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Post by jeremysgirl on Feb 3, 2022 17:30:57 GMT
Does it matter if you start one of the regular threads? Like the Craft Thread/Reading Thread/Weightloss-Lifestyle Thread/Dinner Thread. If you start one of those do you think you are obligated to comment throughout? I start the monthly craft thread on the regular and I still feel like I should see it through and respond to comments. I'm just weird that way. LOL! If it's a regular thread I almost view it as being hosted by whomever started it that month. (says she who started the Feb Craft thread and will be checking regularly that I respond appropriately.  ) It might sound weird but that's me. Any other type of thread then I don't really take on board who has started it every time but it's nice if the OP acknowledges at least some posts along the way imo. That's the way I think about it too. Like I'm hosting.  |
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Post by Elsabelle on Feb 3, 2022 17:32:58 GMT
I voted other because it depends on the topic. If someone is asking for help or advice I think a thank you at the very least would be nice. Other times people may simply be offering information or introducing a subject but not necessarily starting a thread to be involved in a discussion. We all have different personality types and lots of interaction may not be comfortable for some while others enjoy it. In my recent thread about languishing I read every response but didn’t respond to anyone besides a couple of likes. I just wanted to offer information that might help and it sounded like it it for some. Mission accomplished, for me at least.
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Post by auntkelly on Feb 3, 2022 17:38:25 GMT
I voted for the first option, even though it doesn't really make me nuts when people don't respond. I do think that if a poster asks a question or seeks advice and someone takes the time to respond politely, then it's nice when the poster likes the reply. To me, it's just a way of saying "thanks for responding." It doesn't necessarily mean the poster is going to follow the advice or even thinks it's good advice. On the other hand, if they don't respond, it's no big deal. I don't have a column for that on my 2Peas spreadsheet.  |
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Post by ~summer~ on Feb 3, 2022 17:53:45 GMT
I think they should respond and reply for a bit - but I don’t think they have to carry through to the very end. That’s at least what I usually do lol. It’s also nice when it’s a “what should I do” type thread if the pea comes back and says what they actually did. I posted a “what should I buy my dad” thread the other day - then updated it when I actually bought him one of the suggestions. I also try to come back and post photos sometimes (my thread on looking for advice for Seattle)But I know there are other threads when I’ve had basically zero follow up.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Feb 3, 2022 18:03:22 GMT
I think they should respond and reply for a bit - but I don’t think they have to carry through to the very end. That’s at least what I usually do lol. It’s also nice when it’s a “what should I do” type thread if the pea comes back and says what they actually did. I posted a “what should I buy my dad” thread the other day - then updated it when I actually bought him one of the suggestions. I also try to come back and post photos sometimes (my thread on looking for advice for Seattle)But I know there are other threads when I’ve had basically zero follow up. Now that I think of it, I had a thread at the holidays about what to get my dad and I think it was you who suggested a pair of swim shorts from Chubbies. I did end up buying him a great pair and he really liked them. |
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Post by ~summer~ on Feb 3, 2022 18:06:05 GMT
I think they should respond and reply for a bit - but I don’t think they have to carry through to the very end. That’s at least what I usually do lol. It’s also nice when it’s a “what should I do” type thread if the pea comes back and says what they actually did. I posted a “what should I buy my dad” thread the other day - then updated it when I actually bought him one of the suggestions. I also try to come back and post photos sometimes (my thread on looking for advice for Seattle)But I know there are other threads when I’ve had basically zero follow up. Now that I think of it, I had a thread at the holidays about what to get my dad and I think it was you who suggested a pair of swim shorts from Chubbies. I did end up buying him a great pair and he really liked them. aww that’s cool - I love Chubbies |
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Post by lisacharlotte on Feb 3, 2022 18:27:34 GMT
I voted, “meh.” It really depends on the type of post. If the OP is asking for advice, I would assume they will be involved. It’s nice to have resolution for those that responded, but in the end it’s up individual peas how they choose to participate. For basic information topics, typically the OP will put their details in the first post and then leave it to peas to chime in. I don’t expect the OP to stay involved unless they have something to say. As an example I posted that Wilna F had a new you tube video up after being gone for years. I didn’t think I needed to follow up.
