Just T
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Post by Just T on Nov 5, 2021 16:14:13 GMT
My sister has been in the hospital for 3 weeks today. I am thinking she will be ventilated today. She was not “anti vax” she was just scared of what all the anti vaxxers told her. And whatever anyone thinks- this is my baby sister. She has been sending me texts that are so heartbreaking I can’t even breathe. Telling me how scared she is and that she doesn’t want to die. Her husband cries to me on the phone everyday. It’s all so horrific. I am terrified, angry, and sad too. So I totally understand your feelings. And I am so very sorry for your loss. 😔 I am so very sorry you have this heartbreak too. It sucks. I hope and pray your sister recovers.
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Post by gillyp on Nov 5, 2021 16:15:05 GMT
I’m so sorry to read your update. What a huge range of emotions you will be feeling. I think you are right, now is not the time to ask about the vaccine. They will know, they don’t need a reminder. sunny1016 I’m sorry for your post too.
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Post by christine58 on Nov 5, 2021 16:28:19 GMT
I think we all completely understand what you’re saying. It’s easy on the outside to be looking in and be angry at someone who dies that we don’t know. But when it hits close to home your emotions are so much different. Give them some grace which I know you’ll do, they’re going to need their family over the next however long. Thank you for that. I know they are all hurting, and I am hurting for/with them. My very outspoken son thinks I should ask them if they will get the vaccine now, and I keep telling him emphatically NO. I will not do that. I refuse to even mention the vaccine. I'm just going to do my best to support them through this time. It's hard because I am 7 hours away and there is not much I can do. I've been talking a lot to my husband's brother's wife, and I love her too. She is a total sweetheart, and I know she is devastated for the loss and also worried about how her husband is going to handle this because the two of them were really close. It all just sucks, and I am so sick of Covid and what it has done to us. My husband's brothers wife said to me last night when we were texting (before we knew BIL had died) that we all need to pull together and support each other. I wish we were doing that as a country, too. I think if we had been all along, things might be much different now. Could you have food delivered??? The best you can do is to pull together and just support them however you can.
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Post by christine58 on Nov 5, 2021 16:30:42 GMT
My sister has been in the hospital for 3 weeks today. I am thinking she will be ventilated today. She was not “anti vax” she was just scared of what all the anti vaxxers told her. And whatever anyone thinks- this is my baby sister. She has been sending me texts that are so heartbreaking I can’t even breathe. Telling me how scared she is and that she doesn’t want to die. Her husband cries to me on the phone everyday. It’s all so horrific. I am terrified, angry, and sad too. So I totally understand your feelings. I am so sorry.. A good friend's sister was on a ventilator for over 3 weeks (not vaccinated) and she is now off of it, has a trach that won't be permanent BUT she is in a great rehab and is making progress every day so there is still hope for your sister too
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Post by sunny1016 on Nov 5, 2021 16:58:13 GMT
My sister has been in the hospital for 3 weeks today. I am thinking she will be ventilated today. She was not “anti vax” she was just scared of what all the anti vaxxers told her. And whatever anyone thinks- this is my baby sister. She has been sending me texts that are so heartbreaking I can’t even breathe. Telling me how scared she is and that she doesn’t want to die. Her husband cries to me on the phone everyday. It’s all so horrific. I am terrified, angry, and sad too. So I totally understand your feelings. I am so sorry.. A good friend's sister was on a ventilator for over 3 weeks (not vaccinated) and she is now off of it, has a trach that won't be permanent BUT she is in a great rehab and is making progress every day so there is still hope for your sister too It’s nice to have hope. Its a little thin these days.
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Post by Crack-a-lackin on Nov 5, 2021 17:03:04 GMT
I’m so sorry to read your update. My thoughts are with your family.
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Post by anniefb on Nov 5, 2021 17:30:54 GMT
So sorry to read your update and for your loss.
