|
Post by myshelly on Feb 27, 2022 17:40:14 GMT
my daughter once told me about ... maybe some article she read that talked about a social score, sort of like a credit score. seems like we need a social score here and other places around the internet. so many downvotes and you disappear, maybe for a short while, maybe for a long while. on another forum i read, seems there are people there just to make rude comments. it is all anonymous, but i think a system of up/downvoting might be helpful. Wait…there are people who think a social score is a good thing? Social scores are talked about as a cautionary tale from Communist China, not a goal. Good lord. Never watch Black Mirror (there’s literally an entire episode about the social score nightmare)? Read 1984? Think about anything critically?
|
|
|
Post by mikewozowski on Feb 27, 2022 17:40:19 GMT
oh, and i would like to see the politics threads move to their own space. tired of all the politics threads. if all you want to do is talk politics, i am sure there are other places to do that. The problem with that is that it is not uncommon for non political threads to turn political. Just look at the recent travel to Clearwater thread...who would have thought that would turn political? I like the politics label. Some days, I am in the mood to read and talk politics, but often, I just am not, so I can easily avoid the political threads. But that travel thread is not the first time started out one way and ended up turning political. So having a separate board wouldn't always work. yes, that is true, but if there were a way for people to click on posts and have them automatically deleted or something, that might be nice. i can't remember wheeree it was .. maybe on irc or a drawing game... if a certain number of people voted to block you, out you go.
|
|
sassyangel
Drama Llama
Posts: 7,456
Jun 26, 2014 23:58:32 GMT
|
Post by sassyangel on Feb 27, 2022 17:40:22 GMT
oh, and i would like to see the politics threads move to their own space. tired of all the politics threads. if all you want to do is talk politics, i am sure there are other places to do that. Why? I’m quite capable of talking both politics and lots of other things. I don’t think posts should be shunned, like there is something terrible about being political. The board is riddled with game threads, which I never participate in, but I would never shun them to their own board either - people clearly enjoy them, so it’s fine with me.
|
|
|
Post by jeremysgirl on Feb 27, 2022 17:40:25 GMT
Yes well maybe those people need to take a break from the board instead of the rest of us who want to enjoy our time here. Maybe that should be our code phrase? "I think you need to step away from the board/thread" Unfortunately all that does is further enrage them and invite even more posts & attacks on other peas. Easier to back away. YMMV though. It's really too bad. You know if some said something like that to me, it would totally cause me to pause and consider my words and the place they were coming from. I have hard days too. I could easily come here or anywhere else and take out my frustration on everyone. With that, I need to shut this thread out of my brain today. For the very first time in 6 years now I feel like there is a bit of mental space in my head just for me to fill that isn't full of anxiety, panic, and worry and I want to fill it positively. As busy said, the peas can be very, very awesome. I know when we are at our best,we are amazing. ❤️
|
|
|
Post by mikewozowski on Feb 27, 2022 17:44:03 GMT
myshelly, anytime i am on the opposite side that you are, i consider that a win. i assure you, your two peas social credit score wouldn't be great.
not talking about an actual social credit score like china has, but something like the reddit karma score might be useful in lots of internet applications, it would be reasonable.
|
|
Just T
Drama Llama
Posts: 5,884
Jun 26, 2014 1:20:09 GMT
|
Post by Just T on Feb 27, 2022 17:44:17 GMT
if a certain number of people voted to block you, out you go. Not a fan of that either. LOL While there are a few people I wish would stop posting their crap here and wonder what positivity they actually get out of their time here, I would not want the number of people blocking them to make them be booted out. What if a group of posters just decided they didn't like you and blocked you, for no other reason than they don't like you?
|
|
|
Post by mikewozowski on Feb 27, 2022 17:46:26 GMT
oh, and i would like to see the politics threads move to their own space. tired of all the politics threads. if all you want to do is talk politics, i am sure there are other places to do that. Why? I’m quite capable of talking both politics and lots of other things. I don’t think posts should be shunned, like there is something terrible about being political. The board is riddled with game threads, which I never participate in, but I would never shun them to their own board either - people clearly enjoy them, so it’s fine with me. being in its own space does not equal being shunned. it makes it easy for people to go to see the threads they are interested in in one place. i don't care for the game threads, either, and it would be fine if they were in their own space as well. jjust makes it easier for peeople to find the threads they are interested in.