For threads I didn’t start, if I don’t have anything new or different to add, I don’t join in, just read what’s already there. I may like a post that hits my feelings exactly, but sometimes not even that. I like that there are no rules here and don’t hold anyone else to arbitrary rules either.
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Post by J u l e e on Feb 3, 2022 18:47:12 GMT
I don't really care either way. I don't think people should feel obligated to respond to or like every comment on their post. Sometimes it is enough to start the discussion. I know if there was a "requirement" that I keep going back and responding that would make me inclined to post less because it would feel like a chore. I'm all in favor of encouraging people to post more, not less. Some other reasons I don't follow through: I don't like the turn a thread has taken and just want to drop the subject, people are responding in ways that show they haven't actually read all the info provided, I've gotten enough info and don't need to keep the thread going, I don't want to be "that person" who keeps bumping their own thread, I just got busy and didn't get back to it, the thread fell off the first page and I lost track of it. Saved me from typing. In addition to worrying about how often I want to bump my own thread and look like an attention whore, now I’ll worry about annoying people by not returning and interacting enough.  |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Feb 3, 2022 19:03:55 GMT
I don't really care either way. I don't think people should feel obligated to respond to or like every comment on their post. Sometimes it is enough to start the discussion. I know if there was a "requirement" that I keep going back and responding that would make me inclined to post less because it would feel like a chore. I'm all in favor of encouraging people to post more, not less. Some other reasons I don't follow through: I don't like the turn a thread has taken and just want to drop the subject, people are responding in ways that show they haven't actually read all the info provided, I've gotten enough info and don't need to keep the thread going, I don't want to be "that person" who keeps bumping their own thread, I just got busy and didn't get back to it, the thread fell off the first page and I lost track of it. Saved me from typing. In addition to worrying about how often I want to bump my own thread and look like an attention whore, now I’ll worry about annoying people by not returning and interacting enough.  OOH, I'm sorry. I thought this post was going to just be a silly one. Like my irrational pet peeve and I peeved myself. I certainly didn't mean for it to come across as a vent or a mandate. I just like to see what happens is all. |
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Post by moonglowe21 on Feb 3, 2022 19:08:15 GMT
I voted that it makes me nuts, but the truth is I don’t really care if the op responds to all the comments or not, including to me if I post. The part that REALLY drives me nuts is when they don’t at least come back with a final update. Is that really too much to ask, lol??
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Post by MichyM on Feb 3, 2022 19:12:09 GMT
Only time it realy bothers me is when the serial "post and run" peas do it. We have a couple who will post how awful this is, or how misunderstood they are, etc, etc. Then we never hear a peep from them again until the next time they post that X is going wrong in their life  I've gotten to the point where I don't bother to open their threads (if I remember their posting history). As to the rest of it, we all do our best... |
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Feb 3, 2022 19:26:21 GMT
I didn't vote. It's a bit of a "you do you" issue for me.
I do get a bit nosy though about the posts that go off the rails and appreciate when 'peaple' stick it out even if it's not exactly going their way. I believe in having a thick skin and not letting others get too you too easily.
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Post by bc2ca on Feb 3, 2022 19:34:42 GMT
Whether I continue to comment on a thread I start varies enormously. I do make an effort to "like" all the posts. Even if I don't agree with the comment, it's my way of saying "thanks for participating".  |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Feb 3, 2022 19:39:14 GMT
ETA: I just want to say that I apologize if my post comes across as anything other than mindless drivel. I thought I was being silly. This is why I called it irritational pet peeve and said I peeved myself. I didn't mean to make anyone feel bad or like they have to do something. I just get invested in your stories and I always hope (sometimes I even pray) for resolution. And when I'm hosting a thread, I always feel committed to see it through. It's my quirk and I own that. Anyway, I certainly didn't mean to make anyone feel bad or angry. This wasn't a vent or anything like that. I just added this to the OP. I want you to know I didn't mean to offend anyone. Really, I swear this thread did not come from a bad place. |
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Post by Restless Spirit on Feb 3, 2022 19:41:17 GMT
Oh goodness. I’ve been around here for over 22 years and still don’t know all of the “TwoPeas” rules. Sigh.
