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Post by purplebee on Nov 29, 2021 23:25:08 GMT
Sending hugs and prayers for peace and comfort.
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Post by MsChiff on Nov 30, 2021 17:30:28 GMT
I'm so very sorry for your loss, Chris. May your memories of Gary bring you comfort. *Hugs*
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Post by keithurbanlovinpea on Nov 30, 2021 17:43:13 GMT
I have spent the last several days trying to process this information and find the right words for @bergdorfblonde but obviously nothing I can say makes this better no matter how much this was expected. I am in awe of her dedication and love for Gary. I know that he passed peacefully and surrounded by love because everything that she posted about her care of him reflected this. Prayers for peace and comfort during these difficult days, weeks and months to come.
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Post by peabrain on Nov 30, 2021 17:50:57 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss Bergdorfblonde. Hugs to you.
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Post by katyscrap on Nov 30, 2021 18:08:38 GMT
I’m so sorry to see this terrible update. My deepest condolences and prayers to you and your family. It was an honor to read your beautiful love story and follow this difficult journey. (((Hugs)))
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Post by blue tulip on Nov 30, 2021 19:14:31 GMT
Just saw this. I'm so sorry!  |
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Post by tyra on Nov 30, 2021 19:28:45 GMT
Oh boy, I am so so so sorry to hear this. He has been on my mind a lot the past few days, I don't know how I missed this thread until now.
Sending so many hugs...
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Post by Deleted on Dec 3, 2021 0:53:04 GMT
I can't thank you enough, jenjie, for this post, for your love and support, always. Thank you.
I haven't been back on here or really online for a week. DD and I are both in a daze daily. We do what we have to do and then we just zone out. It's been very tough a few days before Gary passed, and the past week has felt like we're walking thru mud. She's stepped up in many ways, so I'm grateful.
Thank you ALL for your constant support and posts, and for following Gary's journey through my words. The world lost a very, very special man. He was the most kind, sweet, loving, caring, giving, soft-spoken man I've ever known. Losing him is still too difficult to even put into words yet. But thank you for your support.
I'll be back when I can to read this entire thread. For now my head is still pounding, I'm not eating too much, and I can't focus...... Praying, my family, and my black kitty are a help. My kitty sensed I was crying in bed one night and I felt him kissing my tears. He's been very protective and so sweet. Now I realized how he helped Gary through his chemo (and we deemed him "the chemo kitty"). Incredible.
Thank you jenjie, and thank you all so very much. xo |
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Post by jenjie on Dec 3, 2021 1:44:49 GMT
@bergdorfblonde I know you never set out to inspire anyone, but that’s what you and Gary did. I’m so sorry for your hurt. So proud of your dd for stepping up!
Praying for you often. I hope to call you this weekend if that’s ok.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Dec 3, 2021 9:04:17 GMT
@bergdorfblonde Again, I'm so truly sorry for your loss. We are here for you when you need us.
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Post by jenjie on Dec 3, 2021 15:46:20 GMT
Bumping for peas to see Chris’s comment.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 3, 2021 19:00:25 GMT
@bergdorfblonde I know you never set out to inspire anyone, but that’s what you and Gary did. I’m so sorry for your hurt. So proud of your dd for stepping up! Praying for you often. I hope to call you this weekend if that’s ok. Of course it's okay! Calling the home # is better. My cell is 'breaking'. (727-378-8325).
Hearing that I "inspired" anyone with our story is INCREDIBLY complimentary. I hope to be able to be a source of comfort and strength like you are, one day! Right now it feels like I'm walking thru mud. I'll get there, hopefully. xo
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Post by jenjie on Dec 3, 2021 19:09:46 GMT
@bergdorfblonde I know you never set out to inspire anyone, but that’s what you and Gary did. I’m so sorry for your hurt. So proud of your dd for stepping up! Praying for you often. I hope to call you this weekend if that’s ok. Of course it's okay! Calling the home # is better. My cell is 'breaking'. (727-378-8325).
Hearing that I "inspired" anyone with our story is INCREDIBLY complimentary. I hope to be able to be a source of comfort and strength like you are, one day! Right now it feels like I'm walking thru mud. I'll get there, hopefully. xo
Today you’re walking through mud. That won’t last forever. “Tomorrow” someone else who is walking through mud will see you as living proof that life goes on and life is still worth living well. You’ll get there, it’ll just take awhile. 😘 |
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Post by Basket1lady on Dec 3, 2021 19:20:12 GMT
I’m so sorry for the journey you are on. But I just wanted to say that you are the epitome of grace in the midst of your troubles. I’m praying for you, my friend.
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Post by scrapmaven on Dec 3, 2021 19:28:51 GMT
Do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself right now, @bergdorfblonde. We're right here whenever you're ready to talk. ((((HUGS))).
