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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 21, 2022 13:22:08 GMT
Update: I got both dresses and I think both are going back. The green one just wasn't flattering. If I didn't carry so much weight in my middle, it would have worked but it just wasn't comfortable to me. Jeremy thought it was fine. But I didn't. The blue one, they sent me a long instead of a regular. It's below my knee. I could keep it and take it to be hemmed. But I'm like they made a mistake in sending me a long length instead of a regular so why should I have to keep it and have it hemmed? It is a cute dress though.
The board seems to be moving a little slow lately so I thought I'd ask a question and we could just discuss our meaningless opinions.
You have a favorite dress. The cut is perfect, it's cozy and comfortable. You would easily wear this dress every day. The company is offering the dress in a navy/royal stripe. It just looks so cute. But blue is usually not a go-to color for you.
The same company (whose dresses you love) has another dress in a style you haven't tried yet. But it is available in the most brilliant green. And you totally love that color and it is one that you would normally be drawn to. But you are not sure of the style.
Facts: you own 7 different styles from this company, you know the dresses are sustainable and responsibly made. They also are comfortable and look good on you.
Both dresses are short sleeve and roughly the same hits just above the knee length.
You also are concerned with the idea of consuming less. Right now you have 8 dresses. 4 sleeveless/short sleeve that you are pretty much rotating through the summer. And 4 3/4 sleeve/long sleeve which you rotate through the winter. 85% of the time you choose one of these 8 dresses over anything else in your closet.
Which dress do you choose if you decide on one? Do you choose both despite feeling like you want to consume less because let's face it, they will both be worn to death? Or do you say, I can't make up my mind and I want to actually be conscious of the size of my closet and buy nothing?
I know this is a really ridiculous question. And if you have parameters that are different than mine, please feel free to apply them in your answer. My concerns do not have to be your concerns. And I already made a decision. I thought about it for nearly a week and decided this morning what I was going to do. So I am not looking for you to help me with a decision. I just considered this for at least 5-6 days as I was really on the fence about what to do. So I thought that maybe it would be interesting to see what decisions everyone else would make.
Happy Sunday!
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Post by auntkelly on Aug 21, 2022 13:44:07 GMT
I'd order both dresses and try them on at home and see how they looked on me. I'd keep both of them if I thought they were flattering and I'd wear them a lot.
I'd return the dress (or dresses) I didn't like or wouldn't wear often.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 21, 2022 13:46:33 GMT
I am relieved to know that somebody else think and analyzes things like I do. Because I would ponder on those same issues. And in the end, I would get both dresses because many times I've regretted not getting something and then it was no longer available. At least if I own both, I have the option to get rid of something I'm tired of or rarely wear.
And those dresses sound super cute!
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Post by purplebee on Aug 21, 2022 13:50:52 GMT
If you really like the blue style, and think you would wear it in spite of the fact that blue is not a regular in your wardrobe, and you know you like the green, buy them both. You are working hard to avoid fast fashion, and you are still wearing your original wool dress purchases. The dresses sound very well made and it appears you will get a lot of mileage out of them. Treat yourself to both if you know you will wear the blue, and if you try it on when you get it and don’t like it b/c of the color, send it back. You have no reason to feel guilty about buying both! Go for it!
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 21, 2022 13:51:19 GMT
@foxy said: I am relieved to know that somebody else think and analyzes things like I do. Because I would ponder on those same issues.
I'm just really trying to think hard about what I bring into my closet. My 100 challenge really was good for me in the respect of, I know I can totally live with less. But I'm still human and I like new things too.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 21, 2022 13:58:12 GMT
@foxy said: I am relieved to know that somebody else think and analyzes things like I do. Because I would ponder on those same issues. I'm just really trying to think hard about what I bring into my closet. My 100 challenge really was good for me in the respect of, I know I can totally live with less. But I'm still human and I like new things too. I've been on a mission to downsize my belongings. It's been fairly easy and once my space is clean and organized, my brain is so relaxed so it's been worth it. The craft room however, is a completely different story. That is an ongoing challenge. It's like shoveling the sidewalk while it's still snowing. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 21, 2022 14:01:54 GMT
@foxy said: I am relieved to know that somebody else think and analyzes things like I do. Because I would ponder on those same issues. I'm just really trying to think hard about what I bring into my closet. My 100 challenge really was good for me in the respect of, I know I can totally live with less. But I'm still human and I like new things too. I've been on a mission to downsize my belongings. It's been fairly easy and once my space is clean and organized, my brain is so relaxed so it's been worth it. The craft room however, is a completely different story. That is an ongoing challenge. It's like shoveling the sidewalk while it's still snowing. I hear you on that. I have the teeniest tiniest craft room which is now an office to work from home. I'm trying to get up the nerve to clean out Esther's room and set up my crafting in there. Keeping the small room as my home office. Now that all the kids are gone, I can totally take two rooms, one for home office and one for crafting. But everyday I say to myself that I will just open the door. Just open the door. And I haven't done it yet. But my crafts are overunning everything. Apparently I think very little of buy less when it comes to yarn. |
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Post by malibou on Aug 21, 2022 14:02:49 GMT
Buy both. They have shown themselves to be workhorses, and that alone should be enough to earn their way in.
