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Post by workingclassdog on May 2, 2022 16:11:43 GMT
So I lost my scrap space once again when DS moved back in after his Air Force stint for seven years. It's taking time for him to rebuild in the real world so he is probably with us for a couple of years until he starts making more money and can afford to move out. (which sucks for young kids these days) Anyways that isn't the point. lol So moved some of my stuff into my bedroom and there it sits. Can't really get it all out and the other1/2 of it is in our storage unit.
So one of my best friends has an office that she just had remodeled. She is going to use it 1/2 for her office and 1/2 craft room. She offered to let me bring my stuff over for the craft side. In return she can use whatever she wants of my stuff (I don't care what she uses.. I have so much that it would take a lifetime to use up.) She doesn't craft much anyways unless we are together. So win/win for us!!
Her office is attached to her house but it has it's own door.. the house used to be owned by a church and that office space was the pastor's office. She will give me the code so I can come and go anytime. I can go over most anytime (although I would call to be sure) and craft. Or we can craft together or have our other friend join us as well. It's a totally separate space and always locked.
I am in the frame of mind that if whatever happens and I never see my stuff again I am good with it. (I was almost ready to give it away) so no fear of anything disappearing. Anything I am attached to I would keep at home anyways. I would keep a small stash of my favorite stuff at home in case I get in the mood but don't want to leave the house. But I am really excited about this. We are going to discuss how much she can handle and how to organize it. I don't want to intrude and bring too much.. lol
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Post by papersilly on May 2, 2022 17:16:04 GMT
sounds good to me especially because you are ok with sharing. it's very generous of both of you. have fun in your new space!
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Post by workingclassdog on May 2, 2022 17:22:43 GMT
sounds good to me especially because you are ok with sharing. it's very generous of both of you. have fun in your new space! I won't be sharing my October Afternoon paper, that is for sure.. and maybe not the Chatterbox either.. HAHA.. otherwise it is all fair game... It's just sitting there.. I would rather it get put to good use instead of the hoarding thing I got going on. |
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Post by papersilly on May 2, 2022 17:24:39 GMT
sounds good to me especially because you are ok with sharing. it's very generous of both of you. have fun in your new space! I won't be sharing my October Afternoon paper, that is for sure.. and maybe not the Chatterbox either.. HAHA.. otherwise it is all fair game... It's just sitting there.. I would rather it get put to good use instead of the hoarding thing I got going on. you are a better woman than me. i have a huge issue with sharing. DH says it's because i like my things "just so" and sharing would ruin my destroy my sense of order. i guess i could share my glue......LOL |
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Post by scrapnnana on May 2, 2022 17:35:01 GMT
I think it’s a great idea, especially if you plan to keep anything you don’t want to share at home, but you can get most of your scrapbook stuff out of your house. Your friend can use your stuff in lieu of rent/storage, so it sounds like a win/win to me.
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Post by grammadee on May 2, 2022 17:36:09 GMT
Sounds ideal! You won't have to move the heavy stuff every time you want to scrap, and if you can keep your favourite papers/supplies at home and just take them when you need them.
