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Post by Jamie on Dec 9, 2021 0:07:08 GMT
For the second year in a row my mom has canceled all holidays. Which I honestly don’t understand because she goes to work, I go into the office 1 to 2 days a week, we see each other a couple times during the month. So I truly don’t understand why she’s worried about people getting sick when by then we would’ve all had our booster shots. It would only be her, my stepdad, my husband and Me. So needless to say just as Thanksgiving was, Christmas is just gonna be another day in our house for hubby and me. I’m just ready for the holidays to be over so tax season can get started and I’ll be back to my busy self and won’t have to think about it anymore
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Post by myboysnme on Dec 9, 2021 1:42:05 GMT
I cut back many years ago. I still go overboard with gifts and I fully decorate my big tree. I do some moderate decorating. I do not bake, I don't give parties and I really don't go to any. Gift exchanging with friends and extended family is minimal.
Family visits are cut way back. We are actually travelling out of state to visit family and spending one night. We got a hotel, and each family gets a 4 hour visit. Exchange gifts, eat a little something, that's it.
I still enjoy sending cards so I do. I do what I enjoy. The last few years we have actually ordered Chinese for Christmas dinner. Everyone loves it. But with DS2 home for a week for the first time in a year, I want to do a home cooked meal, but scaled down to basic dishes. Another words no big spread. I ordered some things from the local bistro for Christmas Eve dinner.
So while I enjoy Christmas way too much to cancel it, but I will cut out activities that make it stressful. And since we have dropped a lot of things, no one seems to mind. The important things remain.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Dec 9, 2021 1:51:53 GMT
Not cancel, but I have downsized a lot over the past few years.
I no longer send Christmas cards, haven't for about 20-ish years.
I have severely downsized my Christmas decor. A 20 inch tree, with a few decorations. It all fits in one box/tote.
I've never baked.
I don't shop, if I give a gift, it's a gift card.
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Post by maryland on Dec 9, 2021 2:00:36 GMT
Yes!
I feel like that often, especially this year because of our dog's disability and our daughter's new cats (meaning no traveling). And we have been spending too much money lately and Christmas doesn't help that. I would love Christmas to be about food and not gifts and decorations (I'm boring and I don't like the clutter of having it out and storing decor).
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Post by peasapie on Dec 9, 2021 9:19:49 GMT
Yes! I feel like that often, especially this year because of our dog's disability and our daughter's new cats (meaning no traveling). And we have been spending too much money lately and Christmas doesn't help that. I would love Christmas to be about food and not gifts and decorations (I'm boring and I don't like the clutter of having it out and storing decor). I would love to do just about everything except gifts at the holidays. And wrapping them. |
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Post by uksue on Dec 9, 2021 13:09:36 GMT
We were supposed to go back to the U.K. for Christmas, however due to the omicron variant, Japan have imposed new restrictions which could possibly include closing the borders to foreigners. We cannot risk being locked out of the country indefinitely due to our dogs, and sons school. We held out for as long as we could, but today we made the decision to cancel the whole trip. We haven’t seen our daughter or parents for two years. The next time we will be able to go will be the summer - 6 months away. We are really disappointed. I suppose I should decorate the house and start planning Christmas here. I’m really not in the mood though. Gish that’s so tough on you . We have just had increased Covid measures here in the UK so I think you are right not to try to come here. Can you face time or portal ? I know it’s not the same, but it keeps me going now that my grandsons mother has moved away with him . |
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Post by uksue on Dec 9, 2021 13:13:18 GMT
Not cancelling, but I’m overwhelmed and this is the latest I’ve ever been with no tree up, and unlikely to happen until Sunday now.
I’m still in a mess following the building work to get my sick daughter he in March , I lost my bedroom and have so little personal storage now. My arthritis is really bad, making it difficult to get things done, and I’m constantly driving my daughter ( who has MS) to appointments and take my youngest to and from work every day as he’s unable to make the journey on his own ( he’s on the autism spectrum).
I’m exhausted but don’t sleep well . I’m just hoping my pain level will settle soon .
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Dec 9, 2021 14:01:21 GMT
Me. And I'm super sad about it because I love Christmas and go all out. I did very little 'Christmas' in 2019 after losing DH and my Dad, DS & I just weren't up to it. Last year I was busy packing the house for the renovation. So I thought this year I'm gonna give the North Pole a run for their money. It was not to be.
First, the renovation from hell, which started 03/15, is still going on. I will burn my house to the ground before ever renovating again.
Second, I was admitted to the ED on Thanksgiving night, with what I thought was an asthma attack (had been feeling pretty crappy for a while before). Spent 10 days in the hospital (what an absolute nightmare that was, they did a heart biopsy and nicked my heart, that was fun. 10/10 don't recommend) and had my first chemo treatment (last Friday) for EGPA which is a rare auto immune disease (go big or go home).
DS is, understandably, having a hard time because of losing his Dad, this scared the crap out of him. I've been so proud at how he handled himself (he has autism) stepping up and handling the pups. He was a bit upset thinking we were doing a big Christmas and we're not. One of my friends from college came over and decorated the outside of my house for us. What a wonderful surprise coming home from the hospital. It was late and I thought my sister took me to the wrong house. I totally did way to much Tues/Wed and am trying to take it easy today. I told DS that if he can lug the Christmas tree up we can at least put some lights on it.
