TankTop
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Post by TankTop on Feb 27, 2022 14:02:31 GMT
I am so sick and tired of a certain person in my life saying this about every great tragedy that occurs.
Hurricanes
Tornadoes
Earthquakes
Wars
Famines
Etc….
This person said yesterday they did not understand why the people of the Ukraine did not leave when they had warning that Russia was going to invade.
It is exhausting. I am to the point that I avoid this person all together. The lack of empathy is astounding. The lack of knowledge on just how hard it is to “just leave” is flabbergasting. It is as if this person believes you just get in your car and drive away.
How do you deal with people like this, and what do you think is the psychology behind this line of thinking?
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Post by guzismom on Feb 27, 2022 14:07:02 GMT
People want quick, easy answers to complex problems.
Sadly, there are rarely quick, easy answers to complex problems.
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kibblesandbits
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Post by kibblesandbits on Feb 27, 2022 14:08:43 GMT
Ask them "what would that look like?" It's easy to just pop off a quick sentence, but asking them to go deeper in their thinking requires them to really process their offhand comment and develop it will either highlight that it's not that simple, or will highlight that THEY are simple. Most of the time, it's the latter  Or, a snide "yeah, why didn't they think of that?" and turn the conversation to something else. |
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Post by Merge on Feb 27, 2022 14:09:16 GMT
I think they lack empathy and critical thinking skills.
Or, worse, they’re one of those people who resents being forced to contemplate the suffering of others and so has to tell themselves that “they brought it on themselves.”
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Post by epeanymous on Feb 27, 2022 14:17:00 GMT
Forty-four … million people.
And I agree. It is a psychological tactic they use to keep from having to feel empathy or fear. “That would never happen to me.”
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Post by Deleted on Feb 27, 2022 14:19:14 GMT
I am so sick and tired of a certain person in my life saying this about every great tragedy that occurs. Hurricanes Tornadoes Earthquakes Wars Famines Etc…. This person said yesterday they did not understand why the people of the Ukraine did not leave when they had warning that Russia was going to invade. It is exhausting. I am to the point that I avoid this person all together. The lack of empathy is astounding. The lack of knowledge on just how hard it is to “just leave” is flabbergasting. It is as if this person believes you just get in your car and drive away. How do you deal with people like this, and what do you think is the psychology behind this line of thinking? Some people live in a very small bubble of knowledge about events outside their own little bubble of utopia. They have no clue what happens in the outside world or in fact in parts of their own country if she's also saying the same about Hurricanes, Tornadoes and Earthquakes. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Feb 27, 2022 14:20:49 GMT
I agree with all of the above.
And I suppose this person who wants people to just leave,isn't exactly holding the door open for these refugees to come here either.
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TankTop
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Post by TankTop on Feb 27, 2022 14:43:24 GMT
I believe you all hit the nail on the head with “it won’t happen to me” comment.
This particular person generally feels they are smarter than others.
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TankTop
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Post by TankTop on Feb 27, 2022 14:45:00 GMT
My latest response was…
Putin expressed that imposing sanctions would be seen as an act of war and provocation of war.
The US has imposed sanctions.
What plans are you currently making to leave the US if he makes good on that statement?
Crickets……
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Post by MissBianca on Feb 27, 2022 14:51:34 GMT
Bring it closer to home. Tell them hey I like your house, I think I’m just going to move in and take it over. Bring your cars, and suitcases and your family and friends and plop down on their couch and spread out. Tell them if they don’t like it, they can just leave.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Feb 27, 2022 15:04:20 GMT
Are they the “pulled themselves up by the bootstraps” thinking?
If so, I’ve encountered people like that where they don’t want to be bothered by the plight of anyone else, only things that affect them directly or that would inconvenience themselves.
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Post by sassyangel on Feb 27, 2022 18:37:25 GMT
Forty-four … million people. And I agree. It is a psychological tactic they use to keep from having to feel empathy or fear. “That would never happen to me.” It’s like moving nearly twice the population of Australia in an area 1/6 of the size. 😵💫 The fact they also can’t comprehend that people might not WANT leave and would prefer to stay and defend their country (and should be supported in that) because they never would, looms large as well. |
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Feb 27, 2022 18:49:59 GMT
Ask, where were they supposed to go?
Last I heard over 300,000 have made it across borders, which includes 200,000 in Poland. They have been welcomed with pets and without papers in Poland. Will we do as much for the refugees?
I really did like moving into the neighbor's house scenario.
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Post by PaperAngel on Feb 27, 2022 19:14:04 GMT
IMHO it depends on the person. Some may lack empathy (or worse) as stated above, while others use this phrase as a coping mechanism. Perhaps due to a past traumatizing experience, they convince themselves that simply leaving will allow them to avoid facing their biggest fear (ie circumstances beyond their control, such as natural disasters, wars, etc.) & poor choices are the only reason others find themselves in these situations.
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Post by leftturnonly on Feb 27, 2022 20:01:39 GMT
The lack of knowledge on just how hard it is to “just leave” is flabbergasting. It is as if this person believes you just get in your car and drive away. Speaking as one who was forced to "just leave" on numerous occasions, I have to say that the "just leaving" was the least of the problems I faced. I actually had to "go to" as well. You can ask your friend if she has all the important family documentation and valuables ready so she could "just leave" quickly and compactly (since she probably won't be allowed much room) at short notice, and then ask her where she would "go to" at the drop of a hat to begin her life entirely over again with only the people and things she was able to "just leave" with. You might remind her that if she's going to cross country lines, she's not going to be able to "just get" a prescription refilled at the end of the month. Her daily reality will be turned completely upside down and shaken out as she watches the pieces fall all around her, which can be emotionally devastating, so you may ask her what plans she has when her child/SO/self begins to fall to pieces. If only there was a "JUST LEAVE" handbook you could hand her... |
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Post by tincin on Feb 27, 2022 22:22:57 GMT
I’ll trade you for a “the world is ending, it’s god’s prophecy” person.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 27, 2022 22:48:11 GMT
I find that most questions that start w/"Why don't they just...." are spoken by the poorly informed and/or black/white thinkers w/no idea of how things work in reality.
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Post by AussieMeg on Feb 27, 2022 23:04:47 GMT
Where exactly does this person think that FORTY FOUR MILLION people are going to 'just leave' to?!
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