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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 13, 2021 12:27:46 GMT
Jeremy just told me yesterday that one of his good friends is leaving Michigan on Monday and moving to Tennessee. He has been in a long-distance relationship with a woman who he knew from our hometown growing up that lives in Tennessee. I did not realize he was going and apparently there is a bon voyage party on Sunday for him that Jeremy wants to attend. I'm just wondering if I should bring some sort of gift (I will most likely bring some kind of treats to share with everyone). And if I should bring a gift, what kind of gift is appropriate for this occasion? If you have suggestions, let me know and it's got to be something I can get locally, as I don't have time to internet shop.
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Post by monklady123 on Aug 13, 2021 12:37:12 GMT
Jeremy just told me yesterday that one of his good friends is leaving Michigan on Monday and moving to Tennessee. He has been in a long-distance relationship with a woman who he knew from our hometown growing up that lives in Tennessee. I did not realize he was going and apparently there is a bon voyage party on Sunday for him that Jeremy wants to attend. I'm just wondering if I should bring some sort of gift (I will most likely bring some kind of treats to share with everyone). And if I should bring a gift, what kind of gift is appropriate for this occasion? If you have suggestions, let me know and it's got to be something I can get locally, as I don't have time to internet shop. Personally I wouldn't. Or let your dh do it....I mean, it's his friend. But it seems to me that someone who's moving across the country doesn't need one more item to pack up. If you dh thinks you should bring something then maybe he could get the friend a gas card or something like that...something that could be useful for the drive. |
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Aug 13, 2021 12:41:28 GMT
Maybe just a box of extra treats for the drive.
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Post by coaliesquirrel on Aug 13, 2021 12:42:47 GMT
Someone who's moving probably doesn't want more stuff to move, so if anything, I'd give maybe a gift card to be used in the new location - either for a dinner/evening out, or if he's setting up house (not moving in w/ the ladyfriend), maybe for a hardware store or Target/WM to help him get set up. But really, a card with a heartfelt message would be nice and probably sufficient. Depending on what kind of guy he is, you could send flowers or a plant to the new address on his one month moveaversary to let him know he's not forgotten - and it's something to brighten up the new place that he wouldn't have to move.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 13, 2021 12:43:50 GMT
someone who's moving across the country doesn't need one more item to pack up. Excellent point. I like the gas card or extra treats idea. I might just do that. |
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Post by disneypal on Aug 13, 2021 12:53:46 GMT
Honestly, I wouldn't take a gift...he is already moving and has enough to move without needing something else
If you feel compelled to give him something...maybe a healthy snack basket for him to enjoy during his trip to TN.
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Post by jenjie on Aug 13, 2021 12:59:46 GMT
My good friends are moving right now. They def did not want gifts in the form of more items to deal with. Those of us who are closest pitched in and gave a visa GC to help with gas, meals, expenses during the move or anything they might need when they arrive at their new home. That was our suggestion to anyone who asked.
This doesn’t apply in your case but I’ll leave this here in case this might help anyone else. the few items we did give them were a welcome mat with their name and an appropriate phrase, and I made a small box for special cards and mementos. I made a collage of pics of our times together (all her girls) and printed on sticker paper. One went inside the lid and the other went in the bottom. DD’s friend does calligraphy. I had her do some lettering on the front… distance means so little when someone means so much.
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Post by disneypal on Aug 13, 2021 13:08:31 GMT
Those of us who are closest pitched in and gave a visa GC to help with gas, meals, expenses during the move That is a great idea! |
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Aug 13, 2021 13:16:16 GMT
A travel basket with snacks. Hand wipes etc.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Aug 13, 2021 13:46:00 GMT
My friend is moving soon too, and I know for a fact that she doesn’t want more stuff to pack and move. She’s totally over it. If I get her anything it would be a bag of our favorite road trip snacks to take with them on their final drive back (they have already hauled two trailer loads of stuff across the country and have one more to go). The problem with a gas card is how do you know which stations they’ll be passing on their way when they need to fill up? Unless you get a generic Visa branded one, and those have extra fees.  In that case, you’re better off giving them cash they can use anywhere. |
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Post by Bridget in MD on Aug 13, 2021 13:58:47 GMT
someone who's moving across the country doesn't need one more item to pack up. Excellent point. I like the gas card or extra treats idea. I might just do that. I love that idea! |
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Post by kibblesandbits on Aug 13, 2021 14:13:57 GMT
I would leave that up to jeremy. It’s his friend. .