|
|
sassyangel
Drama Llama
Posts: 7,456
Jun 26, 2014 23:58:32 GMT
|
Post by sassyangel on Feb 27, 2022 17:46:27 GMT
Yes well maybe those people need to take a break from the board instead of the rest of us who want to enjoy our time here. Maybe that should be our code phrase? "I think you need to step away from the board/thread" Even when it's meant to be kind, it's practically the same as "I think you need to calm down." When has anyone ever calmed down after being told to do so? 😄 Never. Based on the proliferation of memes about it alone. 😝
|
|
pinklady
Drama Llama
Posts: 6,064
Nov 14, 2016 23:47:03 GMT
|
Post by pinklady on Feb 27, 2022 17:47:44 GMT
myshelly, anytime i am on the opposite side that you are, i consider that a win. i assure you, your two peas social credit score wouldn't be great. not talking about an actual social credit score like china has, but something like the reddit karma score might be useful in lots of internet applications, it would be reasonable. Your social score isn’t doing too great either. May I suggest creating a snowflake board, where everyone farts rainbows and clutches their pearls, for you.
|
|
|
Post by mikewozowski on Feb 27, 2022 17:48:32 GMT
if a certain number of people voted to block you, out you go. Not a fan of that either. LOL While there are a few people I wish would stop posting their crap here and wonder what positivity they actually get out of their time here, I would not want the number of people blocking them to make them be booted out. What if a group of posters just decided they didn't like you and blocked you, for no other reason than they don't like you? if i recall correctly, it wasn't a permanent ban or anything, just a boot out for some time period. idk the answer, but the toxicity of the internet has gotten out of control since people have lost their damn minds.
|
|
sassyangel
Drama Llama
Posts: 7,456
Jun 26, 2014 23:58:32 GMT
|
Post by sassyangel on Feb 27, 2022 17:49:29 GMT
myshelly, anytime i am on the opposite side that you are, i consider that a win. i assure you, your two peas social credit score wouldn't be great. not talking about an actual social credit score like china has, but something like the reddit karma score might be useful in lots of internet applications, it would be reasonable. Except it is open to abuse because it leans left, except on specific subs. I participate on more than a few, and I’ve seen perfectly reasonable, non abusive comments downvoted to hell because they don’t lean the right way (depending on the sub) politically.
|
|
|
Post by mom on Feb 27, 2022 17:51:02 GMT
Not a fan of that either. LOL While there are a few people I wish would stop posting their crap here and wonder what positivity they actually get out of their time here, I would not want the number of people blocking them to make them be booted out. What if a group of posters just decided they didn't like you and blocked you, for no other reason than they don't like you? if i recall correctly, it wasn't a permanent ban or anything, just a boot out for some time period. idk the answer, but the toxicity of the internet has gotten out of control since people have lost their damn minds.
You recognize that you just posted this, when not 5 minuets before you were being a bitch to another poster, right? You are contributing to the toxicity of this thread.
|
|
|
Post by monklady123 on Feb 27, 2022 17:52:45 GMT
my daughter once told me about ... maybe some article she read that talked about a social score, sort of like a credit score. seems like we need a social score here and other places around the internet. so many downvotes and you disappear, maybe for a short while, maybe for a long while. on another forum i read, seems there are people there just to make rude comments. it is all anonymous, but i think a system of up/downvoting might be helpful. Wait…there are people who think a social score is a good thing? Social scores are talked about as a cautionary tale from Communist China, not a goal. Good lord. Never watch Black Mirror (there’s literally an entire episode about the social score nightmare)? Read 1984? Think about anything critically? Well "Black Mirror" is a dystopian/science fiction-y/weird things type of show so yeah, it's fiction. That was a good episode though.
|
|
sassyangel
Drama Llama
Posts: 7,456
Jun 26, 2014 23:58:32 GMT
|
Post by sassyangel on Feb 27, 2022 17:53:07 GMT
Unfortunately all that does is further enrage them and invite even more posts & attacks on other peas. Easier to back away. YMMV though. It's really too bad. You know if some said something like that to me, it would totally cause me to pause and consider my words and the place they were coming from. I have hard days too. I could easily come here or anywhere else and take out my frustration on everyone. With that, I need to shut this thread out of my brain today. For the very first time in 6 years now I feel like there is a bit of mental space in my head just for me to fill that isn't full of anxiety, panic, and worry and I want to fill it positively. As busy said, the peas can be very, very awesome. I know when we are at our best,we are amazing. ❤️ You know, I know it would you, because I think I know the kind of person you are, but it wouldn’t be perceived that way by many others. I also think if someone like you said to It to me, I would take it much differently (knowing it likely came from a place of kindness and concern) than others.
