Old thread!! A private investigator tracked me down this mor

I'm so sorry - I can't imagine the range of emotions you are dealing with.

Hugs.

I agree. I told my niece something similar when her biological father passed away.

Giant hugs as you process all your feelings.

So many different emotions must be swirling around. Maybe relief that you no longer need to worry about her. Sadness at missing out on a kind and loving mom that almost everyone else had. 

So many peas have offered such wise counsel already. It truly is mourning for what might have been more than what actually was. We're here for you if you need to process it 'out loud' a bit.

I am sorry you didn't have the mother you deserved.
I am not surprised that you have a wide range of emotions.

My condolences for having a sad upbringing.

I'm sorry you're going through all of that. Losing a parent is hard, no matter the circumstances.

I'm so sorry - what a shock. Be gentle with yourself whilst you take time to process this.

Big hugs. A loss is difficult no matter what. The Peas are right - be gentle with yourself. We're here to listen if you need us.

I'm sorry, that must have been quite a shock, and I'm sure you must have many mixed feelings

Allow yourself time to grieve for what wasn't. Good suggestion above about donating the money. My mom was in kind of the same position, although she was notified at the time of her mom's death. She grieved for the mom she never had and ended up donating the small inheritance to an organization that she volunteered with.

Be kind to yourself. In so many ways, this loss is hard.

I'm sorry for your loss and for all of the less than desirable emotions it is likely causing. Keeping you in my safest thoughts while you heal.