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zella
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Post by zella on Nov 5, 2021 21:24:53 GMT
Sad, but as you say, so unnecessary.
Edited to remove thoughtless and unkind statement.
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maryannscraps
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Post by maryannscraps on Nov 5, 2021 21:30:25 GMT
Sad, but as you say, so unnecessary. editedI'm not sure that's really helpful with several people here saying they have family members on ventilators. The survival rate ranges from 50-70%, so ventilators are saving a lot of people who would not have made it without them.
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zella
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Post by zella on Nov 5, 2021 21:32:32 GMT
Sad, but as you say, so unnecessary. I have a signed paper near my bed with my wishes if I get Covid. Stay at home if at all possible and DNR, no vent. That's what's right for me. I'm not sure that's really helpful with several people here saying they have family members on ventilators. The survival rate ranges from 50-70%, so ventilators are saving a lot of people who would not have made it without them. Sorry. I didn't read the thread, just the OP. The odds are still not great. I'll edit my post; thanks for letting me know.
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Post by peasapie on Nov 5, 2021 22:46:41 GMT
That’s so very sad.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 5, 2021 23:08:38 GMT
I'm so very sorry to read the update. Heartbreaking for you and the family, I'm sure.
I just heard from DH's great-niece's MIL (hard to follow, I know!). She and her husband were down to earth. Family meant everything to them. They'd take elaborate vacations with their entire family. I'm so glad that they had years of family events and closeness. Her DH was a good guy, very outgoing, hard worker. They didn't believe in the vaccine. They both got Covid recently. He wound up in the ICU and passed away within 5 days. She, somehow recovered.
She was telling me that my imminent loss of my DH will be a very hard road. I told her that I'm so sorry for her loss, and sorrier that she couldn't be there with him to say goodbye. Guess what? She said that his ICU doctor "wasn't heartless, so he let me and the kids come to be with him in the ICU". I freaked out to myself. So, this woman who was going through her own Covid went to an ICU, and her kids/family also went there? This is how Covid keeps spreading. It just really got to me. I'm SO sorry that her husband passed, but that doctor just exposed the hospital and now their community to more Covid-spreading.
I can't understand how people aren't thinking clearly where this is involved. Who are they listening to?? What do they think is in the monoclonal antibodies that seem to be acceptable to these anti-vaxxers?? Can't they think for themselves?? It makes me mad that so many families are losing loved ones over this. My heart goes out to all of you on here who have lost a dear one due to this pandemic. I"m so very sorry.
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Post by gramasue on Nov 5, 2021 23:16:00 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss. This is a story that we have heard time and time again, and still, people are anti-vax. I don't understand it, either. Such a needless tragedy. My condolences to all your family.
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Post by christine58 on Nov 6, 2021 1:30:02 GMT
I'm so very sorry to read the update. Heartbreaking for you and the family, I'm sure. I just heard from DH's great-niece's MIL (hard to follow, I know!). She and her husband were down to earth. Family meant everything to them. They'd take elaborate vacations with their entire family. I'm so glad that they had years of family events and closeness. Her DH was a good guy, very outgoing, hard worker. They didn't believe in the vaccine. They both got Covid recently. He wound up in the ICU and passed away within 5 days. She, somehow recovered. She was telling me that my imminent loss of my DH will be a very hard road. I told her that I'm so sorry for her loss, and sorrier that she couldn't be there with him to say goodbye. Guess what? She said that his ICU doctor "wasn't heartless, so he let me and the kids come to be with him in the ICU". I freaked out to myself. So, this woman who was going through her own Covid went to an ICU, and her kids/family also went there? This is how Covid keeps spreading. It just really got to me. I'm SO sorry that her husband passed, but that doctor just exposed the hospital and now their community to more Covid-spreading. I can't understand how people aren't thinking clearly where this is involved. Who are they listening to?? What do they think is in the monoclonal antibodies that seem to be acceptable to these anti-vaxxers?? Can't they think for themselves?? It makes me mad that so many families are losing loved ones over this. My heart goes out to all of you on here who have lost a dear one due to this pandemic. I"m so very sorry. I’m going to bet that the ICU doctor made sure that everyone was gowned head to toe and had gloves and a mask on. There’s no way he just let them walk into an ICU when the mother herself has Covid. You stated that the mother herself had recovered so to me that means she was no longer testing positive for Covid. There are many hospitals that are allowing family in at the end of life.
