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Post by librarylady on Nov 17, 2022 21:30:32 GMT
...not acquaintances, but real friends.
I'm reading a book about ageism and the author says it is rare to have a friend whose age is 10 or more years different from yours. (either older or younger)
It is true for me. What about you?
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Post by Really Red on Nov 17, 2022 21:34:34 GMT
The great majority of my close friends are over 20 years younger than I am. My closest friend is my sister and she's 18mos apart, but all the people I hang with are in their early 30s.
I do have plenty of friends in their 50s, but I don't hang out much with them.
ETA: I would like to hang out with my friends in their 50s, but I'm not sure what they do. I think the younger ones accept that I don't have a spouse a lot easier.
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Post by peabay on Nov 17, 2022 21:36:47 GMT
I have a really, really good friend who is 78 (I'm 58) and a really, really good friend who is 47. Most of my closest friends are around my age though (55 to 60).
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Post by paget on Nov 17, 2022 21:38:22 GMT
I have two close friends and one is 2 years younger and one is three years older.
I did have a very close work friend at my old job that was 20 years younger than me but since we didn’t do anything outside of work that may not count. If we lived closer, though, we would have. We both lived in opposite directions from work. (And pretty far).
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Post by Kerri W on Nov 17, 2022 21:39:16 GMT
I have a very dear friend who won't tell me her age, but I know she is in her 80s. I am 48. She is an absolute gem and so very important to me. She is very wise and reminds me often that we should be intentional about making friends of all ages. I really try to do that.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Nov 17, 2022 21:44:15 GMT
Almost all of my friends are about 10-15 years older than I am. I only have a few friends that are close to my age and they are younger by 2-10 years.
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Post by J u l e e on Nov 17, 2022 21:47:43 GMT
I am 56 and one of my best friends is 36. We talk every day and we are so similar while living very different lives. I love having her in my life. My oldest real friend is 64.
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Post by ~summer~ on Nov 17, 2022 21:47:44 GMT
I’m 49 and most of my good friends are 1 to 7 years older than I am.
But I have one friend who is about 78 and one friend who is 35.
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Post by quinlove on Nov 17, 2022 21:47:51 GMT
My good friends range from 59 to 87. I am 72. My very best friend, who died unexpectedly a few years ago, was 5 years younger than me. 🙏❤️
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Post by KelleeM on Nov 17, 2022 21:49:49 GMT
My friends that I see and scrapbook with are my age and up to 12 years older.
I used to have a close work friend who was born the year I graduated from college, so 22 years younger. We did see each other outside of work but she now lives almost 2 hours away.
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Post by katlady on Nov 17, 2022 21:53:10 GMT
I have what I consider good friends who are up to 25 years younger than me. They are either people I met at work or at the gym. These are people who we do things with outside of work/gym. My crafty friends though tend to be more around my age or older for some reason.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Nov 17, 2022 21:55:06 GMT
Since I had DS when I was almost 38, most of my friends are about 10-12 years younger since our kids went to school together. I tell people that's what kept me young.  |
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Post by disneypal on Nov 17, 2022 21:57:29 GMT
Most of my friends are within 6 years of my age (older and younger). However, I do have a really good friend that is the same age as my mom - so 23 years older than me.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Nov 17, 2022 21:58:10 GMT
I have a very dear friend who won't tell me her age, This was my MIL. She wouldn't tell anyone her age and when they asked, she would lean in and whisper *can you keep a secret*? They would nod and she would whisper *So can I*! |
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Post by AussieMeg on Nov 17, 2022 22:00:24 GMT
I'm reading a book about ageism and the author says it is rare to have a friend whose age is 10 or more years different from yours. (either older or younger) That's true for me too. All of my closest friends are within seven years either side of my age. My three very best friends are all the same age, we went to primary or high school together. |
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Post by mollycoddle on Nov 17, 2022 22:02:43 GMT
Most of my friends are my age but I do have several who are 10-20 years younger from work.
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Post by bc2ca on Nov 17, 2022 22:12:00 GMT
Most of my oldest, closest friends are my age and we have known each other since childhood. When living near and around them I wasn't looking to expand my friendship group.
