artbabe
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Post by artbabe on Jul 26, 2022 1:49:58 GMT
I would have gotten into therapy and on medication when I was a teen or in my twenties instead of being diagnosed at 35-ish. I am absolutely convinced that being bipolar prevented me from getting married and having children. If I was on the meds I am now in my twenties I would have had an absolutely normal life. I regret this immensely.
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Post by catmom on Jul 26, 2022 2:11:35 GMT
I would have listened to my instincts more often. I would have broken up with an abusive boyfriend earlier. I would have spent more time with my mother and encouraged her to follow her dreams.
Mostly, I would have followed a career path I was passionate about instead of being safe and sensible.
And I wouldn’t have eaten the tuna tartare that gave me food poisoning 3 days ago!
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Post by papersilly on Jul 26, 2022 2:47:28 GMT
I'll keep mine light. I would not have: Cut my hair that sorry in the 90's Worn so much denim Said "no" to drinking anything at a street foods market in a foreign country. Lol I am not looking for regrets per se. It can be something trivia such as, "I wish I had paid more attention in Math/home etc" I wish I waited so long to buy a 6" x 24" quilting ruler. I wish I hadn't decided to hand quilt a flannel quilt. In the name of all that is holy, what was I thinking? I always wanted red hair (which I had as a baby). I have seen how it can be a burden to those with red hair. This post is to get to know us all better. Believe me, that's funny trivia for me more so than regrets. Lol
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Post by padresfan619 on Jul 26, 2022 2:51:47 GMT
I wouldn’t have gotten so upset about all of the DVDs I left at an ex-boyfriends house! All of that stuff I left behind is available for streaming these days.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jul 26, 2022 3:00:05 GMT
I’d like to say I wish I would have done some things differently but those things/mistakes landed me where I am now which IMO is a pretty awesome place to be. Living well is the best revenge. The loser boyfriends led to the wonderful husband. The crappy jobs led to the motivation to strike out on my own. The college degree that didn’t happen (through no fault of mine, just crappy circumstances) helped me just enough to be able to do some of the freelance things I wanted to do. In short, every cloud has had a silver lining so I really can’t complain.
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used2scrap
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Post by used2scrap on Jul 26, 2022 5:24:09 GMT
I would have saved more money, kept up with the running, and gotten an advanced degree.
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finaledition
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Post by finaledition on Jul 26, 2022 7:51:16 GMT
Traveled more. My kids were good travelers and we did some pretty great trips, but often times we let their sports schedules take precedence and couldn’t find the time.
I also wish I had one picture of myself in a bikini when I was younger. I never allowed myself to be photographed in a swimsuit, never wore a bikini-way too self conscious.
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Post by gar on Jul 26, 2022 7:57:23 GMT
We would have made some different financial decisions.
Plus I would have enjoyed my effortlessly slim figure even more than I did 😁
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Post by Deleted on Jul 26, 2022 9:01:06 GMT
Honestly, not much. Not because I haven't made mistakes - I've made boatloads of them. But the totality of the mistakes I made in the past helped form me into the person I am now and I'm pretty happy with who I am and my life. Maybe things would be better if I'd made different choices, maybe they wouldn't. You took the words...right.out.of.my.mouth! I was just coming to post exactly this. I've had quite the long shitty road and mistakes...LOTS! But I am so proud of the person I have finally become and I would not be the warrior I am for my children, my family if not for my battle scars.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 26, 2022 9:05:25 GMT
On the lighter side.....for all that is holy....I would have NEVER EVER put a spiral perm in my hair when I was 20!!!!!! I had the most beautiful, long, thick hair. That perm RUINED my hair forever.
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SuPeaNatural
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Post by SuPeaNatural on Jul 26, 2022 9:30:18 GMT
I was talking about this to someone many years ago, saying that I'd like to go back so I wouldn't make those mistakes again. She said "true, you would make those mistakes - you'd make different ones". She's right. No matter which path we choose, we will make mistakes.
But as to the question - I've often said I wouldn't have married the person I did, but then I wouldn't have my kids. So I'll change that to "I would have got rid of him 20 years before I did.
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RedSquirrelUK
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Jul 26, 2022 9:57:45 GMT
There are a gazillion things I should have done differently, but the best things in my life couldn't have happened without the worst things happening.
