anniebygaslight
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Post by anniebygaslight on Dec 3, 2014 6:44:46 GMT
The title of this thread had me  ? He would be eating his Christmas dinner in prison if he was found guilty of this in the UK. |
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AllieC
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Post by AllieC on Dec 3, 2014 7:32:49 GMT
I understand your frustration but I am not sure I get the anger. You didn't tell him that this was what you were getting him so it isn't as it he has done this on purpose. I would be disappointed that my surprise wasn't going to work out but not angry.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 3, 2014 10:06:54 GMT
So it gets better. I asked my dad to pick out a couple of shirts he liked from the bay.com and he went into the Bay and bought one of them (he was able to get it on sale so he bought it. I just have to pay him for it. Yeah...  Christmas/whatever is weird at my house for sure! |
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Post by gar on Dec 3, 2014 10:12:18 GMT
Yeah, that's not a phrase I'll be using  However I think I'd give him your gift as planned on Christmas Day and use it to make the point about why he should be getting himself stuff so near to Christmas. He'll actually see the result and you can tell him that you'd put a lot of effort into getting one you thought he'd really love. Maybe he'll get it then  |
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Post by scrappinjen on Dec 3, 2014 13:14:34 GMT
I am just glad to read your dog is ok.....
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freebird
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Post by freebird on Dec 3, 2014 14:32:37 GMT
OP are you a Midwesterner? I've heard this phrase for years, it's not uncommon here at all. So weird so many ppl are worried about a fictitious dog. lol
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Post by grinningcat on Dec 3, 2014 14:35:48 GMT
OP are you a Midwesterner? I've heard this phrase for years, it's not uncommon here at all. So weird so many ppl are worried about a fictitious dog. lol That's kind of what I was thinking. Did people actually think that the husband actually screwed a pooch? Surely this is obvious exaggeration for effect. I've heard the term... not often but a few times and knew instantly that her husband had somehow screwed something up. |
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Post by gonewalkabout on Dec 3, 2014 14:38:40 GMT
Still give it to him, at least then he'll realize that you had come up with a nice gift. He can send the other one back. Sometimes you really have to give them a strong message before they get it.  Dh is always buying stuff instead of letting us know what he wants. |
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Post by myshelly on Dec 3, 2014 14:39:33 GMT
So wait. He told you while he was shopping on amazon. Why didn't you just tell him "wait, don't place that order"?
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Post by sweetpeasmom on Dec 3, 2014 15:04:34 GMT
DH was really bad about this when we first started dating. First time was a leather jacket he had been hinting he wanted. I was a college student waiting tables and working at a gym. I was so proud of myself when I went and put this jacket on layway at Wilson's. We were out of town shortly before Christmas and went into Wilson's. He mentioned possibly buying a jacket. All I could do was pray he didn't. On Christmas morning he realized how close he had been to spoiling that (and commented on why I was so broke). Another instance was right around his birthday. I had planned on getting him a CD he had been interested. We were at WalMart and he started to buy the CD. I told him not to (I think I had already gotten it). He asked why and I just looked at him. He was like OOOHHHH. From then on, he knows not to buy anything for himself close to any gift giving occasion.
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Post by craftygardenmom on Dec 3, 2014 15:14:52 GMT
MY DH did this last year only with an iPad he bought for himself 2 FREAKIN' DAYS before Christmas! I was so mad because I'd bought him one earlier and was so excited about it because he's so hard to shop for. He still gets a sheepish look on his face when I remind him as of 11/1 he is not to buy himself so much as a pair of socks, LOL.
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Post by BoilerUp! on Dec 3, 2014 15:14:57 GMT
I'd go on Amazon and cancel the robe he ordered and when he asks why.. say Santa told me too!  |
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Post by gloryjoy on Dec 3, 2014 15:35:15 GMT
I'm with everyone else who say's don't cancel, just keep your order the same.
Since the one he ordered is supposed to be "from you", I'd wrap both of them up and let him figure it out. And it will make a good Christmas story.
My husband used to buy himself things in December too, drove me nuts too!
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Post by jonda1974 on Dec 3, 2014 15:54:08 GMT
I understand your pain, especially when you are a giver and and spend a great deal of thought into getting the perfect gift. A little guilt around the holidays never hurts LOL. What got me was when you said that he told you the robe he ordered was your gift to him (unless I read that wrong). I'd have said no way. Don't assume to get yourself something and say its from me.
BTW I heard your title phrase all the time growing up and use it myself a lot. Poor pooch.
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Post by maryland on Dec 3, 2014 16:01:31 GMT
Just keep the receipts. Give him both, keep the one he likes best and let him enjoy. To me, not worth getting all worked up over. I agree! He probably thought he was being helpful. I am the worst at buying gifts, so my husband orders things for himself from me. Makes it so much easier.