|
|
sassyangel
Drama Llama
Posts: 7,456
Jun 26, 2014 23:58:32 GMT
|
Post by sassyangel on Feb 27, 2022 17:56:48 GMT
my daughter once told me about ... maybe some article she read that talked about a social score, sort of like a credit score. seems like we need a social score here and other places around the internet. so many downvotes and you disappear, maybe for a short while, maybe for a long while. on another forum i read, seems there are people there just to make rude comments. it is all anonymous, but i think a system of up/downvoting might be helpful. I worry with something like that if you have a valid (but unpopular) opinion, then you get immediately downvoted by those who feel superior in their thinking. The feature is definitely abused on Reddit, unfortunately.
|
|
|
Post by aj2hall on Feb 27, 2022 18:00:22 GMT
Unfortunately, I think because covid was so politicized and because of the 24 hour news cycle, politics have become so pervasive in everyone’s lives, especially in the last 2 years. I understand some peas would prefer this board remain a happy place without all of the politics. Everyone could use an escape from the stress of the last 2 years. And I understand the frustration when politics pop up on a thread that appears safe. But, I do think the political threads have a place here, too.
|
|
|
Post by gar on Feb 27, 2022 18:05:21 GMT
Why? I’m quite capable of talking both politics and lots of other things. I don’t think posts should be shunned, like there is something terrible about being political. The board is riddled with game threads, which I never participate in, but I would never shun them to their own board either - people clearly enjoy them, so it’s fine with me. being in its own space does not equal being shunned. it makes it easy for people to go to see the threads they are interested in in one place. i don't care for the game threads, either, and it would be fine if they were in their own space as well. jjust makes it easier for peeople to find the threads they are interested in. This has been discussed ad infinitum. You'd end up with 20 separate boards for food, travel, pets, games, politics, cooking etc etc. And the general consensus is always no.
|
|
|
Post by KikiPea on Feb 27, 2022 18:13:24 GMT
Unfortunately, I think because covid was so politicized and because of the 24 hour news cycle, politics have become so pervasive in everyone’s lives, especially in the last 2 years. I understand some peas would prefer this board remain a happy place without all of the politics. Everyone could use an escape from the stress of the last 2 years. And I understand the frustration when politics pop up on a thread that appears safe. But, I do think the political threads have a place here, too. I don’t mind the political threads because I stay out of them, but when a post is made asking a specific non-threatening, literally completely innocent question, people need to keep their rude opinions to themselves. I didn’t ask for anyones negative opinions. I asked about where to stay for a vacation. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks about the place I want to visit. It’s my prerogative. You don’t have to like it, but I’ve been going to this said state for at least 15 years, and will continue to do so. Either add answers to the questions, or move on. I will definitely think twice about posting anything to this board anymore, with the exception of my thoughts and prayers (which some of you don’t agree with, but that’s who *I* am, and will continue to be.), or an actual answer to a question may be able to assist with. And, no, it’s not because I don’t have thick skin. Nothing in that thread was directed at me, but it did not belong there, and I refuse to wade through peas spewing crap on my innocent post. Take it elsewhere.
|
|
|
Post by chaosisapony on Feb 27, 2022 18:26:15 GMT
I agree and I find myself limiting my time here because more often than not I open a thread and just wind up rolling my eyes.