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Post by kmage on May 2, 2022 17:48:22 GMT
you are a better woman than me. i have a huge issue with sharing. DH says it's because i like my things "just so" and sharing would ruin my destroy my sense of order. i guess i could share my glue......LOL This cracked me up, glad someone else feels this way too! DH and I are both oldest children, we often joke about the pitfalls of oldest children marrying each other...don't touch my stuff/I get to go first/everything is a competition/I am always right/no sharing!  All in good fun of course. I certainly don't mind lending stuff out...but I need to be there to supervise! In all seriousness, I am glad you found something that works for you! The worst would be no scrapping at all! |
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Post by workingclassdog on May 2, 2022 17:51:47 GMT
you are a better woman than me. i have a huge issue with sharing. DH says it's because i like my things "just so" and sharing would ruin my destroy my sense of order. i guess i could share my glue......LOL This cracked me up, glad someone else feels this way too! DH and I are both oldest children, we often joke about the pitfalls of oldest children marrying each other...don't touch my stuff/I get to go first/everything is a competition/I am always right/no sharing! All in good fun of course. I certainly don't mind lending stuff out...but I need to be there to supervise! In all seriousness, I am glad you found something that works for you! The worst would be no scrapping at all! Let me tell you.. I am the same way.. this is huge for me. And I known her for over 20 years. I doubt that she would even touch anything unless I was there, even know I would tell her to feel free to do whatever. As long as my few things that I LOVE are with me, at this point.. I am ready. I feel like I am not just dumping it but just reallocating it.. lol.. |
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Post by papersilly on May 2, 2022 17:54:25 GMT
you are a better woman than me. i have a huge issue with sharing. DH says it's because i like my things "just so" and sharing would ruin my destroy my sense of order. i guess i could share my glue......LOL This cracked me up, glad someone else feels this way too! DH and I are both oldest children, we often joke about the pitfalls of oldest children marrying each other...don't touch my stuff/I get to go first/everything is a competition/I am always right/no sharing! All in good fun of course. I certainly don't mind lending stuff out...but I need to be there to supervise! In all seriousness, I am glad you found something that works for you! The worst would be no scrapping at all! i am a first born too so i'm very particular about things. DH is a middle child so he has no problem sharing. if i lend stuff out, i get anxious when i will get it back. if i lend, it's with the expectation that i will never see it again or it was of no value to me so i don't get in a twist about it. |
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Post by christinec68 on May 2, 2022 17:56:32 GMT
That sounds fun!! Does your friend live nearby?
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Post by 950nancy on May 2, 2022 18:21:34 GMT
My scrap friends and I have always said that having a communal craft space would have been amazing. In your case, I can see how this might work out quite well for you. If you keep the stuff you really love at home, it makes sense to share the rest.
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Post by mamagidget on May 2, 2022 18:39:16 GMT
Wow, you're moving in with your best friend, how fun! 😀
Sounds like a great option to have, and I think you are starting it off perfectly with "how much should I bring over". 🙂
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Post by workingclassdog on May 2, 2022 19:57:30 GMT
That sounds fun!! Does your friend live nearby? She does.. about five-ten minutes at the most. |
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Post by workingclassdog on May 2, 2022 20:00:00 GMT
Wow, you're moving in with your best friend, how fun! 😀 Sounds like a great option to have, and I think you are starting it off perfectly with "how much should I bring over". 🙂 She knows I have a lot but I really really want her to choose how much to bring. I got all those cubes and such so it is pretty organized. Her space how she wants and I will fill in on what she wants me to bring. (She is very easy going) I'll start with the biggest items (does she want me to bring my desk) then go from there...I'm her guest. |
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Post by mom on May 2, 2022 20:10:04 GMT
I won't be sharing my October Afternoon paper, that is for sure.. and maybe not the Chatterbox either.. HAHA.. otherwise it is all fair game... It's just sitting there.. I would rather it get put to good use instead of the hoarding thing I got going on. you are a better woman than me. i have a huge issue with sharing. DH says it's because i like my things "just so" and sharing would ruin my destroy my sense of order. i guess i could share my glue......LOL Im the same way. The firs time she moved something or used something that I had plans for (even if they weren't concrete plans!) I would lose my shit. LOL |
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Post by kkrenn on May 2, 2022 20:10:59 GMT
