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Post by workingclassdog on May 16, 2022 15:50:58 GMT
I see who the people are that run or host them.. it's the same group of the 'popular' kids. I was not one of them. I changed high schools in my Soph to Junior years, so most kids had their own groups. I had friends but not groups of them. I had a couple of jock friends, couple of stoner kids, couple of nerdy kids that were all my friends. But nothing close. I met my very very best friend St. Patty Day in our Senior year, so we didn't even know each other well until after graduation.
That said, I don't go. There isn't really anyone I want to see. Or pretend to. My BFF who went to school with most of these people since elementary, she doesn't even go. Pretty much the same reason.
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Post by huskergal on May 16, 2022 15:54:08 GMT
I grew up in a small town. Graduated with 39 students. I am still in contact with several via Facebook. The last reunion we had was 25. I was pregnant with my 4th and final child. Not even half our class attended.
We have been unable to organize another one since. I would go if we had one.
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Post by workingclassdog on May 16, 2022 15:58:43 GMT
Another thought I had, even though again we moved around a million times, I wouldn't mind going to my small Catholic elementary school reunion. I went there from 5th to 8th grade. Most of us have found each other on FB and it is a good experience. Whenever something pops up we all engage and have fun. Even though there was still the popular group and all that.. I think for this class we are beyond that and truly enjoy talking with each other.
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Post by katiescarlett on May 16, 2022 16:07:31 GMT
I went to my 10th, 20th and 30th. My 40th is this year and I will go. My parents still live in the town where I graduated and I'm still friends with many of my high school friends. I liked high school and will enjoy catching up with old friends.
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Post by birdy on May 16, 2022 16:23:22 GMT
Never attended one. We had a class of about 800. Outside of a few close friends, I didn't like most people in my class. I didn't like them then, I'm not paying to be around them now!
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Post by marysue63 on May 16, 2022 16:51:56 GMT
My 40th is this summer also. I went to my 10th and 20th. I enjoyed high school, my dad was a very popular teacher so that had an effect on my experience. But he died the year after I graduated so getting together with classmates always involves a conversation about him. As painful as those conversations are I DO enjoy them because I learn about a different part of him, not just the 'dad' part.
One of my close friends is helping with organization and we got together recently to talk about it. She said that these are not the same people we graduated with. They now have had a lifetime of experiences that makes them different people and it's possible that we might reconnect with someone that we didn't know or didn't care for back in high school. I've been thinking about that a lot as I'm still not sure if I'll go. We have reservations to go camping that weekend but it's only about 30 miles away so it would be easy to come home for the event. We are just doing a casual, no host bar get together.
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Post by mollycoddle on May 16, 2022 17:43:28 GMT
I loved HS, but for various reasons have never made it to a reunion. The question is, do you want to go? Will you regret it if you don’t go?
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Post by papersilly on May 16, 2022 18:05:28 GMT
i had a neighbor who still went to his ELEMENTARY school reunions well into his 70's. he and his wife used to go every year. he went to school in chicago and they would travel from california. can you imagine the kind of school comradery that lasts over 60 years? i thought it was amazing. they would also go to his Air Force reunions. he never spoke about high school reunions but they were always devoted to the elementary ones.
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Post by lily on May 16, 2022 19:01:45 GMT
I went to my 5 year reunion and felt SO out of place because I was largely pregnant (and married) while everyone else had pretty much just gotten out of college. Never went to another reunion. I have zero desire to go to one. The couple people I was close to in high school have passed away so there is no one I really want to see.
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Post by TXMary on May 16, 2022 19:07:17 GMT
My high school years were fine. I have no bad memories of it. But I live in the area where I went to school and I have never been to a reunion and I seriously doubt I ever will go to one. I graduated 42 years ago. Reunions just aren’t my thing. I keep up through Facebook and that’s enough for me.
If you don’t want to go, don’t.
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Post by MichyM on May 16, 2022 19:15:49 GMT
I went to the 10 year. Had fun, but really have had no interest in going to any others. I really don't keep in touch with anyone from HS, it's probably been 5-6 years since I've spent time with any HS friends. I did have a few HS friends on my FB, but gave that up years and years ago. Part of it is that 90% of my HS friends graduated the year before I did. If they ever do a multiple year reunion, then I'd consider going.
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Post by MichyM on May 16, 2022 19:17:15 GMT
People do change and high school is such a weird time for most kids. I am glad I went, I was hesitant. If we had another, I would probably go.  I went to our 10th and 20th. The 10th had 3 days of events with a Friday night grad only cocktails, Sat night dinner/dance with guests and a Sunday family picnic. My friends and I all skipped the picnic, so I can't comment on how well attended it was. Sat night too many people had a SO other to entertain and most people stuck to their table group. I'd rather have gone somewhere else for dinner/dancing with my group of friends. Friday night was a blast. I think all reunions since have just been a grad only cocktail party. For our 20th, I was pregnant with DS and spent the whole evening reconnecting with a former neighbor who dropped out in HS and was crashing the party. He'd gone on to get his PhD by this time and was an international expert in his field. Sadly he died before our 25th. I haven't made a reunion since, mostly because the organizers moved them to Sept, which was a harder month for me to get away. We are almost always in my hometown in July/August. Three of my former classmates are still my closest friends and one still lives in our hometown so she has attended most reunions and gives us the rundown the next day. I wouldn't overthink what to wear and expect most attendees will look 40 years older, with less hair and more wrinkles and bulges. That's exactly what our class did for our 10th. I did Friday and Saturday nights. |
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Post by brandy327 on May 16, 2022 19:43:35 GMT
I hated high school. I had a group of friends but didn't really have any that I couldn't live without in my life. I have no desire to see any of them honestly. I moved away from the area and those people 25 years ago and have never looked back. My mom and brother and extended family still lives in my hometown. I've only been back 3 or 4 times since my dad died in 2001. Many of my family and friends/ families are political opposites that I find I have practically nothing in common with except we all grew up in the same area.
