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Post by Jamie on Dec 6, 2021 23:45:32 GMT
Me! I did put up a little 4 foot tree and I decorated my hutch with my gingerbread. But other than that I’m not feeling it this year. For the second year in a row my mom has canceled all holiday activities so me and my husband will just be sitting at home and it’s just another day. We haven’t bought presents for each other in the past two or three years so there’s nothing to look forward to. We were all set to this year then I remembered about a bill that would be coming up in January that I would rather apply the money towards that. So we’re being adults and paying that bill off. I’m just really ready for the holidays to be over and to get into January so I’m busy with tax season
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Post by MichyM on Dec 7, 2021 0:08:47 GMT
ME. I’m in a major depressive episode that was building for months. I finally broke and I just don’t care if I ever get my happiness back. I'm so sorry. That was me last fall/winter and I'm hoping beyond hope to avoid it this year. (((HUGS)))
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Post by whipea on Dec 7, 2021 0:13:27 GMT
Just not into it this year either. Usually I do not decorate but always enthusiastically get into buying D/H gifts. So far I only got him 1 tee shirt and on top of it his birthday is in a few day, got nothing.
I think the issue is he left a few weeks ago to go hunting and visit friends. This puts me under a lot of pressure at work since I can't leave the dogs 10 hours a day. He is supposed to be back Wednesday. Will see if I get more into it after he returns.
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Post by peasapie on Dec 7, 2021 0:18:03 GMT
Hugs to everyone struggling on this thread.
I’m doing ok. But every Christmas I remember the years I wondered if I’d be able to afford gifts for my kids. And I especially feel for those in that position now.
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Post by janeliz on Dec 7, 2021 0:25:08 GMT
I’m just about done with gifts, but my decorating is moving slowly this year. I put a few things out each day, but I’m not really caring too much about it one way or another. Also, I just found out that the tree lot we’ve been going to for over 20 years had “unprecedented early sales” and is already closed for the season. Hmph.
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Post by littlemama on Dec 7, 2021 0:42:21 GMT
I am not at all in the spirit.
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Post by supersoda on Dec 7, 2021 1:10:34 GMT
Not at all. I've been super hella busy with work, and I'm just so friggin tired, and tired of dealing with asshat lawyers, and now my foot is in a boot which just gives me an excuse to be lazy when I am home. (Geez, can you hear the whining in there?) We usually get a real tree, but the twins didn't come home for Thanksgiving and it doesn't feel the same to do it without them, and we haven't had time anyway. I finally pulled out the artificial tree yesterday and it is assembled with one ornament on it. And the stockings are hung...so progress.
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Post by Jennifer C on Dec 7, 2021 1:15:31 GMT
I've fallen into a mild depression, I didn't notice, my Mom did. My husband has been working 12 hr days for 13 days and 1 day off for the longest but we just got a bump to 7 days and 2 days off. But he is so very tired both emotionally and physically that he doesn't want to even think about getting the tree from the attic.
I pulled a large Santa from the storage closet and placed it on the tv stand. That's how much I've decorated.
Jennifer
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Post by refugeepea on Dec 7, 2021 1:34:58 GMT
I tried, things happened, and I can't put forth the mental effort and time into extra things right now.
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Post by kibble on Dec 7, 2021 2:30:01 GMT
I'm not feeling it this year.
I usually love it but am just blah. I did just start a new full time job plus have a side business so just really busy so I think that is part of it.
I do have most of the shopping done at least. Just finished decorating this past weekend, but it was such a chore! Hoping my mood improves as it gets closer.
I feel bad about not being excited about it.
Now that I'm thinking about it, I think I am just ready for a fresh start & the new year.
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Post by auntkelly on Dec 7, 2021 3:46:14 GMT
My sister in law just passed away due to covid complications.
She loved Christmas and always organized the celebration w/ my husband's side of the family. We'll still get together w/ her children and grandchildren, but she will be missed. I know her kids will just be going through the motions this year for the sake of their own children. .
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Post by Zee on Dec 7, 2021 4:04:03 GMT
I AM the Christmas Spirit! I've been filling up stockings at work, I love it. I made some custom stuff too.
Not much will be happening for me personally as I'll be working Christmas Eve and night, but I really work with a great crew most of the time. I love filling their stockings! This is our 3rd year doing it this way instead of a Secret Santa. It's so much better. You can give to anyone, everyone, no one, no one knows and it's really fun to check each day.