I won't be sharing my October Afternoon paper, that is for sure.. and maybe not the Chatterbox either.. HAHA.. otherwise it is all fair game... It's just sitting there.. I would rather it get put to good use instead of the hoarding thing I got going on. you are a better woman than me. i have a huge issue with sharing. DH says it's because i like my things "just so" and sharing would ruin my destroy my sense of order. i guess i could share my glue......LOL Nope, I won't even share my glue! I let a friend borrow some stuff once and she completely ruined my fine tip glue and it was a full bottle when she took it. It was almost empty when she returned it 2 days later. I mean what did she do with it, did absolutely EVERYTHING in her house need to be glued or did she eat it? I will never know! LOL She did replace it and now it's a huge joke between us. |
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Post by papersilly on May 2, 2022 20:31:37 GMT
you are a better woman than me. i have a huge issue with sharing. DH says it's because i like my things "just so" and sharing would ruin my destroy my sense of order. i guess i could share my glue......LOL Nope, I won't even share my glue! I let a friend borrow some stuff once and she completely ruined my fine tip glue and it was a full bottle when she took it. It was almost empty when she returned it 2 days later. I mean what did she do with it, did absolutely EVERYTHING in her house need to be glued or did she eat it? I will never know! LOL She did replace it and now it's a huge joke between us. good points. that settles it then. i won't even share my glue. lol. i am more than happy to GIVE stuff if i have it. i just gave my neighbor tons of unopened alphabet packs and scrapbook paper but loaning is not my strong suit. |
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Post by papersilly on May 2, 2022 20:33:57 GMT
you are a better woman than me. i have a huge issue with sharing. DH says it's because i like my things "just so" and sharing would ruin my destroy my sense of order. i guess i could share my glue......LOL Im the same way. The firs time she moved something or used something that I had plans for (even if they weren't concrete plans!) I would lose my shit. LOL LOL. that would be me too. like that scene in Misery when someone moved her penguin (or whatever) and she noticed. that would totally be me. i'd be like, "hey, why are the fabric scissors with the decorative edge ones and why is this Basic Grey with the Echo Park papers?" oh, i would know..... |
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Post by workingclassdog on May 2, 2022 20:34:41 GMT
I was to the point of getting rid of everything but that made me so sad. So I feel this is much better situation. I know there can be horror stories but if I am ready to let it go I think I can handle 'sharing'. Anything that is that important will stay with me. I will keep adhesive, my cutter, my favorite papers with me. But the rest.. I'm okay. She has supplies too so it isn't like she doesn't have anything to start with.. I just have much more.
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Post by FurryP on May 2, 2022 23:51:11 GMT
I can feel the anxiety creeping in as soon as I read about the free-for-all sharing. :  : - Once we did after Thanksgiving dinner crafts with some friends and their kids. They helped themselves to papers that to me where ugly but they did not even care. They were not paper snobs. I thought that was sweet.
- A couple of times I have done crafts with my friend and her daughter, and her daughter helps herself to everything! Cost is no object. Now I control the supplies but she can use up as much stuff from the giveaway pile as she wants.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on May 3, 2022 0:26:34 GMT
I'm glad you will have a space in which you can scrapbook.
If this works for you, then I am happy for you.
Personally, that type of arrangement wouldn't work for me.
I wouldn't want anyone else using my scrapbook stuff, especially any of my now discontinued products, no longer in business brands or seasonal turnover products (<< made once, then no more made.....buy it when you see it or you might miss out/don't get any).
I am also a "place for everything, everything in it's place" type person. I wouldn't like anyone else moving my stuff around, getting it out of order, not putting it back where it goes, etc...
I scrapbook at any given time-moment-day-hour-etc... Having to go to another location to be able to scrapbook, is not appealing to me at all.
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Post by mikklynn on May 3, 2022 11:25:48 GMT
That sounds like a fun solution to your problem!
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Post by joblackford on May 4, 2022 0:28:40 GMT
I think this sounds like a great solution  worth a try, anyway! It could be an ideal solution for you both, especially since it sounds like you enjoy crafting together. And *much better* than the stuff sitting in storage and not being used or enjoyed. |
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Post by Skellinton on May 4, 2022 15:45:52 GMT
I think, based on your circumstances and the fact that you were thinking of ditching it all, this sounds like a great solution.
I am personally more productive when I am not at home and would love a close place I could go and scrap without all the distractions. No laundry, no vacuuming, no dishes, etc.
I hope it works for you both!