I also live 600 miles away. If I'm traveling that distance, it's for something fun... not a reunion.
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Post by gizzy on May 16, 2022 19:54:24 GMT
I've only been to 1 reunion. I'm not good with small talk past "how are you?" and "so what have you been up to?".
edited to add: Being friends with a lot of classmates on the book of faces makes it even more awkward because you know things about each other but you're not friends in real life.
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Post by bossymom on May 16, 2022 22:15:13 GMT
Not a fan. I don’t get the point. My 40th is in two years and like most I have stayed in contact with whom I want. I literally live on the same street I grew up on. Always seemed like a forced team building like event for me.
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Post by cindyupnorth on May 16, 2022 22:28:42 GMT
I would rather have a junior high reunion. Those were really fun days. We pretty much did all our schooling together, from Kinder thru 12th grade. In only 2 buildings. So that wouldn't make a difference. yea, some kids came and went, but pretty much we were all together for that long. |
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Post by crazy4scraps on May 17, 2022 5:13:22 GMT
Another thought I had, even though again we moved around a million times, I wouldn't mind going to my small Catholic elementary school reunion. I went there from 5th to 8th grade. Most of us have found each other on FB and it is a good experience. Whenever something pops up we all engage and have fun. Even though there was still the popular group and all that.. I think for this class we are beyond that and truly enjoy talking with each other. For me that would be even worse than a HS reunion. I think I would rather poke myself in the eye with a sharp stick than to ever see any of those people again!  |
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Post by refugeepea on May 17, 2022 14:34:00 GMT
I don't see the point in going. Most people are easy to find on social media. Bonus, you interact with the people you actually care about. If you can't find them on the internet, they are probably not the type to attend reunions anyway.
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Post by gracieplusthree on May 17, 2022 14:43:54 GMT
I didn't go to my 20, 25 or 30. I didn't talk to the people who went when we were in high school, haven't talked to them since, didn't see the reason to pay money to see them now(and most likely still not talk to them).
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Post by myboysnme on May 17, 2022 15:29:26 GMT
I went to my 10th. We left after an hour. For our 25th me and a friend planned to go but when the invite came we decided against it.
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Post by papersilly on May 17, 2022 18:25:45 GMT
I don't see the point in going. Most people are easy to find on social media. Bonus, you interact with the people you actually care about. If you can't find them on the internet, they are probably not the type to attend reunions anyway. you are right. the few people i'm curious about are the last people i expect to attend an reunions. i know high school wasn't a joy for them and i guess i just want to know that they are doing well in life and that high school didn't scar them. |
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 18, 2022 1:02:18 GMT
Mine will be next summer. If I'm going home around then anyway, I might go. I went to the 10-year and it was just ok.
I don't like when they play loud music after dinner since you can't talk to anyone.
I like the reunions that have picnics and other casual events.
I think it was the 30th that we last had and it was at some swanky bar (I went to high school in Orange County, CA). Swanky is not really my speed.
I've gone to my bf's reunions but honestly, they are pretty boring if you don't know anyone. I would leave significant others at home, especially if they don't know anyone.
A classmate did let some tea slip about my bf though. LOL
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Post by peabay on May 18, 2022 1:08:47 GMT
I'm going to my 40th in October. My closest friend from high school has and will likely die from ovarian cancer in the next few years and she wants to go, so I didn't even think twice about saying I'd go. I'm driving her and we're staying in the same hotel etc.... It'll be fine; I don't know that it will be "fun" per se, but it'll probably be 25-50 perfectly nice women just hanging out and showing pictures of their kids and grandchildren.
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Post by buddysmom on May 18, 2022 1:31:33 GMT
Not a HS reunion but a friend in my graduating class tried to get us all together in her resort city for the big 60. She asked on FB who might be interested and there were about 30 of us who said sure. It was going to be a long weekend and everyone knew the city where she lived and so knew if they had to fly, etc. She did all the legwork, had great ideas, etc and a great rate on the hotel (and could split the cost of the room, etc if we wanted).
Well when it came to ante-ing up the money for the deposit on the hotel (which she had told us weeks in advance)--crickets. Only a few of us were still in and it never happened.
She tried a few years later and there was even less interest.
This would have been a fun get-together but I don't see it ever happening.
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I went to our 10th and 20th. 
