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Post by catmom on Dec 31, 2021 3:43:59 GMT
That's so tough. I don't think there's a right or wrong answer in this situation, just what you're comfortable with. DH and I had a sort of similar decision to make over spending a final Christmas with MIL who has Alzheimers. We all agonized over it and in the end they came and we had a lovely Christmas, until FIL came down with Covid and then DH, and we've spent the last 5 days isolating from each other. It has suuuuuuuucked. But I still don't regret it because this was our chance to get together for a final time.
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Post by mnmloveli on Dec 31, 2021 3:52:57 GMT
Correct. That’s why I didn’t say NYC. Well she’s worry about NYC that’s why I thought you were referring to the city. She actually said just outside NYC. NYC is @ 30,000+ new cases per day. |
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Post by colleen on Dec 31, 2021 4:13:58 GMT
My college roommate passed suddenly this summer. We have been good friends for 40 years even though we haven't lived within 400 miles since college. I'm really glad I went to her funeral. I'm still mourning her loss, but it helped.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing people who knew you when hurts in a very specific way.
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Post by colleen on Dec 31, 2021 4:16:07 GMT
Gosh, I didn't even answer your question! Yes, I would go.
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Post by kckckc on Dec 31, 2021 5:13:04 GMT
I would go. I was in a similar position last summer and am really glad that I flew to Texas and attended the funeral.
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Post by tanya2 on Dec 31, 2021 5:14:36 GMT
I would go for sure, especially if you'll regret it if you don't
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Post by chlerbie on Dec 31, 2021 5:24:08 GMT
I wouldn't. Too many cases for me to feel comfortable. I'm very sorry for your loss.
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Post by quinlove on Dec 31, 2021 5:59:14 GMT
I’m so sorry that you are in this situation. If it were me, and I am very very cautious about Covid, I would probably go. Wear a good KN95 mask at all times. If you are hesitant, don’t go. But if you really want to be there, I think with a good 95 mask, you should be protected.
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Post by camcas on Dec 31, 2021 7:18:56 GMT
I am so sorry about your friend
I would call her family but would not go
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Post by momto4kiddos on Dec 31, 2021 13:01:02 GMT
I'm sorry for your loss. I would not. Half my family has covid. Couple of them from a visit to NY to see family. Covid is out of control in this area. You cannot get an appt to be seen if you're sick. You're lucky if you can get your hands on a home kit to test yourself. And then you have the airlines...if you get there, you may have trouble getting home if they continue to cancel flights. Right now, it'd be a no. In a few weeks if things die down, then maybe.
My family is vaccinated and some have had boosters that have it.
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Post by carhoch on Dec 31, 2021 13:10:16 GMT
I am sorry for your loss and I would absolutely go .
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Post by Dalai Mama on Dec 31, 2021 13:28:57 GMT
Would I potentially add to the burden of an already overburdened system? No.
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Post by kitkath on Dec 31, 2021 13:29:18 GMT
I would go.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 31, 2021 14:05:29 GMT
I think it could mean a lot to go. To you and to those people you still know...if local restrictions against gathering are not in place and there is no general advice not to travel for funerals I would go. Hard to make decisions though and I doubt anyone would judge if you don't. It just sounds like you will wish you had gone.
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Post by Sharon on Dec 31, 2021 14:23:00 GMT
I would go.
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Post by mikklynn on Dec 31, 2021 14:28:25 GMT
I think the answer will come to you about what you REALLY want to do. Personally, in your situation with everyone low risk, I'd go.
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Post by summer on Dec 31, 2021 16:10:34 GMT
No I would not go. Covid is rampant. I am not getting on airplanes or attending any events. I’ve attended a live streamed funeral during the pandemic, the family understood if people could not attend in person. I’m so sorry for the loss of your friend.
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Post by CardBoxer on Dec 31, 2021 16:20:38 GMT
Thank you everyone - I really do appreciate your opinions. I feel so stressed and grumpy (my poor family I keep snapping at them) I don’t feel like I’m thinking straight lately. I think it would be odd if you didn’t feel stressed and grumpy. Considerations: You may get stranded (airline cancelations). The risk is high in airplanes and crowds - you could get or give covid. Many people don’t use high quality masks or don’t wear them properly. We all have make our own decisions. I’d figure out another way or ways to honor my friend, both for myself and her husband. I’d make a card/write a memory letter, maybe have a star named after her, make a donation to a cause truly important to her and her husband, send a comforting gift, something. |
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Post by shanniebananie on Dec 31, 2021 16:25:41 GMT
I would go. I have flown several times this fall and been to WDW twice. No Covid and I have tested twice as a precaution. Wear your mask and social distance when possible and you should be fine.
