so very sorry. Please extend my warmest wishes for peace and strength to your DH, and also for you. I want to also congratulate you on 23 years of marriage. That is something to be proud of! BIG HUGS to you, my friend! |
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Post by Mary Kay Lady on Aug 1, 2021 21:31:44 GMT
(((HUGS))) I'm sorry for your loss.
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Post by stormsts on Aug 1, 2021 21:35:54 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss. We are going through this terrible disease with my MIL.
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Post by Restless Spirit on Aug 1, 2021 21:37:18 GMT
I’m so sorry.  I hope you had a lovely day prior to her passing that will hold some fond memories you can hold close to your hearts. I have a brother-in-law with dementia. My poor sister is watching him slip away. She’s is so much denial that I worry for her as time passes by. It’s so hard to watch both of them struggle. |
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Post by femalebusiness on Aug 1, 2021 21:39:54 GMT
No matter the circumstances it is always hard to lose a parent. So sorry for your loss.
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Post by rgibson on Aug 1, 2021 21:40:47 GMT
So sorry for your loss. Alzheimer’s is a a very cruel disease indeed - we lose our loved ones twice. Sending warm thoughts to your husband and the rest of your family as well.
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Post by librarylady on Aug 1, 2021 21:47:55 GMT
Prayer of comfort for you, DH and all who loved her.
May you have some comfort at this sad time.
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Post by Crack-a-lackin on Aug 1, 2021 21:49:28 GMT
I am so sorry. I can relate to some of what you’re experiencing having lost my mom to cancer and dementia a few years ago. It’s difficult losing a parent, no matter how old or how prepared you are. Hugs to your family.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Aug 1, 2021 21:50:01 GMT
I am sending gentle hugs because I know all about dementia AND abdominal cancer. I am so very sorry for your loss. Truly.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 1, 2021 21:54:25 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Aug 1, 2021 21:55:09 GMT
I am so very sorry for your loss. I am sure it's like losing her for a second time and I am sorry for that. I know it must really hurt. I will be sending you thoughts of peace and comfort.
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I hope you had a lovely day prior to her passing that will hold some fond memories you can hold close to your hearts. 