Moving to a new area at 40 with a toddler/infant meant I was mostly meeting and making friends with younger adults with similar age children. The closest friendship I still have from that time are 10 and 14 years younger than me.
Since living here, my closest friendships evolved from a scrapbook group and the age range is 20 years with 8 of us. The oldest is 8 years older than me, and the youngest is 12 years younger. This is a super interesting mix of single (never married), divorced and married women, some have professional careers, some have kids, one is raising grandchildren, etc.
I know moving and being at different stages of my life definitely influenced my friendships. It wasn't age that drew us together but a common interest.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Nov 17, 2022 22:23:31 GMT
My closest friend group are all people I went to college with - four women and one man. So obviously we’re all super close in age.
My larger friend group also has a number of college friends (we’re a tight damn bunch!) and a few others. And interestingly enough, all close to my age… now. I’m a bit surprised by that now that you’ve called my attention to it. Previously in my life, my closest non-college friends were consistently much older than me.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Nov 17, 2022 22:25:52 GMT
All my friends are within 2 years of me. Some I went to school with.
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Post by epeanymous on Nov 17, 2022 22:27:32 GMT
I think all if my friends are indeed in my age bracket (I am 50, so 40-60ish). I spend all day with people who are mostly in their 20s, and they are super, but it definitely isn't a thing where we have a ton in common.
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Post by Sparki on Nov 17, 2022 22:35:55 GMT
I'm 46 and most of my friends are 60's/70's. I've had so many of my friends pass away in the last few years that I recently told my husband that I needed to make younger friends!
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Post by Patter on Nov 17, 2022 22:36:46 GMT
My dearest and best friend is 12 years older than me but that girl can run laps around me.  She was a PE teacher and can outdo me in a workout. Love my bestie! |
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Post by Zee on Nov 17, 2022 22:56:26 GMT
I have lots of co-workers I consider friends, but aside from a couple of them, we don't socialize outside work. We do exchange gifts and things. They are all 10-20+ years younger than me except a few. I'm the work mom now. Most of them feel like family.
The girls I met since moving down here and go on girls trips with are between the ages of 34-64. I'm 50. I do have the most in common with the ones my age because we're at the same time of life where a trip to the beach is great or dinner out but we're not going to the club anymore.
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Post by papersilly on Nov 17, 2022 22:59:26 GMT
i'm 55 and i have a good friend who is 93. i never think about our age difference until something having to do with tech devices come up. LOL
otherwise, my friend-friends are within 5 years of me.
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Post by moodyblue on Nov 17, 2022 23:08:04 GMT
One of my very best friends, one I text with almost every day, and do things with, is more than 15 years younger than I am. I am retired, and she is still teaching.
My two “grief buddies” are both about 10-11 years older than I am. We bonded in a grief support group and have been seeing each other regularly since then. I consider them good friends.
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Post by cmpeter on Nov 17, 2022 23:21:45 GMT
I’m 57. My two closest friends are 60 and 68.
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Post by deekaye on Nov 17, 2022 23:24:38 GMT
I have four friends that I would consider my closest friends. The one I consider my bestie is one year younger. The other two are my age +/- a few months. The fourth friend is someone that I met through Girl Scouts (we were both leaders), who then joined our church and we started scrapbooking together. We were probably friends for a year before we got around to discussing ages.... I was shocked to find out she is 11 years younger than I am.
She has been a single parent all her life, was an officer in the military and has her own construction business so she just exudes confidence and I just assumed she was older than me! We still laugh about how I kept saying "No you're not!" when I found out how old she was.
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Post by Sarah*H on Nov 17, 2022 23:27:19 GMT
It varies; most are within a year or two of me but two of my closest friends are about 10 years older, give or take a couple months. The link is that we have kids about the same age.
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Post by gina on Nov 17, 2022 23:29:54 GMT
I am 42. My closest friends are all mostly my age... up to 50/52 or so I would say.
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Post by busy on Nov 17, 2022 23:58:28 GMT
My BFF is the same age as me. We’ve been friends since we were 10. I have a few other good friends who are within 10 years of me, but most of my good friends are in the 30-35 range (I’m 49). Partly of function of having my son a bit older than average, partly a function of working in an industry that skews young.
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She was a PE teacher and can outdo me in a workout. Love my bestie!