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Post by kate on Dec 3, 2021 21:42:32 GMT
Ohhhh, I'm so very sorry, @bergdorfblonde. I've been away from the Pod for a week, and my heart jumped to my throat when I saw this. You are so blessed to have had Gary as your true love, and he is(!) blessed in you, too. Thinking of you, and praying for peace in your heart. Sending love.
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Post by flanz on Dec 3, 2021 21:49:35 GMT
Of course it's okay! Calling the home # is better. My cell is 'breaking'. (727-378-8325).
Hearing that I "inspired" anyone with our story is INCREDIBLY complimentary. I hope to be able to be a source of comfort and strength like you are, one day! Right now it feels like I'm walking thru mud. I'll get there, hopefully. xo
Today you’re walking through mud. That won’t last forever. “Tomorrow” someone else who is walking through mud will see you as living proof that life goes on and life is still worth living well. You’ll get there, it’ll just take awhile. 😘 This encouraging message is beautiful and means all that much more coming from you, jenjie. You know of whih you speak. ((( hugs ))) Thank you! |
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Post by flanz on Dec 3, 2021 21:50:08 GMT
@bergdorfblonde I know you never set out to inspire anyone, but that’s what you and Gary did. I’m so sorry for your hurt. So proud of your dd for stepping up! Praying for you often. I hope to call you this weekend if that’s ok. Of course it's okay! Calling the home # is better. My cell is 'breaking'. (727-378-8325).
Hearing that I "inspired" anyone with our story is INCREDIBLY complimentary. I hope to be able to be a source of comfort and strength like you are, one day! Right now it feels like I'm walking thru mud. I'll get there, hopefully. xo
We love you, Chris and yes, YOU ARE INSPIRING! In so many ways... |
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Post by jenjie on Dec 3, 2021 21:58:38 GMT
Today you’re walking through mud. That won’t last forever. “Tomorrow” someone else who is walking through mud will see you as living proof that life goes on and life is still worth living well. You’ll get there, it’ll just take awhile. 😘 This encouraging message is beautiful and means all that much more coming from you, jenjie. You know of whih you speak. ((( hugs ))) Thank you! I do. It’s my hope that my experience will encourage her. |
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Post by flanz on Dec 3, 2021 22:10:43 GMT
This encouraging message is beautiful and means all that much more coming from you, jenjie . You know of whih you speak. ((( hugs ))) Thank you! I do. It’s my hope that my experience will encourage her. How could it not??? Am I remembering correctly that you had an in person meetup a while ago? |
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Post by jenjie on Dec 3, 2021 22:23:54 GMT
I do. It’s my hope that my experience will encourage her. How could it now??? Am I remembering correctly that you had an in person meetup a while ago? Yes two years ago. I loved seeing them together. You truly could see how much they adored each other. |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2021 19:28:42 GMT
This encouraging message is beautiful and means all that much more coming from you, jenjie . You know of whih you speak. ((( hugs ))) Thank you! I do. It’s my hope that my experience will encourage her. jenjie : OF COURSE you encourage me!! You're an incredible friend and I value your friendship and words (and prayers)! BTW, I went out with DD today (after 8 days of not going grocery shopping) and came home to see my bedroom phone half off the hook. WTH? I saw that there was a blinking msg. It was you..... My little blessing of a kitty listened to you and then decided to try to pick up the phone! I'm SO, SO sorry!!! (He left it off the hook for over 2 hours~!). I had to laugh, but I'm sure you're wondering what the heck happened!! I'm safe. All is good. I'd never hang up on you. I'm here whenever you get back........ Sorry I missed you.
THANK YOU again to everyone posting on here. I do promise to try to get back to you.... Your words also encourage me at this time. While I was food shopping, I felt like crying as I was instinctively reaching for all of Gary's favorites. I felt lost for a second and didn't know what to get!! This is gonna take some time.
DD did go with me to a few stops. She played her ipod with happy music, so it was nice to see her singing. She saw some ex-co-workers at the pet store we went to (they begged her to come back--wish she would!).... Nice to get out and be with some people.....
We got home, unpacked and I'm doing more laundry, so it's a LITTLE bit of progress...... xoxo
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Post by christine58 on Dec 4, 2021 22:36:36 GMT
I do promise to try to get back to you.. You don't have to get back to us individually...just post when you're ready. HUGS.... |
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Post by gramasue on Dec 5, 2021 0:20:16 GMT
Chris, you're on my mind every day. Grief certainly is a process, and one that takes a lot of time. So, for now, just give time .... time.
It's good to hear that you got out and did a few errands and wonderful to know that your DD is helping out. You need each other right now. And your black kitty! Bless his heart. I have one, too and he seems to know when I'm feeling down. He'll jump up on my lap while I'm watching TV and I have to shift him over to the side. He weighs 19 lbs. so it's uncomfortable having him right on me. So heavy! But I love him.