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Post by ~summer~ on Aug 13, 2021 14:41:27 GMT
Nope
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 13, 2021 14:53:15 GMT
I would leave that up to jeremy. It’s his friend. . If I left these kinds of things up to Jeremy, they wouldn't happen. |
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Post by melanell on Aug 13, 2021 14:56:00 GMT
I agree with everyone who suggested something that can be consumed before he leaves or while on the trip, so as not to move one more thing.
(Although, quite honestly, I'm at a point in life, where I think something consumable is always a good idea, so as not to weigh people down with more belongings---whether they're moving or not---unless they are someone who you know truly wants or needs a certain item.)
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Post by melanell on Aug 13, 2021 14:58:00 GMT
I would leave that up to jeremy. It’s his friend. . If I left these kinds of things up to Jeremy, they wouldn't happen. Yes, but sometimes that's how one can put a stop to that problem---by letting them come to the realization that they perhaps should have thought of this kind of thing on their own.  |
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Post by muggins on Aug 13, 2021 15:01:29 GMT
How about a gift bag of Michigan snacks - Faygo pop, Kars nuts, Better Made chips, possibly some Mackinac Fudge?
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Post by scrapmaven on Aug 13, 2021 15:10:50 GMT
There is no need for a gift. QueenoftheSloths suggestion for car treats is perfect. You could include a card. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 13, 2021 15:14:25 GMT
If I left these kinds of things up to Jeremy, they wouldn't happen. Yes, but sometimes that's how one can put a stop to that problem---by letting them come to the realization that they perhaps should have thought of this kind of thing on their own. I don't think it's a problem, though. It doesn't bother me to be the one to think of these things and make them happen. Tonight I will most likely ask him what his preference is, a gas card or a highway snack. If he thinks a gas card will be great, then he will go out and get it. If he thinks a snack would be better, he will go to the store and buy the items for me to make the snack. He will help with whatever I ask him. However, he would never think to take a gift in the first place. I will most likely have to decide whether I think it's a big enough deal. And then see if he's going to debate about it. Whatever he decides, it's his friend. But he would never in a million years think of taking a gift and then go out and buy said gift without me suggesting it be done and what exactly should be done. I don't consider this to be a problem. I consider it to be a difference in the ways our brains work. |
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Post by peabay on Aug 13, 2021 15:17:42 GMT
In that kind of scenario, I try to find something that is related to "home" that they can enjoy - a book, something from a local store etc...
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Post by scrapmaven on Aug 13, 2021 15:27:48 GMT
Yes, but sometimes that's how one can put a stop to that problem---by letting them come to the realization that they perhaps should have thought of this kind of thing on their own. I don't think it's a problem, though. It doesn't bother me to be the one to think of these things and make them happen. Tonight I will most likely ask him what his preference is, a gas card or a highway snack. If he thinks a gas card will be great, then he will go out and get it. If he thinks a snack would be better, he will go to the store and buy the items for me to make the snack. He will help with whatever I ask him. However, he would never think to take a gift in the first place. I will most likely have to decide whether I think it's a big enough deal. And then see if he's going to debate about it. Whatever he decides, it's his friend. But he would never in a million years think of taking a gift and then go out and buy said gift without me suggesting it be done and what exactly should be done. I don't consider this to be a problem. I consider it to be a difference in the ways our brains work. I'm the social coordinator in my house and I'm fine w/that. I am in charge of all of this stuff, because it's in my wheelhouse. I'd rather do this than mow the lawn. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 13, 2021 15:40:00 GMT
I don't think it's a problem, though. It doesn't bother me to be the one to think of these things and make them happen. Tonight I will most likely ask him what his preference is, a gas card or a highway snack. If he thinks a gas card will be great, then he will go out and get it. If he thinks a snack would be better, he will go to the store and buy the items for me to make the snack. He will help with whatever I ask him. However, he would never think to take a gift in the first place. I will most likely have to decide whether I think it's a big enough deal. And then see if he's going to debate about it. Whatever he decides, it's his friend. But he would never in a million years think of taking a gift and then go out and buy said gift without me suggesting it be done and what exactly should be done. I don't consider this to be a problem. I consider it to be a difference in the ways our brains work. I'm the social coordinator in my house and I'm fine w/that. I am in charge of all of this stuff, because it's in my wheelhouse. I'd rather do this than mow the lawn. Yes, and it's not like I just go behind his back and do things without him knowing and having input. I will surely discuss it with him. But I know he wouldn't think of it on his own. Hell, I barely thought of it. And I didn't even know if this was a "thing" to do in the first place. Which is why I posted here. I'm really leaning toward suggesting a tin full of homemade Chex mix as that is what I would make myself for a road trip. It's a little thing too. Not a big deal. |
