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Post by scrappintoee on Feb 5, 2022 4:48:55 GMT
**Update March 14** TL/ DR: Thank you again to everyone who replied! This past weekend has been BRUTAL, so, aside from support from my DH, friends, and family, I've been doing A LOT of reading, and I've added a helpful list (it's LONG!) about coping with grief (pets or humans) in my new post on the next page. I hope it might help some of you, and I'm sending (( hugs )). ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Long Update March 14th
Thank you again to everyone who replied! I didn't realize it's been a month plus 20 days since I first posted. The last few days, my grief is getting even worse! I'd love to attend an in-person support group, but can't find one. I NEED to find the right counselor, but haven't yet. I had one I thought would be helpful, but it didn't work out. It's sooo exhausting just to make all the phone calls, and GO---but more exhausting when you have to try to find the right one. I'm considering asking my doc to increase my anti-depressant, but I also feel like crying is cathartic, and it won't last forever! Part of what makes this SO BRUTAL is losing two of them within 2 weeks of each other !!!!!!! I talk with other doggie lovers, my close friends and family are very supportive, and so is DH---but he is ALSO grieving! I am just sooo tired of CRYING !!! I cried more this weekend than I ever have! When my little brother died in 2009, I NEVER thought I'd stop crying! He was like my son because I took care of him due to our mom's alcoholism. But of course, I DID stop crying eventually, and I know I will again. But in the meantime, I can't stand the crying anymore. Plus, it gives me horrible HEADACHES! ------------------------------------------------- Original Post Feb 4th: I don't want this to be a thread just about MY losses---- I'd love to hear about your precious pet(s) that you miss!
** June 2020, at the height of the pandemic, we lost our 9-year-old Sophie. Her death was partially related to vet errors at the emergency room. I've struggled to let the vet's fatal errors go, and forgive....but it is SO hard! I only recently stopped crying so often about her.
What made it worse was that thanks to Covid, we couldn't BE with her in the emergency hospital.
** 2 weeks ago, we lost a precious 11-year-old pug Little Guy that we adopted a year ago. He was the sweetest, needless to say, I've been crying quite often. He helped us with our grief over Sophie.
** And then tonight, our precious 13-year-old Meaty died. DH and I are shocked and in disbelief! I have dreaded this day for a while! I cannot believe that this happened so soon after losing Little Guy. I'm afraid I will never stop crying. I feel even worse for DH, because he was Meaty's person.
Little Guy (in red harness) and Meaty November 2021 Meaty and Sophie LOVED Halloween, and the trick-or-treaters loved seeing them! Meaty, Sophie, and a SWEET hospice adoption (in stroller) named Professor/ Mister Magoo. Ugh, I still cry often about him, too. Sooo sweet and only lived with us 10 months, but it felt like a lifetime Scrapbook page I made about Sophie First time I met puppy Meaty...2009
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Post by destined2bmom on Feb 5, 2022 4:51:08 GMT
Oh Scrappintoee I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet Meaty.
I am so sorry that you lost all of them in such a short period of time. Please accept my deepest condolences.
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Post by hop2 on Feb 5, 2022 5:13:38 GMT
I am so sorry for your losses. Hugs
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Post by Linda on Feb 5, 2022 5:21:26 GMT
((((Hugs)))) I'm so very sorry. Pet loss is always hard but when it's unexpected and/or in such a short period of time, it's even harder. I've always enjoyed your stories and photos about Sophie and Meaty - it's obvious they (and the others) were loved SO much.
We lost two cats last year. Oreo died in early January 2021 - he was 18 so not unexpected but sad nevertheless. My girls didn't remember a time before him - DD21 was 2 when he came home as a sneezing 10 wk kitten and he was older than DD15. Silver was a stray DD15 befriended in our yard - we started feeding her and took her to the vet for a checkup and shots - turned out she was about 10/11. Sadly she started having seizures a week later and didn't make it. We have 4 more senior kitties (plus two kittens) so we know more loss is in the future...Midnight is about 20, Little friend is 12, and Tabby & Mini are almost 12. But the love and joy they bring us are more than worth it.
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Post by auntiepeas on Feb 5, 2022 5:26:32 GMT
I’m really sorry to hear about the loss of your sweet Meaty, Sophie, and Little Guy. Sending you gentle hugs.
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Post by malibou on Feb 5, 2022 8:41:37 GMT
I'm so very sorry for your losses. My heart hurts for you.
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Post by quinlove on Feb 5, 2022 8:49:03 GMT
((( scrappintoee ))) ❤️❤️❤️
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Post by mollycoddle on Feb 5, 2022 9:50:19 GMT
I am so sorry for your losses. How horrible for you and your DH. You have my deepest sympathy. They were such a cute pack, and it’s easy to see that they were loved.
I lost my Baxter very suddenly in 2018 at age 13. He was a wonderful dog. I am a pretty tough old bird, but I was a mess. I still miss him.
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Post by gillyp on Feb 5, 2022 10:27:55 GMT
scrappintoee that’s a huge amount of loss in a short time and I’m so very sorry you are without your precious pets. I think it’s been obvious to us all just how loved and special they were to you.