On the NSBR I only post “fluff” questions (see Tea Strainer thread.) I like to comeback, see the answers, and thank and like people for their ideas. But sometimes threads kind of fade out or go off topic a little. Or slide away deep into posting history. I usually don’t go in search of a thread that’s pages and pages away. Oops. My bad.
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Post by milocat on Feb 3, 2022 19:48:01 GMT
I voted for the first one but it doesn't make me nuts. I just think why wouldn't you come back and engage with the answers and replies to your question? Doesn't have to be every single one or if the thread goes way off the rails but I'd expect some interaction from the OP.
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Post by J u l e e on Feb 3, 2022 20:08:17 GMT
Saved me from typing. In addition to worrying about how often I want to bump my own thread and look like an attention whore, now I’ll worry about annoying people by not returning and interacting enough. OOH, I'm sorry. I thought this post was going to just be a silly one. Like my irrational pet peeve and I peeved myself. I certainly didn't mean for it to come across as a vent or a mandate. I just like to see what happens is all. Me too. And I didn’t mean to make you feel like you had to apologize for starting the thread. I own how I feel about starting threads and posting. I want to participate and I like to start threads for conversation about a topic or to share something, but I irrationally second guess what I post or share, and if I make people feel included in the conversation, and how much I should comment and keep the thread going or when I should let it die, or do I even remember I started a thread to come back to!! Sometimes, not all the time. Lots of people comment on what annoys them here and I’m sure I do some of it. Probably a lot.  |
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Feb 3, 2022 20:10:24 GMT
I want you to know I didn't mean to offend anyone. Really, I swear this thread did not come from a bad place. I think it's an interesting topic to ponder. And, as with many topics here, one in which people will have all varieties of opinions. If anyone is taking this to heart to the point where they are offended, I believe they'll have to own that problem. It's not on you. |
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Post by melanell on Feb 4, 2022 1:15:52 GMT
I chose "other". If I start a thread, I do try ot keep checking on it for next day or two, or as long as it keeps reappearing on the first say, two pages. BUT, if it takes on a life of its own, and goes off on a whole new topic, then I feel okay in letting it go after a few days. And I don't worry about it if someone drags it back up weeks, months, years later, because I may not even see it then. But yeah, I think if I ask for the opinion, thoughts, advice, etc. of the Peas, then it's only fair & polite to at least make an effort to check back on it for 24-48 hours. (Unless of course I asked a question with a very set answer and it gets answered right away. Like "Hey Peas, what's 2+2?". After the first person says "4", I don't feel I need to keep coming back to reply if 976 other Peas all feel they need to chime in to simply repeat "4". ) |
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Feb 4, 2022 3:52:44 GMT
My input isn't in regard to this particular thread. I wish the thread starters who post regarding dilemmas they are having, asking for advice about what to do, situations that are immenient (need advice now...like medical)...would come back at some point and provide an uodate. There is one here who posts her drama.... early morning and Husband and Family have done nothing, NOTHING for her Birthday that day. Ummm, hello it only 8:00am. She carries on most of the day, in multiple posts like it's the most tragical thing thats ever happened to her. Changes her story, back peddles, comes up with more information, etc... Then leaves the thread, never to return..and no one knows how her Birthday went, unitl six months later when she dredges it up during another drama that she's posted about. This type of above scenario is annoying and frustrating. Us message board drama readers, okay me! It's me! I need answers! What happened? How did things turn out? What decision did you settle on? Is everything okay now? What did he say? What did she say? Why, why, why do people start threads..... then leave us hanging with no answers? ?? Why?   |
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Post by seaexplore on Feb 4, 2022 5:59:26 GMT
I checked the first box but I have an explanation. I think if somebody asks for input/basically has any kind of question where they’re looking for input then yes I think they should see it through. But I get that sometimes people forget or get busy. Same. I try to remember to post back when I have started a thread…. Just remembered that I didn’t follow up on my Christmas family pictures what to wear thread. |
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Post by mollycoddle on Feb 4, 2022 6:43:54 GMT
I don’t start a lot of threads, but if I do, I try to comment throughout because it’s an interesting topic to me, and it’s polite. But that’s me; I comment on interesting threads, whether the OP is commenting or not.