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Post by katlaw on Dec 31, 2021 16:26:30 GMT
I would not go. This latest wave of the virus is very contagious. The expectation is that 30% or more of a workforce will be affected over the next month. I would be concerned that my flight would get cancelled or delayed. Look how many flights were cancelled or delayed in the last week alone. I would be heartbroken to not go in the situation you describe but I think the anxiety of travelling right now would make it not worth it for me.
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Post by scrapmaven on Dec 31, 2021 16:39:32 GMT
If I was vaxxed, boosters, low risk and felt compelled to be there in person I would go. At this point, it's also about closure and healing for you. Would it be comforting to your friend's family to have you there?
I'm so sorry that you lost a dear friend. May her memory be for a blessing to all who knew her. ((((HUGS)))).
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Post by PLurker on Dec 31, 2021 16:40:13 GMT
No I wouldn't. Even if I wasnt high risk. Not now. Too much spread and I wouldn't want to even inadvertently contribute to the spread, possibly harming another or stressing the systems already stressed and facing more havoc.
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Post by CardBoxer on Dec 31, 2021 17:44:06 GMT
Everyone is sick to death of this. But today isn’t the same as two months ago or even one. I think it can take a minute to mentally/emotionally catch up when negative changes (Omicron) are quickly happening. And it’s very hard to feel like we’re going backwards. But in my view lives depend on it.
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Post by cade387 on Dec 31, 2021 17:46:09 GMT
I think many have brought up good points and I do t think we have info to answer (nor should we have that info) but I would discuss with your DH:
1. Do you have the money to afford getting stranded? (Paying extra to rebook the flight or hotel/food to cover you if you are stranded for a week or more?
2. Do you have the ability to miss an additional 1-2 weeks of work if you are stranded or infected and have to quarantine? Can your family do the same if you expose them? (Also can you afford to be out of work that long)
3. Do you know what is being done for the funeral and if there are capacity limit that would only allow for family to attend?
4. Do you have access to testing where you live?
5. Do you have anyone in your close bubble who is too young to be vaccinated or is high risk?
I would have to weigh the answers to all of those questions before I decided and there are more I’m probably not thinking of too.
I would not go unless I was comfortable wearing a KN95 everywhere I went and plan to eat outdoors.
I don’t think anyone will think bad of you if you don’t go, but I think it should be a family decision, not one we can make for you.
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Post by scrappyesq on Dec 31, 2021 17:51:16 GMT
I’m here in NYC. The numbers are high but people are very much aware of what is going on and in all of my daily travels people seem to be doing their best to stay safe. Nothing is 100% but if NYC is your only concern I would make the trip.
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Post by ~summer~ on Jan 1, 2022 20:26:13 GMT
Update - I’m not going next weekend but I am going in April. And my cousin/bff is going with me - she was also very close with my friend when they both lived in nyc and stayed close over the years.
I will see her husband and our other friends and walk around Central Park and think of all our happy times in the city and the crazy shit we did in college lol. Just wanted to update everyone you peas gave me really good points to think about.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Jan 2, 2022 2:12:05 GMT
My absolute best friend from college tragically passed away suddenly and her service is just outside NYC next weekend. She was one of my closest friends in my life - though with 3000 miles between us we had drifted in and out but during undergrad we were partners in crime/inseparable. I’m so heartbroken about the situation. So would you fly to nyc for 3 nights next weekend? Of course it just seems crazy with the Covid numbers right now in NYC. I’m low risk, my family is low risk and we are all vaccinated and boosted. And I would really like to see my college friends and be there for her husband whom I was also friends with. But again, I know NYC is just through the roof. And the 5 hour plane ride does not seem fun and I would have to request last minute vacation. Just trying to lay out all points. Eta - updated on next page Nope. Too risky flying with assholes spitting, slapping, causing a ruckus on planes all in the name of “my rights”. |
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