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Post by janeliz on Dec 7, 2021 4:16:45 GMT
I’m so sorry to hear about your family’s loss, auntkelly.
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Post by worldwanderer75 on Dec 7, 2021 5:13:24 GMT
I feel this too. My mom died last week and not only am I devastated but I've been so busy planning her funeral and a million details and logistics that it has sucked the joy out this holiday season for me. My mom loved Christmas more than anyone I know so it is fun that we get to use her holiday decor to decorate for her funeral. But I am exhausted and not feeling particularly festive.
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Post by tincin on Dec 7, 2021 5:57:39 GMT
I feel this too. My mom died last week and not only am I devastated but I've been so busy planning her funeral and a million details and logistics that it has sucked the joy out this holiday season for me. My mom loved Christmas more than anyone I know so it is fun that we get to use her holiday decor to decorate for her funeral. But I am exhausted and not feeling particularly festive. My condolences on the loss of your Mother. I don’t know that I really have a reason but I’m just not digging it this year. It may be because I thought I would be completely done with my house reno by now and I’m not. I still have to do touch up painting and paint all the doors. I’ve been at this for a year and I’m just tired. I pulled out a few things because my granddaughter is here once a week but I’m done. I’m not decorating. I’m over it.
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Post by KelleeM on Dec 7, 2021 10:01:50 GMT
I’m definitely struggling. I put up a tiny tree in my craft area and have done nothing else.
Two years ago, just after my husband died, I went into overdrive and decorated everything. Last year we did quite a bit but this year, I just don’t have it in me. I’m tired, sad and stressed. And now I’m crying.
My life just isn’t what I want or have envisioned. I’m lonely.
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Post by cannmom on Dec 7, 2021 10:54:44 GMT
I’m definitely struggling. I put up a tiny tree in my craft area and have done nothing else. Two years ago, just after my husband died, I went into overdrive and decorated everything. Last year we did quite a bit but this year, I just don’t have it in me. I’m tired, sad and stressed. And now I’m crying. My life just isn’t what I want or have envisioned. I’m lonely. I’m so sorry. Hugs!
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Post by mikklynn on Dec 7, 2021 13:55:51 GMT
My sister in law just passed away due to covid complications. She loved Christmas and always organized the celebration w/ my husband's side of the family. We'll still get together w/ her children and grandchildren, but she will be missed. I know her kids will just be going through the motions this year for the sake of their own children. . I'm so sorry.
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Post by mikklynn on Dec 7, 2021 13:57:14 GMT
I feel this too. My mom died last week and not only am I devastated but I've been so busy planning her funeral and a million details and logistics that it has sucked the joy out this holiday season for me. My mom loved Christmas more than anyone I know so it is fun that we get to use her holiday decor to decorate for her funeral. But I am exhausted and not feeling particularly festive. I am so very sorry. I hope you can have a day of peace and lovely memories of your mom.
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Post by mikklynn on Dec 7, 2021 14:07:28 GMT
I have the tree up and a few decorations. I'm about 2/3 done shopping, but only because my teenage grandchildren have expensive wish lists, so they are getting 1 big thing and 1 small thing. My DS has given me zero ideas, as usual.
I'm not feeling it, because nothing is normal with the pandemic dragging on. I have to start packing the house right after Christmas for our move. I have repairs to make around here. I am sick to death of things breaking in this house! We have replaced siding, the AC, dishwasher, water softener, and water heater. This week the wall mounted fold up shower bench in our bathroom broke.
Like many of you, it all falls on me.
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Post by bethany102399 on Dec 7, 2021 14:40:35 GMT
I'm definitely a grinch, but that's not unusual for me. I just try and not let it spread to others as I honestly don't want to ruin Christmas for anyone just because I don't feel the magic myself. in 2019, I decided NOT to be a grinch and take active steps to just "be" with the season. It helped immensely. Then of course Christmas 2020 hit and it was. . . different but not as stressful as all the usual running around like a crazy person didn't happen nor did the baking that I share with everyone.
This year I did decorate a bit more, but it occurred to me as I was hauling stuff up from the basement while nagging DH to get off the computer and help, one of the reasons I don't like the season is I feel like I do all the work for everyone else to enjoy. I started asking myself what can I get rid of/ shove off on someone else? it doesn't bother me that the house isn't decorated so if you want it decorated there's the boxes. Candy for the neighbors? they can have fudge - easy to do and I can do other stuff while it cooks.