|
|
|
Post by revirdsuba99 on Feb 27, 2022 18:36:38 GMT
Unfortunately, I think because covid was so politicized and because of the 24 hour news cycle, politics have become so pervasive in everyone’s lives, especially in the last 2 years. I understand some peas would prefer this board remain a happy place without all of the politics. Everyone could use an escape from the stress of the last 2 years. And I understand the frustration when politics pop up on a thread that appears safe. But, I do think the political threads have a place here, too. I don’t mind the political threads because I stay out of them, but when a post is made asking a specific non-threatening, literally completely innocent question, people need to keep their rude opinions to themselves. I didn’t ask for anyones negative opinions. I asked about where to stay for a vacation. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks about the place I want to visit. It’s my prerogative. You don’t have to like it, but I’ve been going to this said state for at least 15 years, and will continue to do so. Either add answers to the questions, or move on. I will definitely think twice about posting anything to this board anymore, with the exception of my thoughts and prayers (which some of you don’t agree with, but that’s who *I* am, and will continue to be.), or an actual answer to a question may be able to assist with. And, no, it’s not because I don’t have thick skin. Nothing in that thread was directed at me, but it did not belong there, and I refuse to wade through peas spewing crap on my innocent post. Take it elsewhere. I will repeat what I said on your thread. There was NO excuse for what happened there. You are a very long standing pea who has always been friendly and respectful. I backed out and said nothing, thinking I should have spoken up before I backed out. I'm sorry that whole thing happened!! The other problem is that I have family living near that area, which hurts my heart but I love them and will visit when possible. (BTW: your earrings are great!! How's going with the selling?)
|
|
|
Post by papercrafteradvocate on Feb 27, 2022 18:41:23 GMT
Unfortunately, I think because covid was so politicized and because of the 24 hour news cycle, politics have become so pervasive in everyone’s lives, especially in the last 2 years. I understand some peas would prefer this board remain a happy place without all of the politics. Everyone could use an escape from the stress of the last 2 years. And I understand the frustration when politics pop up on a thread that appears safe. But, I do think the political threads have a place here, too. I don’t mind the political threads because I stay out of them, but when a post is made asking a specific non-threatening, literally completely innocent question, people need to keep their rude opinions to themselves. I didn’t ask for anyones negative opinions. I asked about where to stay for a vacation. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks about the place I want to visit. It’s my prerogative. You don’t have to like it, but I’ve been going to this said state for at least 15 years, and will continue to do so. Either add answers to the questions, or move on. I will definitely think twice about posting anything to this board anymore, with the exception of my thoughts and prayers (which some of you don’t agree with, but that’s who *I* am, and will continue to be.), or an actual answer to a question may be able to assist with. And, no, it’s not because I don’t have thick skin. Nothing in that thread was directed at me, but it did not belong there, and I refuse to wade through peas spewing crap on my innocent post. Take it elsewhere. “I will definitely think twice about posting anything to this board anymore, with the exception of my thoughts and prayers (which some of you don’t agree with, but that’s who *I* am, and will continue to be.)” Just to be clear…you can be who you want and post what you want, “because that’s who you are” but others have to stand down on their thoughts and opinions if the OP doesn’t like them/agree? Got it.
|
|
|
Post by epeanymous on Feb 27, 2022 18:44:35 GMT
oh, and i would like to see the politics threads move to their own space. tired of all the politics threads. if all you want to do is talk politics, i am sure there are other places to do that. I think that is unreasonable. “Politics” is an amorphous term, and it is pretty easy to tell from a thread title if the thread is about something you would put in the politics bucket. A lot of us, I think, are processing and following Russia’s invasion of Ukraine; that is political, for sure, but it’s what’s on our minds. I posted earlier this week about the anti-trans stuff in Texas; as a parent of a non-gender-conforming kid, that is weighing very heavily on my mind—I don’t think of it (personally) as politics, but as speaking to my deepest parental fears. I also get that, because a political figure is taking the action, it is also politics. Given the level of argument that can go on in a thread about whether or not to return a shopping cart, I don’t think the arguing is necessarily political anyway.
|
|
|
Post by leftturnonly on Feb 27, 2022 19:00:21 GMT
Just to be clear…you can be who you want and post what you want, “because that’s who you are” but others have to stand down on their thoughts and opinions if the OP doesn’t like them/agree? You're behaving like a bull in a china shop. KikiPea wanted suggestions on a place to stay in a place you despise, so you came in, wrecked the place and continued on to make it all about you, stomping on her into yet another thread.
|
|
pinklady
Drama Llama
Posts: 6,064
Nov 14, 2016 23:47:03 GMT
|
Post by pinklady on Feb 27, 2022 19:05:24 GMT
Just to be clear…you can be who you want and post what you want, “because that’s who you are” but others have to stand down on their thoughts and opinions if the OP doesn’t like them/agree? You're behaving like a bull in a china shop. KikiPea wanted suggestions on a place to stay in a place you despise, so you came in, wrecked the place and continued on to make it all about you, stomping on her into yet another thread. Oh the irony. Or we can be like you and shit all over a thread and then run away with our tail between our legs.
