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Post by miominmio on Jul 3, 2014 14:49:20 GMT
Would you do it?
Apparently someone thinks it's a great idea for a reality show. The bride and groom are chosen by a priest and a psychologist, and then they meet and, well, get married.
i know I wouldn't do it, but what say the Peas?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2014 14:51:29 GMT
It's done in many cultures in the world but I can't say I would go along with it.
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Post by grinningcat on Jul 3, 2014 14:52:00 GMT
No effin' way. I'm not against marriage... I'm just against marriage to anyone that's not: a) someone I love and get along with almost flawlessly; and b) SOMEONE I CHOSE MYSELF. Screw arranged marriages. Worst idea ever. In life and on television.
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Post by leannec on Jul 3, 2014 14:53:36 GMT
Ummm ... no. Of course, I'm already married ... Although I might seriously consider Adam Lambert or Henry Cavill if I was single Leanne
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Post by dualmaestra on Jul 3, 2014 14:58:39 GMT
No way! It cannot be a good idea to marry someone you've never met
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 3, 2014 15:00:23 GMT
Not for me, but it is common practice around the world.
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Post by perumbula on Jul 3, 2014 15:01:17 GMT
NO. On paper my dh and I are not a good fit. We have very different personalities and interests. In 20 years the only shared hobby we've managed to develop is watching Netflix shows. LOL. However, we have a very good marriage. Our separate personalities mesh beautifully and our marriage works because we love each other.
I suppose if you were open to falling in love and remembered the first rule of marriage (kindness first) then it might work. It's just not something I would want to do myself.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jul 3, 2014 15:01:59 GMT
Arranged marriage is not a great idea.
Arranged marriage for the sake of ratings for a reality television show is just downright wrong!
What if they pick two utterly mismatched people just to create ratings with the fallout between the two?! How horrible is this concept! Have we no moral compass anymore?!
(not us, personally, but the people who think this sh!t up and then make it happen)
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Post by kckckc on Jul 3, 2014 15:03:56 GMT
I would not do it, but I know several couples from other cultures who have and they have all been married for many years (and at least from the outside looking in, they appear to be very happy).
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Post by ingrid6 on Jul 3, 2014 15:07:23 GMT
There is no way!
That being said, my mom, who is Indonesian, was in an arranged marriage. She was 17 when she married her first husband. The marriage didn't last. She said it was the worst 3 years of her life. It was during the war, she was left with 2 kids and another on the way - her stories of that time in her life are very sad.
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Post by miominmio on Jul 3, 2014 15:09:40 GMT
It's done in many cultures in the world but I can't say I would go along with it. One thing is an arranged marriage where to families negotiate with the parties' best interests at heart (at least sometimes). But to make a reality show?
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Post by tuva42 on Jul 3, 2014 15:11:40 GMT
Yeah, that's legal but same sex marriage between 2 people who love each other isn't.
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Post by BarbaraUK on Jul 3, 2014 15:12:04 GMT
No, though I know it's part of the culture in some areas of the world.
However, using it for a reality show series is just wrong!!!
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Post by pastlifepea on Jul 3, 2014 15:13:00 GMT
I wouldn't do it but I really don't find fault in cultures and people that do. I suspect arranged marriages have just as much chance of success or failure as marriages in which people choose their partner. My only objection to an arranged marriage is where either one of the parties (and it is usually the girl/woman) doesn't want to do it.
The tv aspect though makes it somewhat unsavory to me as I just am tired of people doing anything outrageous to get on some tv show.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2014 15:13:42 GMT
Make a reality show? Um no. And definitely NOT.
Family negotiation is one thing but to bring together two people for television ratings? Dumbest idea next to Fear Factor. (No wait, I watched Fear Factor).
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2014 15:13:47 GMT
If he makes a great income, I can have a debit card with unrestricted access to his accounts and we maintian sepearate residences so I don't need to see him after the wedding either.... it might work.
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Post by miominmio on Jul 3, 2014 15:16:40 GMT
If he makes a great income, I can have a debit card with unrestricted access to his accounts and we maintian sepearate residences so I don't need to see him after the wedding either.... it might work. Hm, I haven't thought about it that way.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2014 15:18:00 GMT
I agree. It makes a mockery out of marriage in those circumstances.
I know two couples that have arranged marriages because of their culture and they're very happy but It's not for me. But to do it for a TV show as the previous poster said, is just soooooo wrong.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2014 15:18:57 GMT
There are levels of gross of my story (at least I think it is) but here you go.
One of the men at my work is 55-ish. His wife died two years ago and within a month after she passed away he mail ordered his new wife from the Philippines. It was really a mail order thing! She is 27 (although I think she looks about 14). She came to the US and they married within weeks. She just gave birth to a baby girl last month.
I find the whole thing bizzare.
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Post by miominmio on Jul 3, 2014 15:23:53 GMT
There are levels of gross of my story (at least I think it is) but here you go. One of the men at my work is 55-ish. His wife died two years ago and within a month after she passed away he mail ordered his new wife from the Philippines. It was really a mail order thing! She is 27 (although I think she looks about 14). She came to the US and they married within weeks. She just gave birth to a baby girl last month. I find the whole thing bizzare. I agree! But at least they didn't get married on tv;-).
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Post by keknj on Jul 3, 2014 15:27:36 GMT
Definitely not for me and sounds like a horrid show idea.
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Post by anxiousmom on Jul 3, 2014 15:32:28 GMT
I've been watching the news this morning about the U.S. girl who was willing to get on a plane a plane to fly to Syria to marry an ISIS guy she met online (only) so that she could help wage jihad against the U.S. THAT I find very strange.
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Post by craftchickapowpow on Jul 3, 2014 15:34:23 GMT
:-*if Denzel Washington asked I would say yes. Anybody else I'd say no. Well maybe Shemar Moore but that would make me a cougar.
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Post by cmpeter on Jul 3, 2014 15:37:04 GMT
My thoughts exactly!
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Post by miominmio on Jul 3, 2014 15:40:24 GMT
:-*if Denzel Washington asked I would say yes. I would too;-)
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Post by my.unquiet.mind on Jul 3, 2014 15:42:04 GMT
I agree with this.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jul 3, 2014 15:42:30 GMT
I couldn't do it. First, there needs to be a certain level of chemistry between the two partners and you can't always predict that. And second, DH and I are total opposites. We have almost nothing in common but we very much get along. We compliment one another well. I don't think I would want to be married to someone like myself and I would be afraid in a arranged marriage situation, they would be looking to pair people up who are similar to one another.
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Post by JBeans on Jul 3, 2014 15:43:37 GMT
Agree. There go the straight people holding up the sanctity of marriage between a man and a woman for the sake of television ratings. </end sarcasm> But I do also agree with others, this isn't uncommon around the world. Doesn't mean it's the right thing to do.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2014 15:48:39 GMT
Would you do it? Apparently someone thinks it's a great idea for a reality show. The bride and groom are chosen by a priest and a psychologist, and then they meet and, well, get married. i know I wouldn't do it, but what say the Peas? why? Why would anyone voluntarily go this route? Does not compute. People do the dumbest things to be on tv. Where does it end?
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Post by melanell on Jul 3, 2014 16:25:33 GMT
I agree. But I also agree that some people will do anything to get on TV.
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