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Post by christine58 on Feb 5, 2022 10:59:24 GMT
scrappintoee I am so sorry. You've lost too many in a short time. I lost my Abbey dog in April of 2017. She was almost 13. She went downhill really fast over a couple days. But I think the one that hit me the hardest was my parents' golden retriever Maggie. She also was 13 and stayed with me for the winter when my parents went south. I came home one day and she had gotten sick and could not move. Again I am just so sorry about meaty
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Post by peasapie on Feb 5, 2022 11:40:27 GMT
So much loss in such a short time - my heart aches for you. When we lost a beloved dog last year I thought, “And this is what happens when we love them greatly.” But who would have it otherwise?
The photos you posted are each so sweet and helped us share your feelings of loss.
My 15-y-o little guy will leave me one day soon, and the thought of life without him is unbearable. But…I wouldn’t trade a single day of loving him greatly.
Please know I’m thinking of you and the emptiness I know you are feeling.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Feb 5, 2022 12:20:14 GMT
I am so sorry for your losses scrappintoee I just know how important these babies were to you and your DH. My heart breaks that you've lost all of them in such a short amount of time. I hope that you can grieve them and then have room in your heart to rescue another. ❤️ I know it's not the same for everyone but in my case, the way I always deal with the grief of losing a pet is to adopt another homeless pet. It does my heart good to know that I've given a shelter pet a home and that I have another furball to love.
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Post by Kymberlee on Feb 5, 2022 13:28:59 GMT
I’m so sorry to see this news. We lost our sweet Dreadnought a few days before Christmas several years ago. It was fast and unexpected and devastating. One minute he was with us and the next minute he was gone. I remember we use to chat about Sophie and Meaty’s antics when I was much more active on the board. I loved sharing pictures and stories with you.
We now share our lives with another bulldog, Bastogne. He will never, ever replace my Dread but he has helped our hearts heal and we cherish him. Bulldogs are the most special dogs in the world 🥰
Please accept my condolences and hugs. We just never, ever get enough time.
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Post by anniebeth24 on Feb 5, 2022 13:54:04 GMT
Losing our pets is so tough. They bring light and fun to our lives in such a unique way, each one with their own quirks and personality.
I'm sorry you're going through this. Hugs.
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Post by artbabe on Feb 5, 2022 16:33:43 GMT
I am so sorry. I lost my Isabel (black cat) in 2008 and I still miss her. She was the meanest cat ever and I loved her so much. The cats I got right after she died are 14 and 15 so I don't know how much time I have left with them.
It is so horrible that everyone died so close together. Terrible.
My sister had a cat and 2 dogs for 14 years. The cat died and then 2 months later one of the dogs died. A week later the other dog laid in the exact same spot as the first dog, and died. I swear it was a broken heart. 2014 was a really hard year.
I am so glad you adopt and foster older dogs. There is a guy on instagram that goes by wolfgang2242. He only adopts old dogs (10!) and he often talks about dealing with their deaths. It changed my perspective on older pets.
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Post by Zee on Feb 5, 2022 16:42:08 GMT
I am so sorry for the loss of your pups, and now Meaty too It's so hard, and you've had so many losses so close together. I hope when the time is right, another dog in need of a home shows up and fills that void. None of my cats will ever replace my Vinnie but my heart is full again. ❤️
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Post by scrapmaven on Feb 5, 2022 16:50:39 GMT
I'm just so sad about my favorite nurse Meaty. I do hope that you'll rescue two adorabull pups. You were born to have bulldogs and you gave your furry nurses so much love and kindness. This is going to be the hard, so reach out and know that you have friends on the board who are here to listen, comfort and encourage you. I'm so sorry, my friend.
I lost my birdie several years ago. During a time of great change he was my best friend. When I lost him I was beyond sad. A few years ago I lost my kitty. He was my partner and my comfort cat. It takes time, but honestly the thing that helped me to really heal was to rescue another birdie/kitty. In my case, I am too lonely w/o my furry friends. You'll never replace your furry family, but having new ones on which to focus really helps the grief. In your case, I think that's almost essential. PM me anytime.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Feb 5, 2022 17:54:14 GMT
scrappintoee, my heart aches for you and your DH. I know Meaty is romping at the Rainbow Bridge with my sweet boy, Kellie, just as Sophie and Lil Guy did.
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Post by edie3 on Feb 5, 2022 17:58:54 GMT
I am so sorry for everyone's losses. We had our beloved Peanut put down a month ago. The hole in our heart and home is almost unbearable. She was 17 and had dementia and she would get lost inside and out. I do not regret the decision we made, but our experience at the vet was horrible. I have contacted them via their website and by snail mail and heard nothing. Now, they have blocked me on FB, and I have not posted anything about them online.
It makes it harder to bear because she deserved better. We all did, and the office really let all of us down.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 5, 2022 18:39:52 GMT
scrappintoee HUGE hugs to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I had no idea about Meaty! You've gone through losses in a short period of time, and I KNOW that those furbabies brought you so much love and happiness. You made both me and Gary VERY happy with your cards and furbaby love, so I feel terrible that you're going through this sudden loss.