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Post by freecharlie on Nov 6, 2021 2:27:50 GMT
Sad, but as you say, so unnecessary. I just figure anyone on a vent is going to die. Not sure what the statistics are, but to me it seems pointless. not true, they can transition off as the virus leaves the system. Sometimes they get a temp trach and go from there. If people didn't recover, they wouldn't bother to put them on a vent. Dh deals with this every day. He says it is so random who gets better and who doesn't
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Post by freecharlie on Nov 6, 2021 2:30:36 GMT
I'm so very sorry to read the update. Heartbreaking for you and the family, I'm sure. I just heard from DH's great-niece's MIL (hard to follow, I know!). She and her husband were down to earth. Family meant everything to them. They'd take elaborate vacations with their entire family. I'm so glad that they had years of family events and closeness. Her DH was a good guy, very outgoing, hard worker. They didn't believe in the vaccine. They both got Covid recently. He wound up in the ICU and passed away within 5 days. She, somehow recovered. She was telling me that my imminent loss of my DH will be a very hard road. I told her that I'm so sorry for her loss, and sorrier that she couldn't be there with him to say goodbye. Guess what? She said that his ICU doctor "wasn't heartless, so he let me and the kids come to be with him in the ICU". I freaked out to myself. So, this woman who was going through her own Covid went to an ICU, and her kids/family also went there? This is how Covid keeps spreading. It just really got to me. I'm SO sorry that her husband passed, but that doctor just exposed the hospital and now their community to more Covid-spreading. I can't understand how people aren't thinking clearly where this is involved. Who are they listening to?? What do they think is in the monoclonal antibodies that seem to be acceptable to these anti-vaxxers?? Can't they think for themselves?? It makes me mad that so many families are losing loved ones over this. My heart goes out to all of you on here who have lost a dear one due to this pandemic. I"m so very sorry. My cousins were with my uncle when he died. Each family member could go up one at a time while he was there. Once death was imminent, the family could go in. There are screening questions. If family lies on the questions, the hospital doesn't know
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Post by scrapmaven on Nov 6, 2021 2:43:55 GMT
I'm very sorry for your loss. . sunny1016, I pray that your sister heals and recovers from this. Though I want everyone to get the vaccine, I don't want anyone to get so ill that they are on a vent or pass away
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zella
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Post by zella on Nov 6, 2021 3:16:23 GMT
DAMN! I edited my comment immediately after reading the first comment after mine. I have NO idea why it didn't work. To the person whose sister is on a vent: I am so very sorry and I hope she manages to get off it and get better. Now I will go and try to edit that post again.
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zella
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Post by zella on Nov 6, 2021 3:21:59 GMT
PLEASE ignore the thoughtless comment that I made immediately after reading the OP. I have edited my post. I did so earlier too; I don't know what happened. I would appreciate it, if you're going to quote me, that you quote my edited version which is far more inline with my personality. I sometimes make thoughtless comments then realize it, and go back and correct it as I did here. I am very sorry if I caused anyone pain.
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Post by bearmom on Nov 6, 2021 12:37:36 GMT
Sorry for you loss.