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Post by dewryce on Aug 13, 2021 15:50:00 GMT
How about a gift bag of Michigan snacks - Faygo pop, Kars nuts, Better Made chips, possibly some Mackinac Fudge? That’s what I was thinking. Local items that you know he loves. And I’d probably put it in something that will sit easily in his vehicle so he can reach it while he’s driving. I don’t know many men who would have a container or basket to use for this. Something with an easy to grab handle would be helpful. Could be as simple as a cheap plastic cleaning caddy with divided sections. One could hold trash, wipes/sanitizer in one, snacks in another. |
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Post by dewryce on Aug 13, 2021 15:52:01 GMT
Yes, but sometimes that's how one can put a stop to that problem---by letting them come to the realization that they perhaps should have thought of this kind of thing on their own. I don't think it's a problem, though. It doesn't bother me to be the one to think of these things and make them happen. Tonight I will most likely ask him what his preference is, a gas card or a highway snack. If he thinks a gas card will be great, then he will go out and get it. If he thinks a snack would be better, he will go to the store and buy the items for me to make the snack. He will help with whatever I ask him. However, he would never think to take a gift in the first place. I will most likely have to decide whether I think it's a big enough deal. And then see if he's going to debate about it. Whatever he decides, it's his friend. But he would never in a million years think of taking a gift and then go out and buy said gift without me suggesting it be done and what exactly should be done. I don't consider this to be a problem. I consider it to be a difference in the ways our brains work. Yep, we are a team and help each other out. He’s good at some things, I rock at others. |
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Post by littlemama on Aug 13, 2021 15:59:15 GMT
Maybe a gift card for a restaurant near where he is moving?
We are in TN now, it is so beautiful!
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Post by GamGam on Aug 13, 2021 16:15:38 GMT
We are in TN now, it is so beautiful! HOT!! But beautiful😊 |
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Post by littlemama on Aug 13, 2021 16:40:42 GMT
We are in TN now, it is so beautiful! HOT!! But beautiful😊 It has been quite toasty! We are going on a one hour boat tour this afternoon so hopefully it will be a bit better on the water. |
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Post by littlemama on Aug 13, 2021 16:43:37 GMT
Yes, but sometimes that's how one can put a stop to that problem---by letting them come to the realization that they perhaps should have thought of this kind of thing on their own. I don't think it's a problem, though. It doesn't bother me to be the one to think of these things and make them happen. Tonight I will most likely ask him what his preference is, a gas card or a highway snack. If he thinks a gas card will be great, then he will go out and get it. If he thinks a snack would be better, he will go to the store and buy the items for me to make the snack. He will help with whatever I ask him. However, he would never think to take a gift in the first place. I will most likely have to decide whether I think it's a big enough deal. And then see if he's going to debate about it. Whatever he decides, it's his friend. But he would never in a million years think of taking a gift and then go out and buy said gift without me suggesting it be done and what exactly should be done. I don't consider this to be a problem. I consider it to be a difference in the ways our brains work. Ive never understood the "his family" "his friend" attitude that some people have. Dh and I are a team and we play to our strengths. His family is my family and vice versa and we dont really have friends that the other doesnt know. |
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Post by melanell on Aug 13, 2021 20:18:57 GMT
Yes, but sometimes that's how one can put a stop to that problem---by letting them come to the realization that they perhaps should have thought of this kind of thing on their own. I don't think it's a problem, though. It doesn't bother me to be the one to think of these things and make them happen. Tonight I will most likely ask him what his preference is, a gas card or a highway snack. If he thinks a gas card will be great, then he will go out and get it. If he thinks a snack would be better, he will go to the store and buy the items for me to make the snack. He will help with whatever I ask him. However, he would never think to take a gift in the first place. I will most likely have to decide whether I think it's a big enough deal. And then see if he's going to debate about it. Whatever he decides, it's his friend. But he would never in a million years think of taking a gift and then go out and buy said gift without me suggesting it be done and what exactly should be done. I don't consider this to be a problem. I consider it to be a difference in the ways our brains work. Sorry, apparently my little winky guy didn't go a good enough job of setting the tone of my post. I really didn't mean it was some terrible issue. I meant "problem" in much the same way I talk about the "problem" of DH not turning socks right side out before he puts them in the clothes hamper, or the "problem" of my kids never replacing toilet paper, or something like that.  I wasn't trying to disparage your DH or indicate any sort of issue with how you choose to divvy up household tasks. My apologies. |
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Aug 13, 2021 23:14:17 GMT
I'd give a best wishes type of card, and a gift card for a restaurant....then he can take his girlfriend on a date in his new city.
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In that case, you’re better off giving them cash they can use anywhere.