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Post by sleepingbooty on May 4, 2022 19:37:48 GMT
Just to ensure this collaborative scrap room doesn't leave a dent in your friendship (which seems far more valuable than scrappy stuff), have you sat down and discussed the what-ifs in case it doesn't turn out well, specifically for her as it's on her property? Sometimes, plans and/or needs change. I think it wise to have an open talk about this hypothetical situation beforehand. It takes away any awkwardness or negative feelings should she need to reclaim her space. It could be also be the right moment to bring up creating and adjusting rules/time schedules. Again, you sometimes begin something like this with the best intentions and a maximum dose of optimism but then life shifts and things can get messy. Lay it all out and maybe offer to have a check-in chat a month or two into this shared craft space project? You could sit down with wine or coffee, pastries and discuss what works, what doesn't. Congrats on finding this new space that allows you not to part with your things. I wish you both wonderful time crafting and creating! |
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Post by workingclassdog on May 4, 2022 20:40:24 GMT
Just to ensure this collaborative scrap room doesn't leave a dent in your friendship (which seems far more valuable than scrappy stuff), have you sat down and discussed the what-ifs in case it doesn't turn out well, specifically for her as it's on her property? Sometimes, plans and/or needs change. I think it wise to have an open talk about this hypothetical situation beforehand. It takes away any awkwardness or negative feelings should she need to reclaim her space. It could be also be the right moment to bring up creating and adjusting rules/time schedules. Again, you sometimes begin something like this with the best intentions and a maximum dose of optimism but then life shifts and things can get messy. Lay it all out and maybe offer to have a check-in chat a month or two into this shared craft space project? You could sit down with wine or coffee, pastries and discuss what works, what doesn't.  Congrats on finding this new space that allows you not to part with your things. I wish you both wonderful time crafting and creating! We briefly discussed what ifs... If her room flooded and everything got ruined. So be it. I'm not worried about it. Some things like that when out of your control isn't worth it for me to worry about. Like I said at some point I thought about donating it all anyways. We already talked about space. I offered a big table that would fit three of us (typically there are three of us that craft together). She said she thought it would be too big and there you go. No biggie. I can sell the table or store it for later. She is going to come over and assess what I have and see what to bring over. The craft room is a self contained room, it's got a greenhouse area in-between the house and office. She already said it's ours anytime day or night, they would never know we would be there. THAT said, it would be CRAZY if I would pop over there at some ungodly time. I am old and can't stay awake past 10 on a good night. I would always check with her anyways. I would feel weird just going over unannounced. We have been through thick and thin in our relationship for 20 years. Nothing is off limits. I'm good with it over there, she will tell me what can come over and if her kid decides to light up a match and burn it down, well we had a good run. haha... OH the the office is off limits to her family.. lol.. not that they would be remotely interested.. all boys living their own adult life elsewhere. |
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Post by SuPeaNatural on May 6, 2022 6:47:10 GMT
I couldn't do it, but it sounds like a great solution for you.
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Post by Chinagirl828 on May 6, 2022 7:41:20 GMT
I hope this turns out to be a great solution, it certainly seems like it ticks a lot of the boxes.
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Post by 950nancy on May 6, 2022 14:20:06 GMT
you are a better woman than me. i have a huge issue with sharing. DH says it's because i like my things "just so" and sharing would ruin my destroy my sense of order. i guess i could share my glue......LOL Nope, I won't even share my glue! I let a friend borrow some stuff once and she completely ruined my fine tip glue and it was a full bottle when she took it. It was almost empty when she returned it 2 days later. I mean what did she do with it, did absolutely EVERYTHING in her house need to be glued or did she eat it? I will never know! LOL She did replace it and now it's a huge joke between us. How does one even use up a fine tip glue bottle? That would take hours of pressure! |
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Post by riversong1963 on May 6, 2022 14:58:23 GMT
I know how I am with my things, and I would never be OK with this arrangement. I would worry that it would affect our friendship. That's me, though, and you have to know yourself. I hope everything works out for you and your friend. Wishing you all the best!
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worth a try, anyway! It could be an ideal solution for you both, especially since it sounds like you enjoy crafting together. And *much better* than the stuff sitting in storage and not being used or enjoyed. 