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Post by J u l e e on Aug 21, 2022 14:03:08 GMT
My closet is at a bare minimum because I rarely find clothes I love. If I found two dresses like you describe, I would buy both and look for a third. I am seriously bringing down the average for fast fashion consumers. I haven’t bought something new in way too long.
ETA - I really want to do the 100 day challenge, but I don’t even have enough things in my closet to change it up every day. It would be 100 days of just me wearing the same dress. But I love the idea. I love being thoughtful about what I buy and consuming less.
ETA - my heart just broke over you trying to open Esther’s door. I don’t even have words to say.
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Post by elaine on Aug 21, 2022 14:06:05 GMT
I am relieved to know that somebody else think and analyzes things like I do. Because I would ponder on those same issues. And in the end, I would get both dresses because many times I've regretted not getting something and then it was no longer available. At least if I own both, I have the option to get rid of something I'm tired of or rarely wear. And those dresses sound super cute! Yes. I am regretting not getting a dress by Columbia that I have in a different color and love. I kept waiting on ordering the magenta floral one and it is now sold out in my size. I’ve been kicking myself for a couple of weeks now. |
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Post by hannahruth on Aug 21, 2022 14:15:19 GMT
I'd order both dresses and try them on at home and see how they looked on me. I'd keep both of them if I thought they were flattering and I'd wear them a lot. I'd return the dress (or dresses) I didn't like or wouldn't wear often. M thoughts exactly. If you know you would wear them both I would buy both ! |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 21, 2022 14:15:49 GMT
If you really like the blue style, and think you would wear it in spite of the fact that blue is not a regular in your wardrobe, and you know you like the green, buy them both. You are working hard to avoid fast fashion, and you are still wearing your original wool dress purchases. The dresses sound very well made and it appears you will get a lot of mileage out of them. Treat yourself to both if you know you will wear the blue, and if you try it on when you get it and don’t like it b/c of the color, send it back. You have no reason to feel guilty about buying both! Go for it! Truth, I do love these dresses. I wear them constantly. They are my very favorite pieces of my wardrobe. I have that blue stripe dress in red and it is my favorite dress of all of them. I am constantly reaching for that particular dress. It's flattering, it's comfortable, it's just hands down my favorite. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 21, 2022 14:19:37 GMT
My closet is at a bare minimum because I rarely find clothes I love. If I found two dresses like you describe, I would buy both and look for a third. I am seriously bringing down the average for fast fashion consumers. I haven’t bought something new in way too long. ETA - I really want to do the 100 day challenge, but I don’t even have enough things in my closet to change it up every day. It would be 100 days of just me wearing the same dress. But I love the idea. I love being thoughtful about what I buy and consuming less. ETA - my heart just broke over you trying to open Esther’s door. I don’t even have words to say. You'd be surprised how many people do the challenge and basically just wear the dress with minimal accessories. I wore cardigans and tights with mine because a lot was fall and winter but I wasn't super fashionable about changing mine up. I just tried to be creative with my photographs. And I'll just be honest with you, the dress challenge was so much fun for me and I enjoyed the simplicity of wearing the same dress everyday that I've thought about doing it again. Just because. I'll open Esther's door someday. ❤️ |
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Post by lindas on Aug 21, 2022 14:22:21 GMT
With you coloring I think the blue would look good on you. As for the green one, you don’t know if the style works for you until you try it on. Get both dresses, if you don’t like one you can always return it. Even a minimalist needs something new once in a while.