I think the only real gamble that didn't pay off was having IVF, financially and the possible damage to my health. Even that shaped who I met, what I learned, and resulted in permanent positive life changes.
Every cloud, blah blah - it's true!
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Post by dastardlyboo on Jul 26, 2022 11:02:58 GMT
I would have visited America 10 or 15 years ago. ❤️
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Post by karenlou on Jul 26, 2022 11:18:37 GMT
I would Not have listened to the high school guidance counselor that told me I wasn't smart enough for college 😕
That being said I did graduate from my AD program at 37 and my BS a few years later (With Honors)
Other than those years in between...which really were not lost, as I gained SO much experience, I cannot complain. I am blessed....I have so much experience, both life and professional to offer.....
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iluvpink
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Jul 13, 2014 12:40:31 GMT
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Post by iluvpink on Jul 26, 2022 11:24:21 GMT
Honestly, not much. Not because I haven't made mistakes - I've made boatloads of them. But the totality of the mistakes I made in the past helped form me into the person I am now and I'm pretty happy with who I am and my life. Maybe things would be better if I'd made different choices, maybe they wouldn't. That's where I am at. For the most part. I do have some mistakes I have made in regards to raising our daughter. I feel I have failed her with a few of them. But at this point all I can do is go forward and do better now. Otherwise I would have eaten healthier and exercised instead of waiting until now when I'm very overweight. But that's about it.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jul 26, 2022 12:09:57 GMT
Me too. I'm still trying to quit and it is hard. I would have gotten into therapy and on medication when I was a teen Me too. I really think that most of the bad decisions I made in my life were a product of uncontrolled bipolar. I think too, that I wouldn't have spent the majority of my 20s trying so hard to make the perfect life. I had my first baby just two months before I turned 25 and my second at 26. 18 months apart. I tried to have the perfect house and the perfect marriage and tried to make every decision regarding my children perfect. I really stuffed myself into a box trying to make a better life for my kids than I had. The really good thing to come out of it was that I sought treatment for my bipolar right after my second child was born. This need for perfection really pushed me to get help. I didn't really let up on myself until I was in my 30s. I went back to work and my husband became an alcoholic. So I finally accepted that my fantasy of perfection was never going to happen. And I finally started to embrace myself. I can also say that I wished I had known Esther was autistic sooner. I was able to spot the bipolar in my kids early. But the autism I missed until a therapist that was seeing Esther pointed it out. When she did, we went for testing straight away, but it was really too late for Esther to embrace it herself. She always seemed to be fighting against the diagnosis. And I wish I had known she was transgender sooner. She only came out with it when she was 19. And she told me she had knowledge of it since about age 8. I wish we had known so we could have gotten her the treatment she needed and could have supported her sooner.
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Post by lily on Jul 26, 2022 12:25:26 GMT
Held my babies more and not worked as much outside the home. What I wouldn't give to have those little arms wrapped around me now.
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maryannscraps
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Post by maryannscraps on Jul 26, 2022 12:42:46 GMT
I would have spent more time dancing.
I wouldn't have given away all our record albums -- DS is totally into them now.
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Post by workingclassdog on Jul 26, 2022 12:59:50 GMT
Wasting so much time over one guy... years and years of thinking we would get back together at some point. He broke a little piece of me forever. I sure wish I would have stayed away from him.
Sticking with some kind of travel career.. I was on the right track but due to getting laid off my airline job I totally ditch the career.
Or following up on some kind of law enforcement type job. Always mildly interested in it but never looked into seriously. I guess at 54 and working in corrections is the next best thing. I do love my job.
Regret not wearing shorts for so long because I hate my legs. I stopped doing that this year and guess what? Nobody cares what my legs look like (and honestly other than chunky there is nothing wrong with my legs.)
I wouldn't trade my marriage or children (or grandson) for the world, but I think I could have done better in the marriage department.. He's a good guy but I feel I settled in a lot of areas. But again I wouldn't change that.
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Post by gramasue on Jul 26, 2022 22:37:01 GMT
I would have worn flat shoes to work, instead of the years and years of high heels that have ruined my feet.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 27, 2022 2:39:39 GMT
Tried to be more social. It doesn't come natural to me...but I probably missed out on some friendships I would have enjoyed. Not too late, I'll keep trying!
