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Post by mikklynn on Jan 6, 2022 11:48:24 GMT
I'm saying a prayer for you to find all the happiness you deserve. Giant hugs, friend.
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J u l e e
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Post by J u l e e on Jan 6, 2022 12:07:38 GMT
Today is a new day! I hope you wake up and know that you are enough. That you are worthy and that you matter.
And this too shall pass.
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Post by peasapie on Jan 6, 2022 12:14:34 GMT
I’m sorry to read about what this person did to you. And lesley, I’m thinking of you too. I was burned in my earlier years when a guy I adored suddenly broke up with me for no reason, and I had to deal with the pain and confusion for a long time. When my kids were teens and started dating, I explained that deep relationships involve people’s emotions and their hearts, and entering into one comes with the responsibility to be considerate with someone’s life. I wish everyone understood that. Let yourself have time to heal and know you are not alone.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jan 6, 2022 12:37:12 GMT
I’m sorry he’s choosing to walk away after you were willing to be vulnerable in a relationship again. Be sad about it for a bit, but I hope you put yourself out there once again. Finding the right partner can be worth it all.
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rickmer
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Post by rickmer on Jan 6, 2022 13:00:07 GMT
i am sorry you are in pain. as others have said, while it may not feel like it, it's better to know now.
it also says a lot about him. if this came at you out of nowhere, he is either impulsive or has been having doubts but didn't feel mature enough to discuss them with you. be kind to yourself. you deserve better.
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Post by cakediva on Jan 6, 2022 13:17:39 GMT
((((Hugs)))) to you all you are having a hard time
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luckyexwife
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Post by luckyexwife on Jan 6, 2022 13:21:32 GMT
Thank you all so much.
I didn't sleep well last night, and I don't want to get out of bed...but I have to. I don't know how to put on a brave face, but I need to.
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Post by CarolinaGirl71 on Jan 6, 2022 13:27:53 GMT
I went through a very rough divorce 3 years ago. My ex just decided one day he wasn't happy, and had an affair. There were no warning signs, he just did it. Our friends were shocked, we were the happy couple, and we were, right up until he decided he wasn't. I went through a rough 6 months, pulled myself together, and built a new life. Things were good, so I decided to put myself out there and try dating. I met a great guy 7 months ago. We started out as friends, and went slow with a relationship. Things were great, and I thought we had a good future, as we were building a solid base. Today, he broke up with me. He didn't really give a reason. I'm shattered all over again. I knew I really liked him, and I am devastated. If you pray, could you pray for me? If you don't, could you send healing vibes? I have to pick myself up and move forward, and I just don't know how. I'm so sorry. Praying for you to have peace and comfort as you trust in God to heal your broken heart. (((Hugs)))
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Post by myboysnme on Jan 6, 2022 13:35:33 GMT
Definitely healing vibes. You are still traumatized by your ex. Change your username to something unrelated to him so his aura isn't here when you come here.
Then recognize that this new man showed you there are possibilities, that other people find you attractive and interesting. He wasn't the one to carry you through, he was the open door for you to walk through. Now you are on the other side where other people are who you can meet, befriend and develop ties, or not.
Pick your head up and know that you've been there before and you survived. Before the trauma you had years of happiness. You will again.
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tanya2
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Post by tanya2 on Jan 6, 2022 13:38:58 GMT
I'm so sorry. You are worthy of being loved. He just wasn't the right one. Your person is out there, maybe its just not the time yet
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peabay
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Post by peabay on Jan 6, 2022 13:52:39 GMT
Keep reminding yourself you've gotten through worse. Feel the feelings, be sad - it means it was important and that you dared to care about somebody again - but tell yourself you know these sad feelings will pass and you'll come through this. You've done it before, you can do it again.
I'm so sorry he hurt you.
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Post by thundergal on Jan 6, 2022 13:59:57 GMT
I had the same divorce experience you had...men, man.
I'm going to go back a step and praise your bravery for putting yourself out there again and being open to love. That in itself after a betrayal like the one you experienced is just a massive victory. Please recognize this and allow yourself to feel the pride that should generate.
Then I'll just say, be kind to yourself. None of these experiences define you or your life. You are so much more than that. And you are not alone.
Sending love and a big, squeezy, warm hug.
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amom23
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Post by amom23 on Jan 6, 2022 14:03:21 GMT
One of my favorite sayings is "There's a lid for every pot!" You my dear just haven't found your lid yet. Keep your mind and heart open because he's out there somewhere.
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Post by myboysnme on Jan 6, 2022 14:55:31 GMT
One of my favorite sayings is "There's a lid for every pot!" You my dear just haven't found your lid yet. Keep your mind and heart open because he's out there somewhere. [b This is a perfect analogy! I am collecting tea pots from thrift shops for a shower. I bought one with a lid taped to the top so it wouldn't get lost. Sure enough that lid did not go to that pot. No matter what I did it was not going to fit. So very close, and yet worthless now because it needed the right lid. And my plastic containers are the same. Lids and containers that don't fit each other. We can all relate. So I think your favorite saying is perfect for so many situations. It is easy to remember and makes sense!
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Post by lisae on Jan 6, 2022 14:59:36 GMT
I'm very sorry. You've proven your strength before. The right man is out there for you in time. {{hugs}}
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Post by librarylady on Jan 6, 2022 15:00:19 GMT
Hug to you. I got through an experience very similar by singing very loudly: I will survive. youtu.be/sZ-SwJjkSywYou will, you know you will. Hang in there.
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 6, 2022 15:12:34 GMT
I'm sorry you are hurting. I just said a prayer for you.
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Post by hop2 on Jan 6, 2022 16:46:41 GMT
Hugs
I’m proud of you. You put yourself out there & took a risk. Ok, it didn’t work out. But you did it. You are an awesome person and deserve to be happy. I wish you the best in 2022
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luckyexwife
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Post by luckyexwife on Jan 6, 2022 19:48:12 GMT
Thank you. Today isn't better, but reading this threads helps a little. Thank you
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Post by gramasue on Jan 6, 2022 22:14:01 GMT
My late daughter had a wonderful sense of humour, and whenever she and her partner had a spat, or she heard about a guy acting like a jerk, she would say
"Boys are icky - throw rocks at them."
I'm so sorry that you're in emotional pain. I pray for you that it gets better and one day you realize that he wasn't Mr. Right; he was just Mr. Right Now.
Take care, my dear.
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Post by freecharlie on Jan 7, 2022 0:06:08 GMT
Thank you. Today isn't better, but reading this threads helps a little. Thank you I'm sorry. Hopefully you can find some joy today. I know it is different, but I found a divorce women group on fb that also helps me. I bet there is one for people in/wanting relationships after divorce...maybe that would help?
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