Thinking of you and sending hugs. Take care.
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Post by leslie132 on Dec 5, 2021 2:01:52 GMT
I’m so sorry to read this. I will pray for her family that they find comfort in each other and the love they all share.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 5, 2021 20:50:17 GMT
Chris, you're on my mind every day. Grief certainly is a process, and one that takes a lot of time. So, for now, just give time .... time. It's good to hear that you got out and did a few errands and wonderful to know that your DD is helping out. You need each other right now. And your black kitty! Bless his heart. I have one, too and he seems to know when I'm feeling down. He'll jump up on my lap while I'm watching TV and I have to shift him over to the side. He weighs 19 lbs. so it's uncomfortable having him right on me. So heavy! But I love him. Thinking of you and sending hugs. Take care. Thank you! I know nothing about grief on this level. I've lost a lot of close family members, but this is so very different. "Just give time... time" is a phrase I'm trying to do. Also, "just for today" is what a friend of mine said she adhered to. Not eating or sleeping makes you unable to really function, and I know that Gary wouldn't want that for me. I'm trying. I ate a yogurt today (go, me!)... And I did my hair (wash, blowout--takes 2 hours or so!), but I did it.
DD and I are going to try to take our Fall stuff down, clean up and possibly take out a few Christmas items. One of my sisters is coming on Friday and staying until Tuesday, which is a blessing.
Again, thank you to everyone who has posted on here and who has left me such sweet, supportive messages. I don't think I've ever cried as much as the past week or so!! Thank you all!! xo
ETA: My Levon (black kitty) also is a HUGE boy! He's only 2 and weighs 16.8. He's a little butterball. It's a lot when they jump on your lap. I've taken over Gary's seat in our sectional, and Levon hops up to my lap (he ONLY did that with Gary). Little bits of sweetness is nice, and I feel like Gary somehow is working thru Levon, giving me some love!
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Post by melissa on Dec 5, 2021 23:11:47 GMT
I somehow missed this update. It's been such a rough course for all of them. My deepest sympathies. May his memory be eternal.
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Post by gramasue on Dec 6, 2021 0:37:31 GMT
Chris, you're on my mind every day. Grief certainly is a process, and one that takes a lot of time. So, for now, just give time .... time. It's good to hear that you got out and did a few errands and wonderful to know that your DD is helping out. You need each other right now. And your black kitty! Bless his heart. I have one, too and he seems to know when I'm feeling down. He'll jump up on my lap while I'm watching TV and I have to shift him over to the side. He weighs 19 lbs. so it's uncomfortable having him right on me. So heavy! But I love him. Thinking of you and sending hugs. Take care. Thank you! I know nothing about grief on this level. I've lost a lot of close family members, but this is so very different. "Just give time... time" is a phrase I'm trying to do. Also, "just for today" is what a friend of mine said she adhered to. Not eating or sleeping makes you unable to really function, and I know that Gary wouldn't want that for me. I'm trying. I ate a yogurt today (go, me!)... And I did my hair (wash, blowout--takes 2 hours or so!), but I did it.
DD and I are going to try to take our Fall stuff down, clean up and possibly take out a few Christmas items. One of my sisters is coming on Friday and staying until Tuesday, which is a blessing.
Again, thank you to everyone who has posted on here and who has left me such sweet, supportive messages. I don't think I've ever cried as much as the past week or so!! Thank you all!! xo
ETA: My Levon (black kitty) also is a HUGE boy! He's only 2 and weighs 16.8. He's a little butterball. It's a lot when they jump on your lap. I've taken over Gary's seat in our sectional, and Levon hops up to my lap (he ONLY did that with Gary). Little bits of sweetness is nice, and I feel like Gary somehow is working thru Levon, giving me some love!
You're right - Gary wouldn't want you to not take care of yourself. Try to eat a little bit at a time, even if you don't feel like it. You don't have to eat a meal, just a bit - like a yogurt! Yay, you! It sounds to me like you're doing really well and keeping busy, but Chris, if you have a day when you don't want to do anything, then don't. Take the day. It's all part of the process and it's totally okay.
Your black kitty sounds awesome. I love his name - Levon. We call ours Roo. They really are a comfort, aren't they? Enjoy your visit with your sister, and remember we all love you. |
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Post by jlynnbarth on Dec 6, 2021 8:11:09 GMT
I’m so very sorry for your loss. I pray that you are given comfort and joy in your remembrances of Gary. May God give you strength in these hardest days. Hugs for you and your family.
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Post by workingclassdog on Dec 6, 2021 17:56:35 GMT
Checking in... I have been off the boards a lot and missed the update. I actually came on to look for yours specifically. I am so sorry! I hope you get the rest you need and be able to pick up the pieces a little at a time... my heart hurts for you. Hugs and prayers!! xoxox
Susan
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