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Post by twistedscissors on Aug 21, 2022 14:24:14 GMT
I would buy both. I’m totally guilty of buying more than one color of something that I love how it fits. Just did it last week with a $14 dress from Walmart.
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Post by pantsonfire on Aug 21, 2022 14:25:00 GMT
Well since I wouldn't be able to try them on in a store, I would order both. If both fit and I felt great in them, I would keep both. If one worked out better, I would return the other.
I have been surprised by trying on colors I normally don't gravitate towards and love how I look in them. So while I have signature colors, I do try on others just to see.
And since these dresses hold up well, I don't see it as wasteful or over buying.
They seem like they last a long time and to me having 10 or 12 awesome pieces of clothing over 20+ of shirt lived clothing is better for the environment and my pocketbook.
If you love it, get it. It will be used regularly. It won't just sit.
I guess to me it is like my Kitchenaid Mixer or Le Creuset collections. Do I need 4 KA mixers? No. But do at least 2 get used and all 4 make me happy? Hell yeah! And while I have 4 different LC dutch oven sizes in various colors, they are all used.
I have my eye on the new LC Pumpkin. Do I need it? No. But oh boy would I love to cook in it in fall and winter. Just seeing it sparks joy.
I am already setting my fun money aside in case I get it.
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Post by leannec on Aug 21, 2022 14:26:35 GMT
I'm just amazed that you wear such colourful dresses! I'm a black or grey girl ... boring!  I would probably buy both dresses because you will wear both of them ... you will kick yourself if you don't!  |
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Post by crazy4scraps on Aug 21, 2022 14:30:34 GMT
I'd order both dresses and try them on at home and see how they looked on me. I'd keep both of them if I thought they were flattering and I'd wear them a lot. I'd return the dress (or dresses) I didn't like or wouldn't wear often. This is exactly what I would do too. I apparently have no issues whatsoever with “excess” since I have about 5-6 shelves full of short and long sleeve t-shirts in literally every color of the rainbow (including eight new ones that are *actually* rainbow because DD and I made tie dyed shirts this summer). And that was after I cleared out about half that I didn’t like the fit, had deodorant stains, holes, etc. |
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Post by grammadee on Aug 21, 2022 14:31:02 GMT
You seem to be looking for something that will liven up your wardrobe-- one a different colour; the other a different style. Do you have a specific occasion you want the new dress for? If so, then choose the one that would be the most fun to wear for that.
If I liked the look of them, honestly I would order both. But I like to mix it up from time to time.
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Post by paulao on Aug 21, 2022 14:35:08 GMT
TL;DR. The obvious answer is you buy them both. If both fit and you like them you keep both.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 21, 2022 14:35:22 GMT
I'm just amazed that you wear such colourful dresses! I'm a black or grey girl ... boring! I would probably buy both dresses because you will wear both of them ... you will kick yourself if you don't! Truthfully that was the hardest part of my 100 day challenge was wearing the gray dress because it was gray. I love color. Reds and pinks are my absolute favorite colors to wear. And of my 8 dresses, 2 are red, 1 is raspberry colored, and 1 is plum, I have a teal dress, a very light blue maxi, and a navy button up style that is a perfect in office dress. Looks very professional. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 21, 2022 14:38:21 GMT
You seem to be looking for something that will liven up your wardrobe-- one a different colour; the other a different style. Do you have a specific occasion you want the new dress for? If so, then choose the one that would be the most fun to wear for that. If I liked the look of them, honestly I would order both. But I like to mix it up from time to time. I like a very colorful wardrobe. And I love wearing a dress. These dresses with the merino wool are just so cozy and comfortable even in the summer time. I reach for color over neutral like 90% of the time. And now that I work mostly from home, I can be casual and of the 8 dresses I have 6 are fairly casual and 2 are more office appropriate. |
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Post by shescrafty on Aug 21, 2022 14:38:30 GMT
I would get both and once you try them either return one or both, or keep them.