I'm just tired. Work isn't happy that I'm out and I feel bad because we're short staffed and me being out puts even more strain on the team. I've been going back and forth about whether to take FMLA or not and pulled the trigger on it this morning. I'm going into my busy time and will be expected to work 80+ hour weeks chemo or not. I'm not going to be able to keep that type of schedule this year and I know myself, I'll kill myself trying.
I have a big ole case of the Bah Humbugs.
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Post by uksue on Dec 9, 2021 15:19:42 GMT
Me. And I'm super sad about it because I love Christmas and go all out. I did very little 'Christmas' in 2019 after losing DH and my Dad, DS & I just weren't up to it. Last year I was busy packing the house for the renovation. So I thought this year I'm gonna give the North Pole a run for their money. It was not to be. First, the renovation from hell, which started 03/15, is still going on. I will burn my house to the ground before ever renovating again. Second, I was admitted to the ED on Thanksgiving night, with what I thought was an asthma attack (had been feeling pretty crappy for a while before). Spent 10 days in the hospital (what an absolute nightmare that was, they did a heart biopsy and nicked my heart, that was fun. 10/10 don't recommend) and had my first chemo treatment (last Friday) for EGPA which is a rare auto immune disease (go big or go home). DS is, understandably, having a hard time because of losing his Dad, this scared the crap out of him. I've been so proud at how he handled himself (he has autism) stepping up and handling the pups. He was a bit upset thinking we were doing a big Christmas and we're not. One of my friends from college came over and decorated the outside of my house for us. What a wonderful surprise coming home from the hospital. It was late and I thought my sister took me to the wrong house. I totally did way to much Tues/Wed and am trying to take it easy today. I told DS that if he can lug the Christmas tree up we can at least put some lights on it. I'm just tired. Work isn't happy that I'm out and I feel bad because we're short staffed and me being out puts even more strain on the team. I've been going back and forth about whether to take FMLA or not and pulled the trigger on it this morning. I'm going into my busy time and will be expected to work 80+ hour weeks chemo or not. I'm not going to be able to keep that type of schedule this year and I know myself, I'll kill myself trying. I have a big ole case of the Bah Humbugs. Golly I’m overwhelmed just reading that- I pray next year will be a much better year for you Sweetie, and that your son continues to cope with all of this. My son has totally surprised me this last 6 months by interviewing and being offered a very nice part time job. They get frustrated with his getting stuck on certain tasks and not asking for help, plus lack of initiative ( she stated she understood Autism so not sure why she is surprised) but otherwise has really coped well with the changing shifts etc. |
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Post by mikklynn on Dec 10, 2021 14:10:39 GMT
Not cancelling, but I’m overwhelmed and this is the latest I’ve ever been with no tree up, and unlikely to happen until Sunday now. I’m still in a mess following the building work to get my sick daughter he in March , I lost my bedroom and have so little personal storage now. My arthritis is really bad, making it difficult to get things done, and I’m constantly driving my daughter ( who has MS) to appointments and take my youngest to and from work every day as he’s unable to make the journey on his own ( he’s on the autism spectrum). I’m exhausted but don’t sleep well . I’m just hoping my pain level will settle soon . I wish I could give you a hug, dear friend. I hope your pain and stress are eased soon. |
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Post by mikklynn on Dec 10, 2021 14:13:20 GMT
SweetieBsMom Oh my gosh, I had no idea you were going through all that. Taking FMLA was absolutely the right move. And, I love that your dear friend decorated the outside of your house for you. I hope this health scare will be over soon.
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Dec 10, 2021 14:16:40 GMT
For the second year in a row my mom has canceled all holidays. Which I honestly don’t understand because she goes to work, I go into the office 1 to 2 days a week, we see each other a couple times during the month. So I truly don’t understand why she’s worried about people getting sick when by then we would’ve all had our booster shots. It would only be her, my stepdad, my husband and Me. So needless to say just as Thanksgiving was, Christmas is just gonna be another day in our house for hubby and me. I’m just ready for the holidays to be over so tax season can get started and I’ll be back to my busy self and won’t have to think about it anymore Could it be that she just doesn't feel up to hosting? What if you offer to host? Even if you can't get together with family, that doesn't mean it has to be just another day. You could still make it something special for the two of you. |
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Post by Jamie on Dec 14, 2021 17:10:47 GMT
For the second year in a row my mom has canceled all holidays. Which I honestly don’t understand because she goes to work, I go into the office 1 to 2 days a week, we see each other a couple times during the month. So I truly don’t understand why she’s worried about people getting sick when by then we would’ve all had our booster shots. It would only be her, my stepdad, my husband and Me. So needless to say just as Thanksgiving was, Christmas is just gonna be another day in our house for hubby and me. I’m just ready for the holidays to be over so tax season can get started and I’ll be back to my busy self and won’t have to think about it anymore Could it be that she just doesn't feel up to hosting? What if you offer to host? Even if you can't get together with family, that doesn't mean it has to be just another day. You could still make it something special for the two of you. I wish that was the case, but I even offered to do it. It would only be the 4 of us so nothing big. My brother hasn't done any holiday with us since he got married 9 years ago. Hubby could honestly care less about any holiday, so anything I do would just be for myself. |
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