Sadly I think 2019 was the anomaly and I'm sliding back to being a grinch. I hate it, but feel like it's inevitable.
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Post by bossymom on Dec 7, 2021 14:54:51 GMT
Me! I am a happy little Christmas elf at home with my family. But the office crap - let's have a decorating contest! Let's have a potluck! - I am sooooo over. I found a Grinch SVG and am slapping that on my office door and calling it festive.
I hate forced camaraderie.
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Post by tealpaperowl on Dec 7, 2021 15:05:25 GMT
Me! We have our tree up but it doesn't feel Christmasy - maybe we need some snow. Hubby did the outside in lights very nice. I did not put up any decorations in the house this year which is so not like me!
Our boys are 17 and 19 so they don't really care either way as long as there are presents under the tree!
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Post by ToniW on Dec 7, 2021 15:18:09 GMT
I think ever since my dad passed right after Christmas and my mom on Thanksgiving, I haven't really been in the mood. I do have a little tree up, though but not the live trees like we used to do.
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Post by disneypal on Dec 7, 2021 15:30:16 GMT
Me - I'm not really in the Christmas Spirit either. I usually bake cookies and treats and take them to my co-workers and this year, I just don't feel like doing it. I haven't put up a single decoration and not really sure I am going to.
I have bought presents but not as much as I normally do and so far I haven't wrapped a single one (and I usually love wrapping presents)
Since some family members passed a few years ago, it is hard to get into the Christmas Spirit.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 7, 2021 15:40:43 GMT
That was me last year. Stress of Covid, stress from keeping dd as safe as possible (high risk), senior year stress, everyone home stress, home hospital for ds stress, not receiving services stress, therapies online stress, waiting for the vaccine stress, etc. It was a lot.
Add in not being with family and I was just done.
I also noticed that not being out shopping in the stores (did 100% on line shopping) dampened my mood too. I enjoy being in stores and listening to the music and seeing the decorations and picking out that perfect gift I am excited to give.
Believe me when I say it is okay. I have had a few holidays like this when ds was younger and extremely ill.
But talking about it with dh and my parents helped a lot.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 7, 2021 16:03:58 GMT
Life today seems physically easier but mentally so much harder. It's no wonder so many of us are wiped out. Hugs friend. I'm going to do what I can, get outside as much as I can and hope it's enough for me and the family. Thankfully, they're all pretty easy going about the whole thing. Someone up thread talked about the difference between Thanksgiving (food-oriented) and Christmas (gift and hoopla-oriented). I'm going to try to make our Christmases more like our Thanksgivings.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Dec 7, 2021 16:11:37 GMT
Me too! It’s the pandemic. I’m struggling with not being able to do things that would normally be on my holiday list. Mostly things I would attend in public. I’m being careful with being in crowds and restaurants so that is cutting down on some of my socializing. Also, quite a few of my favorite restaurants have closed. Not to say I’m not doing things, but some of the holiday markets where it’s wall to wall people I’m not willing to go. It’s also a bit feeling like we’re never getting back to before times, not even close. I can’t seem to get this fucking Bah Humbug off my back.
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Post by Linda on Dec 7, 2021 20:11:58 GMT
meh...2019 was tough because my mum had died in November BUT it was DS's first Christmas home since 2014 so I pushed through.
2020 - we were in the midst of buying a house (we closed the week between Christmas and New Years) so decorations were minimal and the power went out while we were decorating the tree on Christmas Eve and we weren't able to get our Christmas eve dinner of takeaway pizza due to the storms that blew through.
This year? DS30 is coming home but only for 5 days. DD21 is moving out on the 28th so I'm helping her pack. I STILL don't have all of my furniture from the old house (long story but DH has been dragging his feet on hiring movers for the stuff we couldn't move ourselves - like my dresser and our headboard, the sideboard and hutch for the dining room and the couch/loveseat/recliner for the living room....). I gave him a hard deadline of getting the furniture in before DS comes home and enough before that I can finish unpacking, clean, and decorate but I STILL don't have a scheduled date for movers. I'm ehausted all the time (anaemia from low iron and low B12), the girls are not helpful, and DH tends to do what he thinks will be helpful not what will actually be.
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Post by tc on Dec 7, 2021 20:48:28 GMT
DH tends to do what he thinks will be helpful not what will actually be. This statement spoke to me. My DH tries. But it's not the right kind of effort that I need.
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