DD has lost her eldest kitty after Gary passed. She was 17. She also lost her last chinchilla. She faces losing one of her orange tabby kitties from end stage kidney failure that might be too far beyond help. (His twin brother is doing well with the same thing). I might face losing my 12 year old tortie kitty. She has cystitis and seems to be having more and more UTIs, closer together. She doesn't respond to treatment and won't take the anti-anxiety tiny pill, even with a pill-shooter, and even if we crush it and put it in her wet food (she won't eat it). She doesn't take treats, pill-pockets or ANYTHING we offer her anymore--no trust!
But, your adorable babies meant SO much to you, and they spread their love to many people. I'm SO very sorry for your loss. When I lost my Felix, suddenly, at age 9 (11/2019), it somehow made me tear up for months! He was such a special kitty and was like a baby to Gary and me. Such a loss is deep and you'll feel it for a while too. I'm so sorry. My hugs and prayers are with you. xoxo
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Post by pinklady on Feb 5, 2022 19:47:57 GMT
I’m so sorry, my heat hurts for you. Your losses were way to close together. That’s just too much.
I lost my 10 yr old English bulldog in March 2021. I still cry thinking about her. It was so hard to watch my dog get old.
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Post by airforcemomof1 on Feb 5, 2022 19:54:27 GMT
It’s been about 20 years since I have had any pets. I am so sorry because I know how much you loved yours. 💕
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Post by Lexica on Feb 5, 2022 20:09:49 GMT
What a huge shock to lose two of them so close to each other, and not long after losing the first dog. My heart goes out to you and your husband. I have suffered through the loss of many pets myself, so I know the grief you feel. I am still not over the loss of my little black kitty who passed last year. I don't know how I am going to handle it when my little dog goes.
Please, during all of your grief, make sure you remind yourself every single day that you made their lives better than ever. You loved them fully and gave them so many advantages. They were loved and they knew it. They were safe and they knew it. And you did that for them. Eventually, this knowledge will make their passing just a little bit easier to bear. At least it has worked for me.
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Post by zella on Feb 5, 2022 21:26:43 GMT
We lost 3 dogs in a short time frame. First our beautiful papillon, who had dementia (he'd stand in the corner and not be able to get out or he'd get lost in the house). When he started walking lopsided we took him to the Emergency vet, and he had a brain tumor on top of the serious heart condition we knew about. So we said goodbye to him. He was DD's dog. I knew my Pom was going downhill, but he suddenly started falling in the pool; even when I had him on a leash. Time to say goodbye. That left our rescue min pin. He needed anesthesia to remove his teeth, but he was so anxious, and small (4 lbs) plus he lost all interest in food. Time to let another one go.
The saddest thing for me is hubby won't let us get another dog. At least once a week I think I hear my baby's claws clicking on the floor. I still cry for him sometimes, well over a year later. They do wiggle their way into our hearts. I'm sorry for everyone dealing with this.
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Post by FurryP on Feb 5, 2022 23:33:39 GMT
Rather than go into details, I will just list the wonderful dogs that have come and gone and made my life better for it. I miss every one of them.
Mine: Barney Ford Bailey
Not mine, but almost: Molson Lucky Jack Jake Nevada Sierra Tacoma Mac
I currently have one dog. Her name is Lexi. Now you have me teary-eyed @scrappintoe. I know the loss of a beloved dog. I'm sorry for your losses. May they rest in peace.
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Post by msladibug on Feb 6, 2022 1:10:46 GMT
Scrappintoe, my favorite costume that I believe Sophie wore was the ladybug, of course. It’s so hard to lose our furry family members.(((((hugs)))))
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Post by SockMonkey on Feb 6, 2022 1:16:30 GMT
I'm so sorry. It is so, so hard.
Last Christmas, we had to put our 14 year old chihuahua down the day after Christmas. It was awful. He was old, but took a really sudden turn for the worst right on Christmas.
Then in August, our other chihuahua of 14 years also had to be put down. He was very special. He had congestive heart failure but had been living with it okay on meds for about a year, but then started having seizures and we had to let him go.
With the pandemic, we were already so sad. We did adopt a new pup in Feb of last year, and he's been a bright spot of joy and a BFF to our other 6 year old chihuahua. It was a rough year, and them playing together make it so much better.
I'm really sorry for anyone who loses a pet, and it feels even harder lately. Hugs.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Feb 6, 2022 1:22:50 GMT
So sorry you’ve lost pets so close together, scrappintoee. They add so much to our lives and losing them can be so difficult.
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Post by mom on Feb 6, 2022 1:24:47 GMT
I am so sorry, scrappintoee . I know much your doggies meant to you and brought you so much joy. I am sending you big, gentle hugs!
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Post by Montannie on Feb 6, 2022 3:12:59 GMT
So sorry for your loss! Shocking to hear about Meaty, especially. The loss is real, hugs
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