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teddyw
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Post by teddyw on Nov 6, 2021 14:54:00 GMT
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Post by auntkelly on Nov 6, 2021 17:25:38 GMT
She was telling me that my imminent loss of my DH will be a very hard road. I told her that I'm so sorry for her loss, and sorrier that she couldn't be there with him to say goodbye. Guess what? She said that his ICU doctor "wasn't heartless, so he let me and the kids come to be with him in the ICU". I freaked out to myself. So, this woman who was going through her own Covid went to an ICU, and her kids/family also went there? This is how Covid keeps spreading. It just really got to me. I'm SO sorry that her husband passed, but that doctor just exposed the hospital and now their community to more Covid-spreading. I can't understand how people aren't thinking clearly where this is involved. Who are they listening to?? What do they think is in the monoclonal antibodies that seem to be acceptable to these anti-vaxxers?? Can't they think for themselves?? It makes me mad that so many families are losing loved ones over this. My heart goes out to all of you on here who have lost a dear one due to this pandemic. I"m so very sorry. I’m going to bet that the ICU doctor made sure that everyone was gowned head to toe and had gloves and a mask on. There’s no way he just let them walk into an ICU when the mother herself has Covid. You stated that the mother herself had recovered so to me that means she was no longer testing positive for Covid. There are many hospitals that are allowing family in at the end of life. My unvaccinated sister in law is currently on a vent in ICU. She is allowed one visitor at a time during normal visiting hours. No questions are asked of the visitors. We are required to wear N95 masks which we supply and we also wear gowns and gloves supplied by the hospital. My husband and I are fully vaccinated. Some of her adult children who have been visiting are not vaccinated, including the one who is an RN (don't even get me started). I was shocked at the liberal visiting policy. It's a large reputable hospital.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 6, 2021 17:47:29 GMT
I'm so very sorry to read the update. Heartbreaking for you and the family, I'm sure. I just heard from DH's great-niece's MIL (hard to follow, I know!). She and her husband were down to earth. Family meant everything to them. They'd take elaborate vacations with their entire family. I'm so glad that they had years of family events and closeness. Her DH was a good guy, very outgoing, hard worker. They didn't believe in the vaccine. They both got Covid recently. He wound up in the ICU and passed away within 5 days. She, somehow recovered. She was telling me that my imminent loss of my DH will be a very hard road. I told her that I'm so sorry for her loss, and sorrier that she couldn't be there with him to say goodbye. Guess what? She said that his ICU doctor "wasn't heartless, so he let me and the kids come to be with him in the ICU". I freaked out to myself. So, this woman who was going through her own Covid went to an ICU, and her kids/family also went there? This is how Covid keeps spreading. It just really got to me. I'm SO sorry that her husband passed, but that doctor just exposed the hospital and now their community to more Covid-spreading. I can't understand how people aren't thinking clearly where this is involved. Who are they listening to?? What do they think is in the monoclonal antibodies that seem to be acceptable to these anti-vaxxers?? Can't they think for themselves?? It makes me mad that so many families are losing loved ones over this. My heart goes out to all of you on here who have lost a dear one due to this pandemic. I"m so very sorry. My cousins were with my uncle when he died. Each family member could go up one at a time while he was there. Once death was imminent, the family could go in. There are screening questions. If family lies on the questions, the hospital doesn't know The wife had JUST BEEN diagnosed with Covid the same time as her husband. I can't see how it would be safe for her to enter a crowded building or be near her children/grandchildren, etc. Seems that so many rules are blurred. I really can't ever see this pandemic ending. On the other hand, I'm glad that they all had a chance to see him and I PRAY that they all get vaccinated now!
