Fluff - What is a "coffee shop" to you?

To me a coffee shop is a coffee-focused establishment. Espresso, drip, iced, pour over, etc. Quality and variety of coffee matters. Food is secondary, almost certainly includes bakery items. May have some light lunch and dinner options as well. Probably a selection of teas. Most open from pretty early in the morning to the end of the workday, but some are open evening hours and have live music, etc. Mix of people there for social reasons and remote workers. Lots of people just getting drinks to go but lots staying too (you know, in normal times).

I'm old so I think of it as a diner. Similar to what IHOP is today.

this is the one I remember best, Culver City, Cal. - they had a $1.99 steak and eggs special for the after bar crowd and it was darn good

- link includes the menu.

www.lamag.com/citythinkblog/remembering-ships-l-a-s-out-of-this-world-coffee-shops/

I would expect a place somewhat similar to a Starbucks. Main focus on coffee and tea drinks, with light snacks and pastries available. Simple table and chairs and perhaps an outdoor seating area. No waitresses, no full kitchen. Like busy mentioned, a mix of people from people working on laptops, moms on a break, groups of friends just hanging out. No rush to vacate the table/seats like I would feel in a diner or restaurant. What you describe is what we would call a diner, something similar to a Waffle House or Denny's.

It used to mean a diner to me, but with the rise of Starbucks, it’s meaning changed to mean coffee drinks as the main product of the store.

Specialty coffee beans they grind themselves.

Variety of coffee drinks.

Pastries, sandwiches, soups, and salads offered.

Variety of teas as well.

Small, quaint atmosphere with local art on the wall.

Local musicians who play there.

Outdoor seating as well.

Growing up a coffee shop was nothing fancy. You could maybe get regular or decaf coffee and black tea? 

It was a sit down, table service place and many were only open for breakfast and lunch. They are plenty still around although they might have upped the coffee choices to include basic espressos, etc.

I don't think I've ever heard Starbucks or other counter service places called coffee shops.

Something like Starbucks.

Where you walk in and get coffee at a counter. They might have a few tables and a few quick food items, but there’s no waiters and no big kitchen where there’s a cook at a grill.

To me, it's both - any Starbucks like establishment, but also a certain type of diner. It's not your typical diner, it's a specific type that serves their takeout coffee in blue and white cups and has more of a counter service than tables.

a coffee shop to me has coffee, tea, lattes, espresso etc.... maybe some bottled fancy cold-pressed drinks, baked goods and if they do serve lunch/meals i would expect sandwiches (maybe or maybe not pre-made), maybe already prepared quiche or similar that can be easily re-heated. 

A coffee shop is a place where most people go to get coffee and something to eat with it.  Muffins, cakes, and then possibly other types of food depending.  People go and sit around and talk or read.

A coffee house is similar but has music or performers, generally in the evenings.

A tea shop or tea house is like a coffee house but they mostly serve teas.

A place where you sit down snd enjoy a beverage, usually coffee.

Growing up a coffee shop was small diner or restaurant, where one could get coffee(or other basic beverage) and pie/dessert or a full meal (usually burgers, meatloaf, fried chicken, soup of the day, fish n chips, breakfast, chef salad, etc...).
Where you sit at a table and order and the food is brought to you.

Nowadays, it's a chain type (Starbucks, Dutch Bros, etc...) or independant (similar to the coffee shop on TV show Friends), where one can have basic or fancy coffee or tea and an assortment of bottles beverages(water, juice, etc...) and small simpler convenience type food items(pastries, sandwiches, wraps, fruit and yougurt type cups, etc... not a full cooked type meal. 
Most places >> Where you wait in line to order, then pick up your items at the pickup counter, and take it to your table.
A few independent places >> Sometimes a staff member that takes the order and brings your items to the table. Otherwise they are counter service only.

I am Dutch, and when I think of coffeeshops, I don’t think about coffee. Because over here, “a coffeeshop is an establishment where the sale of cannabis for personal consumption by the public is tolerated by the local authorities.” (Wikipedia)

Me too. Although if I am in Amsterdam, a coffee shop is a whole 'nother thing