|
|
|
Post by MichyM on Feb 27, 2022 19:08:41 GMT
Listen, we all know which peas are the Bitchy Von Icanthelpbutbeabitch. I cannot recommend the ignore button enough, as changing others’ personalities doesn’t work. Only how we react (or not) to them. Works for political threads, game threads, my threads if you can’t stand me, etc really well too. Give it a try girls.
|
|
|
Post by LiLi on Feb 27, 2022 19:09:11 GMT
I would like to make a point about that thread that went bad. If you are a family that loves a member of the lgbtq+ community, knowing where there isn't acceptance of your loved one in a travel location is important to us.
Also, some of us don't think who our loved ones are should be (is a?) political issue. Calling it that and dismissing it as a political issue in itself can be offensive.
I'm hoping to say this in a non-threatening way because I really want people to understand. This is a huge deal for us and if I were posting like Kiki did, and for some reason didn't know that information about the location I was traveling to, I would have appreciated the posts that had pointed it out.
I do see that some responses got nasty. Those aren't the responses I'm referring to.
|
|
|
Post by Skellinton on Feb 27, 2022 19:30:17 GMT
my daughter once told me about ... maybe some article she read that talked about a social score, sort of like a credit score. seems like we need a social score here and other places around the internet. so many downvotes and you disappear, maybe for a short while, maybe for a long while. on another forum i read, seems there are people there just to make rude comments. it is all anonymous, but i think a system of up/downvoting might be helpful. I worry with something like that if you have a valid (but unpopular) opinion, then you get immediately downvoted by those who feel superior in their thinking. Yes. Just watch the Meow Meow Beans episode of Community or the Black Mirror episode along the same lines to see how that could go.
|
|
|
Post by iamkristinl16 on Feb 27, 2022 19:33:05 GMT
my daughter once told me about ... maybe some article she read that talked about a social score, sort of like a credit score. seems like we need a social score here and other places around the internet. so many downvotes and you disappear, maybe for a short while, maybe for a long while. on another forum i read, seems there are people there just to make rude comments. it is all anonymous, but i think a system of up/downvoting might be helpful. I think they do something like that in China. My mom told me about it awhile ago, where they track people and they are dinged for various things (can’t remember what but it was very intrusive and messed up). Not sure we want that here.
|
|
lizacreates
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 3,862
Aug 29, 2015 2:39:19 GMT
|
Post by lizacreates on Feb 27, 2022 19:36:36 GMT
The problem with that is that it is not uncommon for non political threads to turn political. Just look at the recent travel to Clearwater thread...who would have thought that would turn political? I like the politics label. Some days, I am in the mood to read and talk politics, but often, I just am not, so I can easily avoid the political threads. But that travel thread is not the first time started out one way and ended up turning political. So having a separate board wouldn't always work. yes, that is true, but if there were a way for people to click on posts and have them automatically deleted or something, that might be nice. i can't remember wheeree it was .. maybe on irc or a drawing game... if a certain number of people voted to block you, out you go. Then that would really be encouraging groupthink here. That’s not what a supposedly democratic board should be aspiring to. Like Skellinton and MichyM said, using the ignore feature would be a good remedy. If there’s a non-political thread that gets hijacked, don’t respond to the posters who hijacked it. Non-political threads get derailed because some respond. That’s like tossing a lit match onto something that’s already incendiary. So, of course, it degenerates from there. Just ignore and stick to the topic. (Specifically about LGBTQ issues…just because someone doesn’t wish to discuss it on her thread doesn’t mean that person doesn’t care. If a pea starts a thread on basket weaving and someone comes along to inject an LGBTQ issue not germane to the topic, that’s unfair to the OP.)
|
|
|
Post by putabuttononit on Feb 27, 2022 19:38:03 GMT
Absolutely agree.
This is why I left the board. 22 years I’ve been here, off and on (I think?). This last time I left for an extended period. The sheer UNKINDNESS and vile bullying.
I’m dismayed that someone can’t ask for trip advice without a whole lot of ugliness thrown her way.
Let’s do better. Be better.
|
|