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Post by gillyp on Aug 1, 2021 21:57:12 GMT
I am so sorry you and your family have lost MIL and also sorry that you have been grieving the loss of the woman she was for so long. I hope your future anniversaries will give you the opportunity to remember good times you all had.
It's so weird the way dates have co-incidences. My son's FIL died on my wedding anniversary and my sister (my son's absolute beloved aunt) died on his wedding anniversary. It can all seem so cruel.
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Post by peasapie on Aug 1, 2021 21:57:12 GMT
I'm so very sorry for your, and your husband's, loss.
My mother also passed from Alzheimers, and I know what it is to lose someone many years before they pass. And to sometimes have them "reappear" for a short time, only to be gone again. It is hard to grieve in the usual way at the time of passing, but after time has gone by I have been able to find my way through a different kind of path to mourn her passing. I hope your husband will, too.
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Post by gar on Aug 1, 2021 21:57:24 GMT
I’m so sorry Elaine. I lost my Mum to Alzheimer’s in October and the ‘losing them twice’ thing is brutal. My thoughts are with your whole family.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Aug 1, 2021 21:57:38 GMT
elaine wishing DH, you and your family peace and comfort during this difficult time. ((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))
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Post by TXMary on Aug 1, 2021 21:59:20 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers for all who loved her.
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Post by scrapngranny on Aug 1, 2021 21:59:31 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope your DH finds peace knowing her suffering is over. It has to be tough mourning the loss the same person twice.
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Post by mimima on Aug 1, 2021 21:59:58 GMT
I'm so sorry. May her Memory be a Blessing
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Post by Lexica on Aug 1, 2021 22:02:02 GMT
I'm very sorry for your loss. And even though it was an anticipated loss, that doesn't make the pain any less, I'm sure. You are fortunate to have each other to lean on during this time. Your family will be in my prayers.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 1, 2021 22:03:56 GMT
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Post by malibou on Aug 1, 2021 22:05:23 GMT
I am so very sorry. This stuff is always so hard, and knowing it's coming doesn't make it any easier.
May her memory be for blessing.
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Post by msliz on Aug 1, 2021 22:05:51 GMT
I'm very sorry for your loss. May her memory be a blessing.
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Post by christine58 on Aug 1, 2021 22:09:09 GMT
I am so sorry...prayers headed your way
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Post by katlady on Aug 1, 2021 22:09:51 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs to you and your DH!
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Post by littlemama on Aug 1, 2021 22:13:51 GMT
I am so sorry, elaine. Dementia is so very cruel. When my stepdad passed away from it, my mom said she didnt know how to mourn because she had mourned him for 2+ years already. Hugs and prayers to you and dh. |
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Post by winniegirl on Aug 1, 2021 22:19:05 GMT
I'm so sorry for your family's loss.
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Post by janeinbama on Aug 1, 2021 22:27:31 GMT
So sorry for your loss, we attended a funeral yesterday for my dear friend's mother who also died from Alzheimer's, suffering for the past 6 years. It is such a cruel disease.
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Post by kate on Aug 1, 2021 22:36:09 GMT
I'm so sorry for all of you who are missing her as she once was. Praying for comfort and peace of heart for all of you.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Aug 1, 2021 22:36:15 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve BTDT with Alzheimer’s and my own mom so I completely understand what you’re saying. It’s rough. Hugs to you and everyone who loved your MIL.
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Post by shamrock on Aug 1, 2021 22:37:47 GMT
I’m sorry for the loss of your MIL.
Alzheimer’s is a cruel disease. I’ve lost a few family members to it or age related dementia (at the time of my grandmother’s diagnosis they couldn’t confidently say which it was.) It is hard to finally lose them when in so many ways you lost the person when the disease really took hold.
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Post by Basket1lady on Aug 1, 2021 22:50:12 GMT
I’m so very sorry for your family’s loss. We’re losing my MIL to dementia and it’s so hard.
I hope the prayer is ok. I do t think it’s too Catholic.
Eternal rest grant unto her, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon her. May her soul and all the souls of the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace.
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Post by pudgygroundhog on Aug 1, 2021 22:50:38 GMT
I'm sorry Elaine. It is a very cruel disease.  |
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Post by scrapmaven on Aug 1, 2021 22:58:39 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss, elaine. We lost my fil to alz, as well. He was a strong man and lived ten years in the final stage, not knowing anyone, not being able to talk or walk. Both my dh and his sister will tell you that they lost him years before he passed away. His death was sad, but also a relief at the same time. That sounds cold and cruel, but it's true, makes perfect sense and I totally understand their feelings. This will be a very different type of grief than you might be expecting.
A funeral is for the friends and loved ones to support the family, but I know that you'll have much love and support, because you give so much to others.
My heart goes out to you and your dh. May your beloved mil's memory be for a blessing to all who knew her.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Aug 1, 2021 23:11:53 GMT
I am so sorry for your family's loss. Alzheimer's and cancer are both very cruel diseases. Will keep you and your DH in my prayers.
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Post by tryingtobewise on Aug 1, 2021 23:33:04 GMT
I’m very sorry. Alzheimer’s is brutal.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Aug 1, 2021 23:33:37 GMT
{{{hugs}}} elaine
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Post by PLurker on Aug 1, 2021 23:39:55 GMT
I'm so sorry for you and your family's loss. ((hugs))
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Post by Deleted on Aug 1, 2021 23:41:32 GMT
So sorry for your family's loss. You will be in my prayers! We are going through the same with my FIL. He has alzheimers and contracted covid over the winter. He's been declining physically really fast since. Hugs!
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Post by bc2ca on Aug 1, 2021 23:43:23 GMT
My heart goes out to your whole family & especially your DH.  I'm another who lost her mom to dementia about 5 years ago although she is still physically here. Her ability to give awesome hugs kept us going but I saw her for the first time in 2 years last weekend and she isn't able to give them anymore.  |
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Post by snowsilver on Aug 1, 2021 23:44:42 GMT
Not only for your DH but for YOU as well. If you have a good mom-in-law (which I had and which I think you did) the loss hurts YOU too. I miss my MIL all the time. She never, ever spoke an unkind or sharp word to me. I'm so sorry for you both.
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Post by J u l e e on Aug 1, 2021 23:50:34 GMT
I am so sorry Elaine. I lost my father so slowly it almost didn’t feel like twice, but one long drawn out loss. It’s so hard! I’m also very sorry it happened during the celebration of your anniversary and your son’s birthday weekend. Wishing sweet memories for your family as you grieve together.
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