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Post by Deleted on Nov 6, 2021 17:50:56 GMT
I'm so very sorry to read the update. Heartbreaking for you and the family, I'm sure. I just heard from DH's great-niece's MIL (hard to follow, I know!). She and her husband were down to earth. Family meant everything to them. They'd take elaborate vacations with their entire family. I'm so glad that they had years of family events and closeness. Her DH was a good guy, very outgoing, hard worker. They didn't believe in the vaccine. They both got Covid recently. He wound up in the ICU and passed away within 5 days. She, somehow recovered. She was telling me that my imminent loss of my DH will be a very hard road. I told her that I'm so sorry for her loss, and sorrier that she couldn't be there with him to say goodbye. Guess what? She said that his ICU doctor "wasn't heartless, so he let me and the kids come to be with him in the ICU". I freaked out to myself. So, this woman who was going through her own Covid went to an ICU, and her kids/family also went there? This is how Covid keeps spreading. It just really got to me. I'm SO sorry that her husband passed, but that doctor just exposed the hospital and now their community to more Covid-spreading. I can't understand how people aren't thinking clearly where this is involved. Who are they listening to?? What do they think is in the monoclonal antibodies that seem to be acceptable to these anti-vaxxers?? Can't they think for themselves?? It makes me mad that so many families are losing loved ones over this. My heart goes out to all of you on here who have lost a dear one due to this pandemic. I"m so very sorry. I’m going to bet that the ICU doctor made sure that everyone was gowned head to toe and had gloves and a mask on. There’s no way he just let them walk into an ICU when the mother herself has Covid. You stated that the mother herself had recovered so to me that means she was no longer testing positive for Covid. There are many hospitals that are allowing family in at the end of life. The mother/wife recovered NOW. She and her husband were both diagnosed with Covid at the same time. She recovered at home and he wound up in the hospital and passed away. He passed about 2 weeks ago or so........ Just sounds dangerous for her to be near her children or grandchildren, and now I'm wondering about the family coming in to say goodbye to the Covid patient. Is that really safe if they're not vaxxed?? This entire family is anti-vaxx.
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Post by Baseballmom23 on Nov 6, 2021 17:58:41 GMT
I'm so sorry. I hope your DH's brother continues to improve. It is so tragic, because most of the recent deaths are preventable, as you said. My condolences & prayers
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Just T
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Post by Just T on Nov 6, 2021 19:16:27 GMT
UPDATE 11/6 Now, my dad has Covid and was admitted to the hospital this morning. He has it for the second time! He is vaccinated, so hopefully, he will have a milder case than he had in February. (He was hospitalized then, too). He had surgery on his leg last week, and he must have gotten it from the hospital. Either that or from his home health aid. He had a negative test before his surgery on Friday, and he hasn't been anywhere since he got home on Monday.
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Post by seaexplore on Nov 6, 2021 19:23:05 GMT
UPDATE 11/6 Now, my dad has Covid and was admitted to the hospital this morning. He has it for the second time! He is vaccinated, so hopefully, he will have a milder case than he had in February. (He was hospitalized then, too). He had surgery on his leg last week, and he must have gotten it from the hospital. Either that or from his home health aid. He had a negative test before his surgery on Friday, and he hasn't been anywhere since he got home on Monday. Dang! You just can't catch a break! Will they offer him monoclonal antibodies?
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Post by freecharlie on Nov 6, 2021 19:23:52 GMT
UPDATE 11/6 Now, my dad has Covid and was admitted to the hospital this morning. He has it for the second time! He is vaccinated, so hopefully, he will have a milder case than he had in February. (He was hospitalized then, too). He had surgery on his leg last week, and he must have gotten it from the hospital. Either that or from his home health aid. He had a negative test before his surgery on Friday, and he hasn't been anywhere since he got home on Monday. hoping for a speedy recovery
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Post by auntkelly on Nov 7, 2021 3:01:16 GMT
UPDATE 11/6 Now, my dad has Covid and was admitted to the hospital this morning. He has it for the second time! He is vaccinated, so hopefully, he will have a milder case than he had in February. (He was hospitalized then, too). He had surgery on his leg last week, and he must have gotten it from the hospital. Either that or from his home health aid. He had a negative test before his surgery on Friday, and he hasn't been anywhere since he got home on Monday. I’m so sorry.
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Post by mikklynn on Nov 7, 2021 13:37:58 GMT
Oh no, Just T. I am sorry to hear about your dad. I hope he's better quickly.
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