I’m 2020 I had to use my daughter’s room for virtual teaching. This was 4 years after she passed away. There were many times that I sat in there and cried, but it also brought some new life into her room where before we just kept the door shut. When you are ready it will happen and there is no right or wrong time to open the door. 💕
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 21, 2022 14:40:39 GMT
I would get both and once you try them either return one or both, or keep them. I’m 2020 I had to use my daughter’s room for virtual teaching. This was 4 years after she passed away. There were many times that I sat in there and cried, but it also brought some new life into her room where before we just kept the door shut. When you are ready it will happen and there is no right or wrong time to open the door. 💕 Thank you for understanding. It is emotional. I'm sorry you had to go through this too. ❤️ |
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Post by Bridget in MD on Aug 21, 2022 14:41:35 GMT
@foxy said: I am relieved to know that somebody else think and analyzes things like I do. Because I would ponder on those same issues. I'm just really trying to think hard about what I bring into my closet. My 100 challenge really was good for me in the respect of, I know I can totally live with less. But I'm still human and I like new things too. I would order both. There are so many times I have ruined a piece of clothing that I LOVE or it wears out, and when I go to replace it, it's just not the same or the way it has been made is different, so it doesn't feel the same.  I would rather have those items and know now and wear them in my rotation than wear out the ones I currently have and be bummed I don't have the option for the new pieces I saw! If that even makes sense.... |
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Post by J u l e e on Aug 21, 2022 14:42:55 GMT
I’m seriously considering it, but I would struggle not telling everyone up front what I was doing. I wouldn’t want people to silently wonder about me behind my back. Minor hang up. I work from home two days, so I might not wear it in my house on those days, and I change into running clothes as soon as I get back home on office days to run. I just can’t see wearing a dress on the weekends since I do a lot outside, walking with friends, etc.
I guess it would just be for work days and if I was dressing to be out, not doing something active. If I was meeting friends for dinner or going out somewhere. It would be what I wore instead of other clothing type things from my closet. And since I’m already on board with the idea of less consumerism and less wasteful/unnecessary spending the project would likely affect me in a different way. More about the idea of appearance and my clothes wearing me instead of me wearing my clothes. Who am I if I’m not the girl that wears cute outfits so well? How do I feel about myself if I’m not wearing something different every day, etc. can I do something that is challenging and resist the bored feeling? What’s that all about anyway?
That may not make sense beyond me, but it’s what I think about when I start thinking about this challenge.
I hope you’ll tell us you decided on both dresses. I love that you shared this with us. I think it’s so cool how the conversation affects people.
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Post by pjynx on Aug 21, 2022 14:53:23 GMT
Since you love the cut/style of the blue, do you think you can add an accessory that IS in your color scheme that would work well with the blue? Maybe a scarf, chunky necklace or cardigan? That way the color that do do like is near your face and will be the focal point?
As for the green that you love but aren’t sure of the style, go ahead and order it but return it if you don’t love the style once you try it on.
Pam
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 21, 2022 14:55:51 GMT
J u l e e people do the challenge for all sorts of reasons. And I was amazed at how many things the challenge really touched for me. Even a big one for me was how I looked in the pictures. I didn't expect to have the reaction I did about it. Ultimately I started the challenge because I was just curious about whether I could do such a thing. It was interesting to me. I did tell most people too. But mostly because I wanted to be cheered on. I thought it might get boring and I thought having others in my corner would keep me motivated.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 21, 2022 14:56:49 GMT
Since you love the cut/style of the blue, do you think you can add an accessory that IS in your color scheme that would work well with the blue? Maybe a scarf, chunky necklace or cardigan? That way the color that do do like is near your face and will be the focal point? As for the green that you love but aren’t sure of the style, go ahead and order it but return it if you don’t love the style once you try it on. Pam This is a good idea. I could always pair a red or pink sweater with it. Which are more in my wheelhouse. |
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Post by ddly on Aug 21, 2022 15:07:32 GMT
I’m also working on down sizing my stuff. I have been going through all my clothes and really considering each piece. I don’t want a lot. I want stuff I love to wear that will last. I’m trying some new pants this year. I have worn the same 3 pears of jeans and black pants for the past 3 years and I can’t find more. They are starting to wear out.
I would order both and keep 1. I think for me, the magic number is 5 because that allows 1 per day of the work week. I am not concerned about wearing the same thing more than once a week but I’d rather have 5 dresses. As the seasons change I’m sure there will be something you love that is 3/4 or long sleeved and you could choose one of those.
Would post a link to the dresses? I’d love to check them out.
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I would rather have those items and know now and wear them in my rotation than wear out the ones I currently have and be bummed I don't have the option for the new pieces I saw! If that even makes sense....