peppermintpatty
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Post by peppermintpatty on Mar 29, 2022 11:18:07 GMT
I am so very sorry for your loss. It must have you in a whirlwind of emotions right now. Be kind to yourself.
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cakediva
Drama Llama
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Location: Fergus, Ontario
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Post by cakediva on Mar 29, 2022 11:40:39 GMT
I'm so sorry - I can't imagine the range of emotions you are dealing with.
Hugs.
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Post by disneypal on Mar 29, 2022 11:51:54 GMT
I'm sorry - that must have been quite a surprise for you to find out that way.
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Post by mikklynn on Mar 29, 2022 12:27:46 GMT
I’m so sorry. I went through a similar process when my dad passed. I found out a year and a half after it happened, when my daughter was doing genealogy research. It’s really difficult to know how to feel. There’s no wrong way to feel about this news. Every feeling or lack of feeling is correct. It’s okay. (((Hugs))) I agree. I told my niece something similar when her biological father passed away. Giant hugs as you process all your feelings. |
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Post by Really Red on Mar 29, 2022 12:28:21 GMT
I'm sorry. I think even though you were estranged, it is still sort of the death of your hopes and dreams that you'd have a good mom. You can know that for sure she wouldn't change, but those kind of things live with us. Many hugs.
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Post by gizzy on Mar 29, 2022 12:36:31 GMT
So many different emotions must be swirling around. Maybe relief that you no longer need to worry about her. Sadness at missing out on a kind and loving mom that almost everyone else had.
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Post by workingclassdog on Mar 29, 2022 12:57:51 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss.. I'm estranged from my father. It's weird when I stop and think about how will I ever know if he dies and what it will feel like. Anyways... If you can do something fun with your small inheritance. Or pay off some big bill that's been hanging around. Or make it fun whatever you do...  |
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Mar 29, 2022 14:59:18 GMT
So many peas have offered such wise counsel already. It truly is mourning for what might have been more than what actually was. We're here for you if you need to process it 'out loud' a bit.
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teddyw
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Post by teddyw on Mar 29, 2022 15:41:50 GMT
I’m sorry for your loss. What a difficult way to find out.
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Post by librarylady on Mar 29, 2022 19:38:01 GMT
I am sorry you didn't have the mother you deserved.
I am not surprised that you have a wide range of emotions.
My condolences for having a sad upbringing.
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anaterra
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Post by anaterra on Mar 29, 2022 19:44:29 GMT
((((Big hug))))
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kate
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Post by kate on Mar 29, 2022 20:22:40 GMT
I'm sorry you're going through all of that. Losing a parent is hard, no matter the circumstances.
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jayfab
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Post by jayfab on Mar 29, 2022 20:29:00 GMT
I'm sorry, many (((hugs))).
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Post by nellej on Mar 29, 2022 20:34:29 GMT
I'm so sorry - what a shock. Be gentle with yourself whilst you take time to process this.
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Post by bc2ca on Mar 29, 2022 20:38:09 GMT
That must have been such a shock, both the news and having a PI show up on your doorstep, I can understand why you are numb. Wishing you peace as you process the news and deal with stirring up old feelings related to the estrangement.  |
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MDscrapaholic
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Refupea #146
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Post by MDscrapaholic on Mar 29, 2022 21:22:04 GMT
Big hugs. A loss is difficult no matter what. The Peas are right - be gentle with yourself. We're here to listen if you need us.
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Post by hop2 on Mar 29, 2022 21:22:51 GMT
I’m sorry for your shock. That is a lot to deal with.
Hugs
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tanya2
Pearl Clutcher
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Post by tanya2 on Mar 29, 2022 21:34:27 GMT
I'm sorry, that must have been quite a shock, and I'm sure you must have many mixed feelings
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Post by tentoes on Mar 29, 2022 21:59:33 GMT
I am so sorry. I hope you will have help to come to grips with this unfortunate situation. ((HUGS))
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Post by deekaye on Mar 29, 2022 22:01:32 GMT
Allow yourself time to grieve for what wasn't. Good suggestion above about donating the money. My mom was in kind of the same position, although she was notified at the time of her mom's death. She grieved for the mom she never had and ended up donating the small inheritance to an organization that she volunteered with.
Be kind to yourself. In so many ways, this loss is hard.
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Post by papersilly on Mar 30, 2022 0:44:01 GMT
Sorry for your loss
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Post by malibou on Mar 30, 2022 12:50:38 GMT
I'm sorry for your loss and for all of the less than desirable emotions it is likely causing. Keeping you in my safest thoughts while you heal.
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used2scrap
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Post by used2scrap on Feb 5, 2023 22:15:16 GMT
I’m sorry. I wish you peace going forward.
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Post by don on Mar 20, 2023 22:11:10 GMT
My first wife died in a solo truck accident (she fell asleep at the wheel and refused to wear a seatbelt), 3 years after the divorce, we were married 8 years. It took a few weeks to get past it. I still think it was a shame.
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