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Post by Really Red on Jul 27, 2022 13:07:21 GMT
I'll keep mine light. I would not have: Cut my hair that sorry in the 90's Worn so much denim Said "no" to drinking anything at a street foods market in a foreign country. Lol I am not looking for regrets per se. It can be something trivia such as, "I wish I had paid more attention in Math/home etc" I wish I waited so long to buy a 6" x 24" quilting ruler. I wish I hadn't decided to hand quilt a flannel quilt. In the name of all that is holy, what was I thinking? I always wanted red hair (which I had as a baby). I have seen how it can be a burden to those with red hair. This post is to get to know us all better. WHAT CRAZY TALK IS THIS? I know tons and tons of people with red hair and nary a one doesn't think it's the best thing ever! People teased me when I was young and I felt sorry for them that they didn't understand it. They said I had orange hair and was a carrot top, but I knew it was fabulous!! And it is NEVER too late to have red hair! If you want it, go and get it!! I wish I took school more seriously.
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Post by Really Red on Jul 27, 2022 13:09:27 GMT
I would Not have listened to the high school guidance counselor that told me I wasn't smart enough for college 😕 That being said I did graduate from my AD program at 37 and my BS a few years later (With Honors) Other than those years in between...which really were not lost, as I gained SO much experience, I cannot complain. I am blessed....I have so much experience, both life and professional to offer..... This breaks my heart - not just for young you, but for all the kids who are told negative things. I am so glad you went back to school! Yay for you!
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gb2015
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Post by gb2015 on Jul 27, 2022 13:51:16 GMT
- If I knew for sure I'd get to have a baby someday I would've spent wayyyyy less time and tears thinking it would never happen
- I'd go on Lexapro WAY earlier
- I'd stop caring about what I looked like - hindsight taught me it turns out I looked wicked good during most of the times when I was younger where I was fretting about it, so I've now realized I should just assume the same for now, even if I feel differently.
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tincin
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Post by tincin on Jul 28, 2022 7:37:00 GMT
I would've finished my degree. I still might. I got mine at 56. I’ll never use it but I have it.
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Post by peasapie on Jul 28, 2022 16:41:02 GMT
I would have been more patient in waiting for the right one in my first marriage.
I would have finished my BA degree after high school instead of waiting until my 30s.
on the lighter side...
I would not have used so much wallpaper in my first home - it was a PITA to remove!
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Gem Girl
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Post by Gem Girl on Jul 28, 2022 19:15:07 GMT
I would've finished my degree. I still might. I got mine at 56. I’ll never use it but I have it. Reminds me of an anecdote I heard years ago. A daughter wondered aloud if college had been a waste of time and money, since she'd "never use it, because I'm just a homemaker and a mother." (I don't like the "just," either.) Her mother told her she used it every time she opened her mouth to speak. I think people should get all the education they can. I can't think of anything I wish I'd never learned (except some things about some people).
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Post by lbp on Aug 1, 2022 13:33:47 GMT
I would have had another baby. I have one son and DH let his mother talk him out of having any more children. I should have pushed it more.
I would have chosen a different career path. I have hated accounting for 42 years now. I would love to leave my job now but I make way more money than my husband and carry our health insurance so it's not an option.
I would have spent more time with my mom who died when I was 16.
I would have found a way to buy my grandparents farm when my Grandma sold it.
I'm having a bit of a pity party today. Thanks for attending!
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Post by smalltowngirlie on Aug 4, 2022 18:09:13 GMT
I thought of something today that I often think about. I wish I had worked a little harder to convince one of my little artists from years ago to allow me to keep just one of their creations. I had the best group of creative little guys one year. If they had paper, scissors, glue and tape they made the most amazing things. They were very into actions heroes, so lots of Batman's, Spidermans, and Ninja Turtles. They would cut individual pieces, glue or tape them together to make each character. Some did amazing drawings. This was a group of 3-4-5 year old boys and most spoke Spanish with limited English. Most days they went to the art table and stayed there most of choice time. I went through so many supplies and was totally thrilled about it. Today I was thinking I wish I had just one piece that I could have framed as a reminder of that special group, not that I need a reminder because I think about them often.
They were so proud of what they made, they never wanted to share and I totally respected that.
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Gem Girl
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Post by Gem Girl on Aug 4, 2022 18:52:10 GMT
They were so proud of what they made, they never wanted to share and I totally respected that. I'm guessing they were eager to take their work home for some parental praise. You sound like a very caring teacher; thank you for that.
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