I once bought a camera lens for myself and my husband had already ordered it. (Just like what you described.). He didn't get mad, we just kept the one with the better price (the one he ordered) and I returned the one I bought.
Maybe try to come up with a little household "rule". Something like no buying things for yourself in Dec. if you have hinted that you want something. My friend was always giving her kids/husband/parents her "gift list", then she would go out and buy the things herself before Christmas. So she would have 2 of everything every year! Her mom actually thought of the no buying things rule and it has worked!
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Post by Dictionary on Dec 3, 2014 16:20:01 GMT
Ah don't you just hate that when a perfectly good plan blows up in your face. My ds did that to me last year with watches. I knew he needed one after claiming his had broke..then he went and bought his own..UGH! I gave it to him anyways and I suggest you do the same. Have a good laugh and what's the harm in having 2 robes? I am sure he will still love your gift just the same.
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Post by ScrappyJac on Dec 3, 2014 16:27:24 GMT
I would go this route, too. However, I know how frustrating it is to right the "right" gift for it to be spoiled like that. We also have one male family member who puts things on his wish list, then buys them before the holidays. Drives me crazy! We used to return the item and shop for a new gift. Now, we just give whatever we originally bought, even if it is a duplicate.
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Post by alittleintrepid on Dec 3, 2014 16:27:43 GMT
Tell him that if the robe he selected is a gift, you'll need to wrap it and put it under the tree......wrap them both and let him decide if he wants to keep both or return one, His silly move hasn't spoiled any of the effort you put into this gift.... And you can be confident that you bought him something he wants!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 3, 2014 17:13:39 GMT
We have a rule in our house....no buying anything from Thanksgiving to Christmas for ourselves.  The first time I heard the phrase "Screw the pooch" was in the movie "The Right Stuff"....that's what they referred to the Gus Grissom incident when he blew the capsule door after landing back on earth and the capsule sunk in the ocean. |
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Post by penny on Dec 3, 2014 17:19:23 GMT
I am just glad to read your dog is ok..... That's the best line ever!!! |
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Post by scrapbug on Dec 3, 2014 17:22:59 GMT
My husband always does the same exact thing. It's why I feel I should wait until almost last minute. This year he wanted a treadmill, so I went online and in stores to start pricing them out. He's so hard to buy for, so it's nice when there's something I know he's wanting. Last week he brought one home. Ugh. My son told him "good job Dad, Mom already ordered one for you for Christmas". I didn't yet, but he just wanted his dad to feel bad for a bit because he does this kind of thing all the time. LOL
BTW, I'm from the Medford area - well, my kids were born and raised there. I was raised in Bend. I'm in Texas now, but miss OR a lot.
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Post by jonda1974 on Dec 3, 2014 17:53:45 GMT
I'm always confused how someone can be a bad gift giver? How do you classify that? If you are giving a gift to someone you love, and you put the time and energy into finding or creating it, how can it be bad? I've always been confused by that. Are you really just saying you don't or won't put the effort into gift giving?
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The Birdhouse Lady
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Dec 3, 2014 17:58:10 GMT
I'd still give it to him and make him send his back. Yep, me too! |
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Post by BuckeyeSandy on Dec 3, 2014 18:39:32 GMT
My dad is notorious for going out and buying himself stuff this time of year instead of telling us he wants it as a gift. I say you should still give him the robe and the other things you got for him. ALL the men in my birth family and the one I married DO THIS!!!! DO they not know the rule -- within 30 days of Christmas, tell someone and they get you it as a gift?  |
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Post by loco coco on Dec 3, 2014 18:44:54 GMT
dont be hurt, he didnt know and this must be a man thing bc my DH has done that. I think its kind of funny I say keep it, when he opens it he will laugh and realize how well you do know him AND that you have better taste He can always return the one he got from Amazon! This might also stop him from buying things for himself around Christmas next year |
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Post by Zee on Dec 3, 2014 18:54:03 GMT
I keep looking at the tiny little cute dog in your avatar, OP, and I'm...well...I can't reconcile that with the title of this thread  |
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Post by MaryMary on Dec 3, 2014 19:02:06 GMT
I am just glad to read your dog is ok..... I snorted. |
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Post by Dori~Mama~Bear on Dec 3, 2014 19:16:59 GMT
After talking to my daughter we have decided to give him the robe..... He will either have 2 robes or he can send his back.....
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Post by littlemama on Dec 3, 2014 19:17:57 GMT
If he hadn't already placed the order (which from your post, it doesn't seem that he had), why didn't you just tell him not to, instead of letting him order it, and then getting mad about it?
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Christmas/whatever is weird at my house for sure!
However I think I'd give him your gift as planned on Christmas Day and use it to make the point about why he should be getting himself stuff so near to Christmas. He'll actually see the result and you can tell him that you'd put a lot of effort into getting one you thought he'd really love. Maybe he'll get it then 
that he has to wait till Christmas for it. Then give him both and let him send one back.