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Post by joelise on Feb 4, 2022 9:25:11 GMT
If the thread is a WWTPD then I do prefer it if the OP follows the thread and comments on pea’s posts. However one of the reasons I rarely start threads is because I am rubbish at replying. I only come on here on my iPad so don’t give the site a second thought for most of the day.
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Post by muggins on Feb 4, 2022 11:27:58 GMT
I’m on Tapatalk so I can’t see the poll.
If I start a thread asking a question or for a recommendation, then I make the effort to like or thank all the posters. On other threads I don’t always feel the need to keep commenting, especially if the thread veers off the initial topic.
One of my pet peeves ( besides the constant bumping of the same old threads) are peas who only post every two years or so to ask for votes or a recommendation. They contribute nothing to the board. Those threads I avoid, because I’m petty like that.
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Post by peasapie on Feb 4, 2022 12:39:01 GMT
It depends. I do notice and appreciate when OPs participate throughout a thread asking for opinions or advice, and I appreciate updates. It feels unappreciative to take the time to give advice and receive no update as to how things turned out. If the thread is just a general conversation starter, I don’t care of OP sticks around.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Feb 4, 2022 12:46:28 GMT
I do notice and appreciate when OPs participate throughout a thread asking for opinions or advice, and I appreciate updates. This is what I was getting at with this post. Maybe it's my fault because I feel a bit invested. Kind of like a TV show, I want to see how it ends and if we need to, we can offer further assistance or support. |
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Feb 4, 2022 13:34:46 GMT
ETA: I just want to say that I apologize if my post comes across as anything other than mindless drivel. I thought I was being silly. This is why I called it irritational pet peeve and said I peeved myself. I didn't mean to make anyone feel bad or like they have to do something. I just get invested in your stories and I always hope (sometimes I even pray) for resolution. And when I'm hosting a thread, I always feel committed to see it through. It's my quirk and I own that. Anyway, I certainly didn't mean to make anyone feel bad or angry. This wasn't a vent or anything like that. I just added this to the OP. I want you to know I didn't mean to offend anyone. Really, I swear this thread did not come from a bad place. If you mean me, don't worry, I wasn't offended/upset/any other bad thing. Just posting my perspective. |
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Post by jennifercw on Feb 4, 2022 13:42:02 GMT
I do think when a pea asks a specific question or needs advice, it's nice for them to at stick around long enough to acknowledge those that responded. I like updates but don't feel like we are "owed" one.
That being said - I'm not always great about coming back to my own threads! Sometimes I just get busy and forget. Other times the thread falls off the first page and it feels very presumptuous to think anyone cares enough for me to bring it back! (perfect example - my thread asking about taking ativan prior to medical procedures. I asked for experiences, thanked people for sharing, but I'm not sure that means anyone is interested in the outcome...)
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Post by peasapie on Feb 4, 2022 15:03:02 GMT
I do notice and appreciate when OPs participate throughout a thread asking for opinions or advice, and I appreciate updates. This is what I was getting at with this post. Maybe it's my fault because I feel a bit invested. Kind of like a TV show, I want to see how it ends and if we need to, we can offer further assistance or support. I also feel invested if someone has a problem and needs help. If I didn't care, I wouldn't take the time to type out an answer. jennifercw, I'm always interested in the outcome, even if the OP is no longer front-page news. :-) |
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Post by scrappintoee on Feb 4, 2022 23:52:08 GMT
My answer is similar to a lot of things others have said. I try to at least "like" every response, to acknowledge and/or thank the peAple who replied. I sometimes bump an older thread for those that may have missed it, and I'm hoping for more input. Other times the thread falls off the first page and it feels very presumptuous to think anyone cares enough for me to bring it back! (perfect example - my thread asking about taking ativan prior to medical procedures. I asked for experiences, thanked people for sharing, but I'm not sure that means anyone is interested in the outcome...) I'm so glad you posted this, because I never saw your thread, and I was going to ask a similar question. Off to read the responses now. Oh, and I'm very interested in your outcome. I don't know if you've already had the procedure, but if you did---I hope it went well. |
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I've gotten to the point where I don't bother to open their threads (if I remember their posting history). As to the rest of it, we all do our best...
